I remember what a serious issue it is to decide wether to have or not have sex in high school. And when I decided to write a post that would have both pros and cons, I must admit – it was kind of hard for me to come up with 10 pros, being a girl myself.
I am now married to the one I lost my virginity to and am glad that I was his first as well. However, many friends of mine had a very different experience where having sex actually ruined their relationship with the guys they loved. So, if are thinking about having sex for the first time, you really need to think this all through.
And before you do, please consider these 20 teen sex pros and cons below:
10 Pros of Having Sex …
- 10. Of course it is rather pleasurable later on. It will be even more pleasurable if it is done out of love.
9. When you have sex with your partner, you are going to feel closer to them. Just make sure you use protection.
8. When you have sex as a teenager, you are obviously responsible and know that you are responsible for what could happen…are you?
7. The two of you are going to be sharing memories together. When you have sex as a teenager, this is something that is very memorable and you will not be able to forget it. Are you ready for that?
6. You will get to experience someone in a way that you would not normally be able to experience them.
5. As a teenager, you will be able to learn what you like and dislike during sexual intercourse.
4. You will get to learn what sleeping with someone is like.
3. You will be able to learn what to do and will be gaining more experiences.
2. When you sleep with someone one your wedding night, you will not have to worry about having to experience, because you had it as a teenager. This is even better if you marry the one you lost your virginity to.
1. The two of you could be spending the rest of your lives in each other’s life simply because you had sex…
10 Cons of Having Sex …
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Bad post. This was obviously biased toward the cons, even in the pro section.
Thanks for your opinion. Tell me what good could come out of having sex while you are a teenager? Tell me 10 pros without making them sound irresponsible. Yes, you get to “experience” multiple partners, but what if you find the person of your dreams later on? Would you like to tell him/her about your past sex life partners as a teenager? What if you got pregnant at 16? I mean, come one, what would you say if your 14 year old daughter was having sex? Honestly, I don’t think it is very responsible as you will be taking tons of chances. Yes, when you are an adult, you are taking chances, but they’re not as bad as when you are a teenager.
That’s my opinion.
wow… biased much? i lost my virginity while still in high school, and so far i have great morals and i havent had a child yet. i think teens need to know the risks as well as their options, like birth control. if someone loves you, theyll love you for you, not because you “waited”. wow, you need to open the doors and be a little less closed minded.
So, is there any way you could post tips that weren’t obvious? Really, “you get to experience someone in a way you wouldn’t…” Thanks for the uh, ‘advice.’
I am a dude in 20s (i.e. with experience) and agree with most points, especially reason not to start sexual life too early.
* Don’t worry about “hard to get” comment, in the high-school the ratio is really bad, there is a small percentage of guys who look at it purely as a conquest, and their top priority is to ‘break in’ so to say; rest assured, they have no other interest for you; sorry to say but its true. Situation gets better as you get older and leave the high-school.
Also if you are the first one to initiate romantic interest towards the guy – its more likely to be a longer term thing, as opposed to him starting it – again mostly applies to the high school setting.
* If you sleep with him to get him interested – he will lose all the interest he had. Totally true, unless the guy is totally into ya, and (assuming he is not), just wait and you might notice him becoming more attracted to you.
That is not to say that once you have had sex, he will always unquestionably loose all the attraction for you; it will happen though, without a doubt, for if you do it JUST to get him interested
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peace
- Mike, thank you and I think you said everything quite well. What you said has a lot of truth in it and it’s great, because it’s from a guys perspective.
- Yvonne, i’m sorry if you found the tips “obvious,” but what may be “obvious” to you may not be obvious to certain people who are just starting out.
Thanks, Melanie
Brenda, if you lost you virginity in high school, then that is fully up to you. Some people look at morals differently from others. The way I was raised, having sex in high school is not something to be proud of. There are so many consequences to face and really, at that age, you should not even be risking the fact that you could end up taking care of a baby or putting the burden on your parents. to be quite honest with you, I am very open minded. I think about everything before it happens, I plan ahead of time, etc. I just don’t think it’s right for teenagers to have sex. How is that being so “closed minded?” Perhaps those who just go out and “do it” are the ones that are closed minded? From many of your postings, you are so defensive and have bad attitudes. Sorry if I offended any of you, I’m freely voicing my opinions on teen sex.
Thank you.
But what if the man of your dreams is someone you meet in high school. If he loves you, cares about your feelings, and doesn’t pressure you, sex could make your relationship a lot stronger. My boyfriend does all those things, plus we have already talked about contraception and “what if’s” if I was to get pregnant. I trust him, he is my best friend. And even if I don’t end up marrying him, I will know that my first time was special because it was with someone I deeply care about.
Unreal. I stumble across this kind of backwards, righteous thinking only so often. When I do it upsets me that people like you exist.
How old were your parents when they had sex? Be honest now….they certainly weren’t honest when they told you.
Sex is a wonderful activity, the last thing young people need is to feel guilty because they are in high school, growing up and becoming adults.
Are you a white christian by any chance?
- H. C
Wow Hesus, such a hateful comment you have posted. It upsets you that people like me exist? So you don’t like people who have open minds and think teenagers shouldn’t have sex? Just to clarify things up with you, you think it’s fine for 13-16 year olds to have sex?
How old were my parents? Well, Hesus, I don’t really know and that factor still doesn’t make me think 13-16 year olds should be having sex.
What if someone like you controlled the world? You know, someone that encouraged teen sex? If I posted a blog like this: “All you teenagers should go out and have sex. Forget everything, forget what could happen, forget that you could have a child that you won’t be able to support, sleep with tons of different people and enjoy it. You know why? Because it’s the best experience you are EVER going to have in your life. Your parents did it, so you should too!” Wouldn’t that be wrong? Wouldn’t that be supporting the fact that it’s fine to be a teen mother and give your baby up for adoption? What do a lot of those teen mothers turn around and do after they are older? Many wish they never did what they did. Many wish they would have waited. You know why? Because now, there first child is something they are not even able to touch.
Hesus, in answer to your question, I really do not know what business it is of yours if I am a “white Christian,” but nope, i’m not a Christian. I’m far from being a Christian. I’m simply someone who just cares enough about the youth today to tell them the truth. To warn them and give them some advice that may help them out. Perhaps this post persuade a teenager that could have gotten and STD or gotten pregnant not to have sex? You never really know. But hey, in the end, if they make the decision to have sex, then that is there choice and the best of luck to them for that choice…I just hope they don’t end up regretting it, like many.
i dislike how a lot was put towards “teenagers” i think of anyone 13-19.. disturbing. little young kids shouldnt be having sex! but on another tip lol good blog
Hey Vanisha,
I think once you’re 18, you are pretty much old enough to decide whether or not you wanna have sex. Your hormones are going to act up and like it or not, I think it’s bound to happen. And honestly I think it’s ok…
you make it look like sex is some horrible experience…
it’s not, it’s something wonderfull
stop trying to shame teenagers into not having sex. Tell them to be responsible and use a condom. Abstinence only have never worked, come on, you know that. And yes, I do think that if you’re 15(they age of consent in my country) you can have sex if you feel ready. I lost my virginity at 16, and I don’t regret it one bit. If you like someone and you want to sleep together, don’t play games. Just tell them so. Condoms are 99% save, and if I do get pregnant at 17, there’s abortion.
Sure all you people are open-minded, if you live in Alabama.
Johanna,
I do think 15 is a little too young but yeah we’re better off propagating safe sex as opposed to telling them it’s wrong and sinful and all of that. Like I said it’s bound to happen one way or the other…
Johanna – Yeah…there’s always abortion – that’s just what needs to be in 13-16 year olds minds. “Oh, if I do get pregnant, I do not have to take on the responsibility. I can just get an abortion and all of my problems will be solved.” I’m not Anti-abortion or what you call pro-life by any means, but that is not the message the youth needs to have in their minds. What they do need to have in their minds is that if they are responsible enough to go out and have sex, then they are responsible enough to raise that baby. That my friend IS being open minded.
Sarah – I write this post with an open mind. There are some teenagers out there that have had sex and regret it – many definitely do not view it as a great experience. Yes, there’s those out there that do not regret it and that is perfectly fine. I just wish they would think about their actions and consequences before they act, that’s all.
“Oh, did I mention the first times around it’s SO painful, you’ll find yourself crying (with pain) during the sex and asking yourself why you wanted to do it in the first place.”
-yeah, right. your trying too hard to discourage. i agree with you but its just not all true. lot of it is completely biased. I know i wont change your mind, Its all a matter of opinion.
Im doing a protest in my school talking to students not to have sex. Do you mind if I use your website as an example. I think it’s very useful and it will get teens to open their eyes.
Leili,
You’re protesting against sex? wow! I don’t support the cause but you can use the post as an example. Good luck :)