Top 3 Secrets: Why Men Don’t Talk About Their Feelings …
It’s “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” all over again.
When we talk about feelings, why is it that men seem to have a hard time expressing themselves as compared to women? Is it because in a relationship, women have a greater emotional investment than men?
Take the big “I love you” declaration as an example. For men, saying these three little words require a huge effort – but the urge comes quite easily for most women.
Similarly, in a fight, women like to dissect the emotional reasons behind the issues. For men? They want to skip the “Let’s talk” part and proceed ASAP to kissing and making up.
In the tradition of our top lists, here are the top 3 secrets behind the silence of the men =)
Secret # 3: It’s a neurological thing.
Without the basic physical and psychological differences between men and women, relationships would not be as exciting. Life would never be the same without experiencing the joys of falling in love and suffering the pains of a breakup.
Now, when it comes to talking about feelings, the culprit is the Corpus Callosum, the part of the brain which connects the left and right brain hemisphere. Let’s not go into the scientific stuff here – but the gist is that this part of the brain is larger in women than men. The result is that women can think and feel at the same time – while men naturally separate their feelings from what they are thinking. This creates their reluctance to talk about all that mushy stuff that women love to hash out.
Tha might have been true like 20 years ago, may still be true in little suburb or old-fashioned towns but in the World I see ... See more every day “I love you” is said as you say “I want pepsi” by both men and women the same, it also happens that while I see most people become increasingly introspective towards their own feelings regardless of genre, I, a man tend to be much more open than my girl, in fact we are the bizarros of the genre stereotypes. At home, she’s the man.
1.Men are reluctant to talk because they’re afraid of saying something wrong: That is because women often take it wrong. We try endlessly to express ourselves with ... See more words. But just get cut down. And if we do express feelings too much we are labeled weak or too sensitive.
2.It’s a neurological thing: Maybe with some men. Men are usually thinking of feelings as well during this. They just do not express them easily as they think you will take it wrong. Which is often the case. Or you wont trust their feelings. Just because a part of your brain is larger, does not mean it is a good thing. Women are very emotional and react way to fast. Perhaps this is not a good thing to have in your brain.
3.Men express their feelings through action more than through words: action is better than words. Anyone can sell them self through words. And many women refuse to understand or trust the words of men. Mostly because they made the wrong choice in the man they were with anyway. Men can use words, then the woman will wait for the action to make a judgement. In the mean time, they do not trust the words.
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If a guy had written that comment, I would lament about how we never over-react but since you’re a woman, I will swallow my pride and agree. We can be drama queens ... See more when we want to :p
Contrary to what the article says, not all men will clam up because they think they are going to get in trouble (i certainly don’t), but for the most part men are more afraid of hurting women are closest to him.
While I don’t see anything wrong with emotions, I agree that there is something wrong when you let them control you and your actions. There ... See more has to be a balance of emotions and facts.
For Adam, maybe she’s not yet ready to talk because she’s afraid that she might end up hurting you more. Like me, I don’t express what I feel because I’m afraid that he might use it against me. Whenever he ask me about my opinion or what I feel, I just tell him in time, I will you everything but now. I don’t see the effort that I should trust him that’s y. The reason behind this is the past experiences w/ relationships. That’s y I am now more cautious. Give her more time, because the more u push it the more she will refuse to talk. Do the reverse psych thing…