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19 Tips for How to Read Men's Mixed Signals ...

By Melanie

Whatever our relationship might be - lover, crush, colleague, friend - we all benefit from tips for how to read men's mixed signals. Men can be tough to figure out. I have 19 tips listed below that should help with how mixed signals should be taken. It's hard to come up with exact scenarios, but I'll do my best to at least provide some examples of what I mean for each tip. if you want to know how to understand men's mixed signals... read on.

1 He Wants Attention

photograph, white, black, black and white, photography, As hard as it might be to believe, some people will do a lot just for some attention. Yes, the very reason that he might be giving you mixed signals is all because he wants attention. He might thrive on attention from women or he might just be lonely so he’s hot and cold. It’s not right, but it does happen.

2 He’s Waiting for the One

interaction, kiss, girl, forehead, hug, This might sound harsh, but if he’s sending mixed signals it could be that he’s trying to keep you around as a backup. While this isn’t always the case and he might think you’re a total catch, he just might not feel any chemistry between the two of you.

3 He’s Complicated

girl, People are all different when it comes to the opposite sex and that includes men! Some people are just complicated and these mixed signals could just be part of their complex personality or they’re purposely trying to be confusing. Either way, if they keep it up, you might want to rethink whether it’s worth your time!

4 Testing the Waters

photograph, black, black and white, monochrome photography, photography, You might be very straightforward and blunt, but he might not be. As much as we’d like for people to be more transparent, it doesn’t always work out that way. He could be testing the waters to see how you react to him. He might be really shy, terrified of rejection or just unsure of what to do so he’s trying to see your reactions to his signals.

5 He’s Not Ready

entertainment, stage, performance art, event, music venue, He flirts, then seems distant. So, what’s his deal?! It could be that he’s not ready for anything serious, but he’s not exactly comfortable with anyone else being in a relationship with you either. It’s unfair, but a guy knows when he’s sees a good catch and even if they aren’t ready to settle down with someone, they don’t want you to, either.

6 He Wants Sex

photograph, man, black and white, photography, monochrome photography, Sometimes a guy will send mixed signals because he wants all the benefits of a relationship without the emotional commitment. So he could be trying to see if there is a chance that he could get intimate with you or how far you’re willing to go.

7 Get a Second Opinion

human hair color, girl, mouth, muscle, interaction, If you’re unsure about whether the signals he’s sending are truly mixed, ask for a second opinion. The next time you’re going to hang out with him or you know you’ll be at the same place, bring a trusted friend along and get her opinion. It could be that you’re reading more into it or he is in fact being very confusing!

8 Put Yourself in His Shoes

photograph, black and white, monochrome photography, photography, girl, Sometimes when we’re having a hard time understanding a situation, it helps to put yourself in the other person’s shoes. Once we look at the situation from a different perspective, it might help clear things up and see things in a differently. Imagine yourself in his situation and think about why he might be sending those signals. Men and women might have a lot of differences, but we have a lot of similarities, too!

9 Make Sure You Aren't Just Missing the Point

black, photograph, black and white, person, monochrome photography, There are many times when the signal is very clear, but you are trying to read more into it than what is really there. If a guy smiles at you, don't assume he has a crush on you or that he wants to take you out on a date. People smile at one another all the time. Be sure you know whether it's just his personality showing through or if there is actually a message being given.

10 Substances Influence Some People

photograph, black, black and white, monochrome photography, photography, If you are talking to a guy who has been drinking all night long, he might seem a bit more friendly than usual. Be aware of this and take all that he says with a grain of salt. Most people's personalities change when they consume alcohol. A normally shy person can easily come across as a very forward person. Guys may become more chatty with you and show a lot of interest, when, in fact, it is just the alcohol. And most people when drunk are usually just interested in sex. You might want to meet with the guy after the influences have worn off and see if his "feelings" go any deeper.

11 Talk to His Friends

black, white, photograph, black and white, monochrome photography, Talking to a guy's friends might be a good way to figure out how to read a man’s mixed signals. This just might be a good way to see if he always behaves strangely around women or if it's just you. They might be able to tell you if he is doing it on purpose and if it is a good or bad thing. An added advantage is this: If his buddies like you chances are they will influence what he thinks about you as well.

12 Get to Know Him a Bit

photograph, man, black and white, photography, male, Hanging out with the guy for a bit can tell you if he is flirtatious by nature or if he is just aiming it towards you. So get up,host a party, invite him, a bunch of your girlfriends and a few guy friends and see what he's like with your girls. If he's making the rounds with everyone, then it might just be in his nature to flirt.

13 Nice Guys do Exist

flower, girl, flower arranging, romance, floral design, There are some guys who just are extremely polite and pay lots of compliments to those around them. Some people read this as flirting and then wonder why nothing ever came out of it. Pay attention to how he behaves around other people. He might be this polite to everyone, not just you. And maybe you are mistaking his being nice as a sign that he likes you.

14 Sometimes They Forget

photograph, black and white, kiss, monochrome photography, photography, Some men really just forget what they set out to do. When deciding how to read a man’s mixed signals, take memory into consideration. Also,remember he might have a lot on his plate already. For example, if a guy says he will call, but doesn't, there could be quite a lot of reasons why. So stop wondering if you committed some grave first date mistake. It could be because he lost the phone number. It might also be that he forgot he took the number or even that he was supposed to call in the first place. Or he could just be really busy.

15 They Don't Want a Serious Relationship

photograph, black, black and white, monochrome photography, snapshot, So the two of you have been hanging out a lot lately. And he's been coming onto you pretty strong and just when you think everything's perfect, it fizzles out. What does it mean? What did you do wrong? Nothing! He was probably just not interested in a long term relationship.

16 Some Guys do It for Show

photograph, black, man, black and white, photography, Don't forget about the whole macho image that some men feel they need to uphold in front of their friends. There are men who will show signs of not being interested when they are with their friends, but then be utterly devoted to providing lots of attention when none of their friends are around. They might want to avoid being the sensitive type around their friends.

17 They Are Confused

photograph, black, black and white, person, monochrome photography, It's also hard to know how to read men's mixed signals when they are just as confused as you are. Some of them don't even know what they want. They can be indecisive and change their mind quickly. People do have the right to change their mind. It would be nice if they would let you in on when the change is taking place though.

18 They Are Scared

photograph, black, black and white, monochrome photography, photography, Maybe he really likes you but is scared that you don't like him as much. Everyone has the fear of rejection. So if he started out confident and strong but seems to be backing off suddenly, maybe he's just afraid. Maybe you need to show him that you like him just as much. Reassurance is important to a lot of us.

19 Communication is the Key

black, black and white, person, monochrome photography, emotion, I've listed this as the number one way to figure out what men mean by their signals. Mixed signals can only truly be cleared up by getting to the bottom of what is going on. Talking to the guy and finding out just what his motives are is going to be the best way to clear up any issues with mixed signals. Besides communication is the only way to have a successful relationship so it wouldn't hurt to start early.

Hopefully these tips will help you figure out how to read men's mixed signals. This is a tricky subject and care should be taken when approaching it. You don't want to be too harsh or brash in your confrontation. You also don't want to make any rash decisions on what you think a signal means. Do some deductive reasoning first, before you jump to conclusions. Can you think of any other ways to help decipher mixed signals from guys? Please share them!

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