So you split up, but now you’re regretting it, realizing he was the one to hold on to. Is it possible to get your boyfriend back? While a lot depends on the circumstances and the people involved, in general most people take a while to move on and good relationships can be rekindled. Here are my top ten tips on how to get your boyfriend back.
1. What Went Wrong?
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If you’ve split up, it happened for a reason. Repeating history isn’t a good idea, so it’s important that you determine what went wrong, and see how you can solve the problem in the future. For example, if you had an argument, find a better way to deal with anger. If either of you cheated, think about why and whether you can forgive each other and move on.
2. Be Strong
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If you are in talks with your ex, or giving him time to consider it, then leave him alone. Don’t stalk him, or send constant texts or voicemails. Show him you don’t need him back, but you want him back. Being clingy will often push men further away.
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3. Meet up
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Go to a restaurant, or a coffee shop. Seeing him again might be emotional, so be prepared, and try to stay composed. Think about where to hold the meet up. Pick somewhere you can talk. It's generally a better idea to meet in public so that you don't get carried away either emotionally or physically. Remember you are here to resolve your issues. Remain cool headed and remember that inspite of everything, you are friends!
4. Dress to Impress
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While wearing your lowest cut top and shortest mini isn’t the best idea, wearing the top he loved and the jeans he couldn’t resist is! Wear sexy lingerieto boost your confidence, and spend time doing your hair and make-up. Show him what he is letting go, and you’ll feel much more confident.
If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.
5. Talk It over
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Brushing the issue under the carpet never lasts long. Get to the point and talk about how unhappy you are, and what went wrong. Be mature, calm and attentive, and actually listen. For the relationship to be worth fixing, you both need to put effort in. If somebody cheated, listen to their reasons why, and if they regretted it.
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6. Admit It when You Are Wrong
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If he says you never listen, and you actually don’t, apologize. Denying it will convince him you won’t change, even if you will. Talk about why you aren’t happy, and accept the things that you do wrong. Nobody is perfect!
7. Leave the past
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Agree to discuss the past one last time, and then to move on. Bringing up past negatives doesn’t do any good, and just damages the relationship more. Say what you need to say, let him have a say, and then forget about it.
8. Don’t Try and Make Him Jealous
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While it might be marketed as a successful tactic, by making him jealous, he is more likely to retaliate by getting a new girlfriend, and that will only add more obstacles. If you haven’t moved on, don’t act like it. Stay single, and avoid making him jealous on purpose.
9. Give Him Space
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If he needs time to think, give it to him. Clouding his vision will either cause him to reject you outright, or to agree and then change his mind. You want him to be as committed as you, so take a chance and let him think.
10. Move on
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If you aren’t getting anywhere, give up and get over it. You don’t need him, however much you might feel like it right now. Keep your head up, and remember that you are an amazing person, and you’ll find someone better. And delete his number, so that you don’t drunk text!
Before you start the process, think hard about whether you actually want him back, or if you just want a boyfriend. It’s unnecessary hurt for both parties to talk and then change your mind! And remember that being a single woman can be fun! Have you got a tip to get him back? Please share it with me!
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Comments
Xannyyy: Every situation depends on the circumstances. I say that when there's a break up it happens for a reason and if two are meant to be together again destiny will find it's way to make them meet again in future!
Abigail: I want him back and he is fair from me
Emmy: My ex is hard to explain. But right now, I like this other boy. And we sit together a lot, and when my ex sees, and the boy I like gets up, my ex kinda pushes him around. The boy I like isn't as strong as my ex, and I'm kind of still liking my ex... What should I do? I'm thinking my ex might be jealous... and the boy I like already told me who he likes, but he didn't say that he doesn't like me, so... I'm a bit stuck. Advice?
Harshi: hey buddies, yesterday he moved on.. n i realised that he really loves me.. he always forgve me n giving me many chances bt......... :( bt nw i realised how much i love him.. i cant live widout him wanna spnd my whole lyf only wid him.. how to make him realise that i love him alot.. he dos'nt wanna talk to me, m really missng him badly... :'(
Chloe: I know this probably very late but i need help... my boyfriend and i broke up last sunday (6 days ago) and it has been no contact since then. We broke up, it was more his choice than mine, but I agreed it was probably best for us... we talked for 3 hours in person and we were both crying quite a lot and he had never cried on front of me like that in our 2 year relationship. we were incredibly close but college was making things very difficult and his depression (and mine) made us pretty distant. We had a fight a month ago that I made my best effort to make it completely up to him, but on the day we broke up he said that he wanted to get over it but it was if his mind wouldnt let him. will i ever get him back? when i was leaving we had a huge hug and he was crying and begged me not to disappear from his like but i deleted him from facebook and we havent talked since. He even said I was the one, but maybe the timing was wrong. I love this guy with all my heart and i know i just want to be back together... how do i do this??
faithful: hello girls.. i have a problem.. Me and my boyfriend had argument last 6 days ago and till now he didnt send me a message anymore..he's ignoring me now.. i dont know what to do..i sent him a lot of messages and i apologized with him already even if i didnt do anything wrong but till now he's not yet send me a message or even reply to all my messages.. does he still love me? why he's ignoring me?
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