7 Ideas on How to Dump a Guy Nicely ...

7 Ideas on How to Dump a Guy Nicely ...
By Mercy

Ok, so you know it’s over, but you haven’t told him yet. Do yourself a favor and get it over with. There’s no point playing ‘girlfriend’ if your heart is in the wrong place. So how do you break off nicely? Here goes…

Meet him

Don’t break the news to him over the phone. Not only it is rude but he’s always going to wonder about what went wrong. Give him a chance to hear it from you directly. Email and SMS is even worse. Invite him home or go for a walk together. Either way, sit him down and explain how you feel. Be honest!

Answer why?

Most men are intelligent. He will want some kind of an explanation. Don’t just say ‘It’s off’ and walk away. This was the guy you fell in love with once. So be kind to him and explain why things didn’t work out for you. You owe him some kind of explanation especially if you’ve been together for a while.

Blame yourself

It’s easier and kinder to blame yourself for the break. You could say ‘It’s me, I’m just not ready for somebody as nice as you’ or something to that effect. Don’t lay all the blame on him or you’ll soon be having a fight rather than a conversation.
Let him think
Once you’ve told him, don’t expect an answer immediately. If he’s in love with you this will probably be breaking his heart. So respect that and let him be. Don’t shower him with questions or a hundred ‘I’m so sorry’s'. He will need a few minutes to let it sink in. Give him that time to think about what’s happened.

Let him talk

He may want to explain things especially if he did something wrong. Hear him out but don’t have that ‘Oh, I wish I had known’ look on your face. If your mind is really made up then let him now this is the end of the road. Avoid getting trapped into the loop again. A firm yet gentle ‘no’ is the best for both of you.
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Just friends?**

That’s great if he wants it that way. But make sure you tell him how you want to keep the relationship. If a clean break is what you want, be clear that he understands that. If you want to go on as friends, but he doesn’t, then respect that and move on. Don’t sob uncontrollably on his shoulder as you’re the one breaking up with him! Remember?

Don’t hold on

Let him go. If he wants to leave, then let him. Don’t keep pulling him back into conversation. He probably just needs a good drink and some sleep!

Make sure you leave the relationship where it belongs, in the past!

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Hey... well, i have been with my boyfriend for around 9 months. And I want to break up with himm, because i just don't love him anymore. It's confusing and everything, plus he's starting to annoy me. :\ I tried to break up with him once, but he persuaded me to stay with him, and "give it a try". So I did, but i regret it because nothing's really changed, and I'm just pretending now. ): I have to do it again, and I would prefer to do it face-to-face, and make it respectful, but it's hard for me because he visits about every 3 weeks or so, and when he comes, it's for the whole day. He gets picked up and dropped off by his dad. I don't know how I would do it then, because if i did it first thing, we would be stuck in absolute awkwardness for the rest of the day. But, I can't at the end, because ignoring him for the day wouldn't be good too. Please help me? I've considered doing it through phone or msn, but I'm not sure. D: VeryMuchWorried.

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