Did you and a long-time or short-time boyfriend just recently called it quits? If you did – and you are a sucker for wallowing in self pity, here’s one word for you: **Don’t! **

You may feel like the end of the world **if you and the supposed **love **of your life decided to call the whole thing **off, but remember that there is still life after him.

Here’s our top 5 tips **on how you can **effectively ****get over him and overcome **your oh-so-painful **heartache:

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5. Allow Yourself to Be on Self-pity Mode

Eat your heart out or go on a photo retrospective of your good times together. Cry, scream, go all ‘drama queen-like’. Allowing yourself to wallow in self-pity is the first stage of the getting-over-him stage.

4. Get Rid of All of His Stuff

Get rid **of all of his **stuff, as well as any item which will remind you of your time together as a couple. After drowning yourself in self-pity, the next step is to get rid of all of his stuff so that you can start moving on.

3. Be like Victoria Beckham

Even if you’re going out for an ice cream – imagine that there’s a million **paparazzi **out o your trail who’ll take photos of what you’re wearing. This will give you that extra **confidence **and bounce on your step.

2. Treat Yourself like a Queen

Go to a really expensive salon and get a hair treatment. Don’t snip off your locks, however. Just give your hair a hair makeover, do your nails, get a massage. Treat yourself like a queen and **stop lounging at home **wearing pajamas all the time!

If you're looking to engage your partner in intriguing conversations, why not try some hypothetical questions for couples? These fun queries will not only keep the conversation lively but also stimulate deep thoughts and potentially reveal insights about each other's personality and thought processes.

1. Start Going out Again

The only way that you can really get over a heartache is when you’ve already moved on. Start by going out again. Call your girlfriends and club-hop. **Flirt **with the cutest guy in the bar while looking like your usual **hot **self.

These tips should get you on the **right track **of getting over him and whatever **heartache **the bastard has caused! Lol…

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Rein
2010-06-08T08:36:52.000Z
Wow!.. It helps me a lot.. My boyfriend and I just recently break-up. Its really hard for me to move on after what he did to me.. Thanks to this article.. atleast even a little I feel cured.
Jennifer
2011-03-15T04:14:12.000Z
Ok, so here is MY pathetic heartbreak story. 18 years ago I was a college freshman. Into my math class walked the most gorgeous human being I have ever laid eyes on. He asked if the seat across from me was empty. When our eyes met, life as I knew it ceased to exist. We began dating shortly after. We were only together for a few months, but it was an amazing few months. We were both young and it didn't work out. My heart was broken. I never forgot about him. I've been with my husband for 10 years now. Most of them pretty stressful. When I got on Facebook last fall, I sent a friend request to my LL, just out of curiosity. When he accepted it, I almost had a heart attack! I had already been contemplating divorce, and was probably a bit too vulnerable. We began chatting online and got pretty intense pretty fast. He started talking about buying a house big enough for our kids to have their own rooms (we each have 2), what kind of car we would need, and various other major things that gave me the impression that we were going to proceed with a relationship once I moved out and started divorce proceedings. We would send each other messages all throughout the day and sometimes through the night. And then he suddenly stopped. He said that he 'gets weird about women' and that we were moving too fast and needed to cool off for a bit. I agreed that we were getting ahead of ourselves, but didn't understand his disappearing act. It hurt me and I got a little up in arms over it. When a week passed without so much as a 'hi' from him, I got mad. I said some mean things to him and once agai got very little in the way of a response. I decided that I don't have the courage to go through with the divorce, so my husband and I have been working very hard on our relationship. It really is working out well, but I can't get John off my mind. It's been a month since we had any contact at all and I feel like my soul had been through a wood chipper. I have this aching that just won't stop. We had a song..Silver Springs by Fleetwood Mac. I can't even make it through the first few bars without breaking down. I feel immense physical pain everytime anything reminds me of him. I am so desperately in love with him I always have been and I always will be. I have no one to talk to about how I am feeling. My husband knows about him, but I can hardly tell him how I feel. I guess I'm just looking for someone else who understands how it feels to love 2 men at the same time, but be unable to express half of your heart.
vinelen
2009-10-29T12:44:46.000Z
please help me..... I'm still in love to the man i know i can never be mine anymore. He is my first love and a boyfriend 2 years ago yet until know even i already try a lot of new relationships still i cant get over with him. he is already live in and he already have one child. Every time i try to show that i am strong enough i cant rid and vanished all those moments we have together i want to be with him forever. what should i do
brittany
2011-03-24T13:43:37.000Z
Well I was only with this it for two months and we became so attached and I bought him a new amp and guitar and a week later and like 7 days before Christmas he broke up with me...now I see him everywhere...I'm still in love with him and I want him back but he has someone new...someone better he says and all I did was care for him...he shows he doesn't care anymore and I can tell he doesn't...but its been 3 months and Idk how to get over him...I can't use the outta site outrageous mind method bc I see him a lot...but I love him and I just want him back so bad
Tahti
2011-03-27T02:49:32.000Z
Well, looking at this web page I'm not alone. This guy I was talking to decided that we needed to "cool off" this was three months ago so, therefore I assume he no longer wants to talk to me anymore. As much as it hurts I refuse to chase him. I've been doing the chasing since 2001 with no progress. Meaning, no relationship! So, as of today today I have thrown my middle finger up! I mean what what else can I do? Continue to wait when deep down inside I know he hates me.