I remember what a serious issue it is to decide wether to have or not have sex in high school. And when I decided to write a post that would have both pros and cons, I must admit – it was kind of hard for me to come up with 10 pros, being a girl myself.
I am now married to the one I lost my virginity to and am glad that I was his first as well. However, many friends of mine had a very different experience where having sex actually ruined their relationship with the guys they loved. So, if are thinking about having sex for the first time, you really need to think this all through.
And before you do, please consider these 20 teen sex pros and cons below:
10 Pros of Having Sex …
- 10. Of course it is rather pleasurable later on. It will be even more pleasurable if it is done out of love.
9. When you have sex with your partner, you are going to feel closer to them. Just make sure you use protection.
8. When you have sex as a teenager, you are obviously responsible and know that you are responsible for what could happen…are you?
7. The two of you are going to be sharing memories together. When you have sex as a teenager, this is something that is very memorable and you will not be able to forget it. Are you ready for that?
6. You will get to experience someone in a way that you would not normally be able to experience them.
5. As a teenager, you will be able to learn what you like and dislike during sexual intercourse.
4. You will get to learn what sleeping with someone is like.
3. You will be able to learn what to do and will be gaining more experiences.
2. When you sleep with someone one your wedding night, you will not have to worry about having to experience, because you had it as a teenager. This is even better if you marry the one you lost your virginity to.
1. The two of you could be spending the rest of your lives in each other’s life simply because you had sex…
10 Cons of Having Sex …
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These comments make me laugh. This was a great post.
I lost my virginity at 15, became pregnant at 16 and used Johanna’s abortion out as an option.. I’ts not so easy when your in the position to make that decision. I lost respect from friends, family and everyone else who found out along the way.
I wish i would have waited.
yeah it was a good post, but you are only focusing on the bab side, very few people who have sex end up pregnant. in england the age is 16 and tbh most poeple have lost it at 15 but they dont all end up teen mums half of them go to the doctors and get the pill which is the responisible thing to do. i dont know anyone in my year who is willing to have sex without a condom or any type of protection because a majority of schools teach protection to students. honestly sex isnt a bad thing while being a teenager ( i dot think 13 and 14 is too young) and your blog was slightly biased towards to cons but i guess thats because you married the guy you lost it too which is really sweet, but that just doesnt really happen anymore. anyway sorry i rambled a bit here
ele xo
Im not saying teens should be having sex, but i also think that exploring your sexuality is part of growing up that just happens around that age. i lost my virginity when i was 13 to a much older man. for a while i thought it was the right thing for me, and i ended up with a lot of people i shouldn’t have been with. eventually i realized that although i enjoyed the physical aspect of sex it wasn’t something i wanted without the love that should go hand in hand with it. but it was also something that made me who i am, and helped me see the importance of sex in a relationship. so when i finally chose to sleep with my boyfriend at 17 it was a huge emotional moment and he knew how much it meant to me. i am still with said boyfriend 8 years later, and i will never regret my sexual past. i respect the choice that you may want to wait, but i don’t think that having sex in your teens is guaranteed to be a horrible decision.
Melanie,I agree with you, on most things you have said. But there is also a lot that isn’t exact, or well, very exaggerated. I agree with the readers who have picked at these slight mistakes you have made. Because to be honest you have made ‘’sex” out to be a bit of a sin. You say your open-minded, then why on earth would you post comments such as ”The wedding night will be wonderful and will be very memorable, especially if the both of you are still virgins” and refering to hard-to-get as the perfect way to act, when in fact it is not. Are you trying to post the perfect person? because the way your post comes across is that..
*Playing mind-games with your partner, is right. -When it is absolutely not, they should be the one you can trust, the one you can share with. Not mess about with, and confuse.
*You put a push on the the whole falling pregnant, and catching STI’s, but the truth is that people take risks every-day, and most of those risks aren’t anywhere near as pleasureable and personal as sex can be.
*You make it out to be as if someone who decides do proceed in having sex as a teenager,and even before marriage is totally and utterly wrong. And that if your morals do not include this, you do not have good morals. Once again, where do come in, to be able to decide what is and what’s not moralistic.
I think if you were honestly open-minded and all for, letting the kids know the risks,and steering them in the right direction you would deffinitely stop these types of posts and re-think.
Maybe helping the teenagers would be something more like, yes remind them that there are plenty of risks, but also how you can prevent them and still experience the wonderfulness of sex. And yes, waiting is a good idea, but do not push that before marriage and as a teen is a big ”no-no” because all to their own. Maybe spread the message to them as I’m spreading to you, stop and re-think, take others advice aswell as your own, then think again.
I’m only young, so i am surely not trying to say I know all. But I have been brought up with the perception of sex being something special, but sex is not something you can put to an age or a date. When your ready, you’ll know. And you will hopefully be able to share this once in a life-time experience with someone that means hugely to you, hopefully someone you love. Aslong as you know that whom you decide to lose it too, cares about you, and will treat you and your body mentally and physically with respect. You should do what suits ”you” best, don’t let pressure get in the way, even if that is pressure not to.
I hope you can read my response in an constructive way that not only helps you, but all others who are reading this.
Many thanks, kodeane.