20 Pros and Cons of Having Sex ...

20 Pros and Cons of Having Sex ...
By Melanie • Dec 30, 2025

I remember what a serious issue it is to decide wether to have or not have sex in high school. And when I decided to write a post that would have both pros and cons, I must admit – it was kind of hard for me to come up with 10 pros, being a girl myself.

I am now married to the one I lost my virginity to and am glad that I was his first as well. However, many friends of mine had a very different experience where having sex actually ruined their relationship with the guys they loved. So, if are thinking about having sex for the first time, you really need to think this all through.

And before you do, please consider these 20 teen sex pros and cons below:

10 Pros of Having Sex:

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#1

Of Course It is Rather Pleasurable Later on. It Will Be Even More Pleasurable if It is Done out of Love

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Having sex can be a pleasurable experience, and it can be even more enjoyable when it's done out of love. There are many benefits to having sex, such as improved physical and mental health, increased intimacy, and improved communication between partners. However, there are also some risks associated with having sex, such as the potential for sexually transmitted diseases, unplanned pregnancies, and emotional distress.

When it comes to physical health, having sex can help improve your overall health. Studies have shown that having sex can boost your immune system, reduce stress, and even help you sleep better. In addition, having sex can help you stay in shape, as it can increase your heart rate and burn calories.

Mentally, having sex can help reduce anxiety and depression. Studies have found that having sex can help reduce stress, improve mood, and even reduce the risk of developing Alzheimer's disease. In addition, having sex can help improve communication between partners, as it can help partners learn more about each other's needs and desires.

#2

When You Have Sex with Your Partner, You Are Going to Feel Closer to Them. Just Make Sure You Use Protection

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Having sex with your partner can be a great way to deepen your connection and feel closer to them. However, it's important to remember that sex can also bring about some risks. Here are some pros and cons to consider before having sex with your partner:

Pros:

• Increased intimacy: Sex is an intimate act and can bring couples closer together.

• Improved communication: Talking about sex and being open and honest with each other can improve communication between partners.

• Improved self-esteem: Having a fulfilling sex life can help boost self-esteem and confidence.

• Stress relief: Sex can be a great way to reduce stress and relax.

• Improved physical health: Sex can help improve physical health by releasing endorphins and boosting the immune system.

Cons:

• Risk of STIs: Having unprotected sex can put both partners at risk of contracting sexually transmitted infections.

• Unplanned pregnancy: Having unprotected sex can also put both partners at risk of an unplanned pregnancy.

• Emotional risks: Having sex can bring up a range of emotions, such as guilt, regret, anxiety, and fear.

#3

When You Have Sex as a Teenager, You Are Obviously Responsible and Know That You Are Responsible for What Could Happen…are You?

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Entering into sexual activity during the teenage years carries not just immediate physical consequences but also psychological and social responsibilities. It is essential to comprehend the implications—the potential for STI transmissions, pregnancy, and the emotional entanglements that come with intimacy. Moreover, navigating consent, peer pressure, and self-respect are crucial elements for a responsible sexual life. Even with the best intentions, the maturity to handle the aftermath—positive or negative—may vary among individuals. Thus, the decision should never be taken lightly; it calls for a profound sense of accountability and preparedness for all possible outcomes.

#4

The Two of You Are Going to Be Sharing Memories Together. when You Have Sex as a Teenager, This is Something That is Very Memorable and You Will Not Be Able to Forget It. Are You Ready for That?

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#5

You Will Get to Experience Someone in a Way That You Would Not Normally Be Able to Experience Them

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Physical intimacy can unveil layers of a person's personality that are kept hidden in day-to-day interactions. It can reveal vulnerabilities, passions, and a level of trust that might take years to develop through conversation alone. Sharing this closeness can strengthen the bond between you and your partner, providing a unique insight into their desires and what makes them feel loved. However, it's important to approach this with care and mutual respect, ensuring that both of you are comfortable and consenting to deepen your connection in such a profound way.

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#6

As a Teenager, You Will Be Able to Learn What You like and Dislike during Sexual Intercourse

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As a teenager, you may be curious about sex and want to explore it for yourself. However, it is important to remember that sex is a big decision and should not be taken lightly. There are both pros and cons to having sex as a teenager. Pros include increased pleasure, better understanding of yourself and your partner, and the potential to build stronger relationships. Cons include the risk of unplanned pregnancy, contracting sexually transmitted infections, and the potential for emotional distress. It is important to talk to your partner about expectations and boundaries, practice safe sex, and be aware of the risks involved.

#7

You Will Get to Learn What Sleeping with Someone is like

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Having sex with someone can be a great experience, but it is important to consider the pros and cons before deciding to do it. The pros of having sex include increased intimacy, pleasure, and improved physical and mental health. Sex can also help to strengthen relationships, reduce stress, and even improve communication.

On the other hand, there are some potential risks associated with having sex. These risks include unwanted pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections (STIs), and emotional issues such as guilt, regret, or feelings of shame. It is important to practice safe sex and always use protection to help reduce the risk of STIs and unwanted pregnancy.

It is also important to discuss sexual health with your partner before engaging in sexual activity. This includes talking about previous partners, sexual history, and any STIs you may have. It is also important to discuss your expectations and boundaries before having sex.

Additionally, it is important to make sure that both partners are comfortable and consenting before engaging in sexual activity. This means that both partners are of legal age, sober, and fully aware of what they are consenting to.

#8

You Will Be Able to Learn What to do and Will Be Gaining More Experiences

#9

When you sleep with someone one your wedding night, you will not have to worry about having to experience, because you had it as a teenager. This is even better if you marry the one you lost your virginity to

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The act of having sex on your wedding night is an ancient tradition that has been practiced in many cultures for centuries. It is seen as a way to celebrate the union of two people and to signify the start of a new life together. Having sex on your wedding night can be a special and intimate experience that you and your partner will never forget. However, it can also be a source of stress and anxiety if you are not comfortable with the idea. It is important to make sure that both partners are ready and willing to engage in this intimate act. Additionally, it is important to remember that you do not have to have sex on your wedding night if you are not ready. There are many ways to celebrate your marriage without having to engage in sexual activity.

#10

The Two of You Could Be Spending the Rest of Your Lives in Each Other’s Life Simply Because You Had Sex…

10 Cons of Having Sex:

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Having sex can have both positive and negative consequences. On the plus side, it can be an enjoyable and intimate experience, shared between two people. On the downside, it can lead to physical and emotional risks, such as unplanned pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections, and feelings of regret. It is important to be aware of these potential risks and weigh them against the potential benefits before engaging in any sexual activity. Additionally, it is important to practice safe sex by using protection and getting tested for STIs regularly. Furthermore, both partners should be comfortable and consenting before engaging in any sexual activities.

#11

You Will Have a Sexual past. when You Get out of Your Teenage Years, That Sexual past Could Come Back and Haunt You. for Those Guys out There, How Would It Be to Find out the Girl You Slept with as a Teenager Had a Child without You Knowing and Five Years Later, You Found out the Truth? for Those Girls, Why Would You Want to Put Yourself through This Risk?

#12

This One is Intended for Girls…when a Guy Sleeps with You and Tells You That He Will Take That Responsibility if Something Happens, You May Want to Think Twice as Their Hormones May Just Be Raging. No Boy (that is What They Are) is Ready to Take on a Responsibility as Big as a Baby

#13

Of Course, You Are at Risk of Contacting Some Type of Sexual Disease, Even if You do Use Protection, Your Chances Will Still Be There

#14

You Will Be Risking Pregnancy Even Using Protection

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Having sex is an important decision that should not be taken lightly. While it can be a pleasurable experience, it also comes with risks. One of these risks is the possibility of pregnancy, even with the use of protection.

When having sex, it is important to understand the risks associated with it and to be prepared for the consequences. While the use of protection, such as condoms and birth control, can help reduce the risk of pregnancy, it is not a guarantee. Condoms can break or slip off, and birth control can fail. Even if the protection is used correctly, there is still a chance of pregnancy.

In addition to the risk of pregnancy, having sex can also put people at risk for sexually transmitted infections (STIs). Even if protection is used, it is possible to contract an STI, as some STIs are spread through skin-to-skin contact. It is important to get tested regularly and to use protection every time you have sex to reduce the risk of STIs.

#15

If You do Not Have Sex with Someone, then You Will Be Labeled as “hard to Get” and That is Good, Because That Means All of Those Good Girls and Guys Will Come around to Date You

#16

If You do Not Sleep with Someone as a Teenager, This Means That You Have Good Morals for Yourself

#17

The Wedding Night Will Be Wonderful and Will Be Very Memorable, Especially if the Both of You Are Still Virgins

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Embracing each other on such an intimate level for the first time can really solidify your bond and commitment. The awe of discovering each other's bodies and preferences can be exciting, albeit a bit nerve-wracking. Remember, it's perfectly normal to feel a mixture of emotions, from elation to anxiety. The key is to communicate openly and take things at a pace that feels comfortable for both partners. Cherish the moment, because it's a unique experience that can't be recreated — one that you'll likely reminisce about in the years to come.

#18

You Will Be Saving Yourself for the Right Person to Come in Your Life, Which Really Does Mean Something

#19

You Will Not Be Putting Your Heart on the Line…oh and You Will Not Be Grounded by Your Parents when They Find out. Yes, They Will Eventually Find out, Trust Me

#20

Most of All, You Will Have Something to Wait for. You’ll Have Something to Dream about and Look Forward to

Oh, did I mention the first times around it's SO painful, you'll find yourself crying (with pain) during the sex and asking yourself why you wanted to do it in the first place. And also, if you consider having sex with a guy just to make him fall for you, it's not going to work. All you'll do is lose virginity and any chance of having a real relationship with him.

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Justine, I have learned from my actions. I was 19 when I first got pregnant and that happened the first time I lost my virginity. I had no regrets at all. I knew that when I had sex, I was taking a chance and I didn't do so until I was ready. I am married to the father of the child and have been for 6 years, happily. Once you look into that little babies eyes, you will not have any regrets. My little girl is 5 years old and is my life. When I talk about teens that shouldn't have sex, I am putting a lot of focus on the ones below 18. More in the 13-16 age range. There are teenagers out there that reach out to people for advice. They are too afraid to ask someone in person, so they turn to blogs like this. Just maybe, we can get our point across and help them think about their decision that they will be making. Maybe stop them from falling into "peer pressure." As for the negative comments, that's just fine. I'm not saying an article can change society, but it is at least a small start forward. You take care of yourself and I wish you the best luck in your life.

Bad post. This was obviously biased toward the cons, even in the pro section.

Hi ladies im 17 going 18 in 4 mnths time i have been dating my boyfriend for the past year and 5 months. He is my first love and only and we have become really close, closer that when we are together things become so heated up that we end up naked but never have sex, i never regret it though cause it feels right. He is 6yrs older than me and is so understanding and nothing compared to what i feared about guys. He knows that we cant have sex but everytime we get to that point im the one who wants to go further. I really love him and i want him to be my first as much as he wants me to be his first but how do i know if im ready? How do i know that things wont change after the first time?

yeah it was a good post, but you are only focusing on the bab side, very few people who have sex end up pregnant. in england the age is 16 and tbh most poeple have lost it at 15 but they dont all end up teen mums half of them go to the doctors and get the pill which is the responisible thing to do. i dont know anyone in my year who is willing to have sex without a condom or any type of protection because a majority of schools teach protection to students. honestly sex isnt a bad thing while being a teenager ( i dot think 13 and 14 is too young) and your blog was slightly biased towards to cons but i guess thats because you married the guy you lost it too which is really sweet, but that just doesnt really happen anymore. anyway sorry i rambled a bit here ele xo

wow... biased much? i lost my virginity while still in high school, and so far i have great morals and i havent had a child yet. i think teens need to know the risks as well as their options, like birth control. if someone loves you, theyll love you for you, not because you "waited". wow, you need to open the doors and be a little less closed minded.

what do mainly say about God's command of avoiding sex before marriage? I think He has great reasons for that and He as God can't tell us to do what we can't afford.Remember,bible indicates that He is always after His word to do what He said.Nothing He can not do.He can help u thru controlling ur feelings that time before marriage until its ur ryt time after being married.why can't u give him chance and obey him as God ? thank you!

i lost my virginity at 14 to a 15yr old i wus in 9th and he wus in 10th it ruined us. i didnt want to touch him, look at him, it ended a week later. and the sad part is i wus only with him 3 weeks. now everyone knows. i was the freshmen slut my whooole freshmen yr and now my friends joke around by insulting me by saying his name. and i say w/e and i make jokes of it and stuff, but everyone knows i regret it i really do, i never had sex since and im 16, and the worst part is, theres this boy whos always askin me for it wait theres 3 and i say no to all.i have morals. srsly i found this blog mad helpful, so thankyou!!!!

stop trying to shame teenagers into not having sex. Tell them to be responsible and use a condom. Abstinence only have never worked, come on, you know that. And yes, I do think that if you're 15(they age of consent in my country) you can have sex if you feel ready. I lost my virginity at 16, and I don't regret it one bit. If you like someone and you want to sleep together, don't play games. Just tell them so. Condoms are 99% save, and if I do get pregnant at 17, there's abortion. Sure all you people are open-minded, if you live in Alabama.

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