Even very attractive women can struggle to get dates. The reason often has to do with mistakes in the initial stages of meeting guy for the first time. We humans are social creatures; whether male of female, in the first ten minutes of conversation we do a lot of sizing up. In fact, it is likely that within the first 10 minutes of conversation we will have had all the required <a title="10 Ways to Impress Someone on a First Date …" href="https://allwomenstalk.com/10-ways-to-impress-someone-on-a-first-date/">first impressions about whether or not a member of the opposite sex is someone we would like to get to know better.
So wouldn’t it be nice to make the right first impression? Well, why don’t we start with what NOT to do; because it’s the little things that make guys run for the hills:
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1. Trying too Hard to Be Sexy/ Too Forward/ Too Predatory
Contrary to what some girls think, overtly attempting to flirt and make provocative sexy advances too early on is a big turn off. Put plainly, it freaks a guy out, and whether true or not, be sure he will make all kinds of assumptions about how promiscuous a girl is based on this behaviour. You can also be sure that he’ll assume you act this way for every guy. Also, Shock! Horror! A man may ACTUALLY wants to get to know a bit about you as a person.
The end–result of this kind of behaviour for the guy is stale conversation and a lack of challenge. If a guy feels like you’ll clap and dance at anything he says, he will get bored. It is better to tease him slightly when he’s not funny; he’ll respect you more for not being so easily entertained.
Quite simple. Women don’t like drunk men; women about to keel over with alcohol are just as repellent to the male species. There is no greater mood killer for a man than when a girl he has just been kissing turns and seductively whispers in his ear “I am sooo drunk right now”.
4. Trying to Appear to Strong and Not Letting Their Vulnerable Side Show
This is a tricky one for many women to get right, especially those who enjoy being very independent. Here’s the thing, self-sufficient strong women are sexy, but men want to know there is a sweet girl with feelings in there somewhere. If a guy gets the feeling you’re an ice queen incapable of romance, he may look elsewhere for a woman more likely to cuddle up with him when the weather turns cold.
If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.
5. Giggling and Whispering with Girl Mates
Ironically, when it comes to getting male attraction, your best friends can be your worst enemies. Turning around every minute to whisper conspiratorially with your girlfriends may drive him crazy, but NOT in the way you might be hoping! It makes a man feel like you don’t respect him enough to include him or pay attention to what he has to say.
Bottom line: Don’t make these common, but easy to make mistakes. Even just doing this will put you way ahead of the curve and increase your chances of him calling you back. See you soon!
Matthew Hussey – Founder, MD – **https://www.gettheguy.co.uk
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Ok so I think I like this guy in my college but I just dont know how to talk to him at all....I don't have any class with him. I just see him in the hall but very time I pass I can see that he looking at me, not just a look then away but like a staring look... I don't know what to do...should make a first move??? Please help!!!
also he wanted sex, and I said no I didn't want that and he said that was okay, he respected that, but his friend told him thats a turn off? is it really?
Hi, I am man who has been on a few dates in my life. Most of the things don't bother me because i know everyone is uncomfortable on the first date except for number 5. I can not understand why a women would put her girlfriend between herself and the man she is with. Doing that will send any good man away very quickly, and any man who does stay is probably not the kind of man you would want to be with. He is not staying because he wants to know you he is staying because he wants something from you. The other thing that is really dangerous to a date is not answering the mans questions. Sometimes I meet women who are curious about me, but they don't want to answer questions about themselves. This is very rude, and the fastest way to lose a good man. If you want to be close to someone you have to be open to them. Grantham
I have a crush on this guy at my school but I don't think he likes me in that why. We are good friends though and i don't want to loose that friendship between us. He is a boy that has lots of good friends that are girls and and I don't know what to do. Im nearly 13 as well and I don't know if I should invite him as my twin might think its wierd even though she has a boyfriend. HELP ME PLEASE!
I have been speaking to a boy for a while now, but the problem is we like eachother but we are too far away. I have insisted he comes down but he said it was just too far. How can I make this relationship work? He tells me constantly he loves me but how can I believe him? And how can we get closer as people whilst waiting for the distance to close up itself! Please help me
Dear people of the world. I personally think that sex on the first date is actually very good for relatioships. Especially if you are promiscuous. If you are really into sex (who isn't) it means you will have a hook up buddy. And that in my book is way better than any relationship. PS- the pull out method really works.
ive been seeing guy now for 12 weeks always seen him on the weekend when we can he knew how was free this weekend but he didnt want to see me,does that mean anything,he does like his own space he doesnt want a relationship what does this mean
what i dont understand is y a guy wud ask u out and then cancel last minute. if you dont want 2 go on a date dont ask!
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Janella:Ok so I think I like this guy in my college but I just dont know how to talk to him at all....I don't have any class with him. I just see him in the hall but very time I pass I can see that he looking at me, not just a look then away but like a staring look... I don't know what to do...should make a first move??? Please help!!!
Jordan:also he wanted sex, and I said no I didn't want that and he said that was okay, he respected that, but his friend told him thats a turn off? is it really?
Grantham:Hi, I am man who has been on a few dates in my life. Most of the things don't bother me because i know everyone is uncomfortable on the first date except for number 5. I can not understand why a women would put her girlfriend between herself and the man she is with. Doing that will send any good man away very quickly, and any man who does stay is probably not the kind of man you would want to be with. He is not staying because he wants to know you he is staying because he wants something from you. The other thing that is really dangerous to a date is not answering the mans questions. Sometimes I meet women who are curious about me, but they don't want to answer questions about themselves. This is very rude, and the fastest way to lose a good man. If you want to be close to someone you have to be open to them. Grantham
Anonymous:I have a crush on this guy at my school but I don't think he likes me in that why. We are good friends though and i don't want to loose that friendship between us. He is a boy that has lots of good friends that are girls and and I don't know what to do. Im nearly 13 as well and I don't know if I should invite him as my twin might think its wierd even though she has a boyfriend. HELP ME PLEASE!
Marie:I have been speaking to a boy for a while now, but the problem is we like eachother but we are too far away. I have insisted he comes down but he said it was just too far. How can I make this relationship work? He tells me constantly he loves me but how can I believe him? And how can we get closer as people whilst waiting for the distance to close up itself! Please help me
Shelby:Dear people of the world. I personally think that sex on the first date is actually very good for relatioships. Especially if you are promiscuous. If you are really into sex (who isn't) it means you will have a hook up buddy. And that in my book is way better than any relationship. PS- the pull out method really works.
michele:ive been seeing guy now for 12 weeks always seen him on the weekend when we can he knew how was free this weekend but he didnt want to see me,does that mean anything,he does like his own space he doesnt want a relationship what does this mean
T:what i dont understand is y a guy wud ask u out and then cancel last minute. if you dont want 2 go on a date dont ask!
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