I remember what a serious issue it is to decide wether to have or not have sex in high school. And when I decided to write a post that would have both pros and cons, I must admit – it was kind of hard for me to come up with 10 pros, being a girl myself.
I am now married to the one I lost my virginity to and am glad that I was his first as well. However, many friends of mine had a very different experience where having sex actually ruined their relationship with the guys they loved. So, if are thinking about having sex for the first time, you really need to think this all through.
And before you do, please consider these 20 teen sex pros and cons below:
10 Pros of Having Sex:
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#1
Of Course It is Rather Pleasurable Later on. It Will Be Even More Pleasurable if It is Done out of Love
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Having sex can be a pleasurable experience, and it can be even more enjoyable when it's done out of love. There are many benefits to having sex, such as improved physical and mental health, increased intimacy, and improved communication between partners. However, there are also some risks associated with having sex, such as the potential for sexually transmitted diseases, unplanned pregnancies, and emotional distress.
When it comes to physical health, having sex can help improve your overall health. Studies have shown that having sex can boost your immune system, reduce stress, and even help you sleep better. In addition, having sex can help you stay in shape, as it can increase your heart rate and burn calories.
Mentally, having sex can help reduce anxiety and depression. Studies have found that having sex can help reduce stress, improve mood, and even reduce the risk of developing Alzheimer's disease. In addition, having sex can help improve communication between partners, as it can help partners learn more about each other's needs and desires.
#2
When You Have Sex with Your Partner, You Are Going to Feel Closer to Them. Just Make Sure You Use Protection
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Having sex with your partner can be a great way to deepen your connection and feel closer to them. However, it's important to remember that sex can also bring about some risks. Here are some pros and cons to consider before having sex with your partner:
Pros:
• Increased intimacy: Sex is an intimate act and can bring couples closer together.
• Improved communication: Talking about sex and being open and honest with each other can improve communication between partners.
• Improved self-esteem: Having a fulfilling sex life can help boost self-esteem and confidence.
• Stress relief: Sex can be a great way to reduce stress and relax.
• Improved physical health: Sex can help improve physical health by releasing endorphins and boosting the immune system.
Cons:
• Risk of STIs: Having unprotected sex can put both partners at risk of contracting sexually transmitted infections.
• Unplanned pregnancy: Having unprotected sex can also put both partners at risk of an unplanned pregnancy.
• Emotional risks: Having sex can bring up a range of emotions, such as guilt, regret, anxiety, and fear.
#3
When You Have Sex as a Teenager, You Are Obviously Responsible and Know That You Are Responsible for What Could Happen…are You?
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Entering into sexual activity during the teenage years carries not just immediate physical consequences but also psychological and social responsibilities. It is essential to comprehend the implications—the potential for STI transmissions, pregnancy, and the emotional entanglements that come with intimacy. Moreover, navigating consent, peer pressure, and self-respect are crucial elements for a responsible sexual life. Even with the best intentions, the maturity to handle the aftermath—positive or negative—may vary among individuals. Thus, the decision should never be taken lightly; it calls for a profound sense of accountability and preparedness for all possible outcomes.
#4
The Two of You Are Going to Be Sharing Memories Together. when You Have Sex as a Teenager, This is Something That is Very Memorable and You Will Not Be Able to Forget It. Are You Ready for That?
#5
You Will Get to Experience Someone in a Way That You Would Not Normally Be Able to Experience Them
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Physical intimacy can unveil layers of a person's personality that are kept hidden in day-to-day interactions. It can reveal vulnerabilities, passions, and a level of trust that might take years to develop through conversation alone. Sharing this closeness can strengthen the bond between you and your partner, providing a unique insight into their desires and what makes them feel loved. However, it's important to approach this with care and mutual respect, ensuring that both of you are comfortable and consenting to deepen your connection in such a profound way.
#6
As a Teenager, You Will Be Able to Learn What You like and Dislike during Sexual Intercourse
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As a teenager, you may be curious about sex and want to explore it for yourself. However, it is important to remember that sex is a big decision and should not be taken lightly. There are both pros and cons to having sex as a teenager. Pros include increased pleasure, better understanding of yourself and your partner, and the potential to build stronger relationships. Cons include the risk of unplanned pregnancy, contracting sexually transmitted infections, and the potential for emotional distress. It is important to talk to your partner about expectations and boundaries, practice safe sex, and be aware of the risks involved.
#7
You Will Get to Learn What Sleeping with Someone is like
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Having sex with someone can be a great experience, but it is important to consider the pros and cons before deciding to do it. The pros of having sex include increased intimacy, pleasure, and improved physical and mental health. Sex can also help to strengthen relationships, reduce stress, and even improve communication.
On the other hand, there are some potential risks associated with having sex. These risks include unwanted pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections (STIs), and emotional issues such as guilt, regret, or feelings of shame. It is important to practice safe sex and always use protection to help reduce the risk of STIs and unwanted pregnancy.
It is also important to discuss sexual health with your partner before engaging in sexual activity. This includes talking about previous partners, sexual history, and any STIs you may have. It is also important to discuss your expectations and boundaries before having sex.
Additionally, it is important to make sure that both partners are comfortable and consenting before engaging in sexual activity. This means that both partners are of legal age, sober, and fully aware of what they are consenting to.
#8
You Will Be Able to Learn What to do and Will Be Gaining More Experiences
#9
When you sleep with someone one your wedding night, you will not have to worry about having to experience, because you had it as a teenager. This is even better if you marry the one you lost your virginity to
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The act of having sex on your wedding night is an ancient tradition that has been practiced in many cultures for centuries. It is seen as a way to celebrate the union of two people and to signify the start of a new life together. Having sex on your wedding night can be a special and intimate experience that you and your partner will never forget. However, it can also be a source of stress and anxiety if you are not comfortable with the idea. It is important to make sure that both partners are ready and willing to engage in this intimate act. Additionally, it is important to remember that you do not have to have sex on your wedding night if you are not ready. There are many ways to celebrate your marriage without having to engage in sexual activity.
#10
The Two of You Could Be Spending the Rest of Your Lives in Each Other’s Life Simply Because You Had Sex…
10 Cons of Having Sex:
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Having sex can have both positive and negative consequences. On the plus side, it can be an enjoyable and intimate experience, shared between two people. On the downside, it can lead to physical and emotional risks, such as unplanned pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections, and feelings of regret. It is important to be aware of these potential risks and weigh them against the potential benefits before engaging in any sexual activity. Additionally, it is important to practice safe sex by using protection and getting tested for STIs regularly. Furthermore, both partners should be comfortable and consenting before engaging in any sexual activities.
#11
You Will Have a Sexual past. when You Get out of Your Teenage Years, That Sexual past Could Come Back and Haunt You. for Those Guys out There, How Would It Be to Find out the Girl You Slept with as a Teenager Had a Child without You Knowing and Five Years Later, You Found out the Truth? for Those Girls, Why Would You Want to Put Yourself through This Risk?
#12
This One is Intended for Girls…when a Guy Sleeps with You and Tells You That He Will Take That Responsibility if Something Happens, You May Want to Think Twice as Their Hormones May Just Be Raging. No Boy (that is What They Are) is Ready to Take on a Responsibility as Big as a Baby
#13
Of Course, You Are at Risk of Contacting Some Type of Sexual Disease, Even if You do Use Protection, Your Chances Will Still Be There
#14
You Will Be Risking Pregnancy Even Using Protection
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Having sex is an important decision that should not be taken lightly. While it can be a pleasurable experience, it also comes with risks. One of these risks is the possibility of pregnancy, even with the use of protection.
When having sex, it is important to understand the risks associated with it and to be prepared for the consequences. While the use of protection, such as condoms and birth control, can help reduce the risk of pregnancy, it is not a guarantee. Condoms can break or slip off, and birth control can fail. Even if the protection is used correctly, there is still a chance of pregnancy.
In addition to the risk of pregnancy, having sex can also put people at risk for sexually transmitted infections (STIs). Even if protection is used, it is possible to contract an STI, as some STIs are spread through skin-to-skin contact. It is important to get tested regularly and to use protection every time you have sex to reduce the risk of STIs.
#15
If You do Not Have Sex with Someone, then You Will Be Labeled as “hard to Get” and That is Good, Because That Means All of Those Good Girls and Guys Will Come around to Date You
#16
If You do Not Sleep with Someone as a Teenager, This Means That You Have Good Morals for Yourself
#17
The Wedding Night Will Be Wonderful and Will Be Very Memorable, Especially if the Both of You Are Still Virgins
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Embracing each other on such an intimate level for the first time can really solidify your bond and commitment. The awe of discovering each other's bodies and preferences can be exciting, albeit a bit nerve-wracking. Remember, it's perfectly normal to feel a mixture of emotions, from elation to anxiety. The key is to communicate openly and take things at a pace that feels comfortable for both partners. Cherish the moment, because it's a unique experience that can't be recreated — one that you'll likely reminisce about in the years to come.
#18
You Will Be Saving Yourself for the Right Person to Come in Your Life, Which Really Does Mean Something
#19
You Will Not Be Putting Your Heart on the Line…oh and You Will Not Be Grounded by Your Parents when They Find out. Yes, They Will Eventually Find out, Trust Me
#20
Most of All, You Will Have Something to Wait for. You’ll Have Something to Dream about and Look Forward to
Oh, did I mention the first times around it's SO painful, you'll find yourself crying (with pain) during the sex and asking yourself why you wanted to do it in the first place. And also, if you consider having sex with a guy just to make him fall for you, it's not going to work. All you'll do is lose virginity and any chance of having a real relationship with him.
Now, guys and girls, you tell me, when you look out the pros and cons of teen sex and you compare them together, which ones look the best? Honestly, I am not going to make your decision as everyone is different, but I think the cons side looks better … Want More Dating Tips?
you make it look like sex is some horrible experience... it's not, it's something wonderfull
(not trying to be disrespectful or anything) but in my experience Americans seem to either have sex as a teenager or wait till marriage. I live in the UK and agree that I might not be able to see both sides of this but the legal age of sex here is 16 but most people don't lose their virginity until they're 17 or 18. I don't know of anybody I have ever met who believes in waiting till marriage. I know this wasn't very related to this article but I read quite a lot of comments on here about waiting fir marriage and having very young sex.
All of you are discussing about this matter in circles, because none of you talked about a standard, which obviosly you dont have, no wait, I think you are your own standard actually and that is why many of you do not get in accord with your beliefs, others (like the youngest ones) just follow the ideas that sound more convenient to them (temporarily, currently), they are obviously wondering these things because they are more prompt to decide having sex and they understand from these discussions what they want to understand or agree with. I say, there should be a standard, there should be a more convenient way to live sexuality than just whatever "suits" or seems more temporarily convenient or pleasant, if not, then those guys who have sex with the girls would not be wrong when breaking up with them and afterwards mock of them, because prior to that it seemed suitable for them to have sex with the girl just because he wanted her and had desires for her, and didnt do it out of love or consideration what whatever is good. I think we can say or decide what "suits" better and if we say that that is the right thing to do we would be encouring everyone to be selfish and even monsters, because there is no standard for what would be good. Think about it.
stop trying to shame teenagers into not having sex. Tell them to be responsible and use a condom. Abstinence only have never worked, come on, you know that. And yes, I do think that if you're 15(they age of consent in my country) you can have sex if you feel ready. I lost my virginity at 16, and I don't regret it one bit. If you like someone and you want to sleep together, don't play games. Just tell them so. Condoms are 99% save, and if I do get pregnant at 17, there's abortion. Sure all you people are open-minded, if you live in Alabama.
Hello all you peoples! I don't know what type of attitude this comment will give off but I don't mean for it to be contradictory or argumentative at all. (Just want to say that before I get started :D ) I am sixteen. My boyfriend is 18. Yah yah yah I've heard it all, I wouldn't bother scolding me if I were you, my friends do enough of that :D We are best friends, no tension very relaxed. We poke fun at each other, hang out and stuff friends do, just with a little more physical contact. We have gotten handsie/handsy (is that even a word?) and no awkwardness really. If anything it is a outlet for stress and a another way to show affection. For the past few days I have been looking into birth control and condoms and having sex as a highschooler. This is the stuff I have read over and over again (in regards to sex at my age). The reason I am researching not just birthcontrols but sex in highschool is this: My friends are anti anything relationship wise. These kids squeal in disgust when I hug him. I love them, don't get me wrong, but it is scaring me away from doing something I really want to do. In regards to abortion, from a teen's perceptive, it is not an easy escape. For some people (*cough* Kardashians *cough*) it is, but for (many) teens it is mortifying. Yes, I would rather have an abortion than have a child that would not only ruin my life but would grow up without a doubt in it's mind that it was a mistake. My parents were married when they had me and I feel intensely guilty whenever they don't have enough money for a good vacation because they need to bring me along, and I was PLANNED. Well anyways, I agree with abstaining and the points that it can hurt if you have never done anything at all, but love can be found in highschool, even if it crumbles apart #whatdoesn'tkillyoumakesyoustronger I guess. Everyone tells me it will fall apart but I'd like to have my first with someone I care about, who knows when that'll happen again. Also, I would like to hear stories from people who waited and then lost their virginity to another person who was not, because, lets be honest virgins older than 20 are rarer than they have been. Sorry this is kinda random, just wanted to get it out there :D Sorry if this offended anyone, I love you all ;) please don't yell at me :( (Sorry for any spelling errors and the length :D )
This is incredibly biased and wrong. There are many pros for sex, you repeated them and gave little description about the points made, while you went off on one about how bad sex is. Most girls are smart enough to get protection. I know no pregnant teenagers because they use contraception correctly. I lost my virginity at the age of 17 with my boyfriend of 7 months. He was a virgin too (No chance of STDs or STIs),we used condoms and I was on the pill. It was agonizing and rather awkward but after a few times it was fantastic and losing it with him was the best decisions. The truth is, sex for the first time is bad and unconformable but it'll get better with time and practice. Although, I'm glad I waited for him to come along, instead of doing what my other male and female friends did. Most lose it at 13-15 but I waited. I wouldn't save my virginity for my wedding night because it was agonizingly painful and to have that on one of the most special nights of my life would ruin it. All that blood, pain and awkwardness just for bad sex. Saving it doesn't make you a better or nicer person and most men where I live love women with experience. Furthermore, its your choice, so don't force others into your decisions, like this post does. Also, forget religion because in those days women were sold as sex slaves or property to a man to give birth to children and to pleasure him.
I don't see anything wrong about making sex, in whatever age, since the person feels to be ready to it. But I also don't think it's right to call a 15-year-old girl to the reality of the facts. We are grownup people, experienced, and learned the hard way that having sex may not be the key to making a relationship last more. But, on the other hand, not having sex can make the relationship last less/ or even ruin it thoroughly. Everyone should analyse his/her own circumstances and find out his own pros and cons based not only on the theoretical experience learned, but also on what he wants. I am not encouraging, but dis-encouraging someone who is only in doubt - is also not fair. I am 30, a man, and I confess, even not being virgin anymore, I still find myself in situations in which I doubt whether I should "sleep" with a girl or not. One thing is for sure... we must not only be ready for what is happening at the moment, but try to be ready for what comes after it. I've seen no relationship that didn't change a bit after sex came in, which doesn't mean your relationship will have a bad change. It could come for the better of it. Having sex is one of the most natural thing on earth. If you leave a couple of teens on the desert, alone, they will start having sex in no time and this will not be bad at all, regardless in which age they begin with. Let's try not to be so influenced on our egos and the morals/ standards the society imposes on us and be more humans. Use condoms always and have fun.
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sarah:you make it look like sex is some horrible experience... it's not, it's something wonderfull
Anonymous:(not trying to be disrespectful or anything) but in my experience Americans seem to either have sex as a teenager or wait till marriage. I live in the UK and agree that I might not be able to see both sides of this but the legal age of sex here is 16 but most people don't lose their virginity until they're 17 or 18. I don't know of anybody I have ever met who believes in waiting till marriage. I know this wasn't very related to this article but I read quite a lot of comments on here about waiting fir marriage and having very young sex.
Lisa:All of you are discussing about this matter in circles, because none of you talked about a standard, which obviosly you dont have, no wait, I think you are your own standard actually and that is why many of you do not get in accord with your beliefs, others (like the youngest ones) just follow the ideas that sound more convenient to them (temporarily, currently), they are obviously wondering these things because they are more prompt to decide having sex and they understand from these discussions what they want to understand or agree with. I say, there should be a standard, there should be a more convenient way to live sexuality than just whatever "suits" or seems more temporarily convenient or pleasant, if not, then those guys who have sex with the girls would not be wrong when breaking up with them and afterwards mock of them, because prior to that it seemed suitable for them to have sex with the girl just because he wanted her and had desires for her, and didnt do it out of love or consideration what whatever is good. I think we can say or decide what "suits" better and if we say that that is the right thing to do we would be encouring everyone to be selfish and even monsters, because there is no standard for what would be good. Think about it.
Johanna:stop trying to shame teenagers into not having sex. Tell them to be responsible and use a condom. Abstinence only have never worked, come on, you know that. And yes, I do think that if you're 15(they age of consent in my country) you can have sex if you feel ready. I lost my virginity at 16, and I don't regret it one bit. If you like someone and you want to sleep together, don't play games. Just tell them so. Condoms are 99% save, and if I do get pregnant at 17, there's abortion. Sure all you people are open-minded, if you live in Alabama.
Alex-andra:Hello all you peoples! I don't know what type of attitude this comment will give off but I don't mean for it to be contradictory or argumentative at all. (Just want to say that before I get started :D ) I am sixteen. My boyfriend is 18. Yah yah yah I've heard it all, I wouldn't bother scolding me if I were you, my friends do enough of that :D We are best friends, no tension very relaxed. We poke fun at each other, hang out and stuff friends do, just with a little more physical contact. We have gotten handsie/handsy (is that even a word?) and no awkwardness really. If anything it is a outlet for stress and a another way to show affection. For the past few days I have been looking into birth control and condoms and having sex as a highschooler. This is the stuff I have read over and over again (in regards to sex at my age). The reason I am researching not just birthcontrols but sex in highschool is this: My friends are anti anything relationship wise. These kids squeal in disgust when I hug him. I love them, don't get me wrong, but it is scaring me away from doing something I really want to do. In regards to abortion, from a teen's perceptive, it is not an easy escape. For some people (*cough* Kardashians *cough*) it is, but for (many) teens it is mortifying. Yes, I would rather have an abortion than have a child that would not only ruin my life but would grow up without a doubt in it's mind that it was a mistake. My parents were married when they had me and I feel intensely guilty whenever they don't have enough money for a good vacation because they need to bring me along, and I was PLANNED. Well anyways, I agree with abstaining and the points that it can hurt if you have never done anything at all, but love can be found in highschool, even if it crumbles apart #whatdoesn'tkillyoumakesyoustronger I guess. Everyone tells me it will fall apart but I'd like to have my first with someone I care about, who knows when that'll happen again. Also, I would like to hear stories from people who waited and then lost their virginity to another person who was not, because, lets be honest virgins older than 20 are rarer than they have been. Sorry this is kinda random, just wanted to get it out there :D Sorry if this offended anyone, I love you all ;) please don't yell at me :( (Sorry for any spelling errors and the length :D )
Nat:This is incredibly biased and wrong. There are many pros for sex, you repeated them and gave little description about the points made, while you went off on one about how bad sex is. Most girls are smart enough to get protection. I know no pregnant teenagers because they use contraception correctly. I lost my virginity at the age of 17 with my boyfriend of 7 months. He was a virgin too (No chance of STDs or STIs),we used condoms and I was on the pill. It was agonizing and rather awkward but after a few times it was fantastic and losing it with him was the best decisions. The truth is, sex for the first time is bad and unconformable but it'll get better with time and practice. Although, I'm glad I waited for him to come along, instead of doing what my other male and female friends did. Most lose it at 13-15 but I waited. I wouldn't save my virginity for my wedding night because it was agonizingly painful and to have that on one of the most special nights of my life would ruin it. All that blood, pain and awkwardness just for bad sex. Saving it doesn't make you a better or nicer person and most men where I live love women with experience. Furthermore, its your choice, so don't force others into your decisions, like this post does. Also, forget religion because in those days women were sold as sex slaves or property to a man to give birth to children and to pleasure him.
Bruno:I don't see anything wrong about making sex, in whatever age, since the person feels to be ready to it. But I also don't think it's right to call a 15-year-old girl to the reality of the facts. We are grownup people, experienced, and learned the hard way that having sex may not be the key to making a relationship last more. But, on the other hand, not having sex can make the relationship last less/ or even ruin it thoroughly. Everyone should analyse his/her own circumstances and find out his own pros and cons based not only on the theoretical experience learned, but also on what he wants. I am not encouraging, but dis-encouraging someone who is only in doubt - is also not fair. I am 30, a man, and I confess, even not being virgin anymore, I still find myself in situations in which I doubt whether I should "sleep" with a girl or not. One thing is for sure... we must not only be ready for what is happening at the moment, but try to be ready for what comes after it. I've seen no relationship that didn't change a bit after sex came in, which doesn't mean your relationship will have a bad change. It could come for the better of it. Having sex is one of the most natural thing on earth. If you leave a couple of teens on the desert, alone, they will start having sex in no time and this will not be bad at all, regardless in which age they begin with. Let's try not to be so influenced on our egos and the morals/ standards the society imposes on us and be more humans. Use condoms always and have fun.
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