Jealousy, that green little monster, can be an evil thing. If you've noticed that the man in your life starts to act strange whenever you talk about the other people in your life or when you make plans that don't include him, it could be a sign that he's jealous. He's grown quite possessive of you and now, you are at your wits end with no idea how to deal with it. Here are 15 secret signs that prove he's the jealous type!
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1. He Gets Angry Easily
Everything you do seems to make him angry. And most of the times, you don't think you've done anything wrong. It could be the simplest of things from spending a night partying with the girls or staying late at work. He doesn't give you a chance to explain or even talk for that matter and usually you find that a night of fun is followed by him screaming away and ends with amajor argument. A sure shot sign that he could be harboring feelings of jealousy.
2. Not Happy when You Talk about Someone
You've noticed that every time you talk excitedly about someone, he is visibly unhappy and uncomfortable. It doesn't matter what gender but you see that it is worse when the person you talk about is of the opposite sex. Now I get why he would get mad if you spoke about a certain someone ALL the time but if a simple, one off thing like describing how good a person is at what he does or what fun you had with him/her should not upset him. I know a lot of you like to employ the strategy of making your man jealous just for kicks or to revive your relationship but this would be a good time to say use it in moderation!
Frequently asked questions
Oh, let me spill the beans! If he's always asking about your plans, who you're with, or seems suddenly interested in your social life, he might be feeling a bit green-eyed. Trust me, these little clues can be pretty telling.
Possessiveness can be super sneaky! If he gets upset when you talk to other guys, or tries to keep tabs on your locations via social media, these can be clear signs. It’s all about control, and it can look like ‘caring’ when it’s really not.
Oh, you'll know! If he suddenly seems more distant or starts acting out of character, you’ve probably hit a nerve. Some guys might even start flirting with other women to get back at you. It's a classic move.
Absolutely! Some guys are pros at hiding their jealousy. They might cover it up by being overly nice or acting indifferent. But trust your instincts—if something feels off, it probably is.
Great question! Jealousy is more about fear of losing you to someone else, while possessiveness is about owning you as if you’re their property. Both aren’t healthy, but possessiveness can be more toxic and controlling.
3. He’s Possessive about You
Does he want to know where you are and with who all the time? Does he call incessantly when you are out with your friends? Does he insist on knowing what time you will be done? Agreed that a relationship comes with a certain amount of answerability and I see no harm in informing him where you are going to be. But if too many questions follow, it may be a sign of jealousy.
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Does he want to know where you are and with who all the time? Does he call incessantly when you are out with your friends? Does he insist on knowing what time you will be done? Agreed that a relationship comes with a certain amount of answerability and I see no harm in informing him where you are going to be. But if too many questions follow, it may be a sign of jealousy. Overbearing behavior can lead to tensions, and questioning your movements constantly may reflect insecurity. A healthy relationship requires trust and space to breathe, not relentless supervision.
4. He Doesn’t like You Having Photographs of Former Friends
Do you know those books under your bed or an online profileon a social networking sites with photographs of ex boyfriends or past friends? Does he get upset when he sees them? Has he mentioned getting rid of them? Does he bring it up during fights? If you answered yes, you probably have a jealous boyfriend on your hands.
5. When Others Find You Attractive, He Gets Upset
Instead of feeling proud or saying “thank you,” when others find you attractive, he gets upset and goes into a rage. This is jealousy getting the best of him. Shouldn’t he be happy when someone thinks you look good and not upset? That's definitely a man I'd want to stay away from!
6. He Envies Other People’s Lives
He is constantly talking about other people’s lives and how great they are doing. Is he always pointing out how certain couple friends of yours have so much money or the hottest new electric car or the perfect vacation? It's okay to be a little jealous I suppose but if it goes to the point that it almost seems like he is obsessed with their lives, it could be a tell-tale sign of jealousy. And while, it has nothing to do with you directly, you never know when and how it could manifest itself in an ugly way.
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Jealousy can be a difficult emotion to deal with and it can manifest itself in many different ways. If your partner is constantly talking about other people's lives and how great they are doing, it can be a sign that he is envious of them. He might be pointing out how certain couple friends of yours have so much money, or the latest electric cars, or the perfect vacation. This type of behavior can often be a sign of underlying jealousy, and it can cause a lot of tension in relationships. It is important to be aware of the signs of jealousy and to talk openly and honestly with your partner if you think he is feeling jealous.
7. He Says Mean Things about Your Friends
So you've made an effort to hang out with his friends. Maybe even tried to get along with his mother! But when it comes to your friends, for no reason at all, he decides that he will say mean things about them. Even though your friends have never done anything wrong and are very nice, he still insists on saying bad things about them all the time.
8. Staring at You
Whenever you are in a crowded club or room and are away from each other, you see that he is constantly staring at you. It's like he is keeping a check on you to see how you interact with other people and whether or not you are behaving yourself. It's like a cat and mouse game that he's playingand honestly it's plain creepy. Jealous much? I think so!
9. Stalking
When the guy you are with starts stalking you to see where you are going, who you are hanging out with and who you are talking to, then this is an ultimate sign of jealousy. Not only that, he wants to know the passwords to your emails, wants to know who sent an sms and what it was about, wants to keep a tab on the calls you get, he is definitely starting to become obsessive and you suddenly find yourself clueless on how to deal with his jealousy.
10. The Guy Acts Strange around You
Does he start to act strange around you? Have you noticed that he is not being his usual self? Maybe he's becoming more aggressive. Maybe he's being more insecure. Either way, if you notice that he is acting strange, it could be a sign of jealousy. Sure, it can also be a sign of cheating, but if it is mixed in along with some of these other signs, then take it as a sign of jealousy.
11. Mood Swings
He may be perfectly fine but the minute you get a call from a co-worker, you see him go all quiet and weird. Or maybe he gets angry and maybe even physically abusive. A sudden and constant change of mood swings may indicate jealousy. Pay attention to see if it has been happening a lot lately.
12. Pretending That He Does Not Care
When he sees you speaking with that other guy, he pretends that he does not care and it is obvious that he is pretending. He could be bottling up his feelings and trust me no one can bottle anything forever. If he acts weird for the rest of the day, maybe ignores you or creates a fight for no reason and uses this other guy as ammo against you, it is crystal clear that he is insecure and jealous.
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If your man is the jealous type, there are usually signs that he is. He may start to act differently around you, or become more controlling. He may also become possessive of you and try to limit your interactions with other people.
He may also become overly protective of you, and become suspicious of any interactions you have with other men. He may also start to ask questions about your activities when you’re not around him.
Another sign that he’s the jealous type is if he gets angry or defensive when you do something that he perceives as flirting with other men. He may also be quick to accuse you of cheating, or become jealous of your relationships with your friends.
He may also start to act passive-aggressively towards you, or make snarky comments about the men you talk to. He may also become possessive of your time, and become angry if you spend time with other people.
13. He Needs You to Text Back Asap
Does your man text you REPEATEDLY until he gets a response from you? That's a big, big sign of jealously. Whenever you go a few minutes without replying, does he come up with these wild stories as to why you're "too busy" to talk to him? That proves that he's jealous of you and anybody you interact with that isn't him!
14. He Monitors What You do on Social Media
If your man keeps track of everything you tweet/post on Facebook, it's a sign of jealously. He wants to monitor exactly who you interact with and what goes on when he's not with you! It's borderline-creepy and NOT healthy for your relationship.
15. He Gets Mad at What You Wear
Girls, what you wear is YOUR choice and nobody else's. No man has the right to tell you what to wear/not wear! If he really trusts you, he wouldn't feel bothered by your clothes - whether they're revealing or not.
Girl, if you feel that you have a jealous guy on your hands, sit him down and talk to him. Ask him what's bothering him and tell him that he has nothing to worry about. Sometimes a little reassuring is all that a person needs. If you love him you need to try and help him get over that jealousy problem he has, because it’s probably not something he can do by himself. But if you think that the jealousy is beyond repair, you may want to consider dumping him. Trust me, it is for your own sanity! Have you ever dealt with jealousy? Are you a jealous person?
This article was written in collaboration with editor Vanessa Salles.
Comments
Xannyyy: I totally hate jelousy. I know it's good for one's realtion ship and I approve but too much of it could break a person and even a relation ship! Being jelous of freinds?? I would never approve of that! Live is full of friendships and meeting new people, and if one is not allowed to do so because of the other person then one shoud get caged! Respect and love are one thing that one have to feel in the other to feel safe and protected but all this crap of jelousy wouldn't built a strong realtionship between two persons!
confused: Ive been seeing this guy on and off for about 6 months now but we havent really been talking much the last few weeks so i went on a date with another guy and he seen us out together.He shakes my hand and pulls me to him and whispers in my ear "don' t text me anymore" and i just walk away. Well he starts texting me calling me a ho, slut, b*tch, and says all kinds of mean stuff til 6am he sends all kinds of bs.. What does that mean? Is he jealous or what?
Shaine: Actually I have this guy who is flirting with me everytime I told him that my friends is inviting me to their house he keeps asking me what am I doing there and also he told me to stop talking to a guy even though he is my classmates but I also ask him if it is a girl is it OK with you then he said yes except lesbians.. What am I supposed to do?
Channeda44: I feel like me ex wants me back because I have flirting with his friends and all, so now he like keeps an eye on me and one day i was talking about to his friend he came up and told his friends, "I need to speak to you" and i kinda ease-dropped and they were like yelling at each other!
Tammy: i borrow 50 off my Xboyfriend and my new boyfriend keeps saying to me what did i have to do for the money and i told him all i have to do is pay him back its like every day he say it over and over to me and ask me did i see my xboyfriend today and i say no why is he keep asking me it every day
James: I agree with some of the stuff in this article but by and far, what if the girl is the problem? My current gf admits that she likes to look... she even admits to family that she finds herself still interested in other guys even though we're together. In a case like this, shouldn't any man be concerned when she starts flirting with other people and not calling it flirting. Won't any normal person want to know why she's always dashing to respond to text msgs but somehow takes forever to answer yours? Won't a normal person wonder why she's so keen on hanging out with people she's met after the fact? For all intents and purposes, I am jealous but sometimes it's warranted. There's probably only a finite amount of time before she cheats. She talks about trust but how can I trust someone not to cheat when they essentially want me to pretend that they're not secretly interested in other people?
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