7 Ways to Get Your Ex Back ...

Relationships are made of fragile bonds. They need to be continually nurtured and respected in order to grow. In a relationship, your partner and you are responsible for providing value to the other half and if you don't, sometimes these bonds break. If you however feel that you are still in love with your ex after the breakup, it is time to get them back. I am a girl, so I will be writing this from a girl's perspective. However, I am sure some of these tips will be useful for guys as well. Below, you are going to find 7 ways to get your ex back…

7 Stay Strong

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No matter what you do, it is important that you stay strong. You should never come off as being needy. Clinging, begging and acting desperate is a big break-up no-no. This will more than likely chase him off, instead of attract him back. I am not saying that breakups are easy, I personally know that they are tough, but you should keep the crying and yelling behind closed doors.

6 Minimize Your Contact with Him

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Closing those doors of communication may seem like they are not going to do any justice for you, but they will. This is one of the most important steps. There is a reason that the two of you have reached this point and obviously, someone here needs a break. Give your exsome space and time to clear his mind. Sometimes, starting over is the best thing you can do.

5 You Need to Be Flexible

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This is not time to start barking out orders such as “pick up your things by Monday or I am going to throw them out.” You are wrong if you are under the impression that you are going to be scaring them to the point that they will return to you. Take note that your ex went away from you because they were unhappy with some aspect of the relationship. This probably means that it is time for you to become a listener and pay more attention to his needs. That's one way to build the foundation for a successful relationship.

4 Get out of Your Room

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It is time to turn off the broken heart songs, lift yourself up off of that bed or couch and go out and have some fun! Give those old friends a ring and get yourself out of the house. You need to develop other forms of entertainment and stop worrying. This does not mean you have to go out and start dating again. You don’t even have to be interested in anyone. The key here is to have fun with friends and family and stop being depressed.

3 Figure out What Went Wrong

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Now is the time to sit by yourself and figure out what went wrong. Unless you can understand what led to the downfall of the two of you, how can you set things right? What made the first couple of weeks or months together so special? Why did you feel so strongly when it was a new relationship and when did it fizzle out? Try to pinpoint exactly what changed in your relationship.

2 Be Honest with Him

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If you still love him, then tell him this at least one time. Honesty is always going to pay off. Even if he does not say anything back, he will still know that you love and care about him. This is something that will stay in his mind. If it is meant to be, then he will remember this.

1 Show Respect

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Of course, when you are trying to get an ex back, you will need to show respect, no matter what sex you are. Having respect for another person is showing them that you still care. Don’t go throwing their stuff out, have respect for their stuff as well. Sure, you can put it in a box and stuff it in your closet so that you do not think of them 24/7, but remember girls, respect them. Do not go up to them in public and start yelling at them. Do not complain and whine about them to your friends. Leave aside the petty issues and jealousy. Remember that you have both wronged each other so take responsibility for your mistakes.

Getting your ex back in a relationship can be a tough job. However, if you find that you do not succeed at it, then don't let this get you down. If he does not come back to you, then this obviously means that it is not meant to be. It is time to move on and overcome the breakup, girl. What about you, are you hurting and need to get your ex back badly? How long have you had those horrible break up blues? Have you ever gotten back together with an ex? How did you do it?

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Allison Does thsi work even f you have been broken up for a few years?
- Heather It definitely does! If the feelings are there. :)
Anonymous I'm in high school and my boyfriend broke up with my with a note. I honestly didn't understand why in the beginning, but now I do. I wanted him back, but nothing seemed to change. Until one day he texted me saying he felt horrible about what happened and that he wanted to start over. For a while, that was all I'd heard of starting over. And I still wasn't sure. Then, later this last summer, he talked about getting back together. He told me that he had quit doing all of the bad stuff I didn't like and wanted another chance. He even told me he was going to ask me out at a community service job we were doing the next day. But, he never did. i asked him about it and he said that he wasn't quite ready to have a girlfriend again yet. So, I haven't really talked to him much about it since then. I've talked to him at school a little, but nothing personal, just like "Hi." and "What's up?" So, should I see if he still wants to start over or no?
- Denise Hey there. I know that all his talk about starting over has thrown you for a loop; mainly because he never pushed through with his plans with you. I think that you need to talk with him so you can find out where you stand. I know how hard it is to be stuck in limbo after a break up. Good luck! Keep visiting All Women Stalk!
alyssa hey this may sound weird but i am 13 and i really like this guy and we dated for 1 month and 1/2 but now he has a girlfriend, i will be coming back down there for summer how do i get him back p.s he dumped me because it was long distance
Haley My bf and I broke up about 3 months ago and we've been being friends. At first he told me he couldnt imagine ever being with me again. A few weeks ago after he found out I kissed another guy he became really jealous, said he was thinking about getting back together and missed me and he was just really confused. We hung out since then and a little flirting through texts but now he hasnt talked to me in a week and I dont know why, i havent been clingy at all. Any advice?
- Sheila Hi Haley, Maybe it was just the fact that you kissed another guy that made him want you. You always want what you can't have. I think you should move on. Obviously, there was a reason you guys broke up and if he hasn't tried to contact you so far, I don't think he's going to.
Abbey i broke up with my sort of boyfriend like 2 years ago, be were together for 4 years and a half... all of our teenage years... we went on and off for those 2 years we were over, the thing is that i really thought i was over him for good now, i didn't even felt like he was mine anymore, then i went to my dream trip to london for a month and i met a lot of people who had bad break ups and punk loves like i did (i have adhd and he ocd) the thing is that i started thinking that he took all the blame... more than he should and also things i was guilty, he blamed himself, i know i was wrong and then i send him a really honest mail telling him that and that i wasn't pretending to get in touch again with the mail anyways... i came back home as paranoic as hell cos i didn't wanted to see him again, i was over him for good this time, the thing is that i saw him and it was weird he said that he read my mail and that he wanted to answer it but he didn't knew if it was ok (we had a big fight before i went to london)... the thing is that i saw him and in my head he was mine again, we only talked for like one sec but we stared at each other for a while... i love him and i went to my laptop and send him an email telling him how i felt and that all i wanted was to be with him that he'll be so happy with me... i really believe what i said and i knew we could be happy together cos we love each other... my only problem is that he's scared to admit that he loves me back...
getting Here is this guy. I really like him and I know he loves me. He even talks about having his future with me. Actually, we've been together for almost four months and I didn't mean it as lovers, what I mean is friends. The problem is he can't say it. I let go of my past just for him because I love him and I know he loves me too. He just can't say the thing. I'm afraid he will never say it and Iâ€™ll just wait in vain. What should I do?
Olivia I got him back from losing him after a 3 month break from a 6 month relationship...we were together for a week and he ended it saying he stopped liking me. So I made him real jealous, and didn't talk to him at all. I hugged and got piggy back rides and danced and grinded with other guys with him watching. As much better as I've made myself look to others, I still feel like ****. I want to get back with him and I'm sure he's interested...although we haven't talked since the breakup which was 3 days ago. I don't know if I want to go back and just get hurt again...we keep breaking up and going back and I don't know what to do :/
- Sheila Hey Olivia, I know it's easy for me to say because I'm the outsider here but honestly hun, doesn't it seem like a lot of turmoil and hardwork to go through for a guy? I really don't think it should have to be this hard. If I were you, I'd let go and soon!
melissa my ex wont come back and ive tried all of these 7 tips/tricks. what should i do now?!
- Sheila Hey Melissa, I'm sorry sweetie but maybe it's time to let go and move on? You can only try so much. At the end of it, it is his decision.
cath he was so cute and we were texting sunday night and everything was perfect. then monday night he said that things just "weren't working out the way he thought they would" and that we shouldn't be together anymore but he said that he still wanted to be friends with me if I wanted to be. I don't want to make it seem like what he did was okay, so I'm trying not to talk to him and everything that you said, but I don't want to make it seem like I'm mad at him either, cause he's the type to just forget about it. Plus, I really don't understand what went wrong! i dont know what to do!
Shelyese how about 7 ways to decide whether or not you SHOULD get your ex back.
- Sheila Hey Shelyese, Great suggestion hun! :) Adding it to our list of must-do posts right now. Keep a look-out for it!
Laura Well to be honest i broke up with my boyfriend cause he cheated at least 3 or 4 times and he obviously tought the relationship was a joke so i gave him up and washed me hands and yes i do still love him but i just left him to it and at first he tried running back to me but then i turned him away i do really want to get back with him but he just aint worth the pain to go through again ! :/
- Sheila Hey Laura, Be strong sweetie. I know people can change and all that but somehow, I don't know about a guy who has cheated more than once. Like you said, he's just not worth the pain. Be patient and I know you'll find someone much more worthy and deserving :)
TEM:) I been stop comunicating with my ex for a while. I accidently texted my ex while trying to text a friend and he replied :S We got a good convo as we did when we were friends. Epic cause today we would have been two months. I am wondering. Should I start texting him again???
- Sheila Hey Tem, Honestly, no I don't think you should. Then again, it depends. Did you guys have a bad breakup? Do you see the two of you getting back? If yes, I don't see the harm. But be careful and don't keep your expectations too high. Good luck hun :)
Samara I've tried as much I can to get him back, but He got someone else. So sad!
- Sheila Hey Samara, It is but hey maybe it just wasn't meant to be...You know how life is, you don't always get what you want. But it can surprise you when you least expect it to :)
charlotte my bf cheated on and thinking about it all of my bfs have cheated on me...mabye love isn't for me :(
- Sheila Hey Charlotte, Just because one apple in the bunch turned out to be rotten, doesn't mean they all are. I know you're hurting right now which is why it's hard to believe that there are decent guys out there but trust me, there are :)
Tetz I personally have gotten back together with my exboyfriend a lot of times. All I did was ignoring him and making my life interesting and he would get jealous and come crawling back. Anyway, I got tired of the same old problems and we broke up for good. It's just not worth it.
- Sheila Hey Tetz, Good for you! It makes no sense to keep getting back when things are obviously not working out.
Hannah Loved these! Especially that they don't contain "make him jealous". That only works in the movies ;)
- Sheila Lol Hannah, Believe it or not, I actually tried that with my ex and it only backfired :( Movies are bad! :D

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