I don’t believe the old story that women only love bad guys, and nice guys finish last. What’s wrong with a guy who treats you well? Dating is a minefield, that’s for sure, so here are some tips on how to spot which one’s a keeper, and some warning signs to know when you ought to slip out the door and run.
#1
He shows respect for all women. Any guy who refers to women in derogatory terms is a definite no-no, as sooner or later he’ll turn that attitude on to you. However, if he is considerate to women in general, then he’s likely to treat you well.
#2
He listens to your point of view and doesn’t talk over you. If he doesn’t agree with what you say, he won’t tell you you’re wrong, but will simply suggest reasons why he doesn’t agree. No good guy will ever put you down and continually tell you you’re wrong, especially in front of other people.
#3
He loves his mother but doesn’t let her smother or dictate to him. Any guy who is still tied to mummy’s apron strings is not a good guy to date, even if he cares about her. Mummy will make sure that you always come second best, as she wants to be the most important woman in his life.
#4
He likes animals and understands that your pets are important to you, if you have them. A guy who volunteers in an animal shelter gets double points in my book. If he’s a fireman and has rescued at least one cat from a tree, he gets triple points.
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#5
He likes you as you are and doesn’t try to change you. Ever read Pygmalion? If a guy tries to change you, then he is not into you as an individual, he just wants to mould you into his fantasy. A good guy is with you because it’s YOU he wants, not some idealised fantasy woman.
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#6
You are not less important than his job or friends, and he has time to spend with you. If he’d rather go out with his mates 5 times a week, and only squeezes you in once a week (if you’re lucky). Nor does he only call you when he wants sex.
#7
If you have a crisis or major problem, he will come running to help you out or support you. Whether it’s a family problem or a domestic issue, whatever it is he can always be relied on to help out. Not because he’s ‘the man’, but because he genuinely wants to make things easier for you.
So what’s your definition of a good guy? Have you found one of the best? How do you know that a guy is a keeper or a disaster date? Any tips on how to know a great guy when you see him?
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ana: Hey Lena don't worry girl there's someone out there for u n only god knows the right guy for u but I'm telling this girl cuz I was like u but u know what I went to last Vegas I met a guy he is cute n he treat me so good that why u don't have to go find guys cuz guys should come find girls if u agree with that say hell yeah but girl there's a guy out there for u OK!!
Lena: I dont know but I like the advice on the other page about meeting a guy doing a hobby or intrest. And I know people say bars are not a good place to meet men but it's the easiest place to see alot of different men. As long as you don't go home with a guy from the bar then what's the harm in going to the bar? When I move to the city then I'll try some bars. I tried Internet dating a little and it was terrible ! I think I am better off meeting someone in person first.. I haven't had a boyfriend in about 4 yrs and I am ready to meet some guys. Never did bars much before but when I go I'll just drink a little wine and thats all! I met alot of jerks and I did not meet them at bars. I am nice so there must be some nice guys that go to bars also. I'm gonna try.
Lena: I'm 31 ! I feel like I should be going on dates .,but well u have to go somewhere to meet guys . I just stay home but I want to change that
Flossie: If you find one of these they are describing, let me know!!
Frodo: Hey, I hiked all the way to Mount Doom to save the world, and I'm still single.
amyQ.: all of those = ex.. :/
redangel: Sighh, if I could find a guy like that, who wasn't a complete social butterfly and who was smart, I think it'd pretty much be perfect. I think those are all the seven characteristics that none of my ex's have had, especially my last one lol.
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