Did you and a long-time or short-time boyfriend just recently called it quits? If you did – and you are a sucker for wallowing in self pity, here’s one word for you: **Don’t! **

You may feel like the end of the world **if you and the supposed **love **of your life decided to call the whole thing **off, but remember that there is still life after him.

Here’s our top 5 tips **on how you can **effectively ****get over him and overcome **your oh-so-painful **heartache:

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5. Allow Yourself to Be on Self-pity Mode

Eat your heart out or go on a photo retrospective of your good times together. Cry, scream, go all ‘drama queen-like’. Allowing yourself to wallow in self-pity is the first stage of the getting-over-him stage.

4. Get Rid of All of His Stuff

Get rid **of all of his **stuff, as well as any item which will remind you of your time together as a couple. After drowning yourself in self-pity, the next step is to get rid of all of his stuff so that you can start moving on.

3. Be like Victoria Beckham

Even if you’re going out for an ice cream – imagine that there’s a million **paparazzi **out o your trail who’ll take photos of what you’re wearing. This will give you that extra **confidence **and bounce on your step.

2. Treat Yourself like a Queen

Go to a really expensive salon and get a hair treatment. Don’t snip off your locks, however. Just give your hair a hair makeover, do your nails, get a massage. Treat yourself like a queen and **stop lounging at home **wearing pajamas all the time!

If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.

1. Start Going out Again

The only way that you can really get over a heartache is when you’ve already moved on. Start by going out again. Call your girlfriends and club-hop. **Flirt **with the cutest guy in the bar while looking like your usual **hot **self.

These tips should get you on the **right track **of getting over him and whatever **heartache **the bastard has caused! Lol…

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Jennifer
2011-03-15T04:14:12.000Z
Ok, so here is MY pathetic heartbreak story. 18 years ago I was a college freshman. Into my math class walked the most gorgeous human being I have ever laid eyes on. He asked if the seat across from me was empty. When our eyes met, life as I knew it ceased to exist. We began dating shortly after. We were only together for a few months, but it was an amazing few months. We were both young and it didn't work out. My heart was broken. I never forgot about him. I've been with my husband for 10 years now. Most of them pretty stressful. When I got on Facebook last fall, I sent a friend request to my LL, just out of curiosity. When he accepted it, I almost had a heart attack! I had already been contemplating divorce, and was probably a bit too vulnerable. We began chatting online and got pretty intense pretty fast. He started talking about buying a house big enough for our kids to have their own rooms (we each have 2), what kind of car we would need, and various other major things that gave me the impression that we were going to proceed with a relationship once I moved out and started divorce proceedings. We would send each other messages all throughout the day and sometimes through the night. And then he suddenly stopped. He said that he 'gets weird about women' and that we were moving too fast and needed to cool off for a bit. I agreed that we were getting ahead of ourselves, but didn't understand his disappearing act. It hurt me and I got a little up in arms over it. When a week passed without so much as a 'hi' from him, I got mad. I said some mean things to him and once agai got very little in the way of a response. I decided that I don't have the courage to go through with the divorce, so my husband and I have been working very hard on our relationship. It really is working out well, but I can't get John off my mind. It's been a month since we had any contact at all and I feel like my soul had been through a wood chipper. I have this aching that just won't stop. We had a song..Silver Springs by Fleetwood Mac. I can't even make it through the first few bars without breaking down. I feel immense physical pain everytime anything reminds me of him. I am so desperately in love with him I always have been and I always will be. I have no one to talk to about how I am feeling. My husband knows about him, but I can hardly tell him how I feel. I guess I'm just looking for someone else who understands how it feels to love 2 men at the same time, but be unable to express half of your heart.
gwyneth
2009-12-06T03:53:24.000Z
i have a boyfriend nd we've been together since last year june. We broke up last january for a reason that he still love his bestfriend he used to court the girl but he was rejected.I know that it is not the main reason why he quit, his friend told me that maybe he is tired of being with me.He just texted me and that's it.I really love him so much.And its really painful for me,i always got drunk!and everytime i miss him it hurts like hell!Until i came to the point that i went to their house and i beg him to come back but then he refused!damn! i thought it was the end of the world!I cried so much. And tried my best to overcome the pain, i had a relationship with another guy i admit that i used him to forget my x but still it does not work.. 6 months after our breakup, i can convince myself that im ok already.. i've already pick-up the pieces and moved on.. i already did those 5 steps to overcome the heartache. Then we had a communication again, he texted me..then we became friends because for me in order to forget a person u must to forgive first.Until we met each other again and gosh! i still love him! i can feel my heart is beating so fast and i was so overwhelm when i saw him..and it was so weird that we treat each other as if nothing happened.We are so sweet,when we talk about our breakup we just laugh about it. I know its unfair for me but being with him again is enough to forget those pain that's how much i love him.Then we decided to be together again for the second time. maybe by this time our relationship will work. There's a lot of changes on him even on me.. I became more aware that I must not expect too much from him I must love myself more that him.And he became more concern to me than before and its convincing. But recently, when were both busy and we cant find to see each other he became so annoying when i texted him, it seems that he's not interested anymore,even a simple "i love you" he can't tell even on txt. And then just this morning he say sorry for all the things he done. And for the second time he is breaking up with me and by this time he told me that maybe he's not ready because he does not yet overcome of what his first girlfriend did to him..And it was so FuCK! I feel that I was used again!And I refused, I told him that let me decide when will i give up..not now..im not ready for this. I hate myself of being like this Why i cant give up on him. Please give me some advice! I dont want to be hurt again.. Does he love me too?Do i have to hold on? :(
Mary
2010-02-11T01:22:57.000Z
theres a boy i liked since October of last year and he liked me too at first. but then he completely ignored me and started liking some other girl. they went out and he said he was "in love". after they broke up he asked me out many times but i said no because i didn't believe that he actually liked me. then over the summer, we started dating but he would break up with me and go back to dating the other chick then he'd come back to me. i was so in love that i kept taking him back each time even thought i knew i shouldn't. we broke up for good in September. (this time it was me because he started liking some other chick)I hadn't seen him since the break up. but just recently i saw him again and i realized i still really love him even though i thought i was over him. he doesn't even like me anymore and he keeps openly flirting with other girls right in front of me. i don't know why but i feel like i'm going to cry each time i see him now.
cassie
2009-12-12T01:08:40.000Z
i dated this boy but he dumped me because we would not see each other as much . i really liked him when ever i see him i want to cry . now i think he is starting to like my friend
Tahti
2011-03-27T02:49:32.000Z
Well, looking at this web page I'm not alone. This guy I was talking to decided that we needed to "cool off" this was three months ago so, therefore I assume he no longer wants to talk to me anymore. As much as it hurts I refuse to chase him. I've been doing the chasing since 2001 with no progress. Meaning, no relationship! So, as of today today I have thrown my middle finger up! I mean what what else can I do? Continue to wait when deep down inside I know he hates me.
Rein
2010-06-08T08:36:52.000Z
Wow!.. It helps me a lot.. My boyfriend and I just recently break-up. Its really hard for me to move on after what he did to me.. Thanks to this article.. atleast even a little I feel cured.