12 Tips on How to Ask a Girl out the Right Way ...

12 Tips on How to Ask a Girl out the Right Way ...
By Jennifer • Nov 20, 2009 MD

You’re at the club, the bookstore, Art History class, or the coffee shop, and a particular girl catches your eye. You smile, she smiles back. Now what? You want to ask her out, but you don’t want to mess it up. How do you ask this girl out the right way?

1. Avoid a Line

“Are your legs tired? Because you’ve been running through my mind all day.” Why do some guys think it’s clever to use a cheesy pick-up line when they ask a girl out? It’s not, it’s ridiculous. Avoid using a pick-up line and just introduce yourself instead.

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2. Do It Yourself

Don’t send someone else over, and don’t ask one of her friends to do it. That’s so junior high! Do it yourself.

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3. Make Eye Contact

While you’re talking to her, be sure to make eye contact. It’s okay to feel a little timid or shy, but eye contact shows you’re sincere.

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4. Do It Right Away!

Don’t wait - ask her put as soon as you can. “Don’t wait” also means don’t wait until the last minute to ask her to a special event, like prom or a concert. The longer you wait, the more likely someone else will have asked her already!

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5. Do It in Person

If you’re shy, you might be tempted to ask her out via text or instant messenger or even on Facebook. But ask her out in person - or at least over the phone.

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6. Be Sincere

Don’t lavish her with compliments you don’t mean, or promise her the best night of her life. Just be honest, otherwise, she’ll think you’re insincere.

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7. Don’t over-reach

Don’t take her out to a dinner you can’t afford, or to a place you aren’t comfortable at, just because you think she’d enjoy it more. What most girls want more than a fancy dinner is an awesome, confident, happy date.

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8. Be Yourself

Don’t ever pretend to be anyone other than who you are. Why would you want to be anyone else? Any girl who would only go out with you because you’re a firefighter rather than a waiter isn’t worth it anyway.

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9. Be Specific

Don’t just ask her out to dinner. Ask her out to dinner at your favorite restaurant on Friday at six. If she already has plans, she can tell you when she’s available instead. The more specific you are, the better the chances she’ll say yes, and not brush you off.

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10. Be Bold!

Women don’t like men who are over-confident, but we don’t like guys who are completely shy, either. If you do tend to be shy, at least be bold when you approach her.

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11. Make Sure She Has Your Number

Make sure your girl has a way to get in touch with you in case anything comes up between the time you ask her out, and when your date is scheduled.

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12. Don’t Push

If you ask her out, and she seems hesitant or says no, don’t push her. Just move on. You might feel you’re being bold, but we just think it’s creepy.

The most important one, in my opinion, is number eight, to be yourself. I’ve asked a few guys out, and I know it can be hard to approach someone, but go for it! Take a deep breath, put away your cheesy pick-up lines, and ask that pretty girl out! Ladies, how did your man ask you out? And fellas! How do you approach a girl? Let me know!

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  • zennmaster

    2009-11-21T18:48:03.000Z

    Ok, to be honest. These are nice points and all to get into the friend zone really, unless and until there is smoldering sex god under the T-shirt! Which frankly me dear, doesn't apply to the 99% of male population. I mean I can go on and on about how misleading these preconceived notions are. But I am going to give it a miss now. But really! Expected a lot more than this really... Disappointed :-/
  • Xannyyy

    2009-11-23T11:43:50.000Z

    Zennmaster, pick up line – Hi, I just needed to ask you this… how many guys have had the balls to come and talk to you? I mean considering you look smart and confident and definitely know how to carry yourself. I was just curious… (and like people say… from this point on… It’s game on! :P) (there are a LOT of variations to this line! But obviously!) Regarding the line you said above, smart one!! 100 points goes to you if you really use it! ;)
  • Tavia

    2009-11-22T22:32:48.000Z

    Great tips! I just read them to one of my friends :)
  • zennmaster

    2009-11-25T04:23:42.000Z

    hahhahahahahaha... If you mean the suit toting, whisky guzzling, the man who puts the awe in awesome, the man who makes men coo with his coolness, Barney "The Barnacle" Stinson... No... :D
  • manu

    2009-11-24T03:31:12.000Z

    eye contact is the best one. way for me
  • Sheila

    2009-11-21T20:59:22.000Z

    Zenmaster, I know curiosity killed the cat but here we go again...preconceived notions like what? :)
  • zennmaster

    2009-11-22T05:13:33.000Z

    @Shelia - Olrite! You asked for the dam of mating behavior knowledge to be broken down. Pick up line - Ok! Pick up lines are the only way women will give any time of day to an average looking bloke (read non sex greek sex god looks) like me. Tho wouldn't recommend creepy and tacky pick up lines, a nice opinion opener works just fine. Do it yourself - The concept of a wingman gets redundant going by your advice. There is a reason why all cavemen hunted in pairs and not alone. How you do it is completely different issue Do it Right away - Yup! the 3 second rule applies to this one. Doing it person - Now I am assuming you are talking abt asking the girl out who you have met. But this is should apply only for women the dude hasn't met. Asking a girl out w/o seeing her is just plain loserish. I mean I could go on and on as to how wrong and misleading this article is and on how unsuccessful these 12 tips are. You may argue that the things I have said are redundant, but I would like to shed light on the fact that men are not the brightest of creatures on this planet. And these 12 (subtle and to be used with an ounce of judgment and common sense) are a death trap for a man with a fragile ego. Just saying. :) ps: I should stop tweeting so much and stop adding @ before the name pps: Don't look at me like that. You asked this lengthy discourse. :P
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