To the person above me... I had a good friend that said he was homophobic also.. and alot of the same things you mentioned. I found out a few days later he was dating my best friend :/ It probably varies from person to person, but why don't you just ask him?

heyy.. iv been in such a difficult situation and sort of the same as what some of the girls on here have also said.. i was with my boyfriend for just over 2 years, complicated at times and on and off, as we couldnt bare the fact for being seperated from each other.. but yeah about 7 months ago, he had told me he was gay… completely crushed me? but at the same time confused me a lot, as he did not show any sign of being gay at all. i cant help but still have feelings for him as he has been my first love and first of everything and he says same for me? thats why it had been so hard for him to just walk away ... anywhooz, .. as this was a surprise to a lot of the people he is close to, especially me, could this possibly be just a phase..? we have such strong feelings for each other, but can't seem to get this issue resolved..

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Ok so I've known this guy for about 8 years. We used to date in undergrad and we both needed to grow up so it didn't work out. But we always kept in touch flirting here and there. Recently he reached out to me and we talk a great deal since his last relationship failed. He told me it didn't work b/c there were red flags: arguing disrespectful, blah blah. He told me that he doesn't like to date a lot of women where he lives because he has a fairly high profile career and doesn't want to be seen as a playboy. Now, I have a very close guy friend who came out after we left undergrad. He mentioned to me that he thinks the guy I want to get with may be gay. He said he never heard anything and never saw anything questionable years ago or now but he is suspicous. He said I should observe him closely and maybe just ask. I'm so confused because I've always had such a strong attraction to this guy. But I'm wondering if I should trust my friends instinct. What to do?

hi. i really need your advice.. I have a boyfriend, who was a former flight attendant.. we met in school, everyone says he's gay/bisexual because of the way he acts and moves.he is not a regular "tough" guy, because he's feminine on some other ways, but not on the physical. i love him so much but i'm afraid that he might be really gay and i'm scared that we may end up together but what if he still see other guys? that would really break my heart. honestly i still don't know if he is bisexual/gay but when i see his pictures in face book all of his friends in the airline he used to work are all gay and women.. i even read an email from his former classmate back in college, asking him if he still remember him, the boy said they watched a movie and he even gave my boyfriend a chocolate cake.(i think that's not normal for a regular man) also, he is not aggressive, he don't kiss me at all, all or kisses are smack kisses.. sigh.(our relationship is only new though.. 5 months) on the other hand he is such a really nice guy,literally, he would help everyone and he is very friendly. when i'm with him i can feel he is not a guy but i'm still confuse because of his feminine side and the email i read and his friends.. i dont want to ask him because im afraid he might get offended. i really love him, what should i do? please help me. thank you!

I use to date this guy for a couple months before he broke up with me. I am still not over him and have a hard time moving on because he is constantly on my hall, since his friends are my hall mates. But my mom and I were talking last night about the fact that he may be gay. He always hangs around with girls. He may have a couple guy friends, but rarely does he talk or hang out with them alone. This is why he is always in my hall because he is always with girls all the time. And he is a genuine caring guy, so he is not trying to hang out with girls just so he can get a gf. He also likes watching Disney movies and singing along to the songs (which is more than me). And he says that he is homophobic and will never watch Brokeback Mountain. I was wondering if he is trying to cover up the fact that he potentially gay? And that he was dating me either as a cover up or because he is still unsure of his sexuality. I also know that his mother and grandparents were very excited that he had a gf when he mentioned me to him. I was his first serious gf, but I sort of wondering if he is potentially gay. What do you think? Thanks