Are Women Supposed to Be Thin or Curvy?

i dont think the question should even be about being 'curvy' or 'thin' i personally feel that it should be about embracing the natural beauty of a womans body, regardless of her body shape. some woman are naturally thin and some are naturally curvy, but why should that make one more appealing than the other? as long as you are comfortable with who you are then your body type should not be an issue. i do agree that stars like mary-kate olsen and nicole ritchie have taken the thin look drastically to far to the point where they look anorexic, to me that is UNATTRACTIVE. A woman with confidence will always be sexy so aslong as you learn to love yourself then everyone else will learn to love you whether you be thin or curvy.

When I was a teenager and in my twenties I truly felt fat because I had natural curves but rail thin was in. There wasn't really any fat on my body but I had a butt and breasts. Men, liked me, I dated quite a bit. However, I remember once on a first date with someone being told that I was 'bigger' than what he normally liked:(. I remember working out most every day for hours and dancing throughout the weekend and feeling about 'average' in the looks department. I recall another time at a rock concert with friends, my date, after carrying me on his shoulders for about 3 hours (his idea as his friends were doing the same with their dates) said, "wow your heavy!" I felt terrible. Obviously my natural heavy bones were at fault I thought and felt unfeminine, yet I was a healthy 20 year old weighing about 115 lbs. I feel sorry for that poor girl (me) of the past, and think...seriously, who wouldn't find carrying adult person heavy after three hours lol. I recently came across some of my old jeans size 5 petite. Obviously, I was thin but I didn't feel it. Now 20 years and 3 children later I am a size 16. I divorced a couple of years ago and thought there would be no way I would ever date as I was now an 'old fat woman' . Boy was I wrong! As soon as I felt like dating the offers started pouring in. I was shocked that older and often younger men were asking me out. I even asked why? I mean, a divorced single parent with kids and a couple of gray hairs can't be THAT attractive. I was told that I was sexy fun confident and beautiful. Being a woman who never really felt that about herself, I thought it was flattery for a reason lol After a year or two of an active social life, and requests from different men of all types to go out. I realized.... I actually am. I am beautiful, curvy and sexier than I have ever been in my life. I don't worry about my hair, makeup or wearing the perfect clothes as I did in HS and university. I condition my hair, wear a bit of mascara and lip gloss and wear comfortable clothes that reflect my mood and I laugh a lot. In a before and after comparison I would be considered fat next to that size 5 petite girl of 20 years ago and yet... I have waist, breasts and hips and not rolls of fat, as some skinny girls claim curvy women are. The point I'm trying to make is that it is all about feeling comfortable with who you are. I happen to be a person that gets asked out on dates, did when I was 20 and thin and still do after age 40 and 11 sizes bigger. If I had to choose between the minni-me or the curvy me, I'd choose the curvy. I have nothing to prove. My days of trying to wear the perfect outfit, improving hairstyles, trying to lose a few more pounds or to develop noticeable abs are long gone. I was definitely healthier then, and had a lot more time to take care of myself- Now I work long hours and have children to care for and I wouldn't mind having a bit of that time to exercise a bit and feel healthier and more energetic but I wouldnt' want to be in the position of measuring my worth by dress size or lable ever again. Recently, I was out on a date, and he wanted to pick me up and carry me down some stairs ! I laughed and told him that he was sweet but that I probably weighed closer to his weight than he imagined and would much rather walk down holding hands and not worrying about being dropped or him straining his back LOL. The question shouldn't be whether men like skinny or curvy women because I think, men like both! The question really is and always has been ... does the woman or girl like herself! ") If the answer is yes, others will too!

I'm 5'4 and 100lbs. I don't get a lot of attention from men but I get a ton of unwanted attention from females. They love to call me anorexic and tell me that I need to eat (I do eat quite frequently). I was actually bullied so much for being thin that I underwent therapy. Every doctor I had told me the same....There is nothing wrong with being slightly underweight as long as you continue to exercise and eat regularly.

i think its totally unfair to say all skiny chicks are ugly, Im skinny as hell and I remember overeating to make myself fatter and tying a belt tight around my waist to MAKE curves, we are all different shapes and sizes and all beautiful PS my boyfriend loves my flat boobs,if he can love them then Im pretty sure the right guy will accept your flaws

This post is right on the mark. As soon as women feel they are "supposed" to be anything they fall into a trap of not being, or at least trying to discover, who they really are.

Women are supposed to be curvy.......it's our God given gift to have curves in all the right places. Embrace your body...........it's your temple!!!