You just know he’ll be good in bed… or do you? Yes, you've probably always told yourself that you should not judge a relationship based on the sex, but come on, who are we fooling? Sex counts! Either way we stack it, it counts. So, you’re enjoying the dating scene and you're curious to know if he’ll be any good at the deed before you actually do it. Fret not. I have come up with this reliable list of the signs that he will be good in bed. Ready? Here we go...
1. He Does Not Brag
I have found that if a guy is good in bed, he does not brag about his past sexcapades. I mean, personally, I do not have any experience with this, because I have only been with one guy (the guy I married when I was 18), but from what I have read and heard from friends, I have heard that guys who are good in bed do not brag. However, those guys who are bad in bed have a tendency to brag (or shall we say wish?). If he has not bragged about any of his past conquests chances are he may have had his share of very bragworthy deeds in the past ;)
2. He Ties His Necktie in Five Seconds
Sure he has gorgeous manicured handsand clean nails but tell me this...Can he tie his necktie in five seconds flat? Let me tell you something, those fine motor skills are definitely a major plus! Imagine the wonderful things those fingers might be capable of..Mmm... I tell my husband that the next time he knots his tie, he needs to time himself. So if he is able to tie that tie that fast, then you may be in for a night of surprises.
3. That Eye Contact
Eye contact is not just an indicator that he likes you but also how good he could be in the sack. When he makes eye contact with you, how do you feel? Is it dull, shallow or very intense? When you make eye contact with a guy who is good in bed, you will have an unexplainable feeling. That eye contact will be so intense, you'll feel yourself melting. If you do not believe me on this one, try it out some day. You’ll see exactly what I mean. And trust me darling you will definitely want to make eye contact with this one in bed!
4. His Cooking is Sloppy, but He Cleans up Nicely
To test this one, you obviously have to see him cook you a meal. When you finally succeed at making him cook (if you don’t get him in bed by then), then pay attention to how he cooks. If he cooks sloppily, don’t take it as a bad sign. Instead concentrate on how he cleans up. If he cleans up neatly, that will definitely be a sign that he is good in bed. Infact a friend and I were just discussing the same thing the other day and from her vast experience, she seems to totally believe there's a connection between the two.
5. What’s on His Bookshelf?
When you go to his home or apartment, what do you see on his bookshelf? Does he have a good amount of fiction? Substantial non-fiction? Hopefully, he does not have books such as “How to Get Laid Today!” If he has one of those “How to” books or anything similar to it, then he may not be good in bed. Remember girls, do not forget to look at his bookshelf! Somehowbookworms do seem better in bed. And "hot nerds" have always been my type ;)
6. When He Talks, Does He Use His Hands?
I have always been one to notice hands. And not just to check whether they are beautiful hands but to also notice how he uses them. When a guy is good in bed, he will have a tendency to talk with his hands. What is the connection between these two? When he is so expressive with his hands while talking, imagine how much more expressive he could get in bed. Maybe he is so used to using them that he doesn’t even notice he talks with them.
7. He Holds the Doors Open
Men should be courteous. And stay away from men who are otherwise. Guys who are good in bed have a tendency to open doors for the girl. He will also pull the chair out for you and wait before he digs into his dinner. Basically, guys that are great in bed do not forget the concept that ladies are first. These are things that you will notice on your very first date. But beware, a lot of guys tend to be extremely well behaved on the first couple of dates and slowly deteroriate into their "real selves" as time goes by. So if you are dating someone who is consistently well mannered, you may have a catch!
8. He Has a Bedroom Light Switch Dimmer
This may not be important to everyone, but most men who are good in bed have a tendency to have a bedroom light switch dimmer. Sure, if he has one of those lights that turn off when he claps, then that counts as the same thing as a dimmer. When you go into his room, make sure you take a look at the type of light he has. Bright lights are a big no no in bedas is complete darkness.
9. He Pays Attention to Your Feelings
When he speaks with you, he pays attention to every word. He shows that he cares whether you are sad, mad, upset and of course, feeling good. When you’re happy, he’s happy. When you’re sad, he looks sad. I do not know what other girls think, but this is something my friend told me she noticed about guys who are good in bed. When a guy does not care about how you feel, then he is not going to care how you feel in bed. Does this make sense?
10. The Way He Speaks
Some men just have it in their voice. You hear him and you know there's no way he's going to be bad in bed. That's what makeshot men like George Clooney and Gerard Butler hotter. When he speaks to you, what tone of voice does he use? Does he use a sensual voice that just screams out “I am good in bed?” Or is it dull and boring? Pay attention to the way he speaks and see if the way his talks lure you into bed.
11. The Way He Dances
The way his body moves on the dance floor can give you some hints about how he'll move in the bedroom. Pay attention, because you'll be able to tell if he has great rhythm and how well he can move those hips. If he makes dancing look easy, he'll be great under the sheets.
12. How Confident is He?
You don't want to hop in bed with a man who is afraid to take his shirt off in front of you. You want to find someone with confidence, because they'll be unafraid of stripping for you and kissing you. They know they're good at what they do, so they won't hesitate to get the job done.
13. He Isn't Selfish
Does he share his dessert with you and offer to pay for the meal? You better hope so! You have to find someone who isn't selfish, because sex is a two-way street. If he's selfish when you're out at dinner, he'll be selfish in the bedroom, too. No one wants that.
14. He Isn't Judgmental
Sex is an extremely intimate process, so you want to do it with someone you feel comfortable with. If he's a very openminded person, then you won't be afraid to tell him your fantasies so that they can become a reality. The more you can talk to him about, the better. Sex is all about communication, after all.
15. He's Adventurous
Is he willing to try new things? If he is, then he'll have plenty of different ways to please you in the bedroom. You want someone who's versatile, because change is good. You don't want to be stuck preforming the same routine day in and day out.
16. He Gives You Compliments
Even if you're a shy kitten, you have to admit that dirty talk is attractive. If he's willing to give you compliments while you're out and about, there's a big chance that he'll continue to give those compliments in the bedroom. There's no bigger turn-on than being told you're looking fine.
17. He's a Fast Learner
If he's never cooked pasta before, but picks it up right after you hand him the recipe, he's skilled at adapting to new situations. That means that he'll be able to learn what you love right away. The faster he figures out what makes you tick, the faster you'll be in bliss.
18. His Kiss
You can tell a whole lot about him by the way he kisses. Does he take his time? Is he messy? Does he make sure your comfortable with every move he makes? Pay attention to these things the next time you lock lips.
19. How Often He Exercises
A fit body is nice to look at, but it's so much more. If your man exercises often, that means that he'll be able to have sex for a longer period of time. He won't get tired easy, so he'll be able to keep his body moving until you're fully pleasured.
20. How He Walks
Watch your man walk around to see how he carries himself. Does he hold his head high? Does he keep his back straight? The better his posture, the more confident he is, which means the better he is in the bedroom.
21. He Can Multitask
Is it impossible for him to talk to you while watching TV or eating? If he can't multitask, he'll have trouble in the bedroom. He needs to be able to keep his hips moving, his hands moving, and his lips moving if he wants to give you everything that you need.
22. He Enjoys the Moment
The journey is more important than the destination, as they say. If he enjoys the little moments, then he'll be better at pleasuring you during sex, because he'll understand the importance of foreplay and taking his time to get to the big finale.
23. He Loves You
The more he cares about you and your opinion, the harder he'll try in the bedroom. If he didn't care about you, then he would just make sure that he was satisfied and his job would be done. However, when he loves you, he'll want you to be as happy as he is.
With some of these signs, you know he’ll be good in bed. If he is not good in bed the first time, that does not mean that you should dump him. I know, I said sex does count, no matter how you stack it, but there is always room for some improvement! And besides sex does get better with communication and time...Do you have some sure shot ways to know if a guy is good in bed? Please do share!
This article was written in collaboration with editor Holly Riordan.