Why do women in great relationships cheat?

Well, that's a tricky one! Sometimes, even if the relationship seems perfect, there's something missing emotionally or physically that leads someone to cheat. It’s not always about the partner; it's often about personal struggles or unfulfilled needs.

Do wives really cheat just because they're in Vegas?

Vegas does have that 'what happens here, stays here' vibe, but it's not like wives turn into different people once they step off the plane. It's more about the freedom and anonymity that might tempt some to act impulsively.

Is it true that all women cheat at some point?

Oh, that's quite a generalization! Not all women cheat. Just like men, women have their own values and boundaries, and many are committed to being faithful.

How can I tell if my wife is cheating?

First, trust your gut. If something feels off, have an open and honest conversation with her. Changes in behavior, less communication, or secrecy might be red flags, but they’re not definitive proof.

Is it common for women to cheat on girls' trips?

It's not like girls' trips automatically mean cheating. These trips are more about bonding and relaxation. Sure, some might cheat, but it’s not the norm!

Yesterday morning I accidentally ran into my old friend Liza who is a furniture designer of 33 **happily married to an older and bolding investment banker Cliff (sorry, but I had to change names of these two and now you will see why).

As I was saying, I met Liza yesterday walking my dog at 5 in the morning and she still had that Friday night out look** with a bit smudged smoky eye hailing a taxi and kissing right in the street with a handsome stranger. That tall drink of water was not her Cliff. As a matter of fact, Cliff was supposed to be in Europe for the next 2 weeks...

As soon as I saw them I knew that the awkward moment could not be avoided - I could not just run away - she would have recognized my back and my dog Alba which would have made it even more awkward afterwards.

Later that day Liza called me and we met for lunch. After the 10 minute "catch-up" chat she decided to bring up the "morning" topic, my face blushed like I was the one partying with another man. Anyway, here is what she said (not word for word, of course, but you will grasp the idea):

It's just an old friend of mine, we went to college together and he was in the city for the weekend. It's not as if it was serious or anything, just one time thing, I love Cliff and Cliff loves me, I would never get into anything that could end our **marriage... And last night it was just fun. I hope you understand.

I knew women were **cheating, I cheated myself but I did not know that women in great relationships cheated too. Do we?
I decided to ask a few more friends:

I cheated on my second husband once - when my girlfriends and I were in Las Vegas - I was so drunk I do not even remember his name... or his face... I would not recognize him in the street. After this I had that "guilt" feeling for almost 6 months, every time someone said Las Vegas I would blush. The first day I got home it felt like it was all written on my forehead, I still can't believe we lived for 2 years after that without him knowing of what happened. Till the day we were filing for a divorce.

Diane, 38, accountant

I never **cheated on my husband, I would have died of shame if I did and he would have found out, he is so honest and loving... He's just gave me this Tiffany bracelet for our **2 months ****wedding anniversary, look!

Elison, 27, MBA student

I never cheated on neither the 1st, the 2nd or the 3d bastard I've been married to, somehow they always were first to 7 Tips if You're Tempted to Cheat ... @Alison on me, assholes, all men are assholes!

Grace, 36, PR agent, Diane's friend

"I think women crave more emotion sometimes, than what their partner gives and sadly are misguided into thinking an affair and sex will help when it's the emotional side they are missing."
Barbara Siragusa, 50, Beauty Cast Babe

"For me personally, there's always got to be love, care and respect to consider it a great relationship, and I'd never cheat if I had something like that, even if I felt the need to spice up my relationship I'd let him know what I want to solve it together and avoid cheating!"

Fiona

"If it is a great relationship, what are the positive things making it a great relationship? If it is a great relationship, it would seem then, that she would not have a need to cheat. Women who are not in great relationships and feel there is more out there, the old saying, the grass may be greener, may then want to explore to see if there is something better. A woman considering exploring (cheating) who is not in a great relationship just seems to make a bit more sense. Her needs may not be met in a not so good relationship, regarding attention, affection, respect etc. She may not feel special anymore and may want to feel that way again."

Shoreen, 45

"Yes they do, I know from experience. Unfortunately most girls are just like most guys. they are never satisfied with one person and they like variety. no matter how good he is he is always gonna lack something(even the most petty things) and girls place way too much importance on that and look for it in someone else instead of appreciating all of the good things he has."

Trent 'tryplethreat' Tolliver

"The weakest point why cheating do occur is sexual dissatisfaction. This fire only burns during honey moon and completely dies out in the face of reality of hard work and busy schedule. A man fails to combine both his work and bedroom fatigues thereby causing loss of desire towards his wife. A woman still in high libido will look through the window for what can cool her fire."

James Ocaya Tontik Atona

"Yes, women can cheat while in great relationships, i did, i was suffering from depression, i thought i hated my partner, i thought he hated me, i felt like i had failed as a mother, a friend and as a person, i became desperate to find a way out, i found it in another man... my relationship was great, but it was me that needed help."

Jennifer King
Looks like sometimes women in **good relationships** cheat and sometimes women in **bad relationships** do not, some of them feel guilty afterwards and others wish they were the first to cheat...

I cheated on my first **boyfriend** back in college - I was going out with another guy for about 4 months and they both had no idea of what was going on. Maybe my old boyfriend decided not to notice flowers and my late nights out and the new one was too busy to pick me up right after classes. I finally had to break up with both of them, because somewhere in the middle of this mess I met this third guy who is my husband now.

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Puzzled
2008-07-11T05:59:28.000Z
I notice one thing in cheaters overall. Through personal experience and close friends, and hell some of the posters. They never take full responsibility and if the blame is not deflected onto the man..its to the situation. Yet somehow no effort was made to work on it until after the cheating actually took place and they were caught or felt too guilty.... If people would stop and think..seriously think about what they are doing they would realize when choices like this are made for people without them knowing then they would understand this is someones life they are playing with. What if someone you loved made choices that directly affected your life without you knowing it and those choices could'nt lead to anywhere but a bad place? If someone lacks this ability or can not learn it they are a hazard to us all because I assure you if they can keep sacrificing their self respect and dignity and their lives..then I seriously doubt they will have qualms about taking others down with them. Good night and good luck folks.
ella
2010-09-11T14:24:00.000Z
To all of you who are having affairs or thinking about having affairs, As a victim of an affair, it blows my mind that spouses don't try to solve their marital problem in less cruel ways before devastating their spouse and children by having an affair. Why don't you have a real heart-to-heart talk with your husband about the problem, and if that is to difficult, go to a counselor to help you two talk it out? Having an affair is an extreme act of cruelty towards another and should never be used to make yourself feel better. My husband, who would never describe himself as a cruel person until now, not only feels horrible about himself and how he hurt me without first giving me a chance to fix things by talking to me about some emptiness he felt, for some odd reason...because he is intelligent...never thought of the effect an affair would have on our children and their future relationships in life. One of our sons is in on-going counseling because he can't wrap his head and heart around what his father did. He looked to his father for guidance, and now he knows that his father is capable of lying and cheating for over a year. (We stupidly tried to hide the affair from our children, but they actually had found evidence before I had and had held it inside for many months.) Do you really understand what love is? Do you really think someone who loves YOU would cause you great trauma? You need to value your husband enough to solve this without the horrific trauma of betrayal. You are in a partnership and if you feel something is wrong, you need to involve your partner in solving the problem or responsibly end the partnership. If you don't love your husband/partner anymore, have enough respect for him and yourself, to end the marriage/partnership before you cheat and lie and betray. You will respect yourself so much more, and your husband/partner and children will not look at you with such shocking disappointment. You can hold your head high and be proud of your character and ability to care for others. I don't know how long it will take me to stop having nightmares and inappropriate thoughts about his lover and him, or when I'll be able to look at my husband with the same admiration and adoration I used to feel for him. But, I also feel great pity for him, because he can no longer think of himself as "a good person". He has never admired people who steal, lie and cheat, and now he realizes he is on the same level they are. I try to do everything I can to make him feel good about himself again, but he may never be able to regain that sense of self. He has to live with what he's done for the rest of his life.
Youssef
2011-08-27T16:51:42.000Z
as for me, well i never actually got cheated on, unless i did and i never realized it then maybe that's the thing but, I Know one thing that once u cheat, ur gonna do it again :) and if I got cheated on I will never everrrrrr go back to my girl friend no matter what happens no matter what she do and how sorry she feels and how bad she begs, I will never ever go back to her coz, once u forgive her then know for sure that she is gonna do it again either u see it or not :)
jose
2008-06-05T09:43:42.000Z
The most acceptable fact is a human social category of choice and acceptance.Noone forces one to cheat if done under free will. When relating to another and facing the stresses of life,ennui,chance.fears,hopes and more, many people just seek another comfort zone. Why are there so many addictions.Power,money,sex,and ect. Because mans justification to exist is based on his external satisfactions to massage his inner sensations and ego or super alter ego. ect...Without love and christ man is in satans playground.
Travis
2011-10-08T17:22:59.000Z
The whole "Girl" irrational emotionally charged "out of control" thing shouldn't surprise anyone here. Women, girls are wired this way and are subject to be driven completely by their emotions ,while leaving any thinking capacity they may have at the door. This phenomena has been and can be observed over and again (for example) ...go to any live music concert ,and there you will see girls falling out on the floor with convulsions ,pulling their shirts off , exposing themselves for all to see , hyperventelating , screaming , trying to rip the clothes off the male performers. This was well documented behavior for girls and women with Elvis Presely and thousands of other events to date..... and proof positive that supposedly "normal" girls , in which we live around on a daily bases ... if given the right place and right time will lose all rationality ,allowing their emotions to completely take over and are subject to do anything at anytime... especially in the company of her other hysterical emotionally driven friends. a woman's friends are her most influential enemies under these conditions. Small amounts of this occurence can be witnessed ...when women get together just around the home to have coffee.. They get louder and louder ,,,they become giddy and start to laugh uncontrollably. It's nothing new ,and YES ! it is completely possible and for a woman who would seemingly never do things she shouldn't while out with "the girls" to lose all control and then regret it later.In these emotionally charged atmospheres ,women feed off each other and lose their ability to think as an individual , giddy, laughing till tears run out of their eyes, Allowing themselves to say or do almost anything. Women also have a built in "justification" mechanism ... in any stuation where she was involved in wrongdoing. She may feel guilty for a little while ..but then starts to rationalize ,justify and convince herself what she did was not all that wrong if wrong at all. She knows if she convinces herself to mentally view a wrongdoing a certain way ... it won't seem so bad ... and with the help of ALL her friends she will be fully convinced by the time she leaves that she in fact did nothing and even feel a sense of entitlement, while never applying the same deceptive logic ,if she found out her husband or boyfriend were doing the exact same thing. In most cases ... the woman will hype herself up into an emotional frenzy to the point where she secretly blames her husband or boyfriend for her actions. This is just how far the "justification" process will get out of hand. If she lies to herself long enough , she will start believing herself... opening the door for more transgressions in the future with the "girls" Once the justification process is in effect ... if the woman slips back and starts to feel regret or remorse for her actions .... she will have an army of women at her disposal to support her and continue to convince her that her actions were NOT wrong and that the worst thing she could do is be honest with her husband. So as you can see ...a woman is perfectly capable of doing anything and everything that she would never ever forgive her husband or boyfriend of doing ,just by using a little justification and self deception and the backing of a small army of other women supporting her along the way.