Do Women in Great Relationships Cheat?

Do Women in Great Relationships Cheat?
By Olga β€’ Sep 26, 2021 β€’ MD

Yesterday morning I accidentally ran into my old friend Liza who is a furniture designer of 33 **happily married to an older and bolding investment banker Cliff (sorry, but I had to change names of these two and now you will see why).

As I was saying, I met Liza yesterday walking my dog at 5 in the morning and she still had that Friday night out look** with a bit smudged smoky eye hailing a taxi and kissing right in the street with a handsome stranger. That tall drink of water was not her Cliff. As a matter of fact, Cliff was supposed to be in Europe for the next 2 weeks...

As soon as I saw them I knew that the awkward moment could not be avoided - I could not just run away - she would have recognized my back and my dog Alba which would have made it even more awkward afterwards.

Later that day Liza called me and we met for lunch. After the 10 minute "catch-up" chat she decided to bring up the "morning" topic, my face blushed like I was the one partying with another man. Anyway, here is what she said (not word for word, of course, but you will grasp the idea):

It's just an old friend of mine, we went to college together and he was in the city for the weekend. It's not as if it was serious or anything, just one time thing, I love Cliff and Cliff loves me, I would never get into anything that could end our **marriage... And last night it was just fun. I hope you understand.

I knew women were **cheating, I cheated myself but I did not know that women in great relationships cheated too. Do we?
I decided to ask a few more friends:

I cheated on my second husband once - when my girlfriends and I were in Las Vegas - I was so drunk I do not even remember his name... or his face... I would not recognize him in the street. After this I had that "guilt" feeling for almost 6 months, every time someone said Las Vegas I would blush. The first day I got home it felt like it was all written on my forehead, I still can't believe we lived for 2 years after that without him knowing of what happened. Till the day we were filing for a divorce.

Diane, 38, accountant

I never **cheated on my husband, I would have died of shame if I did and he would have found out, he is so honest and loving... He's just gave me this Tiffany bracelet for our **2 months ****wedding anniversary, look!

Elison, 27, MBA student

I never cheated on neither the 1st, the 2nd or the 3d bastard I've been married to, somehow they always were first to 7 Tips if You're Tempted to Cheat ... @Alison on me, assholes, all men are assholes!

Grace, 36, PR agent, Diane's friend

"I think women crave more emotion sometimes, than what their partner gives and sadly are misguided into thinking an affair and sex will help when it's the emotional side they are missing."
Barbara Siragusa, 50, Beauty Cast Babe

"For me personally, there's always got to be love, care and respect to consider it a great relationship, and I'd never cheat if I had something like that, even if I felt the need to spice up my relationship I'd let him know what I want to solve it together and avoid cheating!"

Fiona

"If it is a great relationship, what are the positive things making it a great relationship? If it is a great relationship, it would seem then, that she would not have a need to cheat. Women who are not in great relationships and feel there is more out there, the old saying, the grass may be greener, may then want to explore to see if there is something better. A woman considering exploring (cheating) who is not in a great relationship just seems to make a bit more sense. Her needs may not be met in a not so good relationship, regarding attention, affection, respect etc. She may not feel special anymore and may want to feel that way again."

Shoreen, 45

"Yes they do, I know from experience. Unfortunately most girls are just like most guys. they are never satisfied with one person and they like variety. no matter how good he is he is always gonna lack something(even the most petty things) and girls place way too much importance on that and look for it in someone else instead of appreciating all of the good things he has."

Trent 'tryplethreat' Tolliver

"The weakest point why cheating do occur is sexual dissatisfaction. This fire only burns during honey moon and completely dies out in the face of reality of hard work and busy schedule. A man fails to combine both his work and bedroom fatigues thereby causing loss of desire towards his wife. A woman still in high libido will look through the window for what can cool her fire."

James Ocaya Tontik Atona

"Yes, women can cheat while in great relationships, i did, i was suffering from depression, i thought i hated my partner, i thought he hated me, i felt like i had failed as a mother, a friend and as a person, i became desperate to find a way out, i found it in another man... my relationship was great, but it was me that needed help."

Jennifer King
Looks like sometimes women in **good relationships** cheat and sometimes women in **bad relationships** do not, some of them feel guilty afterwards and others wish they were the first to cheat...

I cheated on my first **boyfriend** back in college - I was going out with another guy for about 4 months and they both had no idea of what was going on. Maybe my old boyfriend decided not to notice flowers and my late nights out and the new one was too busy to pick me up right after classes. I finally had to break up with both of them, because somewhere in the middle of this mess I met this third guy who is my husband now.

Special thanks to the girls who gave their opinion on the matter.

β€’ Is He a Cheater? 10 Obvious Signs of Cheating
β€’ 7 Days Step-by-Step Instruction on How to Revive Your Relationships by Making Your Man Jealous
β€’ Building a Long-lasting Relationship
β€’ Cheating Love
β€’ 10 Most Common Relationship Deal Breakers
β€’ 7 Signs Your Spouse is Cheating…
β€’ 7 Ways To Leave A Bad Relationship

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  • Skys

    2009-07-01T00:58:33.000Z

    To Lily, Take personal responsibility and leave your husband. You do not love him if this will not stop. Love is not a word or saying it is an action, your thoughts and actions have nothing to do with with love. The ugly truth is that you have been in this is situation before, and suffered for it but here you are back at it. You have not learned anything (think for a moment) if you learned from the negative situation you once created before would you really be here posting any of this? I encourage you to take a long hard look at yourself. I see someone who is selfish, and impulsive, and incredibly miserable. Do your husband a favor and let him go, in all time he was with you he could have done better. It is the ultimate mark of a selfish person to have others suffer with them and it speaks nothing of love. I say this not to hurt you or insult you but to save this man who ever he may be.
  • Sandy

    2008-06-09T18:11:44.000Z

    Great article. I would love to see a poll about this. To see what the statistics of this really are.
  • Diana

    2010-10-11T15:13:26.000Z

    Honestly, most women cheat for two reasons either their husbands cheated on them first or their husbands have no libido. The sadest is the second reason, because usually the husband is a hard worker, good father, great supporter, but has absolutely no sex drive. This wife will cheat only after years of suffering and crying herself to sleep. Eventually developing low self esteem which manifests itself either in an over weight or under weight problem and depression. Which only adds to the guild that it is her fault the husband does not want to have sex. Sometimes it takes years and maybe one or two decades before she realizes that he's the one with the problem. She suddenly has an epiphany that she needs to quench this longing to be desired. To feel the warth of another human being. That is why I don't critize any woman that cheats. You don't know what happens in couples homes behind closed doors. If it is because of the first scenario, than the old addage of "an eye for an eye" applies. If it is the second scenario than I'm glad that she finally got her self esteem and is able to go forward with her life. If these two scenarios do not apply and she's just a loose woman, then I applaud her too because at least she did not suffer like the two other type of women. This is just my opinion from a woman's perspective, obviously not taking into account any other matter pertaining to family life, children, etc...
  • Anonymous

    2011-08-28T19:47:15.000Z

    as a straight, good looking man, i was married twice, and both of them cheated on me, i must have been too good for them. i was a very good husband at the time and never cheated on them, not once. now when i do go out i seem to meet the very trashy ones, instead of the good ones. it is very hard now at my age meeting women, because i see how they act. i just want to meet a very good one, that would make me very happy, and i would treat her very good as well.
  • what

    2008-10-13T22:27:30.000Z

    I have been in a loving, awesome relationship for the past 8 years. My boyfriend and I have lived together for the past 5 years and I love him very much. That being said I dont know why but I have had my slip ups when it comes to remaining faithful. I screwed up a couple of times when I was too drunk to be concious but that is no excuse. The guilt you feel after cheating is just not worth it. This past year my boyfriend and I have been working alot. We are still in a great relationship but im becoming really close to a coworker and am scared of developing feelings for him. I dont want to end what i have with my boyfriend but im starting to become attracted to my friend. I know I dont want to cheat and more than likely im not going to but still feel guilty for even thinking about it. The times I did cheat when I was drunk the guy ment nothing to me but this is worse because I think my friend likes me too. Altough, we have not acted on it the guilty feeling is once again killing me.
  • T-squared

    2009-12-10T07:47:13.000Z

    I think it's sad that anyone cheats - especially in "good" relationships - of course that doesn't even seem to make sense. It's not fair to play with a person's life that way. Plus it just ultimately destroys someone's life or several peoples'. I know - my wife got involved with a guy three years ago and my life has been a disaster since. We're still together cause she wants to make it work now, but I doubt I can ever trust her again. Everything is woefully complicated and she's depressed because she has great remorse now. Things were "great" for us too when it happened. Essentially two lives now on hold at least for now, forever changed, and maybe even messed up forever. Definitely not worth whatever she got out of cheating in my opinion. Anyways it's better if you are just honest with your spouse about your feelings and let them decide what they want to do with their life. They deserve that. If you cheat you are missing some control mechanism in your brain anyways and probably shouldn't be married or at least get some help and try to change. Good people who just want a good life and want a good solid relationship certainly don't deserve to be hurt by your selfishness and pathology. Good luck to all the good men out there in finding a good woman who doesn't cheat. And if your wife does cheat, don't be a stupid sap like me and stay because you believe in commitment - just leave and do what's right for you and find someone else who can truly commit and understands what that means.
  • Don

    2014-12-15T09:45:29.535Z

    hey women I am a honest loving husband and I caught my wife on a romance scam and I forgave her. She goes swimming 3 times a week in a class and does not come home until 2 hours after the class is over. I am trying to trust her again and when I ask her why she tells me she needs space from me and the dogs and sits in her car for awhile after class playing on her phone should I believe her?
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