1.) Remaining a virgin isn't all that it's cracked up to be. It makes you an even bigger target if people know you are a virgin, for both potential rapists (it's all in the ego) and people who will tease you out of jealousy. Also when you get married any husband who equates your self-worth to your virginity is vastly insecure and immature. I notice that virginity in this article is only equated to females......males have sex with somebody.....quit the double standard. I also read a terrible story from a religious virgin who "saved" it for her husband who ended up taking it brutally like some animal and then later on proceeded to make fun of her because "nobody wanted her" since she remained a virgin (guess his past didn't include male virginity).....saddly she divorced him later and she regretted waiting for that "special" night. Also some guys will freak out if you are a virgin because it puts pressure on them.....again being a virgin is not a straight road to 100% happiness. My best advice is to seize the day...if you love someone then be with that someone...circumstances will never be 100% ideal...planning does not guarantee 100% results...you may not get the roses or the candles and romantic stuff (movies lie) but you may get something just as good. The best things in life aren't 100% planned. Be as safe as possible, prepare yourself emotionally and physically and just enjoy life without worrying about what others will think of you. 2.) We learn from making mistakes.....there is no guarantee that when you pick a husband that you will be together forever, that he won't have a past with stds or he won't be without flaws.......don't expect yourself to be flawless.....that is the undue pressure women put on themselves....if you sleep with a guy who dumps you afterwards well THAT IS HIS PROBLEM and HIS LACK OF MORAL FIBER....taking advantage of someone is a crime....the victim is NEVER to blame...sure maybe naive but you need to chalk up that incident to your need for experience and move on otherwise that sick loser will have won..... 3.) If you are a virgin because it it YOUR choice and not societies or your fear of other peoples perception of you then BRAVO to you. If you aren't then you took a risk and whatever the consequences (good or bad) you gained something from it...no sense beating yourself up for what other people think....... 4.) I find that people in general need to but out of other people's business, quit judging others and look within. We all have baggage and making other people feel bad for their choices will not lessen our own baggage any. 5.) If sex is so bad why is it everywhere? Why do we treat pregnanacy like a disease and not the miracle it should be?....maybe if we placed value on sex and not condemn it so much people would take more time to actually think it over....why is male sexuality valued (due to verility) but female sexuality condemned........biology is not an issue because certain species in the animal kingdom have females with multiple partners to ensure genetic variation....

I think this is good advice and will help alot of teens x

So I met this guy in a party a while back and I liked him and we began to talk after we met each other. He wants me to have sex with me but I am doubtful if I should have sex with him or not I don't know if I want to or not. Then again, he has been with other girls before me and I am not very comfortable with that but he is so sweet and nice to me and gives me advice and we always talk. The only thing that bothers me about him is sometimes i invited him to places where I just want to hang out with him and he never wants to go with them. We never have really hung out as friends because he only wants to hang out with me if I am alone. So I am doing the right thing by not having sex with him?

I agree with staying a virgin till marriage or some sort of commiment! But mine is not so much about ailments as much it is about aesthetics. I wish to be seen as innocent and pure by future husband. I want him to teach me about this act, not some zit faced boy in the back of his parent's car! All you feminists out there may think my motive is medieval but we all have our own views, right?

First and foremost, I am sixteen and don't intend on having sex at all for several years, at least. That being said, I believe that it is a completely personal choice that one should weigh the consequences and possibility of pregnancy carefully, but I certainly don't condemn others my age for having sex. I do have several issues with this post. The first thing that came to mind after reading #5 was The Bell Jar, and how Esther felt it was completely unfair that Buddy had sex with plenty of women, while she, because she was a woman, was under pressure to remain "pure", and she resented him for that. Plath was correct that this double-standard was ridiculous in the 1960's, so why on earth is anyone still trying to push this preposterous idea in 2010? Aren't we past this? Almost the same thing goes for #3. How many men nowadays are really going to "save" their virginity for their spouse? Why should women be held to standards that men aren't being held to? I'm baffled why one would think that #2 would pertain solely to teens. Actually, I'm baffled why one would think that almost any of these would pertain solely to teens. The whole post could apply to people of all ages. The only big difference between teens and adults here is perhaps less judgement and maturity in some, but certainly not all teens, and how much harder pregnancy and motherhood are generally for teens than for adults, which, if I'm not mistaken, was not mentioned in this article. Besides, with this one I'm afraid I must tote the cliché saying, "It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all." If you truly love someone, then it's going to hurt no matter what when you break up, but later you can hopefully look back on your relationship and remember the good times, not just the bad. What's wrong with looking back at having a close relationship with somebody? You're going to be heartbroken either way. "Most of the time (I said MOST of the time), young people do not really know the individual they are having sex with." What? Where on earth are you getting these statistics from? I'd certainly like to find that out. As a highschooler, I know plenty of other teens, and I can tell you that, aside from a few who clearly have issues with confidence and security, none of the ones who I know have had sex have ever known the person for less than three years and dated for less than a year, knowing their family well and being welcomed into their families homes like another child. Personally, I think it's much more likely for someone in their twenties to fall prey to having sex with someone they don't know very well, as they're more likely to be going to places like clubs. Also, where are you getting this idea that sex is unhealthy? Having sex with anyone with an STD is unhealthy, which is no news to anyone who's passed the six grade, what with the rigorous health curriculums nowadays. Newsflash: teens aren't the only ones who are open to STD's. Now then, I have never in my life read that sex is bad for you. In fact, it has been scientifically proven that it is good for your health, your immune system, stress, and all sorts of other things. Sorry, I realize that this post is a bit unorganized, but I can't think of any better ways to put it.

This is really aimed at the spurs