So you like him. Call it a crush, butterflies in the stomach or love at first sight, bottom line – you like him. Now the question is how do you get HIM to like YOU enough to ask you out? There is no sure-fire formula. But do not despair!
Here are 10 easy suggestions for you to experiment with and Cupid will do the rest!
1. Be yourself …
Few things put a man off as much as artifice. So if you are talking louder or laughing or smiling more than you normally do, ease up. It may actually backfire. (this is the one of 5 Common First Date Mistakes)
2. Extend this point to external appearances too …
If you are uncomfortable with very short skirts, high heels and dramatic make-up stay clear of them. A natural look and one that you are comfortable with, is very attractive.
3. Accentuate your advantages …
Instead of killing your confidence by following uncomfortable fashion trends, look exquisite by just accentuating your physical advantages. Whether the most beautiful thing about you is your height, your complexion, your eyes or anything else, draw attention to it with flattering clothes and make-up.
4. Take the initiative …
Shrinking coy violets rarely get noticed. So don’t wait the entire evening praying fervently that he will talk to you. Do it first. Smile or say hello to him. Your confidence will disarm him.
5. Leave small gates and windows open …
After you have surmounted that initial wall, leave small gates and windows open. Respond to him physically and verbally with frequent glances and smiles, commenting on the topics and statements he makes and laughing at his jokes. He will realize that you are interested in him.
I dont know how to do item 9. lol
lol the getting him to talk to you part is kindof hard xP
Being youself is the number one rule to get a guy to ask you out. Guys hate women running after them but they love girls who are natural.
I agree with you Ice. Act naturally and you will get noticed not just by one guy but to all the men out there. =)
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Hey i hope that this really works for me so i can get jery away from jessie please tell me that what you told me it really works on a lot of people and what should i do if it doesn t work
i think that it is harder for some people than for others. I can go up to a guy and say anything, but my best friend cant go up to the guy she likes and even say hi! What can you do, you know? She thinks it is sooooooooo hard to act natural, play it cool, whatever, so what, is she just gonna stand there forever?……. idk
aaawe, that is soo sad! i feel bad for ur friend summerbaby. i dont have that problem. talking to guys is like talking to friends, its a natural thing. i dont know why everybody thinks its so hard to go up to a guy you really like and say “hey, whats up?” I guess its just some stupid thing nowadays. Weeeeelll, i hope you all have fun trying to talk to a guy you like.
PS. you and that guy probably have a lot in common. talk naturally how you would talk to your other friends to him, and talk about things you like. Ask him what hes interested in. anything you likE? say “really? i love that!” or something similar
yeah, i like this guy, and im not really sure if he likes me.i thought he did, but idk…. i never really get alone time with him ever, and i have no classes with him! d= im working on trying to flirt with him so he really knows i like him…
the dude i like and me talk 24 7 but he sitill wont ask me out i need a tip for that.
Guys are like praking spaces-all the good ones are always taken!
I asked him out cuz he wuuldnt and he old me idk i have 2 think . . . . . . a while later sil no answer
meow… the guy i like gives me mixed signals, somedays he flirts his head off, and other days he just ignors me! is this a stragety, of is he just doing it for fun? i asked one of my good guy friends about it, and he said that sometimes guys will just do it for fun, because they think its fun. and theres this girl in one of my classes, that i have with him, and shes slways all, over him, but he doesnt do anything back. help me!!!!!
to “koolkat”:
I FEEL you here. I WISH I could give you advice, but I basically have the exact same problem, AND I NEEEED ADVICE TOO!
This guy I’ve liked for a long time, has been doing the whole “mixed messaging” crap. We’ll talk some days like two close people,but then he ignores me on other days.
I know he really likes me as a good friend, beacuse hes known me for awhile,
he trusts me, tells me all these things about himself, and life and if he ever has problems.
He jokes around and is all comfortable around me blah blah,
but yeah..then there are days when he just kinda ignores me. and that hurts.
and another thing that bugs me is that he hasnt been in a realtionship with ANYONE since like middle school…
he always hangs out with his best bud 24/7.
SOO, like what the hell?
What am I supposed to do?
I dont really wanna go out with him, you know, BUT
sometimes he does or says things that make me reconsider everything and get my hopes up.
GODDAMN, PLEASE HELPP ME TOO! :(
I FEEL you here. I WISH I could give you advice, but I basically have the exact same problem, AND I NEEEED ADVICE TOO!
This guy I’ve liked for a long time, has been doing the whole “mixed messaging” crap. We’ll talk some days like two close people,but then he ignores me on other days.
I know he really likes me as a good friend, beacuse hes known me for awhile,
he trusts me, tells me all these things about himself, and life and if he ever has problems.
He jokes around and is all comfortable around me blah blah,
but yeah..then there are days when he just kinda ignores me. and that hurts.
and another thing that bugs me is that he hasnt been in a realtionship with ANYONE since like middle school…
he always hangs out with his best bud 24/7.
SOO, like what the hell?
What am I supposed to do?
I dont really wanna go out with him, you know, BUT
sometimes he does or says things that make me reconsider everything and get my hopes up.
GODDAMN, PLEASE HELPP ME TOO! :(
Ugh,
I hate to sound repetitive, but I have the same problem. The guy I like has all the qualities and habits that I admire, but I rarely see him around now because our schedules are opposite. I’m very shy, so when I finally got up the courage to even text him ‘hello’ (that was a HUGE step), he asked if I wanted to go to coffee. Of course I was excited, but he canceled the next day, but still promised to come see me (he never came to visit). Our conversations have always been like that, either I read double entendres into everything he says (and think he truly likes me/is flirting) or he acts all cool and distances himself. I don’t want to make a pest of myself by constantly texting him, what should I do?
i need help too…and i tried most of the suggestions but they didnt work…okay so i was at a dance last nite and the guy i like was slow dancing with this other girl, and then i started to cry b/c i didnt kno wht to do i mean…i luv him sooooo much and to be honest i thought he liked me too!! i just dont kno wht to do and i rly want him back and i want that other bitch dead!!!!!! >:o
th guy i like sas he likes me but as a friend a i want hm to like me even more and i really lik him
Okay girls, everyone is saying that their boy is sending them mixed messages. Alright i’m going through the same thing but I handle it differently.
So my guy, he’ll send me a message or a text be allover me then ignore then be allover me then ignore. IT’S A GAME! THEY ARE PLAYING A GAME! You want to play some games of your own? Do it!
When he sends you a message asking you to go somewhere with him for the first time go. Second time. Say something like,” Oh my gosh I’m so sorry. I can’t go because I have a huge test to study and for and tons of fricken homework. My parents told me if I don’t get it done i’ll be in trouble.” or say, “I can’t go, I have plans witha couple of my girlfriends to have a girls night out type thing. Next time.” after you say this, END THE CONVERSATION if he doesn’t do it first. He’ll feel like he has to fight for your time and ease up on his mixed messages games.
Also if you guys are talking on the phone and having an amazing conversation. At the very PEAK and the BEST part of the conversation, say you have to go and that you’ll talk to him tomorrow. By doing this, he’ll be thinking about you ALL night.
Also don’t be at his very beck and call. If he sends you an e-mail, wait a whole day to reply to it or if he sends you a text wait a half hour to reply. Or a message on facebook, wait 2 whole minutes to reply, not 2 whole milliseconds because this will make him think your at his very beck and call. This will make him play the games more.
You make think. Wel lif I do these things he won’t like me anymore. Oh trust me, you will make him WANT you waaaaaaay more. You cannot make a guy like you less this way unless you stop talking to him all together. Just follow these rules and he’ll be at YOUR every beck and call.
okay so i like this guy. he asked me to a dance and asked me to come over and hang out with some other friends. one of my friends thinks he likes me but another one of my friends texted and asked him if he did and he said no just as friends! so idk i kinda thought he might like me, but idk now! what should i do?