10+ Critical Don'ts to Avoid when Arguing ...

Arguing is a perfectly normal part of any relationships, but as with everything there are a few** key mistakes to avoid**. Following these guidelines will keep your disagreements from getting out of hand.

1. Don't Wait to Confront a Problem

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If you are upset about something speak up. Holding anger in will only lead to a blow out at a later time over something that is not the real issue.

2. Don't Stray from the Real Issue

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It makes no sense to yell about the dishes not getting cleaned when the argument is about not feeling appreciated.

3. Don't Yell or Scream

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4. Don't Name Call

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Calling names is only going to add fuel to the fire. Remember to focus on the issue.

5. Don't Place Blame

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Own your feelings by using “I” statements not “you” statements.

6. Don't Expect Anyone to “just Know” Why You Are Mad

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You have to speak your words. It is very unlikely you are arguing with a mind reader.

7. Don't Lie, Not Even by Submission

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Be honest. It’s the only way to make progress.

8. Don't Let the Argument Carry on Endlessly

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Work together to find a solution.

9. Don't Ignore Apologies

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10. Don't Forget to Follow through ...

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... with your end of the final agreement.

11. Your suggestion ... add it now

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Disagreements are not a deal breaker in a relationship. Just remember to stay calm and focused on the issue. When a solution be sure to hold up your end of the bargain.

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