You have the biggest crush on this guy but you don't have the faintest idea about any flirting rules that would actually enable you to flirt with him. You can't stop thinking about his adorable dimples and those deep blue magical eyes. You want him and you're willing to take that first step but you're afraid of making a fool of yourself. Well maybe what you need are a few flirting rules. Armed with these flirting tips, I promise you will get your boy to melt like silly putty.
1 Get Caught Looking
This one is a personal favorite. If I see someone I like, I always make it a point to look his way a couple of times, hoping he catches me in the act. And when he does, I give him an ever-so-sly smile, look at him for a couple of more seconds and look away. This lets him know that you're interested and it's just so much fun to make eye contact in a room full of people. Just don't get caught looking at him too often no matter how pretty he is. That's plain creepy, and one of the most important flirting rules is to avoid being creepy at all costs.
2 Keep It Playful
If you have worked up the guts to go talk to him, just remember to keep it playful. Flirting has to be fun! Smile, and by that I don't mean the flight attendant kind of fake smile. I mean a genuine, warm smile that makes you seem approachable and friendly. Teasing him playfully is also a good way to get him comfortable. But there's only so many times a guy wants to hear about his "rosy red lips." If it's not the first time you're talking to him, try inventing a nickname for him; try something cute yet masculine that will stay only between the two of you. And no, Princess Jasmine is not a good nickname for a guy. I learnt that the hard way when I was 14.
Flattery really will get you everywhere. We ladies love our compliments and believe it or not, men do too! So if you think his smile is cute, let him know! If you love the tee he's wearing, let him know! But as with every tip, be frugal with the compliments too. It's sweet to hear "Awww I love your dimples" once, maybe twice. Any more and you're probably going to creep him out. Besides, too many compliments may make you seem a wee bit fake. And we don't want that, do we?
4 Physical Contact
I know you just want to jump at him and devour him, but resist the urge. The first few times you talk to him, make sure you stand close enough to create a sense of intimacy, yet not so close that he can smell your breath. Think about how close you'd want a stranger to stand if it was the first time he was speaking to you. That should give you a clearer image in your head. After you start to get comfortable with each other, subtle physical contact is good. An 'accidental' brush of the shoulder or fingers, a hug hello or a hug goodbye and my favorite, briefly touching his arm or shoulder when he says something that makes me laugh. Just remember, he may be shy or worse still, not interested, so know when to stop.
5 Eye Contact
There's so much you can say with your eyes! I guess they're not called the windows to the soul for nothing. I know this one is hard, especially if you are shy, but it's oh-so-worth it. So the next time you are engrossed in conversation, look into his eyes like he means the world to you and as Tyra would say, "Smile with your eyes." It'll make him feel that much more connected to you. And I know his eyes are mesmerizing but try not to stare. Believe it or not, 'zombie stares' make people feel uncomfortable. Remember to pair it up with a smile and occasionally let your eyes drift down to his lips. Remember, I said OCCASIONALLY. Do it too often and you'll come across as a pervert!
6 Conversation
Here are a few conversation tips that a wise woman (read: my best friend) once passed on to me. Firstly, use his name every now and then while talking to him. It will add that personal touch to the conversation and make him feel more comfortable. Secondly, remember that people love to talk about themselves, so ask him questions and please let them be interesting questions. There's nothing fun or remotely flirty about "So what answer did you get for that problem?" When he's talking, listen to him (and I mean really listen!) and respond. Even if you don't know much about the topic at hand, try to say something to keep the conversation flowing. For example, if he's talking about pool and you don't have the slightest clue about the game, let him talk about it and then say something like "Wow! All that makes me wish I knew how to play pool. Maybe you could teach me sometime," and give him your best smile. If he smiles back...Ka-ching!
7 Body Language
What you're doing with your body is as important as what you're saying. Agreed that most often these are subconscious moves but you need to pay more attention to them so that you don't send across the wrong signals through your body language. For starters, don't cross your arms. It makes you seem unapproachable and not too open. If you don't know what to do with your hands, play with your hair or jewelry flirtatiously. Again, moderation is key or you're just going to seem fidgety. Then there's the legendary hair flip, a flirting tip that's as old as time itself. Also, I recently read that guys find the neck of a woman extremely attractive. So bend your head sideways as if listening intently and expose your neck or move your hair to one side of the neck. And another personal favorite, lean into him ever-so-slightly and speak softly to make sure he's forced to do the same.
8 Stop While It's Still Fun
Always remember to leave at a high point. If you feel like you're running out of things to say or that the conversation is slacking just a little bit, it's time to say goodbye. I know it's the last thing you want to do, but trust me; this way he'll look forward to your next meeting. Let the goodbye be confident, flirty and short yet not hasty. Leave him wanting more of you!
9 Don't Go Psycho
Psycho is not attractive. Don't magically appear before him every time he's alone. You'll seem like a stalker and no one likes a stalker. If he seems like he's in a hurry and says he has to go, don't linger and be clingy. Also, if you manage to exchange numbers, don't text or call him as soon as you're out of sight. Give him time to miss you. If he's interested, trust me, he will call! And if you make the first move and he doesn't text or answer his phone, don't keep trying incessantly. 15 missed calls don't exactly scream sane!
10 Be Yourself
Most importantly, remember to be yourself! Don't pretend to be someone you're not just because you think that's who he wants you to be. Let him get to know and like you for you. We all have quirks that make us unique, so be proud of them and use them as your strengths. Be confident without being over the top and have fun with it! Remember, not every guy you like has to like you back. So if he doesn't respond the way you want him to, consider it practice and move on!
11 Take an Interest in Things He Likes
If he is someone you've know for sometime and you know a few things about him, then take an interest in something he's into. Does he always carry around a Spider-Man or Batman comic book? Does he talk a lot about country music and artists like Darius Rucker or Jason Aldean? Next time you see him, play a country song on your iPod loud enough for him to hear it or wear a Batman shirt that will really get his attention. But, before you do so, be sure to do some research on these interests of his if you don't know much about them!
12 Test out a Command
Men love women who take command and are in control when they flirt, so test out a command with him once things start getting hot. Say something like, "I've been dying to see that new play that's in town, you should take me." Make sure it comes off as a command and not a question, you don't want to give him too much time to think about it. If he sees that you really like him and want this to happen then he will go for it.
13 Ask about His Tattoos
If he has crazy, unique tattoos all down his arms, jump right in the water and ask him about them. Touch his arm, look into his eyes, and say, "Did this tattoo hurt?" then add in, "What's the meaning behind it?" Guys with tattoos love girls who are into them because that means you're into him too!
14 Challenge Him
Are you flirting with a guy at the gym who is running next to you on the treadmill or playing basketball on the court? Challenge him to a friendly competition and he will love you when you let him win! Don't be too obvious about the win, let the score get neck and neck and just see what happens!
15 Dance with Him
Whether you're at a night club, friend's party, or a wedding, go over to him and pull him out on the dance floor! If you really want to get to know him before the night is over, dancing is a great way to see what he's really made of. Just make sure not to get too crazy or too wild on the dance floor!
Stick to these flirting rules and you’ll be an expert flirt in no time! Have you got a killer flirting trick? Feel free to share! In fact, please do share.
Jess I have a crush on a guy in my first period class, and we were on the cross country team together so we are friends. His is grade 9 and I am grade 10. I have caught him looking at me in class like twice and when I looked over he quickly turned away, and at one of the cross country meets it was freezing and I happened to mention that my hands were freezing and he offered me his gloves, idk if he likes me or if he was just being nice.
Marlee There's this guy I really like and he gives me a lot of nicknames and he frIGGIN WALKED ME TO CLASS ONCE OKAY and he always shows me new music and him and his friends always pretend to laugh at me when I'm in the same room as them
grayson I really like him I think he likes me he asked to borrow a book and I got a thanks and a wink what does it mean are we a thing or not??
grayson @grayson, maybe he will love you
grayson I have a huge crush on a boy what do I do??
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Paige I'm 13 I like a kid we were dating in year 5 then we broke up I'm in year 8 now the sad thing is he has a girl friend and I really like him a lot plus I think they broke up so I might use the 15 flirting ways to get a boy so yeah if it work I will tell you
grayson @Paige, don't worry you can find someone better
Collette So I was just on holiday in Denmark where I met this boy my age, and we are talking a lot and getting very close for the past two weeks, but now I am home in America again. How can I keep his interest? We mostly talk through Snapchat and direct messages on Instagram.
grayson @Colleen, you should call him mail him and you know show that you like him snapchat won't go on forever he will lose intrest
Cassandra Hey so my name's Cassi and I's in 9th grade. I really like this guy who I only have one class with. He sits right next to me but we're surrounded by guys. Any advice?
rocky I need help not with a guy yet but school is starting again and what if theres a new guy which there will be what if i need help
grayson @rocky dj, you'll be fine be cool
christine Hi i need an advise please!! I've been in love with my best friend for about 3 years now and i dont know if i should tell him, i dont want to lose him or to change our relationship just because he doesnt feel the same. But its really confusing, everytime we are hanging out he hugs me and i feel like he likes me but then he hugs other girls and ifeel like he does that with every girl and yes he is very flirty. he also invites me to the movies and wants to hang out or to watch movies at my place and when we do hang out he is always huging me and touching me. What should i do? Also a friend of mine likes him and she asked me if i liked him and i said no. i havent told anybody but i really like him im just scared to get hurt. Please helppp
brandy i am in 8 grade and i have this friend, her name is brooklyn and i have a giant crush on her brother and yes he is in my grade but we only have one hour together which is gym and we have our lockers by each other and i show my affection through my drawing and i am really good, like a high school level, and he denied my picture, he likes lizard so i call him lizard boy and he has turned down 3 other girls in a week and he is a total flirt, should i ask him out or what do i do, please respond !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
RebelleFleur01 @christine, first you should find out if they like you or not. If you find him staring at you for long periods of time or staring at your lips or even constantly touching you then he definitely likes you
christine @elin ,he probably likes you! Try to be confident around him and flirt a little not to much to seem desperate but just a little to let him know you are interested!!
grayson @christine, GOOD IDEA BUT, DON'T ASK HIM ABOUT IT LET HIM FIND OUT LATER
Elin @caroline, i think he is interested and is maybe feeling a little shy? Perhaps you should try talking to him first?
grayson @Elin, LIKE THE IDEA
Elin Hey, im 16 theres this boy at work and i really like him, he's so nice, funny and has the cutest cheeky smile! But i cant tell anyone and i feel as if my best friend tries to flirt with him even though shes seeing another guy. It just gets my frustrated to watch because im not a very loud and confident girl im very quiet and sometimes quite shy. He always gets me to help him when he's got some jobs to do and never anyone else, i also turn around when he walks to the washing up area (where i work) and hes always looking at me with his cheeky smile. Any suggestions? My mum also said she thinks he has a 'soft spot' for me and she doesnt even know i have a crush on him. X
caroline hey my name is caroline and this guy at my country club keeps looking at me and he tries to come up to me but he always ends up walking away and I need to know what to do!
grayson @caroline, WALK UP TO HIM AND TALK TO HIM CAUALLY
vanessa If*they say yes I mean
Katherine I've liked this guy in my class for about half a year. We're in the same bus and he sits in the next seat and sometimes next to me and we talk a lot about the most random things. But a few days ago I asked him to prom and he just ignored me. What do I do?
vanessa @Katherine, I think wat u should do first is ask any of his friends if he's going to prom with any body and if they say no or if they don't know don't be scared to ask him again. And I they say yes then always remember there is plenty of other fish in the sea. I know u will find the right guy
vanessa Sooo I really like this guy I met him when it was my cousins quinceñera (a Hispanic tradition that celebrates the 15 years of a girl similar to a sweet 16) I was a part of her court and he was my partner for it so after the party I see him at church and sometimes at parties and I fell like he looks at me but I don't know 😞 I look at him one in a while he just keeps on getting hotter and we have made eye contact but never spoken only when we would practice for the quinceñera wat should I do? I'm worried because he is my cousins ex and he's a big flirt with almost every girl sooo? HELP
grayson @vanessa, Chill you need to ask him out
kirestin tell him. then f im hard
Madelyn Hey guys! I need some advice. I like this guy and I want to get to know him more.. but my friend, WHO ISNT SINGLE, keeps flirting with him. She has that overly kind personality. How do I try to talk to him if she keeps getting in the way?
grayson @Madelyn Chance, Do not be araid to tell her that she should back off
vanessa @Madelyn Chance, what you should do is ask her if she likes him and if she says yes tell her that she has her own guy and that's not right if she says no tell her to tell you the truth because it really looks like it and if she gets mad 😠 then forget her bishh u get in her way of being with him so GO GET HIM GURL❕
Ashley hey y'all, my name is Ashley, i'm 16, and i want to know if any of y'all have any advice for me because every guy i try to "talk" to only talks talks to me for a day..its because 1 dude had a gf, another dude also had a gf but he was my friend and he was asking me to help him break up with her, and the 3rd guy was already talking to another girl and now they're dating. I want a boyfriend that goes to my school but i dont know how to attract guy. Please help me please and thanks.
Alyssa There's a boy who's my Best friend's brother and we have tons in common and my bff and her older sister say we're meant for each other but I say stuff like Seriously? Although I really like him. Me and him are w kinda like bro and sis but I don't know if I should tell him or my buff! What should I do?
sadsingle17 i need help there is alot of cute guys at my school and i want to get a boyfriend but i dont know what to do. I feel heart broken and i feel like im fat that no boys will date me. How would i get a boy to notice me the way i am
chloe Pls help I like this guy but he is older than me I hardly ever see him but when I do see him he smiles at me and then he just come up to me and hugs me I don't know what to do pls help
melissa please some one help me with him
melissa there's this guy in my school who I really like he's a really nice guy, but I don't have any classes with him any more we text a lot on facebook and I told him that I really like him but he doesn't seem to feel the same way. One day I didn't talk to him at all and he came up to me and huged me like we were dating, and that was before I told him I liked him. Today he didn't speak to me at all, he only said hi mellissa but that's all, I allways scream "I hate you, I hate you!" in my head but I really realy like him a lot. Plz help me out.:(
Jessica I need advice... I'm falling for this guy, but I don't know if he likes me back. How would I figure it out?
Angel I have a problem and need advice. Today I was asked out by a guy I knew a bit. He asked me out and I said yes... for a bit he was amazing nice then he changed all of a sudden. He began to act awkward and cold. he apparently talked to my ex... I liked the guy but he dumped me the exact same day he asked me out saying "You are beautiful but I acted to fast. Can we just be friends for now?" Any advice is welcome. I appreciate your time.
Kayleigh Hi i am Kayleigh and I am in high school and there is this guy 2 grades above me and I really like him we don't talk because I will get nervous and scare him away but we always smile and make eye contact.
Jessica @Kayleigh Moore, He probably thinks you don't like him. Or he's probably shy himself. Try making conversation with him, or accidently bump into him.
caroline Please respond soon and he's not in any of my classes
caroline Hi my name is Caroline and I like a guy but we already went out Im not sure if he still likes me and I really like him what do I do PS I'm in 6th grade
Angel I'm really confused... I was walking with this guy I like and he went to hug me, but put his arm around me for about 5 seconds as we walked then moved it back. But it wasn't like he only did it once... he did it a few times... Does it seem like he likes me?
julie hi all. am julie. i like my friend since btech 1st year.when i proposed he didnt say anything but he is being nice to me. I wanna be with him life long he took me to the hotel twice, i wont say NO if he asks anything. I went with him nothing much happened but we kissed . this is being continuing from 4 years.recently he asked to come to his room ,then i said no. but i cant stop thinking about him. the problem is i feel that he is speaking to me for just hugs and kisses and sex. He wont involve in my problems. He wont care for me. I cant share my feeling with the people around me. I sincerely loving him from 5 years. I dont think so he wud marry me.....please anyonce suggest me. #suggestion
shaun i like this boy who is a couple years above me and i went to a play he was in but he kept smiling at me so what should i do? any answers?
tytiana thank u sho muc
Taylor is anyone one on here right now if u are please reply to this so i can ask a yall a question please and thank u
Jessica @Taylor, I'm here. :)
jessie if a guy flirts with you almost all the time and everyone thinks you guys have a thing but he wont admit to anyone if he likes you or not what do you do?
bella @maddie well you see theres this boy that ive liked forever and we always flirt not so much text weve went out once but that only lasted a day but he still continues to flirt with me but at the same time i still think hes into a different girl i want to know if he likes me or not but hes not really the opening up kind of guy what do i do?
Lexi there is this guy nick hes my friend and i want to tease him and flirt a little bit and he has called me beautiful and stuff but i dont know how to do that stuff
ester hi im in 7 th grade and i like this boy but he likes my best friend. war do i do?
desy Hi AWT. I'm graduating this year, and I've liked this guy who is a year younger but really mature for a while now. I think he liked me at one point and wasn't just playing games but I have trust issues and at the beginning of the year I had a bf so I started to push him away once we started getting a bit closer. I think I might have given it too much space and time cus he has a girl now, but he could do soo much BETTER! (I broke up with my bf a while ago btw). and I think about him a lot but we barely talk anymore and it's my fault :( I need some random advice. I do not know what to do but like.. he's the one. I hate not talking to him, and seeing him with her. it kills me. what should i do? I want him to be mine NOW.!
Audrey Hey! I'm 14 years old and a freshman in high school. On the first day of school, I noticed this one boy named Kyle looking at me and he is HOT! The only problem? Well, he's a senior and he has a reputation of being a player. Everyday, we pass each other in the hallway and his friends will get really quiet and he'll stare at me. On the last day of our midterm exams, we stared at each other for probably a minute or so and he bit his lips while running his hands through his hair, but right after the bell rang, he took off up the stairs really fast. Does he like me? Or does he think I'm easy?
Erica @Anon same like me ,_, i know thsi boy in 7th grade now i'm in 7th grade and he is in 8th grade now , he is 1 y. older than me . And i think i'm i the FRIENDZONE .
Mandi Hi, I have a slit problem. Over the weekend before Christmas brake I set a guy a message saying he is cute an that I would like to get to know him. Well the next day at school I had embarrassed myself in front of him. We never talked before. Any advice on when I go back to school to get hi to think I'm not as weird as i made it seem on monday.
joy okay so there is this guy in a couple of my classes who i kinda like. i met him in the summer and he and his friends wanted me to be apart of their friend group but i didnt pick up on it until afterwards. he gave me his number and we talked occasionally but mostly in person. now during the school year we talked in person during the classes we had together and he would always start the conversation and say "were best friends right?" and say hi to me in the hallway. a couple weeks ago my friend told him to text me and we texted for like 7 hours straight and then we talked every single day after that; in school and out of school. then one day he stopped initiating the conversation over text. he would still talk to me just as much as before in school. and i dont know if he found someone else to talk to or how he feels about me exactly. any ideas?
tiana #suggestion
tiana my comments arent going through'
tiana hellp
tiana i need advice i like this guy hes in my grade and im a sophomore in high school. Im not really sure if this guy likes me but i make eye contact flirt and touch him time to time. We walk together in between periods but hes never walked me to class. My friends ship us and tell me that he likes me but what do i have to do really snag him. Im really serious about this guy and even told my mom about him? anybody can help me?
tiana theres this guy in my class and i really like him. Weve talked together and walked the halls. We have our own inside jokes and we laugh alot. I catch him staring at me on more than 1 occasion and weve even touched eachother a couple of time? How do i know if he likes me and what can i do to get him more interested?
Pinkdinosaur I've liked someone for nearly a year, he is coming over tomorrow, he said he would be my boyfriend, but 7 other people also like him, one of them being my friend who has liked him for 2 weeks :/ help!
Cassidy Got them friend-zone feels right now... /:
Jane So my friend really likes this guy, and all she'll ever talk about is him, and yet she met him less than a week ago and she confessed her love for him a DAY after she met him. I feel this isn;t going right. I don't really believe in this love stuff but I want to help her because she's my best friend, so I'm looking all over the place for things to help her but it's really hard. I have this weird feeling that her crush might tear us apart. It's like she's Anna and I'm Elsa from Frozen, and I don't want her heart to break. Please help me.
Nicole For number 15 what if he is the DJ at your school dance. What do you do then like pull him of the stage. I just really like this guy and I want to be his girlfriend. I just don't know how to flirt
Destiny I like this guy who's in the same friend group as me and whenever we all hangout, he cuddles with me but I've heard he likes someone else so I'm confused
YoungAndRestless I need some major help! SOS HERE!! I like a guy... but he's 1 1/2 years younger than me. My friends are all teasing me and saying that I'm a cougar. Am I? What really makes a teenage girl a cougar?
jemiah What do I do if I kissed my best friend boyfriend
Aria Hey, I need help. Im 14 and I really like a guy in my school, he's also 14, but I'm too shy to tell him how I feel. I'm friends with him but that's all, I've liked him for a while and I want to know if he feels the same way. Could you help by giving me some tips on how to talk to him about my feelings but nothing too outrageous because I'm really shy.
Vianna @Aria Wilson, question. "do you happen to go to wwjh in richardson??
Ella im in highschool and theres this cute guy who sits behind me in one of my classes but everytime i try to talk to him i kinda forget how to speak english and its really frustrating help plus homecoming is soon and i really want him to ask me but i mean he has to like me before hed want to how do i
Vidia Tip one is the best! (:
Crazybelle Cute tips
meghan I did 12/15 with my crush YESSS 👌😂
Charli omg in year 6 (so when I was 11 / 12 ish) I tried to make up a nickname for a guy {this is the like the princess jasmine incident mentioned in the post} and my name was teapot - I learnt the hard way too that it is NOT a good or even cute nickname for a guy!
Enter Although,#12 is weird
Enter Love the pictures. Also the tips,MAAN!!you sure know a lot about guys.#Thanksfavoured
Enter Best post ever.its everything I wanted to know.guy expert
jacinda In school there is this guy I like he looks and smiles and but he never talks to me so what do I do
Maria So, I have a little crush on one of my brothers friends.
Taylor Add commentOMG today in class my crush sat across from me and was putting his feet over mine and it was not like stepping on them but like lightly and I was like "what the heck" and he was like "what my feet are under my desk" and so I used my feet to push his away and then he had to get up but when he came back he started like trying to have soft feet wars and I pulled my feet to where he couldn't reach them even though he was already slouching to reach mine but then he just stopped. Was he flirting? And did I just make him think I didn't like him?
Codylambleymaddox What is up with that last photo lol
Technogoddess How do you get a guy to trust you when he thinks that a nether guy likes you?❓
Lindsey im in 6th grade and I asked my crushes little sister if he liked me and she said no but about a week ago when he found out I liked him he started staring at me and smiling at me and when we would have a class disscussaion he would start talking and instead of looking at the rest of the class he would only stare at me dose he like me or not cause his the little sister said no but im unsure about it all
rainacorn Thanks 😘
Lidia Did the eye contact thing, by mistake. I was looking at him and I was so engaged that I forgot to look away when he actually looked at me! Gosh...lol
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