Relationships are made of fragile bonds. They need to be continually nurtured and respected in order to grow. In a relationship, your partner and you are responsible for providing value to the other half and if you don't, sometimes these bonds break. If you however feel that you are still in love with your ex after the breakup, it is time to get them back. I am a girl, so I will be writing this from a girl's perspective. However, I am sure some of these tips will be useful for guys as well. Below, you are going to find 7 ways to get your ex back…
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7. Stay Strong
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No matter what you do, it is important that you stay strong. You should never come off as being needy. Clinging, begging and acting desperate is a big break-up no-no. This will more than likely chase him off, instead of attract him back. I am not saying that breakups are easy, I personally know that they are tough, but you should keep the crying and yelling behind closed doors.
6. Minimize Your Contact with Him
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Closing those doors of communication may seem like they are not going to do any justice for you, but they will. This is one of the most important steps. There is a reason that the two of you have reached this point and obviously, someone here needs a break. Give your exsome space and time to clear his mind. Sometimes, starting over is the best thing you can do.
5. You Need to Be Flexible
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This is not time to start barking out orders such as “pick up your things by Monday or I am going to throw them out.” You are wrong if you are under the impression that you are going to be scaring them to the point that they will return to you. Take note that your ex went away from you because they were unhappy with some aspect of the relationship. This probably means that it is time for you to become a listener and pay more attention to his needs. That's one way to build the foundation for a successful relationship.
4. Get out of Your Room
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It is time to turn off the broken heart songs, lift yourself up off of that bed or couch and go out and have some fun! Give those old friends a ring and get yourself out of the house. You need to develop other forms of entertainment and stop worrying. This does not mean you have to go out and start dating again. You don’t even have to be interested in anyone. The key here is to have fun with friends and family and stop being depressed.
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3. Figure out What Went Wrong
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Now is the time to sit by yourself and figure out what went wrong. Unless you can understand what led to the downfall of the two of you, how can you set things right? What made the first couple of weeks or months together so special? Why did you feel so strongly when it was a new relationship and when did it fizzle out? Try to pinpoint exactly what changed in your relationship.
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2. Be Honest with Him
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If you still love him, then tell him this at least one time. Honesty is always going to pay off. Even if he does not say anything back, he will still know that you love and care about him. This is something that will stay in his mind. If it is meant to be, then he will remember this.
1. Show Respect
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Of course, when you are trying to get an ex back, you will need to show respect, no matter what sex you are. Having respect for another person is showing them that you still care. Don’t go throwing their stuff out, have respect for their stuff as well. Sure, you can put it in a box and stuff it in your closet so that you do not think of them 24/7, but remember girls, respect them. Do not go up to them in public and start yelling at them. Do not complain and whine about them to your friends. Leave aside the petty issues and jealousy. Remember that you have both wronged each other so take responsibility for your mistakes.
Getting your ex back in a relationship can be a tough job. However, if you find that you do not succeed at it, then don't let this get you down. If he does not come back to you, then this obviously means that it is not meant to be. It is time to move on and overcome the breakup, girl. What about you, are you hurting and need to get your ex back badly? How long have you had those horrible break up blues? Have you ever gotten back together with an ex? How did you do it?
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melissa: my ex wont come back and ive tried all of these 7 tips/tricks. what should i do now?!
charlotte: my bf cheated on and thinking about it all of my bfs have cheated on me...mabye love isn't for me :(
Laura: Well to be honest i broke up with my boyfriend cause he cheated at least 3 or 4 times and he obviously tought the relationship was a joke so i gave him up and washed me hands and yes i do still love him but i just left him to it and at first he tried running back to me but then i turned him away i do really want to get back with him but he just aint worth the pain to go through again ! :/
Tetz: I personally have gotten back together with my exboyfriend a lot of times. All I did was ignoring him and making my life interesting and he would get jealous and come crawling back. Anyway, I got tired of the same old problems and we broke up for good. It's just not worth it.
getting: Here is this guy. I really like him and I know he loves me. He even talks about having his future with me. Actually, we've been together for almost four months and I didn't mean it as lovers, what I mean is friends. The problem is he can't say it. I let go of my past just for him because I love him and I know he loves me too. He just can't say the thing. I'm afraid he will never say it and I’ll just wait in vain. What should I do?
tonia: I know that I stumbled upon this website (solutiontemple. info) through God’s will, I’ve been going through heart broken and I’ve been left feeling empty and anxious. through the love spell done my pains has been heal completely. it’s one step in the right direction and I already feel more blessed to have priest adu by my side. God truly does work in wonderful ways and I can already feel his comfort and love working within me. Thank you for all the positive experience have with you.
Olivia: I got him back from losing him after a 3 month break from a 6 month relationship...we were together for a week and he ended it saying he stopped liking me. So I made him real jealous, and didn't talk to him at all. I hugged and got piggy back rides and danced and grinded with other guys with him watching. As much better as I've made myself look to others, I still feel like ****. I want to get back with him and I'm sure he's interested...although we haven't talked since the breakup which was 3 days ago. I don't know if I want to go back and just get hurt again...we keep breaking up and going back and I don't know what to do :/
Abbey: i broke up with my sort of boyfriend like 2 years ago, be were together for 4 years and a half... all of our teenage years... we went on and off for those 2 years we were over, the thing is that i really thought i was over him for good now, i didn't even felt like he was mine anymore, then i went to my dream trip to london for a month and i met a lot of people who had bad break ups and punk loves like i did (i have adhd and he ocd) the thing is that i started thinking that he took all the blame... more than he should and also things i was guilty, he blamed himself, i know i was wrong and then i send him a really honest mail telling him that and that i wasn't pretending to get in touch again with the mail anyways... i came back home as paranoic as hell cos i didn't wanted to see him again, i was over him for good this time, the thing is that i saw him and it was weird he said that he read my mail and that he wanted to answer it but he didn't knew if it was ok (we had a big fight before i went to london)... the thing is that i saw him and in my head he was mine again, we only talked for like one sec but we stared at each other for a while... i love him and i went to my laptop and send him an email telling him how i felt and that all i wanted was to be with him that he'll be so happy with me... i really believe what i said and i knew we could be happy together cos we love each other... my only problem is that he's scared to admit that he loves me back...
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