Is there a real way to get your ex back? While most times, it's better to leave the past in the past, don't you sometimes wish there was a way of undoing some mistakes? Like letting go of the love of your life? Afterall, they do say that you don't know what you've got until you lose it.
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1. Understanding What Went Wrong
The first step to fixing something that is broken, is to figure out what went wrong in the first place. So sit down and really think about it. Analyze the relationship and try and figure out when and why the downfall began. Then ask yourself, if you are willing to do what it will take to fix it.Remember, that you will both have to make compromises and changes if it's going to work this time.
2. No Pressure
Now that you've decided that you want your ex back, how do you actually go about it? Here's what you should NOT do! Call him a thousand times, send him messages, stalk him on Facebook or real life...you get the picture. Doing this wil only make you seem needy as Micheal says and push him farther away. No one wants to be with a desperate soul, especially not your recent ex.
3. Take Time to Heal
This is the most crucial step for any breakup. Take a break! Do not call him. Do not text him.Do not meet him no matter how badly you want to. The fact of the matter is if you haven't healed from the breakup, you aren't going to able to make it work this time. Also, taking time off will help you realize if you really want him back or if you're just too used to him to not have him around. Michael advises to take out your calendar and mark a date three weeks from now. This will be C-Day or Communication day. Until then, lay off! Immerse yourself in hobbies and things you've always wanted to do but couldn't. If your ex tries to contact you, be civil but keep it short. Tell them you really have to go right now and that you'll get back to him when you can.
4. After Three Weeks
Michael says it's always better to re-initiate contact by calling your ex since sms-es can be impersonal and also make it hard to judge a person's tone. Also, preferably call them at a time when you think they won't answer (you heard me right). Leave a short nonchalant voicemail, something to the effect of "I just noticed that your favorite store has a sale and thought I'd tell you about it!". What you are essentially doing is letting him know that you're thinking of him without actually saying so. When he does call you back, remember to sound positive, upbeat and genuine! Keep it short and end it with a "I've got to run, but do you want to catch up for coffee later this week?".
5. If He Agrees
Give yourself a pat on the back because it means that he is still interested in you. Remember to keep the positive attitude you had on the phone and have a good story or two to share.This is not the time to discuss your past and other dreary aspects of the breakup. If things start to get uncomfortable or weird, Michael says make an excuse and leave immediately. The longer you stay, the more damage will be done. If on the other hand, it is going well, let them be the one to ask to see to you again. Now it looks like you have a great chance of getting your ex back, but there's still more ahead.
6. Ex-Sex
Once the two of you have met a couple of times, the physical attraction is going to creep its way back. It's probably been a while for the both of you and you're longing for his famiiar touch, but Michael says do NOT have sex with him straight away. Here's why: Men like the chase. The more you make him wait, the more he'll want you. At the same time, do not use sex to get him back. There is a fine line between persuasion and manipulation and the latter is not going to give you what you want in the long run. Wait till the two of you have established that this is not going to be just sex, that the two of you are genuinely going to try and work things out and then give him the best sex of his life!
7. If None of These Work
We all learn from experience that nothing in life is a guarantee. All we can do is try and if it doesn't work, keep your chin up and move on. Remember, if it's meant to be, it will! All you need to do is be smart about the situation, take in all the tips you can and give it your very best try.
And those, dear ladies, are some great words of wisdom from the pro, Michael Griswold himself. Of course there is much, much more to it, than what I just described above, so if you really, really need to get your ex back, I highly recommend you read Michael's e-book which will give you the best detailed advice and make it so much easier for you to work out a perfect plan of getting your own ex back.
Also, watch our pro's Youtube video to know more! And don't forget to share your own tips and experiences with winning your ex back below! You know how much we love hearing from you!
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I'm going to try these tips. My guy called it off because he was 'spending too much time with me' and his family got upset, but he wanted to get back with me the next day. I told him no because I had too much pride in myself to want to get back with someone who can carelessly break up with me. It's been almost 3 weeks since we've broke up. I saw him today and nothing has changed. I still feel the same way I do about him like when we first met. I'm seeing him tomorrow. Hopefully I can get him back. Wish me luck! :)
My bf and I started talking again awhile ago, it was mostly friendly for awhile but now I relize how much I want him back. He started complimenting me again and said he found some pictures from the beach and told me how great I looked in a bikini.......one problem......he has a girlfriend. He knows how much i hate her. I keep on flirting, but waiting is killing me! what should I do?!
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First of all as probably I am too boring, nerd, geek, not easy to handle I had no exs. I only have a 9 years long courtship and a married life of 11 months and still going with the same person. But I had several break ups with him and that never lasted more than three weeks. We once had fight over Brazil and Argentina soccer teams leading to break up which lasted for 22 days and that was maximum silence between us. Sometimes we broke up to spice up the relation! Today we laugh at those moments but we really treasure them. I don't know why I have writing this but my heart wanted to share this. Thanks for the post.
So...I really want my ex-boyfriend back, but he keeps saying no and he broke up with me for no reason and I keep bothering him about it and I know it's the wrong thing to do, but I just don't know what to do. He tells me he likes this one girl and he said he doesn't like me. Whenever he talks to a girl, I get really jealous. I found this one friend that's a boy to get him jealous but I'm not sure if it's working or not. But my ex never talks to me and I really want him back and I just don't know what to do
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Koua:I'm going to try these tips. My guy called it off because he was 'spending too much time with me' and his family got upset, but he wanted to get back with me the next day. I told him no because I had too much pride in myself to want to get back with someone who can carelessly break up with me. It's been almost 3 weeks since we've broke up. I saw him today and nothing has changed. I still feel the same way I do about him like when we first met. I'm seeing him tomorrow. Hopefully I can get him back. Wish me luck! :)
Auddie:My bf and I started talking again awhile ago, it was mostly friendly for awhile but now I relize how much I want him back. He started complimenting me again and said he found some pictures from the beach and told me how great I looked in a bikini.......one problem......he has a girlfriend. He knows how much i hate her. I keep on flirting, but waiting is killing me! what should I do?!
Jana:Thanks (:
Shakti:First of all as probably I am too boring, nerd, geek, not easy to handle I had no exs. I only have a 9 years long courtship and a married life of 11 months and still going with the same person. But I had several break ups with him and that never lasted more than three weeks. We once had fight over Brazil and Argentina soccer teams leading to break up which lasted for 22 days and that was maximum silence between us. Sometimes we broke up to spice up the relation! Today we laugh at those moments but we really treasure them. I don't know why I have writing this but my heart wanted to share this. Thanks for the post.
Melissa:So...I really want my ex-boyfriend back, but he keeps saying no and he broke up with me for no reason and I keep bothering him about it and I know it's the wrong thing to do, but I just don't know what to do. He tells me he likes this one girl and he said he doesn't like me. Whenever he talks to a girl, I get really jealous. I found this one friend that's a boy to get him jealous but I'm not sure if it's working or not. But my ex never talks to me and I really want him back and I just don't know what to do
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