I Want a Boyfriend and I'm Going to Get One ...

Do you feel like you’ve been single forever? Do you feel like you scroll through social media and find yourself sad and envious of those in relationships, engaged, getting married, etc. and you feel stagnate in life? If you ever sit and think I want a boyfriend, you've come to the right place. Here are my top ten tips on how to get a boyfriend...

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Remember That Being Single is Okay

If you are frantically waiting for that special someone, you might be coming across as desperate and that is instantly off-putting to guys. Take some time to enjoy yourself, and remember why you are so amazing. If you love yourself you make it much easier for others to love you too.

Think about Who You Want

Now you know who you are, think about what you want. Write down what is really important out of a mate and what can be negotiated. This will stop you settling for anything, and ensure that you look for people who you could actually have a future with!

Spread Your Wings!

Join a club that you love, get involved in a sport, learn a new skill. Don’t join just because you expect to meet people, join to enjoy yourself, boost your confidence, and act as a distraction while you are waiting for Mr. Right!

Be Confident

Been checking out that guy for a while? Go and introduce yourself. No other way to stop saying I want a boyfriend than just go out and get one. It might be scary, but you’ll demonstrate confidence and self reliance which are both very attractive qualities!

Get to Know Them

Before you fall in love with every guy you meet, talk to them and see if they match your list. Look for similarities and differences and see how you get on together. Just because he matches your list verbatim doesn't mean the chemistry is there. It’s important that you know the man himself so you know whether or not you need to readjust your list.

Famous Quotes

Happiness depends upon ourselves.

Aristotle

Make Friends

The best relationships stem from friendships, so take your time and get to know him as a friend. You can't sit around saying I want a boyfriend but not give yourself any opportunities to meet a boyfriend-even as a friend first. As well as being the perfect base, it also means you’ll be pre-warned about any bad habits, and you’re likely to know about his past relationships.

Make Him Feel Comfortable

It can be a nerve racking job asking a girl out, so make him feel comfortable around you. Maybe he's afraid of rejection; if you make him comfortable he'll be able to make a move. Even if nothing happens, you’ll have an amazing guy friend out of it and guy friends are the best!

Read the Signs

Think about whether he likes you too. Does he compliment you a lot, spend lots of time with you, flirt occasionally? Or is he really treating you like a best friend? Reading the signs can save you the heartache of un-returned love. Don't make up signs just because you want a boyfriend, make sure the signs are actually there.

Be an Amazing Girl!

By being his friend, you risk letting him see your bad points. Counter this by showing him how pretty, bubbly, intelligent and happy you are. Show him who you really are. These positives will surely outweigh the negatives. Double bonus if you can hang out with his guy friends too and they think you're cool.

Ask Him out!

If he’s showing all the signs, and you’re feeling it too, then ask him out! Don’t leave it up to him, be a modern girl and take it in your own hands. At least that way you know where you stand and you don't have to spend your time pining over him if he's not interested.

Have you got tips to save yourself from the I want a boyfriend thoughts? Please share with me!

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hi everyone I need a man aka boyfriend im 17 and will be 18 april 12

Ok, so mines a huge story. It started at the start of 2013. This guy, he's in most of my classes. In term 1, in science, we were lab partners (I hardly knew him then and I didn't like him) and at the end of the lesson my friends were like "he is totally into you!!" which I hadn't noticed, he was only a little shy. So yeah, that started basically everything. He liked me, so naturally I started liking him. This went on for 2 terms, I caught him staring at me, he acted shy, sometimes he tried to impress me or make me laugh, etc. Until the end of term 2. I gave in then, we had been flirting long enough, so I decided to ask him out, which I regret doing. I told my 2 "crazy" friends, and my 2 "almost-normal" friends. My 2 "crazy" friends went off and asked him out for me straight away, in front of all of his friends. I got mad at them for a while. Anyway, term 3 we hardly talked, but I noticed he started staring at me the way he used to. Term 3 came and went. Then, term 4. Last term. A new girl came to my school. A beautiful, cute, way-better-than-me girl. He hardly noticed the new girl at first. He still stared at me sometimes. Then, we had a school camp. It all went well, on camp night 2, we had a great campfire, a lot of guys and girls relit it after the teachers went to bed, and I sat with one of my guy friends, and we flirted a bit. Now this guy, he got really jealous and stormed off to his tent. I decided to go back to mine as well. The next day (the last day), he was in my group for orienteering. I was wearing my bike jersey (we both cycle) and he started wolf whistling at me. O.o and yeah, I sort of ignored him then, I was concentrating on the task at hand. Anyway, later on the bus back home, everyone was in a chatty mood, and then, out of the blue, a girl sitting in front of "the guy", asked me if "I would go out with him, because he likes you and this is serious, not fake" I sighed, sort of sick of him, I thought he made it clear that he didn't like me, but obviously he loved me and couldn't get over me! I said yes :) but apparently it was a joke because he asked out someone else that he constantly teased, as a joke. And somehow, we were no longer going out. A few weeks after camp, he forgot about me, and he noticed the new girl. He loved her too, and he asked her out, and they went out for, about one lunch break I think?? Lol,, I'm not quite sure. He also made it clear he no longer liked me. They broke up, I wasn't surprised, and I was pretty mad at him. That was about 2 months ago. And now, I'm not sure about him or who he likes. Hes started staring at me a little bit, but I'm not jumping to conclusions. Now, it is Wednesday of the last week of the school year, and in 2 days I want to know if he still likes me or not! My best friend also told me she likes him as well, but she understands this guy and I have liked each other for a while, and she isn't going to steal him from me if I do get the chance. But I want to know if he still likes me before the holidays start, otherwise I will be waiting around for 8 weeks wondering if anyone likes me! >.< Any advice? Please and thank you c:

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