7 Tips on How to Get Your Ex Back from the Pros ...

Is there a real way to get your ex back? While most times, it's better to leave the past in the past, don't you sometimes wish there was a way of undoing some mistakes? Like letting go of the love of your life? Afterall, they do say that you don't know what you've got until you lose it.

So, when you do realize that you've made a mistake, how do you get your lost love back? Let Michael Griswold, founder of Reunitedrelationships.com and a true expert on the matter, give you some tips on how exactly you can get your ex back!

1 Understanding What Went Wrong

The first step to fixing something that is broken, is to figure out what went wrong in the first place. So sit down and really think about it. Analyze the relationship and try and figure out when and why the downfall began. Then ask yourself, if you are willing to do what it will take to fix it.Remember, that you will both have to make compromises and changes if it's going to work this time.

2 No Pressure

Now that you've decided that you want your ex back, how do you actually go about it? Here's what you should NOT do! Call him a thousand times, send him messages, stalk him on Facebook or real life...you get the picture. Doing this wil only make you seem needy as Micheal says and push him farther away. No one wants to be with a desperate soul, especially not your recent ex.

3 Take Time to Heal

This is the most crucial step for any breakup. Take a break! Do not call him. Do not text him.Do not meet him no matter how badly you want to. The fact of the matter is if you haven't healed from the breakup, you aren't going to able to make it work this time. Also, taking time off will help you realize if you really want him back or if you're just too used to him to not have him around. Michael advises to take out your calendar and mark a date three weeks from now. This will be C-Day or Communication day. Until then, lay off! Immerse yourself in hobbies and things you've always wanted to do but couldn't. If your ex tries to contact you, be civil but keep it short. Tell them you really have to go right now and that you'll get back to him when you can.

4 After Three Weeks

Michael says it's always better to re-initiate contact by calling your ex since sms-es can be impersonal and also make it hard to judge a person's tone. Also, preferably call them at a time when you think they won't answer (you heard me right). Leave a short nonchalant voicemail, something to the effect of "I just noticed that your favorite store has a sale and thought I'd tell you about it!". What you are essentially doing is letting him know that you're thinking of him without actually saying so. When he does call you back, remember to sound positive, upbeat and genuine! Keep it short and end it with a "I've got to run, but do you want to catch up for coffee later this week?".

5 If He Agrees

Give yourself a pat on the back because it means that he is still interested in you. Remember to keep the positive attitude you had on the phone and have a good story or two to share.This is not the time to discuss your past and other dreary aspects of the breakup. If things start to get uncomfortable or weird, Michael says make an excuse and leave immediately. The longer you stay, the more damage will be done. If on the other hand, it is going well, let them be the one to ask to see to you again. Now it looks like you have a great chance of getting your ex back, but there's still more ahead.

6 Ex-Sex

Once the two of you have met a couple of times, the physical attraction is going to creep its way back. It's probably been a while for the both of you and you're longing for his famiiar touch, but Michael says do NOT have sex with him straight away. Here's why: Men like the chase. The more you make him wait, the more he'll want you. At the same time, do not use sex to get him back. There is a fine line between persuasion and manipulation and the latter is not going to give you what you want in the long run. Wait till the two of you have established that this is not going to be just sex, that the two of you are genuinely going to try and work things out and then give him the best sex of his life!

7 If None of These Work

We all learn from experience that nothing in life is a guarantee. All we can do is try and if it doesn't work, keep your chin up and move on. Remember, if it's meant to be, it will! All you need to do is be smart about the situation, take in all the tips you can and give it your very best try.

And those, dear ladies, are some great words of wisdom from the pro, Michael Griswold himself. Of course there is much, much more to it, than what I just described above, so if you really, really need to get your ex back, I highly recommend you read Michael's e-book which will give you the best detailed advice and make it so much easier for you to work out a perfect plan of getting your own ex back.

Also, watch our pro's Youtube video to know more! And don't forget to share your own tips and experiences with winning your ex back below! You know how much we love hearing from you!

Please rate this article

☆☆☆☆☆

facebook

Comments

Melissa So...I really want my ex-boyfriend back, but he keeps saying no and he broke up with me for no reason and I keep bothering him about it and I know it's the wrong thing to do, but I just don't know what to do. He tells me he likes this one girl and he said he doesn't like me. Whenever he talks to a girl, I get really jealous. I found this one friend that's a boy to get him jealous but I'm not sure if it's working or not. But my ex never talks to me and I really want him back and I just don't know what to do😥😔
Estelle Me and my ex broke up a month ago and I realised it was all a mistake, I'm still crazy about him, I realised I still love him! And he says his moved on, but his friends say they think he hasn't moved on. I want him back... But I don't know how to tell him I still love him and I made a mistake of the breakup?? Help!
Lauren Me and my ex broke up 6 months ago and he hasn't talked to me sense. Recently he called me and texts me random things I rarely write back to. But last night he texts me saying he has to tell me something Tommorow and he rather do it on the phone. Not sure what that means. So I didn't text back idk hmmm
Shelly I bumped into this article and found it interesting, because I did step# 1-3 before reading this. My boyfriend broke up with me saying I deserve better and it's unfair for him to be with me if he doesn't have his full heart given to me. After the break up I was angry, he has sent me deep emails of how he is sorry, and how he still cares and I should be careful talking to others as I'm vulnerable. After a few weeks, I had too much fun out with friends and he got mad, but we're not together. After that incident, I realized what went wrong in our relationship. Part of it was my fault, not his, and also we lacked 100% communication. So, I sent him an email of my thoughts and I forgave him for his mistakes and told him how my faults led to his mess ups in our relationships. It was a cause and effect. The email touched him, he said it seems I said the words out of his mind that he was unaware was going on with him. I sent an email what if we give our relationship a try now that we realized our mistakes, at least give it a try now knowing it all. We're more open now after the breakup, and if it doesn't work after we give our 100% then it can be the end, but if it works out then great. How would we know the end if we don't give it a try? I've been waiting for a week for his response. I haven't called nor emailed again. It's killing me to wait.
Car Hi guys my relationship is somewhat different to what is been said here. My ex and myself broke up nearly 3 months ago we love each other but he is grieving the loss of his mother and had just become so distant and broke up with me. we have seen each other a few times since and he just cries and says he can't see it working. Anyone been through something like this
- Denise Hi Car. He's obviously really depressed about his mother's death. I don't think he's in the right frame of mind (and heart) to be thinking about a relationship.
Cheyenne So me and my bf split 8 months ago. I was never given an answer as to why seeing as how he ended things with me. He told me when we broke up that we had a"really good chance of getting together in the future." It's been 8 months and I still love him like I did when we first got together. We still communicate pretty regularly and we hang out and all that. There are times he tells me I drive him crazy and he wants to be with me and all kinds of stuff like that, but then there are times he wants nothing to do with me. I'm not sure how to feel because I would give anthing to be with him, but I hate how I hurt so bad every day not knowing the outcome. He told me today he just wants his space and I haven't given him that and thats why he won't give me a chance. Idk what to do. I told him I was going to give him his space, but what if he never comes back?
- Sheila Hey Cheyenne, Sweetie, you've got to stop letting him treat you the way he does. Give him his space, do your own thing and stop giving him as much attention as you do. That's what's making it hard for you to move on! Maybe he'll miss you once you're gone and want to get back. If he doesn't, you need to accept that it wasn't meant to be.
Savanna I had this boyfriend who I really liked and cared about, but we broke up almost two years ago. We were fighting a lot and we decided that we needed a break from each other. Two weeks after we broke up, my best friend told me that he cheated on me with a different girl. I was heartbroken and no idea what to do. So I confronted him about it in a very civil manner and he denied it all. A couple of months later, he started talking to me again and wanted to get back together. He finally admitted that he did cheat and said he was really sorry. But I was still really upset about the whole situation and could never find it in me to give him back my trust. (Keep in mind that he was my first REAL boyfriend!) He's a year older than me, so when we dated the first time we were in different schools. Well when I came into his school a year later and I started to see him everyday, I realized how much I really did miss him and still cared for him. So, I tried just being friends with him. I told him how I felt about our relationship and that I wished that we could just start it over. He said he feels that way sometimes too, but right now he's in a reltionship. So maybe we could try again some other day. I respected that he had a girlfriend and everything, so I kept texting him as a friend. After a couple weeks, I just couldn't do it anymore! I started thinking about him 24/7 and I was even having dreams with him in them! So I told him that I couldn't be friends with him because of that and he still wanted to be friends. But I told him it was driving me insane thinking about him so much. He told me that I still come to him for anything if I needed to ever talk. So my question is, do you think it's too late for us to get back together? Of course after him and his girlfriend break up!
- Savanna @Sheila, Yeah. I'm thinking so too. Thanks, Sheila! :)
- Sheila Hi Savanna, Sorry to say this hun but it sounds like he has moved on and maybe it would be best if you do too. I'm not saying that there isn't a chance for the two of you to get back but you'll drive yourself crazy wondering what's going to happen in the meantime and what if you don't get back together at the end of it? I know it's hard to see him everyday but you've got to pull yourself together and find the strength to let this one go.
Anonymous what do i do if my ex has a girlfriend but he keeps staring at me and smiling?
- Sheila Hun, If he's got a girlfriend, do nothing about it. He's off limits. Maybe he's just being nice with all the smiling and stuff?
Allison Okay, so I broke up with my boyfriend like the 15th of January and like I believe I LOVE him. I seriously do. he was the best. i dont even know why I broke up with him in the first place. Im afraid he has moved on and wont take me back. Is writing him a note about my feelings for him a good idea? and i'd cry if i knew he would never take me back :(
- Allison Thanks :)
- Sheila Hi Allison, Welcome to AWS! All you can do is write him a note or email him telling him that you are sorry and that you want him back. I do hope you realize that you have to give him an explanation for why you broke up with him. Also, please understand sweetie that he has every right to not take you back or not even respond to your note for that matter. Be strong and lets hope that he feels the same way about you :)
Auddie My bf and I started talking again awhile ago, it was mostly friendly for awhile but now I relize how much I want him back. He started complimenting me again and said he found some pictures from the beach and told me how great I looked in a bikini.......one problem......he has a girlfriend. He knows how much i hate her. I keep on flirting, but waiting is killing me! what should I do?!
- Sheila Are you seriously asking me that Auddie, If he has a girlfriend, you have no business flirting with him. I mean, of course there's casual flirting which is fine but THIS is not casual. And really, do you want to be with a guy who could possibly be flirting with someone else when you're with him?? Think about it.
Jana Thanks (:
Jana Hey sheila I had a question about the three weeks without talking to him..well I really like this guy and I'm concerned about what I should say when cday comes because the last time we talked we had a really bad argumentand he basically said he'd talk to me again when he isn't mag at me anymore. what should I say on cday??
- Sheila Hey Jana, I guess it depends a lot on what the argument was about. Maybe this would be a good time for apologies and clearing things out?
Alina Thank youu :) and I do agree about the long distance thing, it's not really what I want and I don't think it's what he wants either. And 15 is too young to make a long distance thing work because it's not even like I can drive. Still thanks, I'm gonna try and sort things out with myself and then maybe him. Thank you
- Sheila No problem Alina, Have a great year! :)
Alina Hi Sheila :) I saw some of your other posts and you give really good advice so I was wondering if you'd help me out? I'm 15 and there's this guy I have liked for a really long time, like 4 years and however hard I try I can't get over him. He moved away about a year ago and I saw him again yesterday, on New Year and I realised I still like him a lot! We used to be kind of together, but it was quite complicated and since he's left we've both been with other people but I just can't find anyone I like as much as him. I really want him back! Thanks Alina x
- Sheila Hi Alina, There are a lot of things you have to consider here. Firstly, considering he moved away are you willing to have a long distance relationship? It's not going to be easy and you're only 15. I don't know if your old enough for the kind of commitment a long distance relationship needs. Also, you have to think about why you guys didn't work out the first time. Whatever it was that made it "complicated" back then, has it changed now? If you still want to try and get him back, I guess the first thing you have to do is start talking to him again. Flirt with him and if he responds positively, try ad give him subtle hints that you want to get back. Hope it works!
Koua I'm going to try these tips. My guy called it off because he was 'spending too much time with me' and his family got upset, but he wanted to get back with me the next day. I told him no because I had too much pride in myself to want to get back with someone who can carelessly break up with me. It's been almost 3 weeks since we've broke up. I saw him today and nothing has changed. I still feel the same way I do about him like when we first met. I'm seeing him tomorrow. Hopefully I can get him back. Wish me luck! :)
- Sheila Hey Koua, Good luck!! Like I said, if it's meant to be, it will :) Besides, I'm sure he misses you too.
sofia nice! trying this steps can help a wounded heart. keep it up!
Shakti @Sheila, a personal question----have you tried them and succeeded? Sorry for being nosey. Those tips are sounding wonderful.
- Shakti Don't simplify it by admitting the complexity.
- Shakti @Sheila, I understand...This ego problem is the main reason why I have not ended my relation.If I had ended it I knew I can't go back and will loose the person I actually love. Secondly I am so headstrong that I can not accept that I had choosen a wrong person and so cannot carry forward my relation. This could be the greatest defeat in my life I had to accept for which my superior ego is not ready.Probably I am sounding not so clear but who ever understood a women and her view on her love interest?
- Sheila Haha Shakti, No I haven't. In the relationships I have had so far, I've always felt like it needed to end when it did. Besides, I think I have too much of an ego to try and win someone back :)
Shakti All the best ree_ama and TT.
- Shakti @ree_ama Thank you sweeteeeeee..
- ree_ama Thanks shakti. All the best for you and your spouse =)
TT Thanks so much for the tips! I am having a Christmas party and my ex might come and I do want him back.
- Sheila Well TT, I hope these tips work for you then :) Thanks for reading!
Shakti First of all as probably I am too boring, nerd, geek, not easy to handle I had no exs. I only have a 9 years long courtship and a married life of 11 months and still going with the same person. But I had several break ups with him and that never lasted more than three weeks. We once had fight over Brazil and Argentina soccer teams leading to break up which lasted for 22 days and that was maximum silence between us. Sometimes we broke up to spice up the relation! Today we laugh at those moments but we really treasure them. I don't know why I have writing this but my heart wanted to share this. Thanks for the post.
- Shakti seems so.
- Shakti @Sheila, Yea...almost perfect. A little bit filmy also.First meeting at the railway station on the way to school, childhood sweethearts married after drama etc. etc.
- Sheila Aww Shakti, That's a sweet story! 9 years huh? That's a long, long time. My longest was 4 years and it didn't last :( A serious fight over Brazil and Argentina? Lol. How cute is that! :) Well, I'm glad that the two of you ended up together. It sounds like the perfect love story! <3

Popular

Recent