Hi I'm really confused. I've been going out with my boyfriend for about a year now. His flatmate, who happens to be gay, said that my boyfriend is a lesbian in a man's body. At first, we both thought it was hilarious. Also, I only started dating when his flatmate made that comment. One year on, I noticed that he's like a woman. He is very needy in a way that he claims that I don't spend enough time with him, even though I spent most of my free time (at night) and day time with him, which is pretty much all the time. We were able to do this because we were in the same classes for all our papers. I'm also annoyed that I've lost some friends because he starts to sulks and start to say that I never spend time with him because I'm so busy. At the start of this year, since our majors differ this year, we don't see much of each other in our class. He has learnt to back off as I told him I needed space and if he can't give me that, then I'll have to break the relationship off. However, we've started talking about kids and I jokingly suggested that he could be a stay-at-home-dad (just to check if his response and because I may have a demanding career). He was very receptive to that idea and since then, I've noticed that his future plan has deviated to being a house husband and all he wants to do is spend time with me. This puts pressure on me to secure a job or we'll end up on the dole. But, all he wants is to spend time with me and makes me feel like I should be a lesbian, when I'm 99.9% sure I'm straight. Please please advice whether he's gay or straight. I know a few gay guys who are not concerned with fashion. He's also kissed a guy and thinks a few guys are hot.

So I'm a straight girl. I know this guy, he's so gorgeous (think of Lucas Grabeel non-HSM) bright bue eyes, blond hair. He prefers to dress nicely. He cares about his hair, showers, gels it up and stuff. We played baseball one day and he changed shoes to play. What do I do?

Please don't judge me for my age. I just thought that feminine features link to feminine hormones. Do you think that's true?

To the person above me... I had a good friend that said he was homophobic also.. and alot of the same things you mentioned. I found out a few days later he was dating my best friend :/ It probably varies from person to person, but why don't you just ask him?

hi. i really need your advice.. I have a boyfriend, who was a former flight attendant.. we met in school, everyone says he's gay/bisexual because of the way he acts and moves.he is not a regular "tough" guy, because he's feminine on some other ways, but not on the physical. i love him so much but i'm afraid that he might be really gay and i'm scared that we may end up together but what if he still see other guys? that would really break my heart. honestly i still don't know if he is bisexual/gay but when i see his pictures in face book all of his friends in the airline he used to work are all gay and women.. i even read an email from his former classmate back in college, asking him if he still remember him, the boy said they watched a movie and he even gave my boyfriend a chocolate cake.(i think that's not normal for a regular man) also, he is not aggressive, he don't kiss me at all, all or kisses are smack kisses.. sigh.(our relationship is only new though.. 5 months) on the other hand he is such a really nice guy,literally, he would help everyone and he is very friendly. when i'm with him i can feel he is not a guy but i'm still confuse because of his feminine side and the email i read and his friends.. i dont want to ask him because im afraid he might get offended. i really love him, what should i do? please help me. thank you!

I use to date this guy for a couple months before he broke up with me. I am still not over him and have a hard time moving on because he is constantly on my hall, since his friends are my hall mates. But my mom and I were talking last night about the fact that he may be gay. He always hangs around with girls. He may have a couple guy friends, but rarely does he talk or hang out with them alone. This is why he is always in my hall because he is always with girls all the time. And he is a genuine caring guy, so he is not trying to hang out with girls just so he can get a gf. He also likes watching Disney movies and singing along to the songs (which is more than me). And he says that he is homophobic and will never watch Brokeback Mountain. I was wondering if he is trying to cover up the fact that he potentially gay? And that he was dating me either as a cover up or because he is still unsure of his sexuality. I also know that his mother and grandparents were very excited that he had a gf when he mentioned me to him. I was his first serious gf, but I sort of wondering if he is potentially gay. What do you think? Thanks

Ok so I've known this guy for about 8 years. We used to date in undergrad and we both needed to grow up so it didn't work out. But we always kept in touch flirting here and there. Recently he reached out to me and we talk a great deal since his last relationship failed. He told me it didn't work b/c there were red flags: arguing disrespectful, blah blah. He told me that he doesn't like to date a lot of women where he lives because he has a fairly high profile career and doesn't want to be seen as a playboy. Now, I have a very close guy friend who came out after we left undergrad. He mentioned to me that he thinks the guy I want to get with may be gay. He said he never heard anything and never saw anything questionable years ago or now but he is suspicous. He said I should observe him closely and maybe just ask. I'm so confused because I've always had such a strong attraction to this guy. But I'm wondering if I should trust my friends instinct. What to do?