7 Tips on How to Get Your Ex Back from the Pros ...

By Sheila

Is there a real way to get your ex back? While most times, it's better to leave the past in the past, don't you sometimes wish there was a way of undoing some mistakes? Like letting go of the love of your life? Afterall, they do say that you don't know what you've got until you lose it.

So, when you do realize that you've made a mistake, how do you get your lost love back? Let Michael Griswold, founder of Reunitedrelationships.com and a true expert on the matter, give you some tips on how exactly you can get your ex back!

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1

Understanding What Went Wrong

The first step to fixing something that is broken, is to figure out what went wrong in the first place. So sit down and really think about it. Analyze the relationship and try and figure out when and why the downfall began. Then ask yourself, if you are willing to do what it will take to fix it.Remember, that you will both have to make compromises and changes if it's going to work this time.

2

No Pressure

Now that you've decided that you want your ex back, how do you actually go about it? Here's what you should NOT do! Call him a thousand times, send him messages, stalk him on Facebook or real life...you get the picture. Doing this wil only make you seem needy as Micheal says and push him farther away. No one wants to be with a desperate soul, especially not your recent ex.

3

Take Time to Heal

This is the most crucial step for any breakup. Take a break! Do not call him. Do not text him.Do not meet him no matter how badly you want to. The fact of the matter is if you haven't healed from the breakup, you aren't going to able to make it work this time. Also, taking time off will help you realize if you really want him back or if you're just too used to him to not have him around. Michael advises to take out your calendar and mark a date three weeks from now. This will be C-Day or Communication day. Until then, lay off! Immerse yourself in hobbies and things you've always wanted to do but couldn't. If your ex tries to contact you, be civil but keep it short. Tell them you really have to go right now and that you'll get back to him when you can.

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After Three Weeks

Michael says it's always better to re-initiate contact by calling your ex since sms-es can be impersonal and also make it hard to judge a person's tone. Also, preferably call them at a time when you think they won't answer (you heard me right). Leave a short nonchalant voicemail, something to the effect of "I just noticed that your favorite store has a sale and thought I'd tell you about it!". What you are essentially doing is letting him know that you're thinking of him without actually saying so. When he does call you back, remember to sound positive, upbeat and genuine! Keep it short and end it with a "I've got to run, but do you want to catch up for coffee later this week?".

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If He Agrees

Give yourself a pat on the back because it means that he is still interested in you. Remember to keep the positive attitude you had on the phone and have a good story or two to share.This is not the time to discuss your past and other dreary aspects of the breakup. If things start to get uncomfortable or weird, Michael says make an excuse and leave immediately. The longer you stay, the more damage will be done. If on the other hand, it is going well, let them be the one to ask to see to you again. Now it looks like you have a great chance of getting your ex back, but there's still more ahead.

Famous Quotes

To give oneself earnestly to the duties due to men, and, while respecting spiritual beings, to keep aloof from them, may be called wisdom.

Confucius
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Ex-Sex

Once the two of you have met a couple of times, the physical attraction is going to creep its way back. It's probably been a while for the both of you and you're longing for his famiiar touch, but Michael says do NOT have sex with him straight away. Here's why: Men like the chase. The more you make him wait, the more he'll want you. At the same time, do not use sex to get him back. There is a fine line between persuasion and manipulation and the latter is not going to give you what you want in the long run. Wait till the two of you have established that this is not going to be just sex, that the two of you are genuinely going to try and work things out and then give him the best sex of his life!

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If None of These Work

We all learn from experience that nothing in life is a guarantee. All we can do is try and if it doesn't work, keep your chin up and move on. Remember, if it's meant to be, it will! All you need to do is be smart about the situation, take in all the tips you can and give it your very best try.

And those, dear ladies, are some great words of wisdom from the pro, Michael Griswold himself. Of course there is much, much more to it, than what I just described above, so if you really, really need to get your ex back, I highly recommend you read Michael's e-book which will give you the best detailed advice and make it so much easier for you to work out a perfect plan of getting your own ex back.

Also, watch our pro's Youtube video to know more! And don't forget to share your own tips and experiences with winning your ex back below! You know how much we love hearing from you!

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SOMEONE PLEASE TAKE THE TIME TO READ THIS.... having a very tough time..I'm 24 years old she's 20 i took her in as a roommate we ended up hitting it off and started sleeping on the same bed eventually she was really clingy and protective then i started acting the same way and almost angry because i felt she wasn't being dishonest about her phone she was very secretive by the i mean deleting text and stuff anyways as you guys can see i started getting protective and controlling at the same time never acted like this before i feel like i took her for granted because she from time would be putting her self down saying why cause i'm ugly i always told her not to say that this is going to be long please be patient i'm going through a lot feel like i lost the woman i wanted to spend my life with anyways i felt like she was insecure every time i went anywhere she though i was fucking a girl or getting a girls number but this is where everything gets tricky at one point i kicked her out i felt as if she was disrespecting me and she came and got her stuff she came back acter 3 or 4 days she said she was having brother time anyways let it go we got back together we were fine she started going to collage and i helped her find the car she wanted we did everything together but i sold my car because we wanted to get one good car so i could save for a truck and we could have two good cars in case one fails we get her car and shes having to stay home when i go to work and her college is 45 mins away her mom live 15 mins from the college about 8 days ago she said she was going to her moms to study so i go out to my buddies and watch the super bowl i come home all her stuff is gone feel like her mom brained washed her and i realized what i was doing wrong i tried to apologize said i would change for the better i just wanted to be there for the rest of her life she came over was talking all sweet and then i asked her if she was willing to move back and work things out she yes i said only if your heart is telling you too she said yes.. she said don't worry baby i'm going to go home take care of things ill be back tomorrow morning and all this will be over she said what time do you work tomorrow i said 3 she said ill be here at 10 i said promise i said can you leave your dog here so i know your really coming back she also told me which i dont know if was lying also that she paced though her house think of if i was with another woman anyways she said we aren't at that trust level yet and she said trust me ill be back tomorrow i know you love me she left i text her 20 mins later and said did you get home safely sweetie she ignore two phone calls and said this isn't gonna work brian... she got a bra and two pjs there wasn't anything left execpt her dads pictures that had died 4 years ago i feel as we had a mutual connection cause my mom passed away 6 years ago she always told me she loved me untill she left i feel heart broken.. i miss her with all my heart all i said was you are so heartless... i was shocked i feel like she left because she just started college and doesn't wanna feel tide or maybe i want something serious but she wants to explore in college or maybe i don't have a car now she feels like im worthless or maybe she found someone else when she had came and said the second time and said she was gonna move that day she was texting like 4 guys feel like she has feelings for me buts doing that to get over me and it hurts me because im heart broken she also tried to have sex with me and i didn't let her i told not until you come back for sure.. i didn't want her playing with my emotion and she kept trying she left i opened the door to her call like a gentlemen she left on the february1st came back on the February7 the day she came and talked said she was gonna come back and then told me 20 mins after she left that it wasn't gonna work out Brian.. i'm heart broken it's the 10th and after the your heartless message she has not said hey.. been drinking my self to sleep because i can't stop blaming my self for losing the woman i wanted to spend my life with i fell in love with her feel as if she said i love just to say back because how can you do this to someone you love all i do is drink drink drink drink can someone please with all due respect give me some advice i'm trying to get over but all i can do is think of the wonderful times we had together and how she made me happy.... feel like shes thinking of why she left and doesn't want me and i'm suffering so much. .. i miss her so much..the whole time she was here she was texting like 5 guys giving her facebook and everything ... im hurt. why did she do this ... did she care at all? she left me without a car owing me 400 dollars and lied to me about coming back im not a bad person i told her i promise things will be like when u first met me and she kept saying that just how i see you as now.. i said don't see me idk why she played with my hear knowing it would hurt how can you not at least have the heart to text me im sorry that would just lift a big weight off my shoulder im so confused and hurt

@shakti that's such a awesome love story! My love life is so messed up :( I like a 22. Year old and he likes me, but we went threw so much with family and friends giving us crap because I'm only 16 . We wernt having sex or Nything so that's why we are mad that we decided we will wait till I'm 18 and it's best if we stop talking all together because my family is starting to hate him. I see him alot cos he goes to my church and we just stair at eachother threw out the service . I miss him :(

All the best ree_ama and TT.

My bf and I started talking again awhile ago, it was mostly friendly for awhile but now I relize how much I want him back. He started complimenting me again and said he found some pictures from the beach and told me how great I looked in a bikini.......one problem......he has a girlfriend. He knows how much i hate her. I keep on flirting, but waiting is killing me! what should I do?!

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