7 Ideas on How to Dump a Guy Nicely ...

By Mercy

7 Ideas on How to Dump a Guy Nicely ...

Ok, so you know it’s over, but you haven’t told him yet. Do yourself a favor and get it over with. There’s no point playing ‘girlfriend’ if your heart is in the wrong place. So how do you break off nicely? Here goes…

Meet him

Don’t break the news to him over the phone. Not only it is rude but he’s always going to wonder about what went wrong. Give him a chance to hear it from you directly. Email and SMS is even worse. Invite him home or go for a walk together. Either way, sit him down and explain how you feel. Be honest!

Answer why?

Most men are intelligent. He will want some kind of an explanation. Don’t just say ‘It’s off’ and walk away. This was the guy you fell in love with once. So be kind to him and explain why things didn’t work out for you. You owe him some kind of explanation especially if you’ve been together for a while.

Blame yourself

It’s easier and kinder to blame yourself for the break. You could say ‘It’s me, I’m just not ready for somebody as nice as you’ or something to that effect. Don’t lay all the blame on him or you’ll soon be having a fight rather than a conversation.
Let him think
Once you’ve told him, don’t expect an answer immediately. If he’s in love with you this will probably be breaking his heart. So respect that and let him be. Don’t shower him with questions or a hundred ‘I’m so sorry’s'. He will need a few minutes to let it sink in. Give him that time to think about what’s happened.

Let him talk

He may want to explain things especially if he did something wrong. Hear him out but don’t have that ‘Oh, I wish I had known’ look on your face. If your mind is really made up then let him now this is the end of the road. Avoid getting trapped into the loop again. A firm yet gentle ‘no’ is the best for both of you.
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Just friends?**

That’s great if he wants it that way. But make sure you tell him how you want to keep the relationship. If a clean break is what you want, be clear that he understands that. If you want to go on as friends, but he doesn’t, then respect that and move on. Don’t sob uncontrollably on his shoulder as you’re the one breaking up with him! Remember?

Don’t hold on

Let him go. If he wants to leave, then let him. Don’t keep pulling him back into conversation. He probably just needs a good drink and some sleep!

Make sure you leave the relationship where it belongs, in the past!

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i just dont know how to break up with my bf. its so hard but i dont want to hold him back any longer...

Hi I need some help, I have dated this guy lets call him bob, on and off for two years now....alot more off than on. longest time weve been together is like three months at a time. He is extreamly clingy and is two years older than me. He is ready for marriage and kids and buying a house and stuff and for the past year has really been pushing it. Well Back in january i started dating another guy lets call this one Johnny, well me and johnny just broke up on the second of this month....so not alot of time has gone by and im still honestly in love with the guy. Spoke to him today and we might try to work things out...but I being stupid as i am started dating bob again last week. He is the sweetest guy in the world and he will make some girl very happy but we really dont have the chemestry johnny and i have. Where my problem lies is bob is alittle obsesive he got my name tattooed on his arm the first time we broke up. and my family loves him. I'm afraid of what hes going to do when i break up im afraid of him hurting himself. and i know for a fact he will call my mother and try to get her to change my mind. because if my family believed in arranged marriages, it would be to bob. :/ He really is a nice guy but hes not for me, as much as he fully and 100% believes we are soulmates. were not. I can't stand him most times. I just dont want things to end bad. But they need to end and it needs to be a clean break. He cant keep talking ot my family He just needs to go away. So what am I suppossed to do? Can you please help give me some ideas on how to handle this?

Thank you very much! I hope it'll work. :)

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