Aren’t romantic dates just the best? I just love sitting at a quiet corner table in a candlelit restaurant, holding hands across the table, engaged in great conversation… until something happens, and suddenly the mood is broken! So, I’ve made a little do and don’t list to help me keep the romance going on my big date nights.
1. Do listen …
When I’m on a romantic date, I try to talk 20% and listen 80%. It always makes my date feel valuable and appreciated when I’m interested in what he has to say. I love it when people listen to me, so of course my date would want me to return that favor! And, listening carefully really allows me to get to know someone.
2. Don’t talk about your ex …
Talking about people you’ve dated in the past is a classic instant turnoff. I always stay away from this topic when I’m on a date! I don’t talk about past loves, past mistakes in love, or even great relationships I have … I just don’t mention it at all. If my date brings up his past, I just brush by it quickly and change the topic.
3. Do order real food …
Most guys I know are not impressed by women who order small salads with dressing on the side. Even if I’m dieting, I eat like a real person on a date. I’ve gotten so many compliments from guys when I order a delicious small steak or a rich pasta meal … most guys see it as a refreshing change! Ordering a real meal shows that I’m a woman with big appetite for adventure, and that’s romantic!
4. Don’t overshare …
You do want to be honest, but you don’t want to ruin the moment by talking about things that should be private. I always try to think, “Would I want to hear my date talking about this topic?” If not, then I won’t talk about those things, either. I don’t talk about my health, menstrual cycle, any body functions, arguments or conflicts with family or friends, work problems … I just stay away from all the touchy stuff.
5. Do pay attention to body language …
Watching what a person does is just as important as listening to what he or she says in my opinion. I always try to pay attention to how my date sits, if he leans towards me or away, if he crosses his arms … these little clues let me know how he’s responding to me. Learn more about types of body language at Changing Minds.
6. Don’t be afraid of silence …
Sometimes, sharing a quiet moment can be very romantic. I don’t try to force conversation and fill every moment with words. I just sit and let my date be sometimes – it gives us both chance to reflect on how much we’ve enjoyed our time together!
7. Do be yourself …
If you want this relationship to be long-lasting, you’ve got to let your date get to know the real you. So, I don’t try to think about, “Is this something my date wouldn’t like about me?” before I talk about hobbies or interests. If he doesn’t like my hobbies or interests, then I don’t waste my time on a second date!
8. Don’t make sex the objective …
Romance doesn’t mean rushing into bed with someone. There’s nothing more romantic to me than sharing an intimate moment with someone you truly know and care about. So, take your time and get to know your date before taking it that far.
9. Do mind your manners …
Nothing ruins a romantic date for me faster than someone who chews with his mouth open or belches at the table. So, I always make sure to be on my best behavior on a romantic date. There’s plenty of time for letting it all hang out, but a romantic date isn’t the time! Here’s a great little review of good manners at WikiHow.
Other Great Dating Tips:
- 18 Budget Friendly Ways to Spice Up Your Relationship …
- 20 Flirting Rules to Always Get The Guy You Like …
- 5 Common First Date Mistakes You Should Avoid …
10. Don’t blow your budget …
There’s nothing romantic about realizing the next morning that you charged way too much to your credit card when on your date last night. I hate to think that I spent way too much on a night out! It totally ruins my mood. Don’t get caught up in the moment and order too many pricey drinks or go to clubs with a high cover. Stay true to your financial plans.
There are problems with your article right off the bat… #1, be a good listener. In theory that is a good idea, but if both people are talking 20% of the time and listening 80%, that is 60% of awkward silence.
I could go on and on, but I won’t…. I would love to take you out on a romantic date and show you how it really should be. We’ll make regular pauses in the date to review your rules and mine and we’ll see whoms rules lead to a more memorable and enjoyable romantic date…. Come on Katie, I know you’re up for a challenge. ;-)