i have a boyfriend nd we've been together since last year june. We broke up last january for a reason that he still love his bestfriend he used to court the girl but he was rejected.I know that it is not the main reason why he quit, his friend told me that maybe he is tired of being with me.He just texted me and that's it.I really love him so much.And its really painful for me,i always got drunk!and everytime i miss him it hurts like hell!Until i came to the point that i went to their house and i beg him to come back but then he refused!damn! i thought it was the end of the world!I cried so much. And tried my best to overcome the pain, i had a relationship with another guy i admit that i used him to forget my x but still it does not work.. 6 months after our breakup, i can convince myself that im ok already.. i've already pick-up the pieces and moved on.. i already did those 5 steps to overcome the heartache. Then we had a communication again, he texted me..then we became friends because for me in order to forget a person u must to forgive first.Until we met each other again and gosh! i still love him! i can feel my heart is beating so fast and i was so overwhelm when i saw him..and it was so weird that we treat each other as if nothing happened.We are so sweet,when we talk about our breakup we just laugh about it. I know its unfair for me but being with him again is enough to forget those pain that's how much i love him.Then we decided to be together again for the second time. maybe by this time our relationship will work. There's a lot of changes on him even on me.. I became more aware that I must not expect too much from him I must love myself more that him.And he became more concern to me than before and its convincing. But recently, when were both busy and we cant find to see each other he became so annoying when i texted him, it seems that he's not interested anymore,even a simple "i love you" he can't tell even on txt. And then just this morning he say sorry for all the things he done. And for the second time he is breaking up with me and by this time he told me that maybe he's not ready because he does not yet overcome of what his first girlfriend did to him..And it was so FuCK! I feel that I was used again!And I refused, I told him that let me decide when will i give up..not now..im not ready for this. I hate myself of being like this Why i cant give up on him. Please give me some advice! I dont want to be hurt again.. Does he love me too?Do i have to hold on? :(

Wow... ok, lets try to tell the story. I am 25 and been through, well, 3 serious relationships including my first love in high school. Travis and I made our relationship official almost exactly a year ago today. I had ended a 5-6 year relationship with another man just 4 months before Travis and I started hanging out. The previous relationship ended because we both had just had enough, we were NOT meant to be and he was an untrustworthy alcoholic. Travis is wonderful. The first night we hung out, I ended up staying with him after that first night we did not spend a night without each other for nearly 6 months. We clicked instantly, I had never felt so comfortable around someone, I’d never been able to just talk and laugh with someone so naturally. We quickly fell in love and established our relationship, I moved in, within a month we bought an adorable Springer Spaniel together and life seemed to be nothing short of perfect. The only unfortunate thing was my issue with trusting men, all men in general. And I can admit now, I didn’t trust Travis at first, although I tried my hardest not to make that obvious, but eventually within the year we were together I realized he would never cheat on me. But, just a month of so ago I found Travis to be acting strange. He didn’t laugh as much; he wasn’t affectionate and didn’t seem to want to spend any time with me. It was like a light switch, his mood changed so quickly. I tried to shrug it off as one of his moods, he had many, and I always just gave him his space to work through it. Eventually I felt like I had to confront the situation. I asked him why he seemed so unhappy and if there was something I could do to help. He told me he had been unhappy for MONTHS and he DIDN’T THINK WE CLICKED ANYMORE. I was so upset, I recalled thinking he was “the one” and that he was my best friend and all along he was thinking we didn’t click anymore??? I told him I would try to improve my mood and such and we would work through this. But… unfortunately, things only got worse. Travis just seemed to pull further away from me. I tried everything, making plans with his best friends, doing all the things he enjoyed doing, let him go out with his friends and never question it. I was doing ANYTHING I could to make him happier and was making myself unhappy in the process. I sat him down many times and tried to get him to talk to me, about anything. I told him not matter what I would not give up on us and I’d be there for him. I promised him we’d worth through this. Just last Saturday, the day before we ended things, we attended the wedding of one of his family members. He didn’t tell me I looked nice (like he use to), he wouldn’t even give me an honest opinion of which earrings I should wear. At the wedding, he didn’t introduce me to anyone; he never held my hand or even put an arm around me. He was still a gentleman as always, just not the man I fell in love with. We went home that night and he seemed so miserable so I just went to bed. That morning I woke up to an empty bed, he was sulking on the couch. I just looked at him and said “I’m leaving today” and he just shrugged his shoulders. I sat down and calmly asked him whether he even cared and he said he didn’t know (that was the answer to everything, “I don’t know; whats wrong with me, why I feel like this,” ect…) he said there were so many little things that I did to make him unhappy that he just couldn’t be happy with me any longer. I left. I made two trips to his home to retrieve belongings, the first time he hid in his basement and never said ‘bye’, he was gone by the time I got back the second time. He texted me that night and said he was sorry, he never meant to hurt me and we could work something out so I could still see my dog. A few days later I went to visit my dog and as we both stood there crying, I asked if this is what he really wanted and he said yes. I feel so crushed. I honestly thought this guy was THE ONE. We built a beautiful, functioning little life together and I don’t understand when and where it went wrong. I do, however, feel like POSSIBLY his little brother’s girlfriend cheating rendezvous may have made him back away from me? It happened around the time I noticed his behavior changing. Its such a complicated story that I just can’t seem to figure out where it ended. He’s set in his way, he says we cannot be together, and I’m just grasping at hope, wishing he’d change his mind. I’m also heartbroken about my dog. She is my whole life and now I’m unsure of how often I’ll be able to see her. Currently his brother is telling me I should forget about the dog and move on, walk away… and it’s hurtful. Does anyone have anything they can tell me… I’ve never felt so lost and alone.

please help!! i have a live in partner for almost 4yrs we have 2yrs old daughter. hes been cheating on me for many times but i forgiven him for our daugther sake and its hard for me too to be alone raising my child since i am a fulltime mother. lately, i have a suspicious again that he has another woman and its breaking my heart so much i always cried and so last night too i think my daughter felt that im hurt coz when she saw me crying she said wat and why even she just cant talk so well yet. now my heart is dying coz yesterday i confronted him why he wasnt able to go home the other night instead of giving his reason he is angry on me and he left without leaving our allowance.he said i am too jealous and suspicious.. i am so tired of him coz i feel he dont care my feelings but im thinking also formy daughter.. i am so confuse on what to do now..he will be home tomorrow but i dont what should i say to him. i used tothink that i will leave him and move on but still i stayed. please help what will i do?

I am so distraught. I found my soulmate for sure. I'm 40 something years old & i Know heis the one. He had previous awful issues with his ex wife of fifteen yrs ago & her 3 stepchildren who were not disciplined, then they had 2 kids together. It turned out a mess. Fifteen yrs later he still hurts from it. We met two yrs ago after I split from a 10 yr marriage that was over five years prior to me leaving. He told me upfront that he usuall doesnt go near women who have small children, however he continued to see me & we fell so in love it was unreal. After 6 months he was asking to meet my children (who are great kids & disciplined well). He had an awesome relationship with them, to the point they told him they loved him & he said it to them. He did everything with them. After a year or so he lost his position in hiis company & shortly was so unhappy. He retracted from my kids & told me he never wanted to live with me as he does not want to live under the same roof with children. He put a "wall up", so he calls it & suddenly our sex life was even affected. He is even pulling away from me now that he is unemployed & cant find a sufficient place to work. I love him more than anything, he is saying he is not in love with me anymore, however still wants to remain friends. I am so attracted to him, so comforted with him. I dont know how to move on. We have had this conversation a million times & I cry everytime. He will stay with me as long as I dont want to live with him. I feel like I will never meet someone that I click with like I did with him. I'm so depressed, I cant even leave the house. We were eachothers life. He says he is a loner & not looking for another woman & that I was the greatest person, lover he ever had (he is 51). My heart is torn in a million pieces. I want us to live together, I want to get married again. What do I do? He doesnt want my girls (6 & 9) as they remind him of his own kids who dont talk to him anymore & it hurts when he sees my kids. Omg, the pain is surreal. I have no friends or family, all I had was him. Someone please tell me what I should do??? How do I get my heart to stop aching??? How? I cant take the hurt. He seems fine though.

Well I was only with this it for two months and we became so attached and I bought him a new amp and guitar and a week later and like 7 days before Christmas he broke up with me...now I see him everywhere...I'm still in love with him and I want him back but he has someone new...someone better he says and all I did was care for him...he shows he doesn't care anymore and I can tell he doesn't...but its been 3 months and Idk how to get over him...I can't use the outta site outrageous mind method bc I see him a lot...but I love him and I just want him back so bad

i dated this boy but he dumped me because we would not see each other as much . i really liked him when ever i see him i want to cry . now i think he is starting to like my friend