12 Tips on How to Ask a Girl out the Right Way ...

12 Tips on How to Ask a Girl out the Right Way ...
By Jennifer • Nov 20, 2009 MD

You’re at the club, the bookstore, Art History class, or the coffee shop, and a particular girl catches your eye. You smile, she smiles back. Now what? You want to ask her out, but you don’t want to mess it up. How do you ask this girl out the right way?

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1. Avoid a Line

“Are your legs tired? Because you’ve been running through my mind all day.” Why do some guys think it’s clever to use a cheesy pick-up line when they ask a girl out? It’s not, it’s ridiculous. Avoid using a pick-up line and just introduce yourself instead.

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2. Do It Yourself

Don’t send someone else over, and don’t ask one of her friends to do it. That’s so junior high! Do it yourself.

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3. Make Eye Contact

While you’re talking to her, be sure to make eye contact. It’s okay to feel a little timid or shy, but eye contact shows you’re sincere.

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4. Do It Right Away!

Don’t wait - ask her put as soon as you can. “Don’t wait” also means don’t wait until the last minute to ask her to a special event, like prom or a concert. The longer you wait, the more likely someone else will have asked her already!

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5. Do It in Person

If you’re shy, you might be tempted to ask her out via text or instant messenger or even on Facebook. But ask her out in person - or at least over the phone.

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6. Be Sincere

Don’t lavish her with compliments you don’t mean, or promise her the best night of her life. Just be honest, otherwise, she’ll think you’re insincere.

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7. Don’t over-reach

Don’t take her out to a dinner you can’t afford, or to a place you aren’t comfortable at, just because you think she’d enjoy it more. What most girls want more than a fancy dinner is an awesome, confident, happy date.

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8. Be Yourself

Don’t ever pretend to be anyone other than who you are. Why would you want to be anyone else? Any girl who would only go out with you because you’re a firefighter rather than a waiter isn’t worth it anyway.

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9. Be Specific

Don’t just ask her out to dinner. Ask her out to dinner at your favorite restaurant on Friday at six. If she already has plans, she can tell you when she’s available instead. The more specific you are, the better the chances she’ll say yes, and not brush you off.

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10. Be Bold!

Women don’t like men who are over-confident, but we don’t like guys who are completely shy, either. If you do tend to be shy, at least be bold when you approach her.

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11. Make Sure She Has Your Number

Make sure your girl has a way to get in touch with you in case anything comes up between the time you ask her out, and when your date is scheduled.

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12. Don’t Push

If you ask her out, and she seems hesitant or says no, don’t push her. Just move on. You might feel you’re being bold, but we just think it’s creepy.

The most important one, in my opinion, is number eight, to be yourself. I’ve asked a few guys out, and I know it can be hard to approach someone, but go for it! Take a deep breath, put away your cheesy pick-up lines, and ask that pretty girl out! Ladies, how did your man ask you out? And fellas! How do you approach a girl? Let me know!

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  • Meream

    2009-11-27T00:01:26.000Z

    "the man who makes men coo with his coolness" ---> You see, only Barney can come up with a statement as awesome as that. :p
  • stephen

    2009-11-24T16:16:24.000Z

    HI my name stephen mosher and I have to say that I have tryed all the things that you said at some point in time, and have had no sucess at all It's nice to know that I have a womens point of vieue and that I was not wrong In my approach, but I have asked out many girls and they have all said no, It's not that Im bad looking or anything I really think that GOD just does not have it in the cards for me, I have not had a girl say yes to me in years. but thanks for the pointers anyway, sincerly youres stephen mosher syracuse new york,.,
  • zennmaster

    2009-11-24T19:10:05.000Z

    See... This is something I would want to know about. It's not like women don't approach men, they do. I have seen it happening with me own eyes. The big Q I want answered is how does a man get the woman to do all the hardwork? Now if you can answer that. I would... ummm... fine! I will make you an offer you can't refuse. ps: You are free to refuse the offer, but don't refuse to answer the Q tho.
  • Meream

    2009-11-24T21:24:27.000Z

    Zennmaster: You don't, by any chance, go by the name Barney Stinson, do you? :D
  • Tavia

    2009-11-22T22:32:48.000Z

    Great tips! I just read them to one of my friends :)
  • Xannyyy

    2009-11-23T11:40:12.000Z

    Zennmaster, Give us some of your tips, maybe they would help! :)
  • Meream

    2009-11-23T22:47:10.000Z

    Haha I dunno girls...I think Zennmaster is growing on me. He is kinda cute and witty, to boot. Haha
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