Do you feel like you’ve been single forever? Do you feel like you scroll through social media and find yourself sad and envious of those in relationships, engaged, getting married, etc. and you feel stagnate in life? If you ever sit and think I want a boyfriend, you've come to the right place. Here are my top ten tips on how to get a boyfriend...
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1. Remember That Being Single is Okay
If you are frantically waiting for that special someone, you might be coming across as desperate and that is instantly off-putting to guys. Take some time to enjoy yourself, and remember why you are so amazing. If you love yourself you make it much easier for others to love you too.
2. Think about Who You Want
Now you know who you are, think about what you want. Write down what is really important out of a mate and what can be negotiated. This will stop you settling for anything, and ensure that you look for people who you could actually have a future with!
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3. Spread Your Wings!
Join a club that you love, get involved in a sport, learn a new skill. Don’t join just because you expect to meet people, join to enjoy yourself, boost your confidence, and act as a distraction while you are waiting for Mr. Right!
4. Be Confident
Been checking out that guy for a while? Go and introduce yourself. No other way to stop saying I want a boyfriend than just go out and get one. It might be scary, but you’ll demonstrate confidence and self reliance which are both very attractive qualities!
5. Get to Know Them
Before you fall in love with every guy you meet, talk to them and see if they match your list. Look for similarities and differences and see how you get on together. Just because he matches your list verbatim doesn't mean the chemistry is there. It’s important that you know the man himself so you know whether or not you need to readjust your list.
6. Make Friends
The best relationships stem from friendships, so take your time and get to know him as a friend. You can't sit around saying I want a boyfriend but not give yourself any opportunities to meet a boyfriend-even as a friend first. As well as being the perfect base, it also means you’ll be pre-warned about any bad habits, and you’re likely to know about his past relationships.
7. Make Him Feel Comfortable
It can be a nerve racking job asking a girl out, so make him feel comfortable around you. Maybe he's afraid of rejection; if you make him comfortable he'll be able to make a move. Even if nothing happens, you’ll have an amazing guy friend out of it and guy friends are the best!
8. Read the Signs
Think about whether he likes you too. Does he compliment you a lot, spend lots of time with you, flirt occasionally? Or is he really treating you like a best friend? Reading the signs can save you the heartache of un-returned love. Don't make up signs just because you want a boyfriend, make sure the signs are actually there.
9. Be an Amazing Girl!
By being his friend, you risk letting him see your bad points. Counter this by showing him how pretty, bubbly, intelligent and happy you are. Show him who you really are. These positives will surely outweigh the negatives. Double bonus if you can hang out with his guy friends too and they think you're cool.
10. Ask Him out!
If he’s showing all the signs, and you’re feeling it too, then ask him out! Don’t leave it up to him, be a modern girl and take it in your own hands. At least that way you know where you stand and you don't have to spend your time pining over him if he's not interested.
Have you got tips to save yourself from the I want a boyfriend thoughts? Please share with me!
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rhe-jhn: H! I am feeling so lonely, I never had a boyfriend seen birth. Now I am going to college next year I'm felling an outcast because I now many of the girls experience of having a boyfriend. Some of my classmate now in high school said that I will never had I boyfriend, I'm scared I don't want to be alone forever. I like a one of the juniors in our school but it feels he will never like me so I never intended to talk to him about my feelings; I am contented now to be his friend. I wish someone will love me someday a man who will love us I am... Someone who is mature to understands my immaturity.
JazzyGurl: Hi I need urgent help. I really like this boy and we go together really well. We became friends without reliaising and we spend loads of time together. We love science but I have had a hard time in going out with boys and the last thing I want to do is to ask him out but he isn't either. Any help? I am really nervous and I think h might be too.
nikki: Please help me I don't know what to do.
Samantha: K so I like this guy named michael and he is the cuttest most sweetest boy I have ever meet iv been crushing on him since grade 3 and we r now in grade 9 I have had bfs since then but I always dream about being with him. Plezz give me advice :S
erica: I'm 13 and I have a boyfriend. I love him but when I'm dating him I'm embarrassed and nervous around my friends. They don't like him at all. He's 15 and tries to move way too fast for what I'm comfortable with. But the bad thing is, I find myself considering it with other guys I flirt with. I always talk bad behind his back and I feel so bad about being a horrible girlfriend. We never fight, but mostly because me never see eachother. We have dated about 8 times and never over a month. When we date I feel like I don't want to be with him and I don't love him but when we break up I miss him and I start talking to him again and we get back together. I always flirt with other guys and when I flirt with certain guys I find myself falling for them. My botfriend is not attractive, he's sweet, he always cancels our plans, he has an odd sense of humor, he always teases me but in a cute way, and he always tells me how he hates when we break up because he is in love with me and he can't stand the fact that I'm available for other guys. I flirt with other guys while were dating and I don't think he knows. I've only seen him about four times since the first time we started dating. When I talk to these other guys and flirt I start to fall for them and I grow strong feelings for them, but I know they don't have the same feelings, they just like to flirt. I don't know what to do. When I am dating him I hate it but when I'm not I'm so unhappy. I need to know how to not grow so attached to the guys I only flirt with and I need to know what I should do about my boyfriend.. should I break up with him or should I just try to love him more or something.. please help.
Anonymous: So, denise I need your help! :'( im 11 in year seven. PLEASE don't say im too young, anyway I have been freinds with this boy for a few weeks now, but I really like him well to be honest I love him. We're really good freinds and I dont think he loves me back. We have these long stares sometimes but I go all shy and stop looking in about 3 seconds. :( I dunno wot to do but I feel empty without a bf and do you know any ways to turn him on, I REALLY want a kiss, all my friends have had one and they call me frigid :( any suggestions? x
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