Crushing on a guy is hard enough when you're by yourself, but when you're in a group of people, it's even more difficult. How do you handle yourself in that situation? You want to come off well, you don't want to do anything to embarrass yourself or your crush; certainly, there are special rules of etiquette for this situation, although they often remain elusive. Don't worry, though, because here are several ways to behave with your crush when you are in a group. Pay attention to these, and you'll get that boy yet!
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1. Be Confident
All guys love someone confident, so that's definitely one way to behave with your crush when you are in a group. It's easy to get lost in the crowd, to be quiet and unassuming, but if you're confident in yourself without being overbearing, it will take you far. Contribute to the conversation, join in the fun, but as you can see, you have to be careful there as well--
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Confidence is key when it comes to catching your crush's attention in a group setting. Not only does it show that you are comfortable in your own skin, but it also makes you stand out in the crowd. However, it's important to strike a balance and not come off as too overbearing. Instead, contribute to the conversation, join in the fun, and showcase your unique personality. This will not only make you more attractive to your crush, but it will also help you feel more confident and comfortable in the group dynamic. Remember, being yourself is always the best approach when trying to impress someone.
2. Don't Hog All the Attention
Attention whores are unattractive in general. Nobody likes someone who tries to hog all of the attention and be in the center spotlight all the time. It's unappealing to men and women, boys and girls alike. When you're in a group of people, it can be tempting to make yourself stand out, but you can do that without trying to force your crush to pay attention to you by taking over every subject and bringing every conversation back around to yourself.
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When you're in a group with your crush, it's important to remember not to hog all the attention. It's natural to want to stand out and make sure your crush notices you, but it's important to do it in a subtle way. Trying to take over every conversation and bring it back to yourself will only make you seem desperate and unattractive. Instead, make sure to give others a chance to speak and participate in the conversation.
Show your crush that you're confident and that you have interesting things to talk about, without trying to take over the conversation. Ask questions and be genuinely interested in what others have to say. Show your crush that you're a good listener and that you care about what they have to say.
It's also important to make sure you don't monopolize your crush's attention. If you're in a group, make sure to give other people a chance to talk to them. Show your crush that you can be confident and independent, without needing to be the center of attention.
Frequently asked questions
It's all about being yourself and being confident. Try to find common topics or things everyone can talk about. You don't have to be the center of attention, just contribute to the conversation naturally.
Sometimes people feel more comfortable in group settings. It's less pressure. Try to see if there’s a chance to have one-on-one moments, but don’t take it personally if it's mainly in groups for now.
Absolutely! A friendly wave is a great way to acknowledge them without making it a big deal. It's casual and shows you're happy to see them.
Standing close could be a sign that they’re interested or comfortable around you. Body language speaks volumes, so take it as a positive sign but also ensure it doesn’t make you uncomfortable.
It can feel really disheartening, but sometimes people act differently when they have feelings for someone. Try to give it some time and see if the behavior changes. You can also casually bring it up if it continues to bother you.
3. Talk to Everyone
Making sure you're friendly with everyone is another way to behave with your crush when you are in a group. By singling out your crush and not really focusing on anyone else, you're going to out yourself, plus you'll make him or her uncomfortable. However, by paying attention to everyone in the group, you're showing that you're social, nice, all encompassing, and that you enjoy being part of a group.
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Engaging with everyone ensures a more relaxed atmosphere and helps to keep your interactions with your crush subtle and natural. Not to mention, it also gives you the opportunity to shine as someone who is confident and inclusive. The conversation may naturally flow such that you can show off your sense of humor or shared interests without it feeling forced. Maintaining a balanced dynamic within the group also prevents any possible feelings of jealousy or exclusion, which can only work in your favor in the long run.
4. Try Not to Be Obvious
Clearly, focusing solely on your crush would be a bit too obvious. You definitely want to avoid acting obvious, because that's going to be embarrassing for the both of you. Smiling at or occasionally making eye contact with your crush is perfectly acceptable. What you don't want to do is spend the whole time making moon eyes at him or her, giving caresses, getting jealous when your crush talks to anyone else, and so on.
5. Have a Good Time
If you're having a good time, it puts you in a great like. Don't let yourself feel awkward or uncomfortable just because your crush is there. That will bleed out into the rest of your behavior, and before you know it, everyone's going to know you're not having a nice time and they're going to wonder why – possibly out loud. Plus, you may end up looking like a wallflower or a spoil sport, which won't bode well.
6. Be Open
Another way to behave with your crush when you are in a group is to be honest and open. You can be yourself while still keeping to the other points, as long as you act naturally. There are little ways you can let your crush know you're feeling him or her, without drawing the attention of the entire group or embarrassing either of you.
7. Act Mature
The best way to act around your crush, whether you're in a group or not, is to be mature. A lot of giggling, pointing, whispering to others while pointedly looking at your crush, is going to be uncomfortable for both of you. You don't need to play coy like that; being yourself will serve you much better.
It's important to know the right ways to behave with your crush when you are in a group, because group settings can be hard. Just remember that you don't need to vie for his or her attention or steal the spotlight; both of those may turn off your crush. How do you handle this particular dilemma?
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Anonymous: Okay so I like this guy and I am kind of loud and some people say I'm obnoxious. He told my firend that he likes her but wishes she was quieter. So that means he's into quiet girls. I don't know how to get him to see like the funny side or the witty side of me. I am so mad right now because he playfully flirts with me all the time like this; 1) Whenever we are walking down the hallway and he is behind me, he plays wth my hair! Like he grabs it (gently) and twists it around and makes weird noises and he likes to make his fingers "walk" down my arm toward my hand but everytime he gets close my friend, Cheyanne, pulls me away and asks me to look at something. I think it's because he said he likes HER but I always feel bad and want to go back get get flirted with because last time I looked back and he looked crestfallen. His eyes were so sad. 2) This has happened maybe three or four times and I think it's going to be a habit but whenever we are anywhere not around his group of friends he sits like so close to me and doesn't pull away. I read this thing and it said that's one of the signs a boy likes you. 3) Oh so this happened once but it was super awesome! Okay so Tyler (the boy I like), Cheyanne, Keyshawn (tyler's bestie), and I were sitting in science we were doing this assignment where we could sit wherever we want and he brought Keyshawn over and plopped down on the other side of the table across from Cheyanne and I. The weird thing is, is that almost all of the cute, popular seventh grade girls are in our class. Cheyanne and I aren't the prettiest girls either, not saying we are the ugliest but we are DEFINATELY not the prettiest. The whole time he was smiling at me and I was smiling at him and he was flirting with me too! Like this one article says that; 'a boy feels most comfortable with a purpose.' But HE asked ME for help! He was also trying really hard to make eye contact with me. But then today he was like completely avoiding me and embarassing me in front of my friends and everyone else. 4) I sit diagnolly behind him in World Geo. and every once in a while he turns and smiles and giggles at me. Then he tries to hold eye contact but the teacher won't let him stay turned around. HELP ME!!! PLEASE!!! I need advice to be able to get him to stop harassing me or to get him to ask me out! But the other problem is he is one of the most popular guys in the whole school and my friend would kill me because she still really likes him still. How do I get quieter? How do I get him to look into my eyes? How do I get him to ask me out? I have the whole next week and weekend to find out! Please help me!?
cassidy: hey there! (: my name is cassidy and im in 8th grade. ive been talking to this boy in 10th grade and were are really close. his birthday is comming up and im not sure if he will invite me to his party(if he has one) because the age. he might just have an all guys thing. but if he does invite me i honestly wouldnt know who to hang out with, i have no idea who his friends are, and they probably dont have a clue who i am unless he has mentioned me. but anyways i like him, and he might like me i dont know for sure tho. if i was in his shoes i wouldnt invite him to mine because it would be awkward with him being the oldest there, not to mention all the 8th grade friends running around... PLEASE HELP!
Anonymous: Would This Work If You Already Went Out With This Guy??
Aly: I like this guy, but we only see each other in the mornings (before school starts) and occasionally after while waiting for our buses. In the morning he'll come and sit with me and my friends except he's not really friends with them so he sits there and talks to me, but I've been told (by a reliable source) that he likes someone else. So I'm confused...
Anonymous: Hi, so there is this guy who's in my group of friends with whom I have a lot in common. I want to date him but only because I have nothing else to do and because I feel lonely. The more I hang out with him the more I get attracted, but don't want to do anything because I know that I'll hurt him, myself, and our relationship in our group of friends. Its confusing and painful. I can predict our relationship and every other teen's. I am a sceptic of this hormone business.
Anonymous: So my prob is that I already found out that the guy I like isn't interested in anybody at all in my class. I had my friend ask he if he liked anybody in the school we attend and he said no. He also might possibly have a gf. So I rather just move on and not try to pursue anything...but he tends to hang out with my group of friends so he is always around. If I avoid him, I would end up avoiding my friends which I don't want to do. So should I just be friends with him to avoid any awkward situations with my friends even though I might develop stronger feelings for him? He is a really friendly guy and seems like he wants to be friends with me ( i started hanging out with this set of friends more often so maybe he thinks im just part of the gang now) so its hard to ignore him. So what should I do? I feel like if I become closer friends with him, he might talk about other girls he likes and I don't really want to hear about that. When we are together in a group, I am very casual and normal...I don't think anybody would be able to figure out how I feel from the way I act around him.
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