So you like him. Call it a crush, butterflies in the stomach or love at first sight, bottom line – you like him. Now the question is how do you get HIM to like YOU enough to ask you out? There is no sure-fire formula. But do not despair!
Here are 10 easy suggestions for you to experiment with and Cupid will do the rest!
1. Be yourself …
Few things put a man off as much as artifice. So if you are talking louder or laughing or smiling more than you normally do, ease up. It may actually backfire. (this is the one of 5 Common First Date Mistakes)
2. Extend this point to external appearances too …
If you are uncomfortable with very short skirts, high heels and dramatic make-up stay clear of them. A natural look and one that you are comfortable with, is very attractive.
3. Accentuate your advantages …
Instead of killing your confidence by following uncomfortable fashion trends, look exquisite by just accentuating your physical advantages. Whether the most beautiful thing about you is your height, your complexion, your eyes or anything else, draw attention to it with flattering clothes and make-up.
4. Take the initiative …
Shrinking coy violets rarely get noticed. So don’t wait the entire evening praying fervently that he will talk to you. Do it first. Smile or say hello to him. Your confidence will disarm him.
5. Leave small gates and windows open …
After you have surmounted that initial wall, leave small gates and windows open. Respond to him physically and verbally with frequent glances and smiles, commenting on the topics and statements he makes and laughing at his jokes. He will realize that you are interested in him.
ahhh i really like this guy but he brokeup wit his girlfriend and i that he still might like her idk we talk all the time we just meet not to long ago but idk if he likes me or not,but his friend that i know a lot more goes out with a lot of girls but his realationships dont last long about a week but he flirts a lot with me does he still like me we went out once before but it only lasted a week he wont stop talkin bout his girlfriend in front of me does he still like me ???and did i mantion were really good friends so does he ???
Brittany,
Okay about this other guy who dates a lot of girls, I’d be wary of him. And the new guy, give him some time to get over his ex. And to get to know you better. It’s too soon to tell for sure :)
there is this guy that i have apsolutely and completely fallen for. we hang out every weekend and we hung out every single day during the summer. (we started hanging out in june and its now the end of november) i REALLY like him, which is very unusual for me since i was never really interested in guys. Im a hard core dancer and gymnast and it has always been the love of my life. and he is heavily involved in sports and has the best body i have ever seen! we go on dates all the time, and we have made-out a few times, and at all the dances we dance alot, but we still dance with other ppl… its like we r going out, but yet we arent. WE really just dont have a title. well now i REALLY like him and his friend told me that he really likes me too. The problem is that neither one of us dates, we both decided b4 we met each other that we didnt wanna date. well now i decided i do wanna date him, and his friend said that he has almost asked me out a few times.
How do i get him to speed up and ask me out already!?
Hi Kaitlyn,
Since you both already have such great chemistry, just lay it out as it is to him. Even if you don’t wanna ask him out, just tell him that you really like him. Maybe he just needs to know for a fact that you do considering you both decided you didn’t wanna date or whatever. I hope he asks you out real soon! Good luck! :)
Okay, so there is this guy and I really like him. But we just sit together during our free period during school. I have no idea how to start a conversation with him or throw hints to him. I have heard that he is kind of a player to, so I dont know if I should listed to what other people say or find out for myself.
Hi Katrina,
Definitely find out for yourself. There’s lots of ways to make small talk. How about complimenting him on something that he’s wearing. That’s always a winner. Or maybe ask if you could borrow a pen or something. And if you’re really desperate for a topic, talk about the weather!
Hey!
There is this guy that I REALLY like. we dated in the summer but only for a week or so because he was so busy. anyways he is in one of my classes and he told me like a month ago that he does like me nad i told him i liked him back but that has been it . and he texts me sometimes. and i sometimes text him, but when i do i just ask random questions about the class just so i can talk to him . and he like always trys to help me in class and stuff and i dont know what to do ! Im stuck i really want to date him!
Hey Linnea,
Same advice I gave Natalie. You know he likes you. You like him. And so what if he won’t ask you out. You do it!
Hi…
So I have this friend at school…and some of his friends told me that he likes me. But I dont know why he wont ask me out. He knows I like him and im confused. I think about him everyday and i can reeally be myself wiht him. He makes me really happy. Advice?!?!
Hey Natalie,
Maybe he’s just shy and needs his time. If you feel upto it, maybe you should ask him out! You already know he likes you and you obviously do so why not give it a chance…
omg thats kinda funny you should defanatly ask him out
ok so i like this boy…..i think he likes me cause he winks nd hugs me (happy right??) but he also does the same thing to different girls nd i want him to like me and me only does this mean he’s not really tht intrested in me???
Hi Crushinghard,
If he does it to every other girl then I’m sorry hun but I don’t think he likes you in that way. The way I see it, if a guy is into me, he’ll show it to me even if in subtle ways. So yeah, unless he’s treating you different, don’t get your hopes too high.
So he might need to feel safe..Freedom i suggest you to be alone with him . Don’t be worry. Another thing is to put the differences between cultures if he is from another country . Anyway i believe that he loves you so much but he need a free chances with you.
im soo sad i talked to my friend nicolette and i never told her i liked matt but matt likes her and im so angry i realy like him and he acts like he likes me but i can never tell if he will ever ask me out and im desprate. i need some serious help:{ she says shes madly in love with hime.I recantly read the twilight books and i thought they were sweet and i can relate that to my life i hope it doesnt end up how it ended for bella.
Hey i really like this guy and i have his number…. but the last time i saw him was 2 years ago. He probably doesn’t remember. Oh, and 2 other girls like him[or just 1i'm not sure]. One of these girls is one of my closest friends. The other POSSABLE girl is MAYBYE older than him. i want 2 call him. My bro did yesterday w/ my cell phone, of course it was a prank call. my bro. is EVIL!
Well anyway he did it like 5 times. he told me 3 times he PROBABLY picked up.
Will he think that i’m my brother please reply soon i want to call him today and say that my brother was prank calling, but i always get nervous when i call. one time like 3 mon. before this happened i tried calling. I survied about mabye 21 sec. of it[which means no one could've picked up]. OK i want any of you to PLEASE HELP ME! I really like this guy.
Hi Julia,
Umm What were you doing waiting for 2 years?! Anyway, yeah go ahead and call him! You have a great excuse right now…that you’re brother was prank calling and that you just wanted to say sorry. And then ask him how he’s been…blah blah. You know the works. Please don’t wait another two years! :p
Should i call him today or in a week, or any other day?
ok well me and this guy i really like have been talking and were gnna start dating but his ex that he dated for 6 months and broke his heart wants him bak and he wants her bak and he just kinda wnts to end it now. i have tried to get over it. i deleted his # and evrything but i jst cant get over him. please help me im tired of always getting hurt.
Hi Sarah,
Well that just really sucks but you know what, as hard as it may seem you will get over him. All you need is time. In the meantime distract yourself with friends and doing stuff you love. And one when day when you think about him, it won’t hurt as much as it used to. Time really does heal. Good luck hun! :)
There’s this guy I really like in my class, but he flirts with my friend SO much! He said she’s fit, he slow danced with her at the disco, and she flirts back, but won’t go out with him because she doesn’t really like him and he’s also gone out with two of my other friends who now hate him, and she thinks it would be awkward if they broke up. I know he really likes her and I don’t know what to do. To try and get his attention i sent him a note saying “will you go out with me?” as a dare, but he just said “I’m going to give this back to you and let’s forget all about it”, and when i told him it was a dare he didn’t mention it again. I told two of my friends that I like him but they still encourage my friend to go out with him, and I do too so that I don’t seem like a bad friend. (Sorry this is a bit long)
Hi Emer,
Simply put, you need to realize that he’s just not into you. He obviously likes this friend of yours and nothing you can say or do to change that. So as hard as it may be, you need to get over it. Atleast he’s clear about his stand and not leading you on. So yeah, get over him!
We do talk on the phone. But most of the time we txt. But that is a lot easier then talking to him in person. I wont see him until December 2. I am really smart and he is about average in smartness. We have a lot in common because we like the same things. Whenever we eat in church every time we have sat together. I am feeling like I am missing my chances. HELP ME