You’re at the club, the bookstore, Art History class, or the coffee shop, and a particular girl catches your eye. You smile, she smiles back. Now what? You want to ask her out, but you don’t want to mess it up. How do you ask this girl out the right way?
1. Avoid a Line
“Are your legs tired? Because you’ve been running through my mind all day.” Why do some guys think it’s clever to use a cheesy pick-up line when they ask a girl out? It’s not, it’s ridiculous. Avoid using a pick-up line and just introduce yourself instead.
2. Do It Yourself
Don’t send someone else over, and don’t ask one of her friends to do it. That’s so junior high! Do it yourself.
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3. Make Eye Contact
While you’re talking to her, be sure to make eye contact. It’s okay to feel a little timid or shy, but eye contact shows you’re sincere.
4. Do It Right Away!
Don’t wait - ask her put as soon as you can. “Don’t wait” also means don’t wait until the last minute to ask her to a special event, like prom or a concert. The longer you wait, the more likely someone else will have asked her already!
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5. Do It in Person
If you’re shy, you might be tempted to ask her out via text or instant messenger or even on Facebook. But ask her out in person - or at least over the phone.
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6. Be Sincere
Don’t lavish her with compliments you don’t mean, or promise her the best night of her life. Just be honest, otherwise, she’ll think you’re insincere.
7. Don’t over-reach
Don’t take her out to a dinner you can’t afford, or to a place you aren’t comfortable at, just because you think she’d enjoy it more. What most girls want more than a fancy dinner is an awesome, confident, happy date.
8. Be Yourself
Don’t ever pretend to be anyone other than who you are. Why would you want to be anyone else? Any girl who would only go out with you because you’re a firefighter rather than a waiter isn’t worth it anyway.
9. Be Specific
Don’t just ask her out to dinner. Ask her out to dinner at your favorite restaurant on Friday at six. If she already has plans, she can tell you when she’s available instead. The more specific you are, the better the chances she’ll say yes, and not brush you off.
10. Be Bold!
Women don’t like men who are over-confident, but we don’t like guys who are completely shy, either. If you do tend to be shy, at least be bold when you approach her.
11. Make Sure She Has Your Number
Make sure your girl has a way to get in touch with you in case anything comes up between the time you ask her out, and when your date is scheduled.
12. Don’t Push
If you ask her out, and she seems hesitant or says no, don’t push her. Just move on. You might feel you’re being bold, but we just think it’s creepy.
The most important one, in my opinion, is number eight, to be yourself. I’ve asked a few guys out, and I know it can be hard to approach someone, but go for it! Take a deep breath, put away your cheesy pick-up lines, and ask that pretty girl out! Ladies, how did your man ask you out? And fellas! How do you approach a girl? Let me know!
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Comments
Xannyyy: Lol @ your comment Sheila. Good one!!!!
zennmaster: Ok, to be honest. These are nice points and all to get into the friend zone really, unless and until there is smoldering sex god under the T-shirt! Which frankly me dear, doesn't apply to the 99% of male population. I mean I can go on and on about how misleading these preconceived notions are. But I am going to give it a miss now. But really! Expected a lot more than this really... Disappointed :-/
Rose: "Don’t send someone else over, and don’t ask one of her friends to do it. That’s so junior high! Do it yourself." SO true. I hate guys who have someone do it for them, it's not very manly, it kind of shows you don't care enough to do it yourself. if you're shy i get it, but if you really want to go out, you can do it yourself (:
Xannyyy: Being yourself is what I believe in mostly! Don't try to be a jerk and pretend something you're not cause you think this girls likes you in a way you're not and never will be. Be yourself and let her fall for the real you! If you're pretending some kind of other character most likely you'll be fed up before her! And guys don't push. Even if you like this girls so much let things happen by themselves. Pushing eventually will lead to annoying especially in the beginning of a realtionship! Always be sincere, if you lie only once and you'll get caught, mostly she won't ever trust you anymore, and even if she gives it another try, in a girls mind there will always be fear of another betrayal! Making eye contact and smiling is what you'll give as first impression so do it properly in a nice way. And for heavens sake, those guys who send their friends to ask her out for them, please do it yourself! You'll make a total jerk of yourselves with the girl!! I totally hate that part. When something like that happened to me I got so angry even if I liked the guy so much, my answer was always a BIG NO.
Meream: "the man who makes men coo with his coolness" ---> You see, only Barney can come up with a statement as awesome as that. :p
zennmaster: @sheila hahahahaha... Yup! Men are dumb. And they seem to be growing more and more dumb as the years roll on. #fact eg. pick up line - Hi, I just needed to ask you this... how many guys have had the balls to come and talk to you? I mean considering you look smart and confident and definitely know how to carry yourself. I was just curious... (and like people say... from this point on... It's game on! :P) (there are a LOT of variations to this line! But obviously!) And for winging it with a wingman, you have wingman rules for that. Much like shotgun rules. They are sacrosanct. Breaking them means immediate banishment from the bro-dom! :D
Tavia: Great tips! I just read them to one of my friends :)
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