12 Tips on How to Ask a Girl out the Right Way ...

You’re at the club, the bookstore, Art History class, or the coffee shop, and a particular girl catches your eye. You smile, she smiles back. Now what? You want to ask her out, but you don’t want to mess it up. How do you ask this girl out the right way?

1 Avoid a Line

“Are your legs tired? Because you’ve been running through my mind all day.” Why do some guys think it’s clever to use a cheesy pick-up line when they ask a girl out? It’s not, it’s ridiculous. Avoid using a pick-up line and just introduce yourself instead.

2 Do It Yourself

Don’t send someone else over, and don’t ask one of her friends to do it. That’s so junior high! Do it yourself.

3 Make Eye Contact

While you’re talking to her, be sure to make eye contact. It’s okay to feel a little timid or shy, but eye contact shows you’re sincere.

4 Do It Right Away!

Don’t wait — ask her put as soon as you can. “Don’t wait” also means don’t wait until the last minute to ask her to a special event, like prom or a concert. The longer you wait, the more likely someone else will have asked her already!

5 Do It in Person

If you’re shy, you might be tempted to ask her out via text or instant messenger or even on Facebook. But ask her out in person — or at least over the phone.

6 Be Sincere

Don’t lavish her with compliments you don’t mean, or promise her the best night of her life. Just be honest, otherwise, she’ll think you’re insincere.

7 Don’t over-reach

Don’t take her out to a dinner you can’t afford, or to a place you aren’t comfortable at, just because you think she’d enjoy it more. What most girls want more than a fancy dinner is an awesome, confident, happy date.

8 Be Yourself

Don’t ever pretend to be anyone other than who you are. Why would you want to be anyone else? Any girl who would only go out with you because you’re a firefighter rather than a waiter isn’t worth it anyway.

9 Be Specific

Don’t just ask her out to dinner. Ask her out to dinner at your favorite restaurant on Friday at six. If she already has plans, she can tell you when she’s available instead. The more specific you are, the better the chances she’ll say yes, and not brush you off.

10 Be Bold!

Women don’t like men who are over-confident, but we don’t like guys who are completely shy, either. If you do tend to be shy, at least be bold when you approach her.

11 Make Sure She Has Your Number

Make sure your girl has a way to get in touch with you in case anything comes up between the time you ask her out, and when your date is scheduled.

12 Don’t Push

If you ask her out, and she seems hesitant or says no, don’t push her. Just move on. You might feel you’re being bold, but we just think it’s creepy.

The most important one, in my opinion, is number eight, to be yourself. I’ve asked a few guys out, and I know it can be hard to approach someone, but go for it! Take a deep breath, put away your cheesy pick-up lines, and ask that pretty girl out! Ladies, how did your man ask you out? And fellas! How do you approach a girl? Let me know!

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Rose "Donâ€™t send someone else over, and donâ€™t ask one of her friends to do it. Thatâ€™s so junior high! Do it yourself." SO true. I hate guys who have someone do it for them, it's not very manly, it kind of shows you don't care enough to do it yourself. if you're shy i get it, but if you really want to go out, you can do it yourself (:
Meream "the man who makes men coo with his coolness" ---> You see, only Barney can come up with a statement as awesome as that. :p
Xannyyy Lol @ your comment Sheila. Good one!!!!
Xannyyy Stephen mosher, I'm sorry none of the aove worked for you but maybe they weren't meant to be. You'll find your perfect some one, int he right time! Just continue to try! :)
zennmaster hahhahahahahaha... If you mean the suit toting, whisky guzzling, the man who puts the awe in awesome, the man who makes men coo with his coolness, Barney "The Barnacle" Stinson... No... :D
- Sheila @ Zenmaster, You'd have to be really really cute to get us women to do all the work :D
Meream Zennmaster: You don't, by any chance, go by the name Barney Stinson, do you? :D
zennmaster See... This is something I would want to know about. It's not like women don't approach men, they do. I have seen it happening with me own eyes. The big Q I want answered is how does a man get the woman to do all the hardwork? Now if you can answer that. I would... ummm... fine! I will make you an offer you can't refuse. ps: You are free to refuse the offer, but don't refuse to answer the Q tho.
stephen HI my name stephen mosher and I have to say that I have tryed all the things that you said at some point in time, and have had no sucess at all It's nice to know that I have a womens point of vieue and that I was not wrong In my approach, but I have asked out many girls and they have all said no, It's not that Im bad looking or anything I really think that GOD just does not have it in the cards for me, I have not had a girl say yes to me in years. but thanks for the pointers anyway, sincerly youres stephen mosher syracuse new york,.,
zennmaster @sheila - hahahahahahahaha... You do have a point there. Can't blame a man for being delusional. Kind of like one the many birth rights men tend to abuse from time to time... :P @meream - *blushing profusely like a 6 yr old who has just gotten a peck on his cheeks from his fav teach who he has a crush on* :P
- Sheila Zenmaster, Enjoy being the only man here...the only one that's survived so long anyway :D
manu eye contact is the best one. way for me
Meream Haha I dunno girls...I think Zennmaster is growing on me. He is kinda cute and witty, to boot. Haha
Xannyyy Zennmaster, pick up line â€“ Hi, I just needed to ask you thisâ€¦ how many guys have had the balls to come and talk to you? I mean considering you look smart and confident and definitely know how to carry yourself. I was just curiousâ€¦ (and like people sayâ€¦ from this point onâ€¦ Itâ€™s game on! :P) (there are a LOT of variations to this line! But obviously!) Regarding the line you said above, smart one!! 100 points goes to you if you really use it! ;)
Xannyyy Zennmaster, Give us some of your tips, maybe they would help! :)
Tavia Great tips! I just read them to one of my friends :)
zennmaster What the hell? I wrote a really long comment answering @shelia 's Q and am guessing the system decided that it was verbose so just decided to eat it up. Caveman not likey. Caveman want old comment back. Caveman mighty upset.
- Sheila Cavemen stop being lazy. Type message again :D
zennmaster @Shelia - Olrite! You asked for the dam of mating behavior knowledge to be broken down. Pick up line - Ok! Pick up lines are the only way women will give any time of day to an average looking bloke (read non sex greek sex god looks) like me. Tho wouldn't recommend creepy and tacky pick up lines, a nice opinion opener works just fine. Do it yourself - The concept of a wingman gets redundant going by your advice. There is a reason why all cavemen hunted in pairs and not alone. How you do it is completely different issue Do it Right away - Yup! the 3 second rule applies to this one. Doing it person - Now I am assuming you are talking abt asking the girl out who you have met. But this is should apply only for women the dude hasn't met. Asking a girl out w/o seeing her is just plain loserish. I mean I could go on and on as to how wrong and misleading this article is and on how unsuccessful these 12 tips are. You may argue that the things I have said are redundant, but I would like to shed light on the fact that men are not the brightest of creatures on this planet. And these 12 (subtle and to be used with an ounce of judgment and common sense) are a death trap for a man with a fragile ego. Just saying. :) ps: I should stop tweeting so much and stop adding @ before the name pps: Don't look at me like that. You asked this lengthy discourse. :P
Sheila Zenmaster, I know curiosity killed the cat but here we go again...preconceived notions like what? :)
zennmaster Ok, to be honest. These are nice points and all to get into the friend zone really, unless and until there is smoldering sex god under the T-shirt! Which frankly me dear, doesn't apply to the 99% of male population. I mean I can go on and on about how misleading these preconceived notions are. But I am going to give it a miss now. But really! Expected a lot more than this really... Disappointed :-/
Meream Avoiding a line is a big thing for me. Going for a line that has been said before says that a guy is not that creative or imaginative. Most likely, insincere, too.

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