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10 Signs He's Gay ...

By Kati

Have you ever wondered if your other half is gay? Well, most of us would probably answer “no,” but for those who have, it’s a horrible dilemma. Do you risk it all and ask him, or keep quiet and try and forget about it? While honesty is the best policy, and if you have serious concerns you should definitely confront him, but before you ask him, check him against these top ten signs he’s gay, and see how he scores...

1 Bathroom Rituals...

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While it might be stereotypical, it’s often true! Watch how meticulous he is with his grooming, and see what products he owns. While it’s good that he makes an effort, if he takes two hours to get ready he’s taken it a bit far! If he’s got more products than you and a huger shoe collection, that’s a big hint too!

2 His Idols...

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Gay men often idolize people who have elaborate, over the top lifestyles. I’ve never met a gay man who hasn’t loved Cher, Whitney Houston and Paul O’Grady! If your man loves divas, or watching famous “out” men such as Graham Norton, he might be gay.

3 His Favorite TV Shows

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Again, this is a stereotype that’s always proven true for me! Gay men often love watching stereotypical “female” programmes, such as beauty pageants, that reinforce the importance of beauty and glamour. He might also love over the top makeover shows, and big award shows such as the Grammys.

4 His Eyes...

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Who does he look at when you are out? Do his eyes jump from man to man, does he focus on hot men or does he not look at anyone at all? Like it or not, men have wandering eyes but a straight man will look at other women, even subconsciously. If he makes more eye contact with men, he’s probably more interested in them...

5 His Toilet Habits...

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Gay men who haven’t yet “come out” often feel uncomfortable in public toilets, and either don’t go or use the toilet rather than the urinals. If he refuses to go to the toilet in public and instead wants to go home, it might hint to him not being comfortable in his sexuality. Remember, though, that some people are really only comfortable using their own toilet.

6 His View...

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Most straight men cannot understand gays. While this doesn’t mean they are homophobic, they just cannot understand why a man would choose other men over women. If your boyfriend regularly talks about how gay men had a hard fight and should be accepted, or quotes gay men or Oprah, he might be trying to justify his sexuality.

7 His Gaming...

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Gay men will often pick a female character in a game, or choose a very hunky man. The reason for this is unknown, but it is psychologically proven to be correct! A study shows that gay men almost always chose to play as Storm, while straight men chose from a range of men. So watch his gaming habits and see what charcater he picks as his avatar.

8 Compliments...

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Listen for the way he compliments you. Does he tell you that you look beautiful, or tell you that your jacket goes great with thoseskinny jeans and you should finish the look with diamante boots and pink nail varnish? Gay men are often very fashionable, so see how clued up he is.

9 His Profile...

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Is his MySpace full of men he doesn’t know? Does he have a secret online profile? Social networking sites are often the place men “in the closet” let themselves go a little, and be themselves. So they can offer big hints as to what he’s really like! It’s an even bigger hint if his new friends have particularly revealing or sexy pictures.

10 He Hates Gays...

He might display an over the top rage at gays. This is a classic reaction to prevent people from guessing he is gay. As the homage goes, the greatest homophobe is the homosexual! It’s worth bearing in mind that some men actually cannot stand gays, however, and it isn’t always a sign of trouble.

If you still think he may be gay, it’s time to sit down and talk to him. Remember that he might be feeling confused, and that however hurt you feel, there’s a reason why you love him and you shouldn’t use his sexuality to hurt him. He won’t have been trying to hurt you, and probably honestly thought he could “change.” Be respectful, and calm, during the talk. Have you got a tip for finding out if he’s gay? Please let me know!

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