How can I tell if I'm really ready to lose my virginity?

It's a mix of emotional and physical readiness. If you feel comfortable and confident with your partner, and you're making the decision for yourself (not because of pressure), it might be a sign you're ready.

Is there a 'right' age to lose your virginity?

There's no magic number! What matters most is your comfort, consent, and readiness. Everyone's timeline is different.

What if I regret losing my virginity?

It's natural to have mixed feelings. Reflect on your reasons and feelings. Talking with someone you trust, like a friend or counselor, can help process those emotions.

I'm nervous about losing my virginity. Is that normal?

Absolutely! It's a big step, and feeling anxious or unsure is completely normal. Take your time and make sure you're making the choice for yourself.

What if I don't ever want to lose my virginity?

That's perfectly okay, too! Your choices about your body and sexuality are yours to make, and there's no right or wrong decision. Do what's best for you.

From time to time, I do some posts on sex. Some of you have a hissy with me and go way against what I say, but that is perfectly fine. I was a teenager once before too, but I never chose to give it up to anyone, except for my husband and I will tell you that I was not married when I lost my virginity to him, so I don’t really believe that it’s an absolute must to be married before you lose your virginity. However, I do believe that you should make sure you are ready and do not rush into things, because this is one thing that cannot be undone. Below, I am going to give you 7 ways to tell you are ready to lose your virginity…

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7. What about the Finances?

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Is he or she financially secure and can pay rent on housing? Guys, would you be able to support her if you had to? Can you keep the relationship during the quest to become financially secure? Now, i’m not saying that you can only sleep with someone that is rich, but if push comes to shove and something happens, then the two of you should have finances to take care of it. I know many of you are going to complain about this, but it is fine. It’s a cold world out there and money does not grow on trees. You’d be very immature to sleep with someone when you don’t even have money to support yourself.

6. Could You See Yourself Spending a Future with This Person?

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If you cannot see yourself spending a future with this person, then obviously, you are not ready to give yourself to them and that is just your hormones speaking. When you are ready, you will see that person in your future. I’m not saying that they will actually be in your future or you have to make plans to get married, but obviously, you shouldn’t sleep with someone that you plan on breaking up with.

5. When You do Not Feel Pressured to do It

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When you do not feel pressured to do it just because everyone else is doing it – that’s a sign. When you no longer base your opinions on something because it is everyone else’s opinion. It’s your own ballgame out there. Now that you’re thinking for yourself and not feeling pressured and have decided that you want to lose your virginity, then that’s a sign.

4. Do You Want to Wake up at Odd Hours of the Night?

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I know, when there is sex, there is consequences. I’m not saying to remain a virgin forever, but do not have sex until you are ready to wake up at odd hours of the night to take care of a baby. Even with protection, you will face these consequences. Gripe at me all you want, but it’s the truth.

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3. You Are in a Loving Relationship

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Are you in a loving relationship with someone that you feel really close with? Do you feel that you can take on anything ahead of you? Then you are ready.

2. Plan It!

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No, I’m not saying plan to do it on Saturday at noon. I mean to get everything ready – the contraceptives, lubricants and all of that. Think about the type of music you want to listen to during it. After you go through all of this, if you get all excited, then you’re ready! If you feel scared, then you’re not ready.

1. You Just Feel It

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With me, things just happened. I didn’t plan on it, I didn’t read blogs on if I was ready – it just happened. Do I regret it? Nope, I don’t regret it. You can never be sure that you are 100 percent ready to lose your virginity until you are in the situation. If you get yourself in the situation and you feel you are not ready, then don’t be afraid to speak up and stop.

Those are 7 ways to tell you are ready to lose your virginity. It is such a complicated thing when you’re looking for signs, but they’re there. If you feel scared about sex, then you’re not ready. Sex is a very powerful thing and it’s very natural. So, what do you think?

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Alana
2011-01-13T21:07:50.000Z
I have a problem. I have know this guy for four or five months and we are totaly into eachother. He told me he liked me a couple weeks ago. I have liked him sence i met him which is the same with him. I tried asking him out but he dont answer he just tells me "i'll tell you tomarrow. Plus he always wants to "sext" me and asks if i would do other things with him and i dont know if im ready? So could someone help me with both my problem. I would be so greatly appreciated, thank you
Yourmom
2022-08-05T04:53:31.544Z
#4 But I am gay... And would not adopt
angie
2011-04-12T02:56:17.000Z
I have a crush since I was elementary because he's showing some motives to me. Until now he's my crush but the problem is that i think he's just taking advantage of me. Every time that we communicate through or even when we see each other he can't forget to ask me if I am willing to have sex with him. I always him that I'm not yet ready for that but he keeps bothering me. He knows that I like him very much but I don't want to do it for that reason. Do you think I'm right?? Please help me decide. Thanks.. :-))
Ya
2013-12-01T07:44:34.000Z
I still haven't lost mine, I just don't have a boyfriend and I, 18 and where I live our society is just a tad more conservative, in India. I just want to know, does it hurt a lot and what does it feel like after?
Nat
2013-12-19T01:49:51.000Z
I have a problem and if anyone could help that would be great. I dated this guy for about a year and a half and we wanted to lose it together but never did. now that we are apart, we still talk about it but he told me unless i dated him he didnt want to. im 16 by the way. and hes also very controlling almost scary controlling. i dont even feel attracted to him anymore but i know that he cares about me. on the complete other hand i have a guy ive hooked up with for almost a year now, after me and the one guy broke up, who i could sleep with, but we arent emotionally connected. i don't know what to do..
emma
2011-01-20T02:40:45.000Z
i want to say well done to who ever wrote this i just sort of stumbled on it and think it is the best advise you could give a teenager i remember how i felt before and wish i had someone to tell me this when i was younger :)
Anneka
2010-07-05T21:16:09.000Z
I agree with most of these but some of them sound like you're just trying to scare girls into thinking that if you have PROTECTED sex you're going to become pregnant. Now, while this does happen, it's not very likely to occur. I'm not saying don't have sex, but don't be so terrified that you don't want to try it because you don't want to become a lonely teenage mother. Just remember to be smart when you have sex and use proper protection. Anyways, great post all in all. :)
Lyzzie
2010-11-21T13:50:00.000Z
Lylas right, whorish as this sounds my first time was in the back of a car but I loved every second of it! almost every time I had sex there wasn't a fancy dinner and an elegant movie involved, there was just lust hehe. as long as u enjoy what ur doing the setting doesn't matter too much =] my ex and I did it in his bedroom like rabbits because his room is messy but comfy =] and cuddling afterwords makes it more fun!
Kitty
2013-01-26T19:01:37.000Z
My boyfriend and I have been together for awhile. We're 4 years apart but we don't care. Lately we've wanted to go farther but I'm a little nervous. We love each other but we are both under 18. Should we wait?

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