Did you and a long-time or short-time boyfriend just recently called it quits? If you did – and you are a sucker for wallowing in self pity, here’s one word for you: **Don’t! **

You may feel like the end of the world **if you and the supposed **love **of your life decided to call the whole thing **off, but remember that there is still life after him.

Here’s our top 5 tips **on how you can **effectively ****get over him and overcome **your oh-so-painful **heartache:

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5. Allow Yourself to Be on Self-pity Mode

Eat your heart out or go on a photo retrospective of your good times together. Cry, scream, go all ‘drama queen-like’. Allowing yourself to wallow in self-pity is the first stage of the getting-over-him stage.

4. Get Rid of All of His Stuff

Get rid **of all of his **stuff, as well as any item which will remind you of your time together as a couple. After drowning yourself in self-pity, the next step is to get rid of all of his stuff so that you can start moving on.

3. Be like Victoria Beckham

Even if you’re going out for an ice cream – imagine that there’s a million **paparazzi **out o your trail who’ll take photos of what you’re wearing. This will give you that extra **confidence **and bounce on your step.

2. Treat Yourself like a Queen

Go to a really expensive salon and get a hair treatment. Don’t snip off your locks, however. Just give your hair a hair makeover, do your nails, get a massage. Treat yourself like a queen and **stop lounging at home **wearing pajamas all the time!

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1. Start Going out Again

The only way that you can really get over a heartache is when you’ve already moved on. Start by going out again. Call your girlfriends and club-hop. **Flirt **with the cutest guy in the bar while looking like your usual **hot **self.

These tips should get you on the **right track **of getting over him and whatever **heartache **the bastard has caused! Lol…

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Marta
2010-04-24T07:45:10.000Z
Hi Two months back one boy in my office started showing so much frankness to me, he shared his future plans wid me exchanged msgs wid me, noticed me everyday wat i wear n all n then lways gave his comments whether i m luking gud or not...and all these things made me to start liking him...and then one day i shared my feeling that i like him but he replied i am like this to everyone and i am not settled at all, this would create only complicataions so just move ahead and at last he gave me hug but serioulsy i still like him and want to spend some time with him.we are still on talking terms but i want to knw is this worth to ask him go outside to spend some time with him.. i really wish if i could get him..Plz help...
Anonymous
2012-09-26T08:17:54.000Z
We all wonder why love is so tough, but it is life, life will throw you pain and broken hearts but show life that you are strong and have no reason to be down, pick yourself up, have hope, believe, fight and never look back. Losing the one you love for whatever reason whether it be him not sharing the same feelings as you at all ever or a breakup perhaps is something noone deserves to go through but it is important to remember if someone has touched your heart then they are something special and you will never forget them, they will be a memory and it is a good thing. It is not love in my honest opinion if you forget someone you care about. You know there is always a choice, you don't have to move on but think about if you don't all you will be doing for the rest of this life is being down and depressed it isn't attractive. Leave that person in your past and don't waste this short life or take it for granted. I believe it is better to stay single you number one get more out of life and 2 are happier because there is no heartache but i suppose you can't not act on feelings when you see someone special
Dawn
2010-09-26T16:25:59.000Z
I am so distraught. I found my soulmate for sure. I'm 40 something years old & i Know heis the one. He had previous awful issues with his ex wife of fifteen yrs ago & her 3 stepchildren who were not disciplined, then they had 2 kids together. It turned out a mess. Fifteen yrs later he still hurts from it. We met two yrs ago after I split from a 10 yr marriage that was over five years prior to me leaving. He told me upfront that he usuall doesnt go near women who have small children, however he continued to see me & we fell so in love it was unreal. After 6 months he was asking to meet my children (who are great kids & disciplined well). He had an awesome relationship with them, to the point they told him they loved him & he said it to them. He did everything with them. After a year or so he lost his position in hiis company & shortly was so unhappy. He retracted from my kids & told me he never wanted to live with me as he does not want to live under the same roof with children. He put a "wall up", so he calls it & suddenly our sex life was even affected. He is even pulling away from me now that he is unemployed & cant find a sufficient place to work. I love him more than anything, he is saying he is not in love with me anymore, however still wants to remain friends. I am so attracted to him, so comforted with him. I dont know how to move on. We have had this conversation a million times & I cry everytime. He will stay with me as long as I dont want to live with him. I feel like I will never meet someone that I click with like I did with him. I'm so depressed, I cant even leave the house. We were eachothers life. He says he is a loner & not looking for another woman & that I was the greatest person, lover he ever had (he is 51). My heart is torn in a million pieces. I want us to live together, I want to get married again. What do I do? He doesnt want my girls (6 & 9) as they remind him of his own kids who dont talk to him anymore & it hurts when he sees my kids. Omg, the pain is surreal. I have no friends or family, all I had was him. Someone please tell me what I should do??? How do I get my heart to stop aching??? How? I cant take the hurt. He seems fine though.
Marta
2010-04-25T09:15:08.000Z
Thanks Sheila...Can i continue talking to him because i found a very gud friend in him and he too cared a lot about my sentiments too..