Spring has sprung, and love is in the air -- so are some fantastic tips on how to make a guy fall in love with you! Whenever the weather starts getting warmer, we all start wishing we had a special someone to spend time with. Sometimes, it can be tricky to find - and get! - that great guy you've been wishing for. So, here are my top 20 tips on how to make a guy fall in love with you! It's all about confidence, being yourself and really putting yourself out there!
1 Be Yourself
All of my tips on how to make a guy fall in love with you surround being yourself. If you're fake, it doesn't matter if you get a guy to fall in love with you, because he won't really be in love with the real you. So, my first idea is to always be myself, no matter what, so a guy likes me for me. After all, you would hate to fall in love with a guy that isn't being himself right?
2 Optimize Your Appearance
Whenever I'm trying to be more attractive to someone, I always optimize. Now, this doesn't mean I starve myself to look thin, buy tons of new clothes, or get a dramatic hair cut. Instead, I just try to make myself look my best. This means a cute outfit that emphasizes my best features, combed and fixed hair, a little makeup, a clean bright smile, and a spritz of light perfume. I do this for myself, so I can be confident in who I am.
3 Listen
Guys love to talk about themselves, and they think a girl who actively listens to them is so charming. So, I always listen more than I talk when I was trying to attract a guy. Talk about yourself, current topics, news events, etc about 20% of the time, and let him control the conversation about 80% of the time. If he is attune to women, he will ask you questions too and it'll develop into a nice little back and forth conversation!
4 Laugh a Lot
Having a sense of humor is really important when you are trying to attract a guy. Laughing at his jokes and even knowing how to take a joke can really make a guy feel like he knows a girl instantly! If you've got a crush, laugh it up a little with him and see how he responds!
5 Have a Great Attitude
In my experience, guys like girls with cheerful, sunny dispositions. No one likes to hang out with a pessimistic, negative person. So, I always try to look on the bright side of life and be a "glass half full" person when I'm trying to catch a hot guy. People always tend to look my way more often and gravitate toward me when I've got a smile on my face! So flash those pearly whites!
6 Be Sweet
Sometimes, I can be catty... all girls can be. When I'm with my girlfriends, we'll gossip or trash some other girl for being rude or trashy, but that's not a nice way to act. And, let me just tell you, I've learned that this kind of behavior doesn't attract guys. Boys are drawn to girls who are sweet and don't gossip, so keep cattiness and snotty comments to yourself around your new guy. The occasional catty comment is okay, but keep it to a minimum!
7 Flirt
Some of my friends used to think flirting was beneath them, but I'm telling you - it works. Guys just love to be showered with attention and treated like a king. So, toss your hair a little bit, throw your head back and laugh, grin a lot, and look up and him from under your eyelashes. Even those these old tricks might seem tried and true, they're tried and true because they actually work!
8 Be Different
Trying to be unique and different is a way I've always tried to interest guys. I don't want him to think that I'm just like all the other girls out there... instead, I want to be seen as charming, witty, and smart. So, I don't talk about all those same old topics, like school gossip. Ask him about how he feels about current events or newsworthy stories and show him you're worldy!
9 Be Witty
Everyone has a bit of charisma to them and a witty side, why not show that? I know it can be difficult sometimes, if you are around your crush, but don't get too tongue-tied and just go for it! Remember when I said that a guy likes a girl with a sense of humor? Show that side of yourself to him and be confident in who you are!
10 Initiate Physical Contact
Guys love physical touch, and touching someone is a quick way to develop intimacy. So, when I'm trying to attract a guy's attention, I will look for ways to bring physical touch into play. For instance, I touch his arm lightly when I'm laughing at a joke, or I'll slap him on the knee playfully if he says something funny, or I'll touch his hand while I'm explaining something.
11 Bring Him a Treat
The old saying that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach isn't just an old saying for no reason- it's totally true! I always bake a little treat for a guy when I'm trying to make him fall in love with me, and then I just surprise him with it on a random day. When my husband and I were first dating, I left a bag of treats in his locker before every football game. He just loved it!
12 Give Him Freedom
When a guy's trying to determine if you're girlfriend material, he will test you a little bit. My advice at this point is to give him his freedom, and that will send him right back for more. In my experience, if any guy ever got the impression that I'd try to tie him down, he'd be gone lightning fast. So, let your guy know that you value and respect his time with his friends, playing sports, or whatever it is he does in his spare time.
13 Let Him Call You
When I'm trying to get a guy, I play a little hard to get. I don't call him all the time, try to track him down, or generally make myself a bother. I want him to think that I'm too busy out there having a great time to bother with him, and that he better get in touch with me quickly if he's interested in sharing any time with me! Let him do the pursuing, and he'll be much more interested in you.
Elillydead on!!!! So sad it's 2015 and we still have to ...
14 Practice Mirroring Strategies
Okay, this seems a little creepy at first, but just hear me out. Whenever I want to impress or charm someone (not just guys, but anyone), I do a little physical mirroring. What this means is taking whatever physical action that person does, waiting about five seconds, and then copying the motion. For instance, if your guy rests his elbow on the table, wait five seconds, and then put your elbow on the table. Sounds silly, but it works! It creates a connection between me and the guy that he just can't explain.
15 Make Eye Contact
Staring deeply into someone's eyes quickly ramps up the intensity of the connection between two people. So, if I'm trying to get a guy to fall in love with me, I stare deeply into his eyes while we're talking. Now, don't look too long, or you'll appear to be a stalker... but you definitely want extended eye contact. Remember the scenes in Twilight where all the sexual tension developed between Edward and Bella just based on eye contact? That's what I'm talking about.
16 Don't Appear Desperate
Guys want someone that is confident and someone that is secure in themselves. Even if you aren't confident, don't worry, there are tons of ways to build it. Start small and just go from there. I know not appearing desperate is hard, but if you appear to have it all together and even play hard to guy? Your crush will like you even more!
17 Be Trustworthy
Guys love someone they can trust. I learned the hard way that telling my girlfriends every thing about a new guy in my life wasn't the best idea. Word always gets back to the guy that I've talked about what he told me or told details about our time together, and he always bolts. So, discretion is the best policy. Don't tell your girls every little bit of your private conversations, and your guy will trust and respect you much more.
18 Leave a Little Mystery
When I am trying to attract a guy, I don't want to be an open book to him. I've found that guys like a little mystery... they keep coming back for more if you leave more to find out. Think of your information, history, interests, etc. like a treasure hunt... give your guy little clues, but don't let him find the treasure right away. He'll want to keep calling and asking you out just to learn more about you!
19 Be Supportive of His Interests
Guys love it when a girl takes an interest in what he likes to do. Even if you don't necessarily like what he is into (like video games or sports!), just give it a try -- that way you can have some common ground. Guys, that also means that you'll have to take an interest in your girl's interests too! A relationship is a two way street.
20 Hold off on the Physical Intimacy
My last tip has to do with physical intimacy, or making out, heavy petting , or sex. If you truly want to make a guy fall in love with you, you've got to hold out on stuff like this for as long as you can. Most guys I dated and are friends with just go after a girl for the thrill of the chase at first. It takes time for them to realize that they actually care about the girl. So, hold off on physical intimacy to give your relationship a chance to develop first. Steve Harvey has written a hilarious book that talks about this exact idea!
There you have it... my top twenty tips for getting a guy to fall madly in love with you. Hopefully, with this beautiful weather we're having, we can get out of the house, get flirting, and meet some great guys! Do you have other tried and true tips for catching that great guy? Share them below!
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LadyInAHat Ugh, I don't know if I can work this hard to make my boyfriend love me again. We've been together for more than 7 years now. I know he's lost interest in me as I put more time into my school and career over the last years. I hope i can make him ❤️ me again
SexyNerd don't say anything because I can be who I wanna be
SexyNerd does it work on women too?
SexyNerd I have one question
Amanda There could be a problem with that. He may assume the relationship will revolve more around him and he may wrongly assume you're okay with this.If you talk about you 50%, he's more likely to value you as he does himself. I like your article, and you are right about the listening, however.
Fascina @Jennifer Williams the secret to making men love you is being at ease with yourself and the world. So keep working at it-it probably wasn't you it was likely the men and their lack of self confidence as happens repeatedly.
Fascina I don't want to do these things for men but for myself-so I'm going to repurpose a bit so thank you for posting. :)
Hot Good article, the last advice was awesome. 👍🏽
altorgoman @SpeedOfSound7 Does he know your real age?
Anamarija I'll try it!
Crystal I personally never get tongue tied around my crush. I guess all the guys I've had crushes on are really good friends of mine.
KATE____A How do you flirt with someone over snapchat or texting.
SexyNerd @KATE____A, the way you flirt with guys over snap or texting is make jokes here and there and talk about yourself a little he'll talk about himself and meet up somewhere unless your 3000 miles away from each other😆😆😘
mayrin sorry but i broken up with him because i hate me alot of time
Mabelle @Paola i don't see anthing wrong reconnecting with hin. You are attracted to him and there is nothing wring hanging out with him now that you arr single. It's possible that he thinks that youre still together with your bf that's why he is keepin his distan
mayrin @Mabelle ,can you and me become best friends
Mabelle @peremog yes that could be true because sometimes when we are in love we do not want to see the bad and only see the good. This can work to our advantage sometimes as we see the good in that person and give them the chance to be in a relationship.
Mabelle @Cupcake10 totally agree. It's so nice you ended up together. I think the best way to attract the right guy is to be the best person we can be. Continously impriving ourselves build attraction.
Fatu This is a good place to spend you time and learn
peremog Is love really blind?
OwlzUnited I am in love with this guy and it's a difficult situation. He's my friend and he also happens to have been my guitar teacher for the last 9 months. A short while back I told him I had feelings for him and after that he seems to have changed his behaviour around me. He used to be very teacher-y in the sense that he spoke to me like a teacher would to a student, but now he flirts occasionally and knows how, and tries to make me laugh. We spend most of our lesson time (1 hour) talking about our favourite bands and he suggests songs for me to listen to. My dad recently had a cycling accident in which he came off his bike and damaged his collarbone and shoulder blade, the guy sympathised and was so sweet about it. I apologise for going on and on but I'll get to my point. My actual name is Emily, but today (for the first time ever) he called me Em. The catch is that I'm not yet 18 and cannot communicate via text until I hit that age. My question is, am I correct in thinking there's something there? If so, any pointers as to what I should look out for or do? I will be so thankful for any help
mayrin @SpeedOfSound7,hey i have a boyfriends but his name is zacktrell anda m 12 year old but i
Paola I used to hang out with him at school or talk to him 24/7. He made the conversation flirty one timebut i think he let it. We were friend or close friends for a long time i was in a long term relationship with my boyfriend. My bf knew he was just a friend so he didnt mind it. Once i fight with my bf he talked to him and told to never talk to me again that the friend never spoke to me again. Its been some months now but i got him again on the social networks. But he doesnt give any sign if he's interested on me cause i am. By the way i broke up with my boyfriend a few time ago.
Jay @Briana N Boswell ⤴️⤴️
Jay You shouldn't love bug. Talk to him and see if everything is okay with you guys but don't panic. It may not be a big deal. Hope all goes well for you sugar.❤️
Briana Doesn't call me gorgeous or anything like that like he use to any advice?
Briana Between my boyfriend and I at the time things didn't work out the guy I use to talk to I'm talking to again trying to make things work he does the little things like get me a drink from the kitchen or something and the problem is idk if I should worry but
Briana Ok so I could use some advice this guy and I have been seeing each other on and off for 8 months he had a long term girlfriend at the time but they never hung out because she's not interested in him anymore so they finally broke up and things didn't work
jee-ann It's annoying to say the least!!!!
Genevieve I can't browse
Neecey @Genevieve, you should just be able to tap the screen and it takes you to the next section
Simon They don't do one for us!!
Simon But I'm actually a guy lol
Simon This app is great
Simon Hi all
Jessie I'm struggling with this right now, any tips?
Sydne @Giselle you should say "you know I don't bite"
MaryPat Good day!
GGBoline Can you not go back to the previous thing on this app anymore?? That's a pretty necessary tool
Coco Nice article thanks
Sharon ^ same lol does it work?
kitty Will this work with girls??
Karina Also, any suggestions on where can I meet someone? I'm single AF and I would like to change that but I don't know where to start, I don't suppose anyone I met at the club would be an ideal candidate
Adoracion @Karina R, club is the worsts :( Meetups maybe ?
Karina @jada I'm new to this app/site, we can write stories? Someone please confirm this for me, that would be amazing!
jada hey i just wanted to say check out my story please im like new on this website so yeah
Lisa @Michelle yea girl I caught that too. LOL
Lisa Totally agree with giving a man freedom. This is especially effective with players who seem to narcissistically feel they have options. The Man I'm seeing now is this type and I've communicated "Hey you have the freedom to choose so date who you wanna date and choose wisely". I told him this and he oddly increased our level of contact and the quality of our dates has improved. I guess he got a clue to choose me
Dan Awesome
Lexi17 Thanks for the advise😊
Arisha Very nice
Kate I know this guy and have been friends with over 5 yrs now then back in August we got together and admit we like each other a lot we have lots in common get on really well and talk to each other non stop so easily we feel comfortable in each other company we have slept together 3 times but no sex since to now , he texts me then he stop for a while so I do the same , he's married but very unhappy in his marriage he wants to leave his wife but I don't think he will but I can see he wants me and likes me a lot but is in a very hard place which I can understand but I'm getting frustrated so wondering if I'm being used or does he really want me he want to buy a boat and want me to share with him does that means he's thinking of the future with me ? I have fallen for him hard I feel he's the right man for me as we get on so well I have been to see a well known medium she tells there's is future between him and me but one step a time for now I have to be patient until he's ready to have a relationship with me the medium says we will marry one day I do feel that we will or I may be wrong?!? It so hard I just got divorced last year after 24 yrs of marriage I'm 48 yrs since I got divorced I have had guys interested in me left right and centre but this guy I mention is the only one I want I never felt that strongly about a guy apart from my ex husband ! Or should I play the field while I wait for this guy to make his mind up? I just don't know how to handle relationship or deal with guys after being married for so long!! Lol!! It the attention I cannot believe I'm getting I don't know how to handle it!! Oh well I just have to wait and see what happens in the future
Kate I agreed with number 13!! If he's interested in me and want then he have to do the chase !
Melanie1491 Love this article!! Thanks for writing it :). After been in a 6year relationship, I can say I agree with everything the writer mentioned. Even after the break up, I wish could change some things like listen more, etc. So, I highly recommend this to all the ladies out there :). If the guy rejects you, just know he wasnt the one. Shake it off :)
Giselle I just moved to a new state and I have been going to the gym a lot. There's this guy there that lately I have been catching him looking at me so the other day I was in a class and just smiled and said hello to him and he smiled back at me. When I was leaving I saw him again and he smiles and says goodbye so I smiled and said the same. Then today I saw him in the morning and as I was getting ready to workout, I looked up and there he was. He smiles says hello good morning how are you. I smiled and said I'm good and you and he just looks into my eyes and said good and walks away. So I would like some advice on what I can do the next time I see him in the gym?s
Paola Im on a realtionship with a guy for like 1 year we love each other but our relationship has a problem if i could say like this. Im very shy at meeting him like public places but not on other places when nobody can see. I make a lot of mistakes but he keeps forgiving me like i do with him. And now i have a crush on smb who told me to be his girlfriend sooner that my boyfriend did. My boyfriend knows about my crush on him and says if i talk to him he'll dump me. What should i do @daniel r guzman. Also my crush its on my class and my bf on my school. It would mean a lot if i get a response and a solution. :) thank u.
Hannah I appreciate the advice but I find this is very old fashioned and women out there shouldn't spend any time worrying about their boy troubles because we amazing! Be your self and do what ever it is you want to do because I know I would rather lead a life I love on my own then with a man I tried so hard to attract in the first place.
Diana Gosh i just have intimate with someone on the first date... Will our relationship last?
Bunni So many cute things I've read on here
irosiii_ Hey!! I'm a friend with a guy who lives in japan. I'm not fall in love but i actually want him to want me (i know it's selfish). He says that "you are beautiful" and "you're my type" but we call eachother 'friend'. when he text me late, i text him late too. But on the other hand i am worried about losing him if i do it always. Help me please!!
beLINDA @irosiii_, no ok lolz stop being a ramen noodle
JJsummer Play hard to guy? Don't you mean get?
Alexandra This is niceee
Alejandra Yes! The 90 day rule! Hahahahaha too funny!
Audrapearl Here's to everyone who is looking for help be you and be patient if it's ment to be it will it took me six years to end up with the guy I'm crazy about and always have been. We did our own thing (hell he didn't even know) stop talking I got married and now we are happy in our family together it took him a year to say he loved me but it was worth the wait. Just be you oh and yes I did nail him on date one
Levi_Heichou I also need some help.... i have a huhe crush an a boy I kniw for looooong time. You could say that we are besties. I didn't tell anyone not even my best friends (girls) that I hava a crush on him. now we habe summer break and after that he goes to another school because he wants to learn diffrent stuff. last time i saw him i said that whenever he has a problem he can call me and i will help. but that's not the worse part... he has a girlfriend. and always when they're kissing i go away because i can't see that. it really hurts alot.... please help me D=
beLINDA @Levi_Heichou, whats a huhe crush?
ryv tysm. but i dont think so about tip no. 20
Elilly #13 dead on!!!! So sad it's 2015 and we still have to play games. Just ended it with someone I was saying last night because I didn't play enough games I was trying to act my age being adult and unfortunately that just still does not work. It has to be games it's sad :(
Danielle Hey might be a bit late but I need help:( it might sound silly but basically 4 months ago I met a guy online (no dating websites involved) but he saw me doing a video thing online and started texting me on Skype I'm 16 and he's 17 he's so sweet and I love texting him so much I can't go a day without thinking about him so basically we just talked a lot (everyday) and we flirted a bit I guess then a few weeks ago he asked me to be his online girlfriend I said yes because I like him a lot but then about 3 weeks ago he stopped texting me completely then a few days later he sends me a text saying 'my phones confiscated' so his parents probably took it away but I can't help but try to text him anyway and I don't want to come off as clingy or anything but then I think like hold on I've never even met Him in person he lives in Chicago btw but we've called skyped and texted a lot we know so much about each other but I'm scared he might get sick of me or something:/ yeah I just need advice please help me girls:)
Vera @selena I would go with what your heart is telling you. If you really like him then go for it, though you might not see him you'll know in your heart that he's still yours and not someone else's guy. I hope that helped abit (:
Nahsb Hi guys! There is this guy at work who is 5 years older than me (I'm 16). We work together as lifeguards at a pool. Usually I start the conversation and we both keep it going. Half of the time he follows me and asks about my schedule a lot. One of his friends told me that he likes me and that I should wait until he makes the move. But I'm tired of waiting and I just wanna go out with him. Any tips? And we are both secretly shy
selena i am talking to this guy and he is 18 and i am 16 and we are having a rough time because he is leaving to the marines in like 3 months he has a 2 year old son and he is worried about us not seeing each other.and i am too dont get me wrong.. i just dont know what to do i am to the point were i am crying and i just need some help
selena hey ladies i need some help :'(
beLINDA @selena, wath's wrong my deer
Ash Some of this stuff comes natural for some people. If someone is already attracted to someone, they subconsciously mirror someone. They shiuldnt have to force themselves to do it, because then their not truly attracted to them! Same thing goes for touching. It's a natural instinct to do when your attracted to someone.
Raneem "Listen" !! But my boyfriend hates that he always the person who speaks and I just keep listening
Channie_ok @Daniel R Guzman yeah I know, I didn't take the chance :( and I don't have his contact information, but now when I think about it, we still have our last day of school, where we get our grades for the year! I'll definitely find him and ask for his number! Thank you for the help Daniel^^
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