12 Tips on How to Date Older Men ...


When I was in my early twenties, I only dated men who were at least fifteen years older than me. I had so much more in common with them than I did with guys my own age, who only seemed to be interested in beer pong and Pamela Anderson.

So here are some ways to find, date, and capture the heart of an older man.

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Know Where to Look

Chances are, older men worth having aren’t hanging out at the college-boy clubs.


Find out NOW

A lot of older men are married, and you MUST find out RIGHT AWAY if your potential man is married. If he is, keep walking. You don’t ever, ever want to be the other woman.


Be Prepared

As men grow older, they, like us, slow down a little, and experience changes in their sex drives. Make sure you’re prepared for this.


Be Reasonable

Don’t expect your man to be as energetic or active as you are, but don’t expect him to be a wimp, either.


Avoid the Creeps

There’s a very good reason some older men aren’t taken yet. Look out for the creeps and weirdos out there. Trust me, there are PLENTY of them!


Re-think Your Goals

Depending on how old your older man is, he may have very different life goals than you. He might want to settle down and have kids, or he might already have grown children. He might be getting ready to think about retirement, when you’re just getting out of college.


Learn to Cook

All men like a gal who can cook, but older men are very particular about this. You don’t have to be Rachel Ray, but you do have to be able to knock his socks off with a couple of dishes.


Don’t Mother Him

Older men who date younger women are NOT looking for mothering.


Don’t Overdo It

If you’re worried your older man will think you’re too young, you might be tempted to look or act older than you re. Bad idea! Be yourself — what’s not to love?


Look for Humor

I’ll never forget the time the older man I was dating asked if I remembered the moon landing, then got a little distant when I told him I hadn’t even been born yet. When I made a joke about it, he laughed, and it wasn’t awkward anymore.


Public Opinion, Who Cares?

Be prepared for weird looks or rude questions in public. I’ve had people in restaurants ask if my date was my father, even though he clearly wasn’t THAT much older than me. Just prepare yourself for this in advance, and don’t get mad when it happens.


Find Common Ground

It’s always easier to date a man, no matter how old or how young he is, if you can find something, a hobby or an interest, you have in common.

There you have it, my advice on dating an older man. Do you have any tips or tricks or warnings to share?

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Older men are def. better! Not as dumb and slow as the younger ones. However, if you think towards the future, it creates a problem. If you are getting serious, you have to remember that he will get older as well and nobody is completely age defying. bummer!

Wow, my timing for reading this post is perfect! I just started dating a guy who is 26...I'm 18. Its great to have someone that I can hold a conversation with (instead listening to him talk about things like video games). The tips will definitely come in handy, except maybe the cooking part. He's the one that will be teaching me a thing or two in the kitchen :)

Great tips! My man is 16 years older - your article gave me a bit of a different perspective on some things. :) Found this article through SmakNews and your blog looks great! I'll certainly be adding to favorites. :D Emily

I started seeing a man thats 23 years older than me, but he just wants a "friends with benefits" thing, but i want more... what can i do to make that happen?

Sheila, As they say everyone has a right to his opinions and likings! Go for what you love, and choose the best ways for you! =)

im dating this guy 10 years older than me.. im 20 and hes turning 30.. i know sometimes its hard to deal wit them especially in serious matters or lets say more serious way of life. but because of him, i learned to be independent and responsible in life i absolutely love this guy..

There are so much things to be said on this theme, but....dating an older man has it's advantages as well as it's disadvantages. You just have to make sure that the number of advantages > number of disadvantages. If you are looking for older and rich men, you should go straight to number 80...:) effortless.

I have to mention here that my aunt got hold of his current dating partner, on a free dating site with chat , she has been going around for a while, and now seems bubbly after a long time. I am happy for that.

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