7 Ways to Show You Are Interested in Him without Being Too Clingy ...

I’m a rather shy person, especially when it comes to taking to the opposite sex. It was always difficult for me to talk to a guy I found attractive or interesting. I think it’s important to not appear too clingy when you want to get to know a guy better. The following list includes 7 ways to show you are interested in him without being too clingy, in case you are worried about coming across as being overly attached from the start.

7 Smile when You Make Eye Contact

There’s no harm in giving a guy you like a sweet smile when he looks at you. There’s no need to even be standing right next to one another, so there’s no way a smile could come across as being clingy at all.

6 Give Him a Compliment

Compliment him on his attire, something he said, or anything else you can think of. As long as the compliment is sincere and doesn’t come across as being a cheesy pick-up line, it should be genuinely accepted. Don’t try to give him a string of compliments all at once or you might come across as being a bit too needy.

5 Stand Next to Him Occasionally

Getting closer to him requires a bit of tact, in order to keep him from thinking you are stalking him. You don’t want to creep him out before you even get a chance to get to know him properly. If you can come up with a legitimate reason for standing next to a guy you like, then he might be less likely to shy away from your closeness.

4 Listen Intently when He Has Something to Say

People like it when others pay attention to what they are saying. You can show a guy you like that you are interested in what he has to say by letting him know you are listening closely. Tossing in a couple of comments to make him more aware that you are actually listening couldn’t hurt either.

3 Laugh at His Jokes

What guy doesn’t enjoy being the center of attention? Laughing at a guy’s jokes or witty comments is a great way to show him you are interested. This is merely a sign of admiration and doesn’t come across as being clingy to most guys.

2 Gently Lay Your Hand on His Arm to Get His Attention

As long as you don’t grab onto his arm and hang there for a long period of time, he shouldn’t feel too weirded out. If you have a question to ask him or are going to pay him a compliment, then gingerly touch his arm or hand to get his attention before speaking your piece.

1 Talk to Him when You Get a Chance

Simple chatter is rarely considered to be clingy behavior. Find out how he’s doing, chat about current events, or start up a conversation about something you might both have in common. Don’t following him around and try to keep the conversation going. If he politely excuses himself, then leave it at that.

I think these 7 ways to show you are interested in him without being too clingy should help you interact with a guy in a way that won’t scare him off from the start. What other ways can you show your interest and not appear to be overly needy to a guy?

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Yasmine7123 Chats in the lounge and wait till I get to know him better or say pop in and chat
Yasmine7123 Is opened but it’s in the boys hall which is a dead end and so even if I can see it from the Lounge, I don’t have a reason to go pass by and say hi and part of me really wants to get to know him better but I don’t know if I should settle for these quick
Yasmine7123 Hey, so there’s this guy in my dorm and his room is right by the lounge where I study, so at first I just chilled there to study, but sometimes he’ll come in and chat with me and I’ve developed a crush and so I fin myself always going there. His dorm room
Iroc I have a crush and he has made plenty of signs that he loves me but, I could be wrong and he might not love me, I want to tell him I like him but I am to shy.
- Heather Hi Iroc! Have you tried to flirt with him a bit to see how he responds? That might be the key! :)
Vivian Hey so I have a somewhat similar thing to Galina except we're in Spanish together and I've been crushing on him since beginning of second quarter. We have sort of had this ongoing flirtation since then and on the 13th of February I decided to buy rose to send to him anonymously from the interact club at my school for Valentines day. Well I sort of told him it was me this morning on Facebook cause we're friends on Facebook so yeah but he saw it and hasn't replied yet. Although my friend Britt talked to him about it today also and he replied to her telling her stuff life he might like me or something but its it bad that he hasn't replied to me yet? How do I ask nicely for him to reply?
- Denise Hi Vivian. Some people check their messages on Facebook but choose to reply until later... and then they forget. You could always ask him in person if he liked the rose.
KrazyKate Ok help please! I have fallen for my Personal Trainer hook line and sinker! We have both come from relationships, although mine is over his is still on/off! I genuinely believed he liked me back, all the signs were there and he certainly was more than friendly in our training sessions. I got a bit drunk a few weekends ago and told him I like him! He laughed it off saying he couldnt comment back because he was in a complicated relationship and could we leave it. I found out that the next weekend he went on a date with his on/off girlfriend so I was quite upset and hurt, I rushed in and asked him to just be blunt with me about how he feels! He just asked me to draw a line under everything but at the same time asked me to keep going to see him because he enjoys my company at training! Monday he ignored me at the gym, last night he waved at me from across the gym and my training session is Friday. I literally don't know what to do or say? I honestly feek deep down he does like me but he is obviously professionally obligated to not do anything and has a girlfriend! Do I cut my loses and keep training with him knowing I am smitten with him and can't have him (in the hope one day he will change his mind) or cut and run completely?
- Denise Hi Kate. It's possible that he likes you. But because he's still figuring out his relationship, he's feeling confused. Maybe you shouldn't spend too much time together. At least for now since everything is very complicated. But if you think you can handle training with him in spite of everything, then just continue like normal.
Emmazing I just need some advice... i've been with this guy for like 2 weeks and i always have to be the first one to text him, he says it doesnt annoy him but i dont know if thats being to clingy? (0f me)
- Heather Hi! I'd say that you should wait it out -- see if he texts you ever. :)
Adella So a year ago....my friends brother and I started talking! He texted me one night and said that he would like to see me sometime and spend time with me! He's 26 and I'm 23! We both have 1yr old little girls and are very busy! We have hung out a few times and been on a few dates! He knows my brothers and there's a mutual respect among them and know his family, so we have a friendship research for one another! We tried dating in August but it didn't work out and I was hurt! We both dated other people since then but just recently I think I'm his booty call! I'm head over heels for him and want him to know that I still like him but I don't want to be clingy or needy by telling him?
- Lyndsie Hi Adella, welcome to All Women Stalk! Let me say first of all that letting him know how you feel is not clingy or needy at all, so don't be afraid to tell him. You don't want to be a booty call or a friend with benefits, and there's nothing needy about letting him know that -- especially since you both have lovely little girls.
villy The guy I like is a gentleman, and he always answers politely to any girl who talks to him. He is also a really kind guy, who always help anyone who asks him for help as much as he can. And somehow it's mostly girls that come to him for help. This is a problem for me because when I talk to him, I don't want him to just talk back out of kindness, I want him to treat me differently, not just like how he treats all other girls. And the most important thing is: I don't want his responding to my messages out of kindness to mislead me into thinking he likes me too. What should I do?
- Heather Hi Villy! Have you tried to ask him to hang out at all? Have you tried to maybe see if you can make your friendship different?
Kristincrazy I've had this crush on a boy for 6 months. I'm doing basketball where both genders can particapate. And my crush is doing it too! I'm afraid we'll get put on the the same team! Is that a good or bad thing?
- Denise Hey Kristin. Welcome to All Women Stalk! That's definitely a good thing. If you're on the same team, you have a reason to talk to him and be around him. You would have the opportunity to get to know each other.
Sydney I really need some guy help! URGENTLY! My name is Sydney and there is this guy I am smitten about. He's smart, cute, athletic, he plays in band (I am in the Orchestra), and we both hunt. But my biggest thing is that he is shy and I have never been in a relationship before nor felt like this before! When I go to bed, in my dreams, we are together, when I look into his eyes I get lost, and start to daydream about him. One day I was looking into his eyes, and they caught my gaze, and then he smiled and I felt like putty and felt all warm and made me feel at home. I want to get even closer to him, and I do my best each day. My problem myself is that I don't know how to get even closer than me and Austen are now! I am in the 8th grade but I really like him, not because of his looks, but because once you get him talking, it gets sweeter and slower and then the bell rings and just messes me up! Tuesday at my school we are going on a field trip and I want to be with him. I want to be on his mind like he is on mine every hour of the day. He has a cellphone and so do I, but I don't know how to get his number. See, I don't have a clue what's going on in his mind, but I want to be in it! He wears a necklace called a Phiton and I want it around my neck to show I like him. I don't know how to lure him into me, but I really need some help because I am really nervous right now so ANYBODY HELP ME PLEASE!!!!
- Anonymous @Sydney, folloe your dreams honey. if you think that he might be interested in you then definitely go for it! talk about something you have in common and then get talking about other things. this way you will get to know him better :)
Sydney I am 14 and I like this guy. He is smart, athletic, and cute, but my biggest problem is that he is shy! We are in the same class and when I get the chance to look at him I do and he catches me doing it and he just smiles. I don't know what to do because I have never been in a relationship and have never felt this way before. He wears a sports necklace. Do you think I could ask for it? I need help!!!!!!
- Anonymous @Sydney, Omg same here >.< i woulf say just talk to him. Say a compliment about his necklace.
epet im 14 and i know this really nice guy who is 16. i see him once a week because of our different schedules. i've been catching him looking at me A LOT . does that mean he is interested in me or just being nosy?
- Denise Hi Epet. We can't be sure, but it could mean that he's taken an interest in you. Try to make eye contact or smile at him. Let us know how it goes!
- epet well not A LOT but i've met his eyes many times
Anonymous I am in 8th grade but I am really young for my grade. One of my best friends is a 7th grader but I really like him. At school he completely ignores me but at plays or dances he flirts with me and once when I was cold offered to warm me up. His best friend used to like me but I didn't want to go out with him and no he is telling my crush bad things about me and is telling me bad things about him. What should I do?
Permanently This guy I like is a sophomore I’m a freshman and were friends but ONLY friends. We ride the same bus and listen to music together all the time. He almost had a thing with my friend but she stopped liking him so now half of our conversations have to do with her I’m trying to help him get over her and I think he is slowly starting to but I still have my problem of him seeing me as a friend. I try to flirt but I don’t think he notices Idk how to make him. I dress cute (cuz I like to and hoping he would see me differently) but instead he said this to me. “you dress like a prep sometimes” I said “bit I’m not one” “I know ur like a dude!” A dude really?! Now I won’t mind being called a dude but I know when he said that that he only sees me as a friend his “dude”. Most likely because I probably don’t make my flirting as noticeable as I should, I cuss (but that’s how I am so if I get a bf he needs to b able to handle that) he cusses too but he told me he cusses with friends he rarely cussed round the girl he liked, I’m the type to play mario kart with him, and I’m always giving him Megan advice (the girl who’s my friend). We talk on the phone and one time he told me what he wants/needs in a girl and I just wanted to scream YOU JUST TOTALLY DESCRIBED ME!!!! Anyways advice on how to make him see me as gf material instead on a friend would b much appreciated! Also ways to make flirting more noticable without creeping him out HELP ME please and thank you :)
Jords sorry for posting twice -.- i didnt think it worked for a sec so a posted another one (starwarships and jords)
Jords Hi :3 So, about this guy in my grade. I have liked him since the third grade and I just can NOT keep him OUTTA my head. We hang out a lot and we are pretty comfortable around each other. We could talk for hours. In fifth grade, he moved away so we didn't talk for a whole year. He came back in sixth grade but we didn't really hang out or talk. We started hanging out and talking again in seventh grade, and while i was dating someone else he told me that he really liked me and was going to ask me out a while ago. Now, i think i actually love him... I have had my friend ask him if he likes me, and he said that he wasn't looking for a relationship and if he was then, probably. (exact quote) He has been talking about moving again and I can't let him go :( What do I dooo?
Starwarships Hi(: So, I have been friends with a guy in my grade since 3rd grade and I have ALWAYS liked him, even when I have been in a relationship with someone else. He moved in fifth grade so we stopped talking that year and he moved back in sixth grade and he has stayed since. He has been talking about getting his mom to move again and..I love him. I really want him to stay and he used to like me but I don't think he knows now. What do I do? :(
Anonymous hy im in grade 8 and I really like this guy he is my cousins best freind and so on valitntines day i gave him a gift and a card I put in front of his locker so he wouldnt know who it was from then at our dance i told him i liked him and I was the one that gave him the gift he said thank you and thats it (it kinda hurt my feelings) The next day he wasnt there so i told my cousin if he says any thing tell me please and so today my cousin was talking to him about it and dropping hints the the guy i like said he didnt like me. what do i do i really like this guy but he dosent like me?????? i dont know what to do!!!!!
Anonymous I really like this guy and he says he likes me back but he ignores my texts (I know this because me and a friend were texting him at the same time) and is distancing himself from me. I chatted to him last week and asked why he's not talking to me lately after he kissed me and told me he likes me in the same way I like him but he just said that he was worrying about me and didnt want to confuse me anymore because I had broken up with my boyfriend a few weeks before this happened. I have fell head over heels for him but all my friends are warning me that he's a 'player', do you think this might be the case? I really hope it isn't because I've never felt so much for someone before..
- Denise Hi. Welcome to All Women Stalk! Unfortunately, I can't tell you if he's a player or not. Only you can tell by observing his actions and words. And even then, you can only find out so much about a person. To be honest, though, I think he was giving you the brush-off. If he really likes and worries about you, he wouldn't treat you the way he does. He would be there for you and he would be honest with you about things.
Anonymous Hey:) right there's this boy I like, and we don't really know each other cause I'm new to the school and he's in the year above me. I've managed to get his number because when I asked he have it to me but when we are talking he isn't very talkative I always have to make the conversation and he never texts me first. not sure what to do but don't want to give up on him yet:) Any ideas?
- Denise Hello sweetie. Welcome to All Women Stalk! Have you tried hanging out with him? Maybe he's not too comfortable around you yet. There's also a possibility that he only gave you his number to be polite.
C Here's my situation: I like this guy but he's pretty shy and doesn't talk all that much. He does talk to me occasionally because he sits behind me in the one class I have with him... I can't tell if he likes me or not and I'm too chicken to ask him out xD I also think that he would maybe be too shy to ask me out even if he does like me (?). I'm 15 and in high school...are there any tips on attracting shy guys? Thanks.
- sh31by well use body language to show him u like him thats waht im dping right know so i know how u feel but we he looks at u smile and then look away talk to him show bim there is no reason to be shy
- Anonymous @C, OMG SAME HERE xD
Angel hey gurls this guy i realy like ever since the first time i ever looked at him has been flurting with me for a few weeks, but now all the sudden he isnt doing realy anything at all anymore. He hasnt been wanting to talk to me much, and also he isnt making realy any eye contact with me when we talk. He still sits next to me and he put his arm around me for like a few seconds during lunch, but when i looked at him he took it off. He is also my dance partner in dance class, his mom made him join to learn how to dance with a girl. The guy i like my friends also likes to, and i dont know what to do about it. She flurts with him all the time, and they have gotten into a few arguments about stupid things but she still likes him!!! We talk every once and a while now and since he hasnt been talking or flurting with me at all for about 2 weeks now he FINALLY sat by me in dance today, and he talked to me to for like the first time in 2 weeks. what should i do gurls i dont want to loose him as a friend and also as something possibly bigger then friends. Im only 16 but i think i love him i never liked anybody as much i as this. help me please
Anonymous hey i really like this guy i have him for a class but it seems like everyone talks to him more i try to talk to him but i go blank and i dont know what to say except hi. I got his number when i txt him he never replies and says he was busy the next day but now im thinking it might be an excuse just so he wont talk to me. He knows that i like him, hes a shy guy so he expects other people to start the conversation first idk wat to do can someone please help me
- Angel I kno how u feel this guy is doing the same thing 2 me 2. I think he might just be playing hard to get, my friends also likes him and so its kindof wierd he told me he doesnt like her but he still messes around with her and then me. idk if he likes me or not, i just be my slef and try to make small conversations with him that should work. just dnt be shy around him or laugh at EVERYTHING he says. i do that sometimes and yea its not good at all. just remember gurls if the guy u r crushing on likes you he will show that he cares about you. Be strong and be yourself but show a flurt once and a while.
- Maria if the things he does or ur instinct tells u that he might like u then u should talk to himk, no ask him aut because then u r gonna seem needy... first let him know u and then let him get to u... at the end u r not gonna want to get hurt... good luck!
- Maria in my opinio u r trying to hard...just let things go...beluieve im passing for that i little while ago, what u should do is try to first ask queastion about the class, then about his weekend, and also try to be funny...everyone likes a funny girl! dont ask him too many question just on eor to at the most, unless he askes u some... i hope u solve ur problem~
- Anonymous one of my friends said he talked to him on faceebook n he said he doesnt like me so im that is a fact but then my friend who his friend to says i should ask him out because i never know, (hes the type who likes to mess with ur head ) i want to be his friend and maybe later more than a friend but i dont know how to talk to him and much more important that if he likes someone else am i just supposed to move on and forget about him?
Anonymous Hey ! So here's my story...... well I really like this guy && we r pretty good friends && r our personalities click. Also he tells me I'm pretty all the time, && we flirt a lot. The only thing is i dont think he likes me becuz he would have asked me out by now. I know we're only 13 but I really like him. So what should I do 2 figure out if he likes me back??
- Maria ask himstright foward.. there is no possible way to know for sure if he likes u just by bdoing mental games... so man up and be a woman.. lol...good luck!
Anonymous So I kind of met this guy last year, but not directly. We were both just with our friends who were talking. I thought he was extremely cute, not really "hot" but cute from the first time I saw him. So last year at lunch I saw him looking at me sometimes but I can't be too sure. The thing is, I really like him, but we don't really know eachother :/ I really only know he plays soccer, so do I, and he plays a few instruments. I asked my friend about what to do and they were all just telling me to talk to him. So, I messages him on Facebook a simple question " hey, you play a string instrument, right?" just to start a conversation and so that idisnt seem creepy that I knew he played an instrument :P he replied to me twice, but hantavirus replied to me for over a week now :/ the upsetting thing is that he has been on Facebook because he commented on something on his wall. I kinda want to go out with him and want to go to homecoming, if only he really knew me and we talked! Uhg, I don't know what to do. Please help?
- Anonymous Okay thank you!
- Sheila Hi there, Welcome to All Women stalk! Honestly sweetie, I think if he was interested, he would have talked to you on Facebook and like you said, he was online but chose not to reply. Can you get your friends to accidentally get the two of you to meet or something like that?
galina Hello ! So here's my story .. When i was with friends before like a month ago i saw a boy and i can't describe how much i liked him without even knowing him .. Well we were sitting at the bus station just like 20 meters from him and he was constantly watching me ..I did too .. When we get on the bus i was so desperate cause i'll never see him again , .. after a week i saw him again and he looked at me back !!! so yeah that turns my interest more.. but it turns out i have him in my Facebook friends.. so after 3 weeks wondering i decided to write him just a simple smile and he returns.. so we started chatting and on the other day he and his group had a concert on the center of the city .. so he told me to go and listen to them cause i told him i haven't heard them never.. okay so while he was singing i was watching to him but he looked at me again with that strange look which honestly i don't know what are his intentions.. after the concert i decided to go there and talk to him , but then i though .. Would he recognize me? Does he even remember me? I went there , but he was giving some autographs so i decided to wait a little bit .. i made a step to him and i turned back again .. And i did that like 3 times .. At the end i told my friends to call a taxi and go home i was feeling so horrible , because i was waiting for him all night just to see him or talk or something .. so while we were going to the taxi i decided to turn back one more time and see him .. and guess what HE WAS smiling and looking and waved at ME.. at first i decided that he waves at someone else BUT NO it was me .. so i went there and he told me : Blabla officcialy my name is Ivaylo i'm so glad to meet you and he told me that now he remembers who am i .. so we talked for a bit and i went home .. And i decided to tell him what i think about his band and stuff , but he haven't answered me yet and he was in Facebook i saw him so my question is What do i do know ? Will i look to stupid if i write him again ? Or he just didn't see the message or just doesn't wanna write to me ? Please tell me what to do , because i can't stop thinking about him and i seriously have no idea what are his intentions and i think i'm going crazy .. or at least i will if something doesn't happen Soon .. I really am sorry for writing so much , but i just don't know who to ask for advice anymore.. i will appreciate every answer of yours .. Thank you very much !!
- morgan @galina, just wait for hime to respond and if he doesn't he isn't interested
- Knight Seeing your story makes me think of mine and now I realized how similar they are.I am a guy then. It happened also when I was traveling on a bus. I saw some signs of her among the 7 ways but I wasn't sure about it. Every time our eyes meet, there is big sweet smile coming from her. And that smile is only for me among the crowd. That makes me starting to take note of her and I found she is kind of attractive. I talked to her a few times and it was great. Until recently I stopped seeing her... I wonder what could have happened to her. I have no contact of her. I have no idea what more I can do...
- sophie HEY!! i'm in the same sitchuation you are.. HAHAHAHAHA!! well i think you should wait maybe a couple more days, and see if he replies.. But if he doesn't just say Hi! or somthing or say like...i'll just tell you what i would say k here i goo... Hi! i'm i HUGE fan of your BAND!! And i hope i can come to one of your concerts again it was so much fun... And maybe we can shat some time couse i would love to fine out more about your band and like waht you do back stage be fore you go onstage... thats what i would say or somthing simaler thanks hope you enjoyed this.... Sophie
- Sheila Hi Galina, I think you should just give him some more time to reply. Maybe he's busy or not very active on Facebook. Don't write to him again because that could seem a little desperate. If you do see him online on chat, don't hesitate to say hi and make conversation. Be patient and don't get too clingy. I hope things work out for you! Good luck and thank you for reading us.
Anonymous Sorry i just found out that i have to write in English hahahah sorry for the weird text bellow!!!!!So hello,I'm 18 years old girl and i really liked all the seven ways but i'd like to ask for advise...I'm wondering if i can try these ways after that situation because i'm really not sure of his thoughts and gestures and i don't want to look like a fool...So,here it is...the GUY sends me mixed signals if there are true signals...One day i can really feel that he likes me and the other day i don't see anything...We don't know each other very well,we just meet where he works and where i'm doing my hobby-in a horse base...Well once i decided to talk to him just friendly,nothing doing with love hahahah.So i walked where he was working and asked him directly(he was watching at me from very far away when i was walking to approach him...)sth for a horse if the horse is in this stables or sth like this...He looked straight into my eyes stopping doing his work for a while and answerd...but when i heard him sayng only no no no...i thought that he's not interested and i left the stables without saying thanks or sth(what a fooooool was i!!!!!!!)after i was almost very far away from him i quickly looked back and i saw that he has stopped working and was watching and me...so guys please help meeeee what to doooooooooooo
anna i like all your way's but there is something is bad i mean if i like someone from msn or internt like (facebook and other) how should i make him know that i am interested in him and he had ex g.f and he think of her and he say for his freind that if she say no for him he will like me for that i think to let him know and i want him to stop thiking of his ex g.f thank's
- Denise Hi Anna. Welcome to All Women Stalk. He won't stop thinking about his ex if he doesn't get over her completely. And it may take a while before he lets go and moves on. For now, all you can do is stick around and be there for him as a friend. You can, of course, tell him that you are interested but you understand if he still needs to figure out his feelings.
laura just kiss him
In i hate posting comments with out my full user name showing
- Denise You can write your full name in the name field. Have you tried that?
- In i wonder why it wont show my full *name?
In aahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh i do this but i think he's too dense to get the clue although he did send me a text saying "that i hope my good pall Isabelle (thats me) will keep me company since im sick"
- Denise If he's too dense, you can be frank with him and spell out your feelings for him. But after that, it's up to him if he wants to go out with you or not.