It’s happened to everyone. You see the sexiest guy ever, and your mind goes blank. What do you say to him? Ask his name? What he does? Here are my top 15 ways to talk to guys, so that the next time you spot a cutie you can make him yours!
- If you’re waiting for a bus or a train, comment on how late they are. Keep it light hearted, though, or you risk looking like a moaner.
- Ask where the nearest toilet/coffee shop is. Then ask if he fancies walking you there.
- Mention the weather. Boring, but easy, and people genuinely like to talk about the weather.
- Ask their opinion on current news. Do they like the new president, or will they be visiting a certain art show?
- If there is music playing, ask if they know who sings it, or ask them what their favourite song is. Spontaneous, but cute.
- Talk about food. If there is a lovely smell, ask what is is, or where it is coming from. Ask what their favourite food is, or their most impressive meal. Again, people enjoy talking about food.
- Use your surroundings. Mention a restaurant or a nightclub you wanted to try, and ask if he fancies accompanying you ‘sometime’. Give your number, and leave him to contact you if he’s interested.
- Just introduce yourself. Stand close enough to hear them but don’t invade their space, and be calm and confident. He’ll be intrigued.
- “Your dog is so cute!” Compliment his things. Dogs are wonderful animals, and he’s likely to find you playing with his dog very cute, but be careful that the dog is friendly!
- Make a joke. Be careful you aren’t offensive, though.
- If you’re at a coffee shop, ask if they need another. A refill and a chat are brilliant ice breakers.
- “Did you grow up here?” This is intimate without being too personal, and lets you gain an insight while letting him talk about himself, which most men love!
- Send over a drink. Keep it flirty and simple, and you’ll pull it off perfectly!
- “I love your hair” Compliment him. An ego boost is a great way to befriend someone, and leave him feeling good all day.
- “Can I have your number?” Probably better after you’ve tried a few of the above, but the original and best way of knowing whether he’s interested too. And if you get it, be sure to use it!!
So now you’ve got 15 ways to talk to anyone, it’s time to find 15 guys worth practicing on! Remember to be confident, calm and sincere, and keep a certain flirty element around the whole chat. You’ll be irresistible!
Got your own fail-safe ice breaker? I’d love to hear it!!
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Romance and Inspiration:
the best way for a woman to approach me would be just to say “hi”
hey, this guy at my church has been checking me out in church for months. for example all through the service he looks back at me and sits two seats in front of me. I have been trying to introduce my to him for a long time but he always ccomes late and leaves as soon as church ends. i thought one day to look for his profile on facebook and after alot of debating i emailed him. that was 8 days ago and he hasnt emailed me back. i saw him again in church yesterday and he did the same thing he always does. he was checking me out like usual but this time he left 15 minutes earlier. was i stupid to email him on facebook? please help?
Hi Julia,
Do you know someone who knows this guy? Perhaps you can ask around and ask to be introduced to him, formally. Maybe next time you can wait for him outside the church before he arrives and ask if he got your FB email.
Good luck, honey! :)
There is this guy that I really like and I think he is flirting with me but I cant tell because he is the same way with other girls when he is around me.. he used to touch my arm or say something sweet when he saw me..now he doesn’t
and i want to tell him I like him but I don’t think its the best idea
What should I do??
Ok i really like this guy and iknow he likes me b/c everytime i see him he gives me hugs or like tickles me lol
but i gave him mi number and the next day i was like you never texed me and he was like omg i forgot heres my number and he gave me the wrong number! soo embaressing what should i do?
idk if he likes me or not??
So I am 14 and i’ve never had a boyfrriend. One guy has asked me out but be was younger and is just a friendto me. all my friends have as boyfriends and I’m not over weight or ugly atleast I don’t thinks so Iean be been told I pretty. I am shy around people that I don’t know well and Im not really sure how to talk to guys. Why don’t they like me? How can I become more confident around boys?
hey. there is this guy that i am really good friends with and he had found out that i liked him, after he stopped talking to me and called me ugly and said that i stare at him during class, even tho i didn’t. and i texted him one day saying that i miss him and want to be friends again, cause we where really close and it seems like hes been flirting with me, like doing smile faces with every text, texting me alot and i am not sure what to do i still like him, but he said all that stuff. and now hes on vacation until aug 17th or something and he isn’t able to text. what should i do?? should i confront him about all the stuuff he said? help!?
all through school i’ve been like a sister to all the guys here, which was fine when i was younger, but now it’s a little awkward. i’m 14, never had a boyfriend. i just can’t get guys to notice me as something other than just one of the guys. what should i do?
to Christine:
Have you tried dressing up differently – I mean as different from what you are usually wearing as possible, a tight mini dress and some heels, and your hair down, some makeup, some accessories…
So that they see you in a different light…
will someone please help me (:
to Amanda:
What do you need help with?
it’s up there 7/21
M,
I feel for you. I’m 14, never had a boyfriend, all my friends have. I am really shy aroung guys and just freeze pretty much when im around them. Alot of people tell me I’m pretty so at least im not the ugliest person I know. But I’m going to this camp next week, and there is this guy that goes there that I’ve known since I was 5 anndd every time I see him, I start liking him. I think he’s pretty shy too. But I know he has liked me at one point. How do i no if he likes me now? And how do i get him to notice me?
hey, there’s this guy in IB2 in school and i’m in IB1. recently i’ve been taking a liking to him and i feel like he keeps throwing me looks but i’m not sure. Now i’ve added him on facebook inorder to get to know him considering that i’ve never actually talked to him before in my life. He has accepted me on facebook…how do i best start a conversation with him?
to Leia:
That’s so great you guys are friends on Facebook. Now all you need to do is read his profile carefully, look through his pictures and read his wall to figure out what kind of guy he is and what he likes. And once you are ready, you can come up to him and casually ask if he’s the guy you’ve recently added on Facebook. Stay cool and drop into conversation things he likes (perhaps he has a great pet – mention you’ve got a pet of your own, or maybe he wrote he just saw a movie. Drop casually you wonder if that movie’s good as you and your friends wanted to go see it etc. It sounds like he likes you back, so don’t worry about what to say. He’ll to try to keep the conversation rolling!
Good luck to you! Have fun!
thank you for the help. just one problem. i already acted because i was too nervous to keep him waiting, or myself for that matter. i wrote him an email saying, ‘hey, we’ve never actually talked before so i thought i’d start, how are you?’ and he replied and he was like, ‘lol ok, i’m gud and urself?’ and then i asked him how IB2 was treating him and he hasn’t answered since. The problem is that i said hello to him on facebook chat 10 mins after i wrote that and i’m afraid i might have scared him off somehow.
Okay there is this guy at my church and he is reeeaaallly cute. We have been going to the same church since I was 4 and he was like 5 and I have had a crush on him for a while and lately he has been looking at me in church a lot and stuff. He is really super shy and we haven’t ever talked except on facebook I know his family and me and my friends tped them twice the second time we got caught and I have gone to one of his football games and stuff and he knows about all that. Please tell me what I should do!! Like a way to talk to him and stuff. I am really shy also so I can never talk to him….. help me please!!
pinklemonade,
If you’ve talked to him on Facebook, you can surely talk to him in person…..yes you can! Start off with smiling at him when he looks at you in church. Maybe look his way a little more than you would normally. Emphasis on the little. Or maybe you could walk up to him after church and start a casual conversation…about how nice (or not!) the service was. If talking in person is too hard for you, why don’t you start off with the phone. You do already talk to him on Facebook. Either way, good luck with that! Keep us posted on how it goes…
Help,i’m 13 ive just started a new skl and theres this guy there that likes me i no, he told me i really like him too but he also told me there is someone else that he likes ive seen her shes quite pretty and the only downside for her is that she goes to a different skl. I’m glad he’s being open with me but i just want to no how to win him over. help please.
Clo,
It is great that he’s being open right from the start. As for you winning him over, I think you should play the role of the casual, nonchalant, I-dont-care girl not so much so that you look like you’re not interested anymore but just enough. Give him time to choose. And good luck ! :)