12 Ways to Get Your Boyfriend to Move in with You ...

By Kati

12 Ways to Get Your Boyfriend to Move in with You ...

So you’ve been together forever, he has a toothbrush at your place, and you are always washing his pants. So why isn’t he moving in? Men sometimes need a gentle push in the right direction, but it can be so hard working out what to say. Here’s a list of my top ways to get him to move in...

1 Home Test!

Invite him over for a few nights, and check that you are compatible. He’ll start to see how much easier living with you is, and you can see any habits that might drive you mad.

2 Have a Talk!

Find a magazine article or programme about couples, and broach the subject with him. Talking about other people makes it easier to judge how he feels, and saves you frustration and heartache if he says he isn’t ready.

3 Give Him a Key!

Pick your time carefully, but get a key copied and give it to him. Put it on his keys, and text him to drop by after work and let himself in for a surprise... make it seem exciting and convenient, rather than scary.

4 Show off Your Skills!

Cook for him, run him a bath, do his washing, keep him organized. Show him how living with you will make his life better. And remember that you often walk around in your underwear, if you think he needs more persuasion...

5 Discuss Practicalities!

If he eats with you, he should contribute to the food bill. Always watching your TV? Share the electric bill. Discussing practicalities like finance might make him realize that its much cheaper to pay one bill rather than two...

6 Enjoy Time Staying in!

Show him things you can do together. This will get him imagining spending every night with you. If he’s instantly crawling the walls and trying to escape, he isn’t ready yet.

7 Let His Friends round!

Invite his friends round for a PS3 night, and order pizza. Get beers, and leave them to it. Show him he can still be one of the lads even if he lives with you.

8 Don’t Nag Him!

Let him make the decision himself. If you nag him into it, he might end up hating you, which is obviously not what you are going for...

9 Let Him Think about It!

Don’t decide he should move in and expect him at the door with his things the next day. He needs to think it over, to sort out his own place and prepare for a move. Don’t impose unnecessary time limits!

10 Refer to It as ‘home’!

“Honey, you ready to go home?”, “Have we got enough beer at home?” He’ll start subconsciously associating your house with home, and he’ll start referring to it as that too.

11 Give Him a Role

Whether it’s taking out the bin, watering the plants, DIY or putting up the Christmas tree, giving him a job will make him feel more at home. Equally, let him have some say on where things go. Telling him off for putting things away wrong will just make him feel out of place.

12 Remember Why You Are Together

Don’t get so obsessed with moving in that you forget why you are together. Enjoy your own passions, have a joke together, and go out. Remember that you’re still a couple whether you live together or not.

Living together is amazing, and can make life so much easier. Remember why you are together, though, and that it doesn’t really matter if he leaves towels on the floor. Is it worth the argument? I think not. Enjoy living with him! Have you got a tip on how to make him move in, or a story on how it went for you? Please share it with me!

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I wish I had a place of my own so I can have my boyfriend all to my self all day and night :) But I guess we still have to wait some more years as we're in processs of our home!

why would anyone want their girlfriend/boyfriend to permanently move in? that just equals complete boredom after marriage and divorce. and to zennmaster- if you can't even keep a girlfriend/boyfriend, that's just sad and depressing!

Great article!! :)

I love the title of this post. "12 ways to get your boyfriend to move in with you." The only glitch is, the moment women stop following these 12 ways (about a week's time) the man (the rare kind with little iota of brains) knows he has been played and is walking out of the door. True Story. Fact. ps: Would love to see a post on x # of ways to keep a boyfriend/girlfriend. :P

These are great tips!! I never really thought about how i would get my boyfriend to move in. These are very clever!! (:

I thought I would never approve of that for my kids, but I was wrong. I gave in....... but I told them, you better be pretty sure about this person, because I do not want to see this "convenience" become a habit....Also, I advised them that they should have a certain time frame in mind, and within that time frame the relationship should get stronger or out they go. Friend of mine lived with her boyfriend for two years, and he was not ready for a more serious relationship,so her grandmother told her this: "why buy a cow when you already have the milk"....good advise, eh? This story does have a happy ending....in the third year they did get married, and I was invited to a very nice Greek wedding.

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