Arguing is a perfectly normal part of any relationships, but as with everything there are a few** key mistakes to avoid**. Following these guidelines will keep your disagreements from getting out of hand.
1. Don't Wait to Confront a Problem
If you are upset about something speak up. Holding anger in will only lead to a blow out at a later time over something that is not the real issue.
2. Don't Stray from the Real Issue
It makes no sense to yell about the dishes not getting cleaned when the argument is about not feeling appreciated.
3. Don't Yell or Scream
4. Don't Name Call
Calling names is only going to add fuel to the fire. Remember to focus on the issue.
5. Don't Place Blame
Own your feelings by using “I” statements not “you” statements.
6. Don't Expect Anyone to “just Know” Why You Are Mad
You have to speak your words. It is very unlikely you are arguing with a mind reader.
7. Don't Lie, Not Even by Submission
Be honest. It’s the only way to make progress.
8. Don't Let the Argument Carry on Endlessly
Work together to find a solution.
9. Don't Ignore Apologies
10. Don't Forget to Follow through ...
... with your end of the final agreement.
Disagreements are not a deal breaker in a relationship. Just remember to stay calm and focused on the issue. When a solution be sure to hold up your end of the bargain.