7 Reasons Not to Have Sex during Your Teen Years ...

I know what you're thinking. Why shouldn’t you have sex? Yes, of course, you are young; but according to your own estimation as a teenager, you are old enough. You aren’t married, but in your very own opinion, that does not matter – so why should anyone else’s opinion matter? If you want to have sex, then what’s to stop you? Why should you refrain, wait, and abstain? In short, why should you not do something that in your own mind you believe is good? My last post on this topic stirred up a lot of people. Is that what I’m trying to do again? No, not really, I’m just posting this because some teenagers out there want and need different opinions. Take note, I am not strictly saying NOT to have sex before marriage. This is basically for ages 13-16.

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7. Since before We Were Born, People Have Been Suffering from Dangerous Diseases

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The term today is STD – sexually transmitted disease. It only takes having sex one time with an infected partner to get infected yourself and having sex with more than one partner will increase those risks. Using a condom will reduce the chances, but, like Russian Roulette, you still have a bullet in that chamber and eventually you could get it. Do you trust that your partner isn’t having sex with someone else? Marriage certainly is not a perfect protection against a disease, but it is a lot safer than having sex with no other strings attached.

6. We Can’t Forget about Pregnancy

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Each year, thousands of girls end up with a positivepregnancy test and they are abandoned by their boyfriends, so they are left to face these consequences alone. There is no easy choice to make. You have three options. You can have the baby and raise it yourself. You can have the baby and put it up for adoption. You can have the baby aborted so that no one has to raise it. Which choice will you make?

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Facing an unexpected pregnancy is a significant turning point; it's not just about the immediate choice but the ripple effects that follow. Choosing to raise a child requires immense responsibility and can dramatically alter your life path, overshadowing educational and career goals. Opting for adoption carries emotional complexities, though it's a noble choice for those unprepared to parent. Deciding on abortion is deeply personal and often controversial, surrounded by societal scrutiny. Each option is life-changing, underscoring the gravity of sexual decisions and the critical need for educational empowerment and access to contraception.

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5. You Have Sex with Many Different People, then You Get Married

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What would your spouse think? I once read a blog by a girl complaining that her husband did not trust her. Why? Because in high school, she had slept with lots of guys and never thought anything of it. Her husband always wondered if his wife slept with any guy he ever met. He wonders if she’s cheating on him right now. The reaction from the husband is natural. Think about your future before you sleep with lots of different people.

4. When You Eventually Have Children, They Hear about Your High School Adventures

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When your children get old, what if someone told them how you were in high school? Now, if you slipped up and slept with one person, that’s understandable, but sleeping with a lot of people without care is not good. Do you want your children to say “but my mom did it, so shall I?" Again, the choice is yours and I’m not going to judge you personally. Just think about your future kids, whose lives will be affected.

3. Virginity is a Good Gift to Give Your Spouse

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I will tell you right now, I was 18 when I had sex and my husband was 18. He was my first and I was his first. Today, we have been married for 7 years. Maybe you could save yourself for the right one,the one that's willing to commithis life to you. It makes things even more sacred and beautiful.

2. Save Yourself from the Heartache

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I couldn’t imagine giving up my virginity to some guy only to find that I got dumped and was used. I can’t imagine the heartache or how my husband would feel knowing that I was not his first. I guess I just thought about the future and didn’t let my guard down. If you don’t care about heartache, then go for it, but I know it’ll get to you eventually.

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Having sex as a teen can have long lasting consequences, both emotionally and physically. Studies have shown that teens who engage in sexual activity are more likely to suffer from depression, anxiety, and other mental health issues. In addition, teens who have sex are at higher risk for sexually transmitted diseases, and may even become pregnant.

Moreover, teens who have sex can be faced with social stigma and a lack of support from family and friends. This can lead to feelings of shame and guilt, and can have a negative impact on self-esteem.

Also, teens who have sex are more likely to engage in other risky behaviors, such as drug and alcohol use. This can lead to further health risks and can have an adverse effect on academic performance.

In addition, teens who have sex may be more likely to engage in sexual activity without protection, such as not using condoms. This can lead to an increased risk of pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases.

Ultimately, it is important to remember that having sex as a teen can have serious consequences. Teens should think carefully about the risks involved before engaging in sexual activity. Taking the time to save yourself from the heartache can be an invaluable decision.

1. It’s Just Not Healthy

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Most of the time (I said MOST of the time), young people do not really know the individual they are having sex with. The only intimate thing about the relationship is the sex part of it. Did you meet his parents? What do they do in their spare time? What if they have a venereal disease or worse, AIDS or HIV. These relationships could cause many health ailments and infections.

Those are 7 reasons not to have sex during your teen years. I know, you probably hate me for saying all of that stuff, but I’m not trying to be a downer. I’m not religious and at the end of it all, it’s your own body. Talk back to me – I’m ready to hear it!

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Most these reasons are so incredibly stupid i just cant wrap my head around it. I'm not going to comment on any of these dumb 'reasons' because everyone else has already said everything i was planning on saying but wow, Melanie you must be extremely dense if you honestly think your kids and husband are going to judge you on your teenage mistakes. This post is unbelievable.

I Think with sex as a teen there are a few simple rules 1. wait till you can really trust the person your with so you KNOW your not being used I waited 10 month and by then any guy just after sex would have given up by then. 2. make sure you take it slow, go through all the motions of foreplay and get to know each other's bodies before doing the deed itself 3. Make sure you use some sort of contraception and be honest with each other and find out if they have slept with anyone else before you if so get them to have a test (if they do this for you, you know they love you) I think its wrong to say its wrong to have sex before marriage because we live in modern society and some people don't get married at all any more and i just don't think giving your virginity up is a great way to spend your wedding night because frankly your first time hurts. Id rather have a night of fun n passion rather than painfully and awkwardly trying to fit together for the first time. but iv got nothing against people with those beliefs Its just not my cup of tea.

I agree with most parts of this post! Protect yourselves ladies. It only takes one time to contract horrible diseases out there - and i'm guessing it's an awful experience, knowing some diseases are incurable and you have to live on with then for the rest of your life. That would scar some people for life. I don't necessarily think you should avoid sex altogether but i genuinely think people should practise polyamory more often - you restrict yourself to one person free of sexually transmitted diseases/infections and that way you minimise the chances of contracting sexually transmitted diseases so you save yourself from a lot of harm. That is not to say that the risks of your partner passing something on to you are extinct - it is possible if he doesn't remain committed to you, and that is why you should be careful about who you let in. Your own safety should be your number 1 priority.

I think this is good advice and will help alot of teens x

I agree with everything in this post! Everyone else is probably brainwashed by TV and the modern day life style, so they think it's okay. But I'm supporting you on this one!

@alexa: Please explain how this is sexist when these reasons apply to both genders. It may have been written by a woman but it applies to teenage boys just as equally.

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