You’re at the club, the bookstore, Art History class, or the coffee shop, and a particular girl catches your eye. You smile, she smiles back. Now what? You want to ask her out, but you don’t want to mess it up. How do you ask this girl out the right way?
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1. Avoid a Line
“Are your legs tired? Because you’ve been running through my mind all day.” Why do some guys think it’s clever to use a cheesy pick-up line when they ask a girl out? It’s not, it’s ridiculous. Avoid using a pick-up line and just introduce yourself instead.
2. Do It Yourself
Don’t send someone else over, and don’t ask one of her friends to do it. That’s so junior high! Do it yourself.
3. Make Eye Contact
While you’re talking to her, be sure to make eye contact. It’s okay to feel a little timid or shy, but eye contact shows you’re sincere.
4. Do It Right Away!
Don’t wait — ask her put as soon as you can. “Don’t wait” also means don’t wait until the last minute to ask her to a special event, like prom or a concert. The longer you wait, the more likely someone else will have asked her already!
5. Do It in Person
If you’re shy, you might be tempted to ask her out via text or instant messenger or even on Facebook. But ask her out in person — or at least over the phone.
6. Be Sincere
Don’t lavish her with compliments you don’t mean, or promise her the best night of her life. Just be honest, otherwise, she’ll think you’re insincere.
7. Don’t over-reach
Don’t take her out to a dinner you can’t afford, or to a place you aren’t comfortable at, just because you think she’d enjoy it more. What most girls want more than a fancy dinner is an awesome, confident, happy date.
8. Be Yourself
Don’t ever pretend to be anyone other than who you are. Why would you want to be anyone else? Any girl who would only go out with you because you’re a firefighter rather than a waiter isn’t worth it anyway.
9. Be Specific
Don’t just ask her out to dinner. Ask her out to dinner at your favorite restaurant on Friday at six. If she already has plans, she can tell you when she’s available instead. The more specific you are, the better the chances she’ll say yes, and not brush you off.
10. Be Bold!
Women don’t like men who are over-confident, but we don’t like guys who are completely shy, either. If you do tend to be shy, at least be bold when you approach her.
11. Make Sure She Has Your Number
Make sure your girl has a way to get in touch with you in case anything comes up between the time you ask her out, and when your date is scheduled.
12. Don’t Push
If you ask her out, and she seems hesitant or says no, don’t push her. Just move on. You might feel you’re being bold, but we just think it’s creepy.
The most important one, in my opinion, is number eight, to be yourself. I’ve asked a few guys out, and I know it can be hard to approach someone, but go for it! Take a deep breath, put away your cheesy pick-up lines, and ask that pretty girl out! Ladies, how did your man ask you out? And fellas! How do you approach a girl? Let me know!
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Comments
Meream: Haha I dunno girls...I think Zennmaster is growing on me. He is kinda cute and witty, to boot. Haha
Rose: "Don’t send someone else over, and don’t ask one of her friends to do it. That’s so junior high! Do it yourself." SO true. I hate guys who have someone do it for them, it's not very manly, it kind of shows you don't care enough to do it yourself. if you're shy i get it, but if you really want to go out, you can do it yourself (:
Xannyyy: Lol @ your comment Sheila. Good one!!!!
Xannyyy: Zennmaster, Give us some of your tips, maybe they would help! :)
Meream: Avoiding a line is a big thing for me. Going for a line that has been said before says that a guy is not that creative or imaginative. Most likely, insincere, too.
Meream: "the man who makes men coo with his coolness" ---> You see, only Barney can come up with a statement as awesome as that. :p
zennmaster: The line was a result of trial and error process and some few hundred stares which either meant "what a creep", "what a loser" and other variations. The good thing about the line is that irrespective of what the response is, there is a fun conversation which follows. Though, it doesn't work quite well when the place is too crowded or noisy, like a bar or a pub. In that case, just walk up to the girl and compliment her on something she is wearing (note: not abt her, but something that is on her, and no! things her mum gave her don make the cut, ex: Cute butt, Nice rack are a big no no... Tho shoes, stole, dress blah blah are ok) and then WALK AWAY. Chances are you will bump into her again, or you can pretend to bump into her again when the situation is say more amiable to your cause. And then it's game on. The problem with these 12 tips are that they speak the language which women understand. Not men. Men like Sheila and I said are dumb. If we could understand the language of women, we wouldn't be waging wars really OR insist upon naming genitals with names. :P
Sheila: Zenmaster, I know curiosity killed the cat but here we go again...preconceived notions like what? :)
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