I know what you're thinking. Why shouldn’t you have sex? Yes, of course, you are young; but according to your own estimation as a teenager, you are old enough. You aren’t married, but in your very own opinion, that does not matter – so why should anyone else’s opinion matter? If you want to have sex, then what’s to stop you? Why should you refrain, wait, and abstain? In short, why should you not do something that in your own mind you believe is good? My last post on this topic stirred up a lot of people. Is that what I’m trying to do again? No, not really, I’m just posting this because some teenagers out there want and need different opinions. Take note, I am not strictly saying NOT to have sex before marriage. This is basically for ages 13-16.

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7. Since before We Were Born, People Have Been Suffering from Dangerous Diseases

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The term today is STD – sexually transmitted disease. It only takes having sex one time with an infected partner to get infected yourself and having sex with more than one partner will increase those risks. Using a condom will reduce the chances, but, like Russian Roulette, you still have a bullet in that chamber and eventually you could get it. Do you trust that your partner isn’t having sex with someone else? Marriage certainly is not a perfect protection against a disease, but it is a lot safer than having sex with no other strings attached.

6. We Can’t Forget about Pregnancy

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Each year, thousands of girls end up with a positivepregnancy test and they are abandoned by their boyfriends, so they are left to face these consequences alone. There is no easy choice to make. You have three options. You can have the baby and raise it yourself. You can have the baby and put it up for adoption. You can have the baby aborted so that no one has to raise it. Which choice will you make?

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Facing an unexpected pregnancy is a significant turning point; it's not just about the immediate choice but the ripple effects that follow. Choosing to raise a child requires immense responsibility and can dramatically alter your life path, overshadowing educational and career goals. Opting for adoption carries emotional complexities, though it's a noble choice for those unprepared to parent. Deciding on abortion is deeply personal and often controversial, surrounded by societal scrutiny. Each option is life-changing, underscoring the gravity of sexual decisions and the critical need for educational empowerment and access to contraception.

5. You Have Sex with Many Different People, then You Get Married

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What would your spouse think? I once read a blog by a girl complaining that her husband did not trust her. Why? Because in high school, she had slept with lots of guys and never thought anything of it. Her husband always wondered if his wife slept with any guy he ever met. He wonders if she’s cheating on him right now. The reaction from the husband is natural. Think about your future before you sleep with lots of different people.

4. When You Eventually Have Children, They Hear about Your High School Adventures

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When your children get old, what if someone told them how you were in high school? Now, if you slipped up and slept with one person, that’s understandable, but sleeping with a lot of people without care is not good. Do you want your children to say “but my mom did it, so shall I?" Again, the choice is yours and I’m not going to judge you personally. Just think about your future kids, whose lives will be affected.

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3. Virginity is a Good Gift to Give Your Spouse

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I will tell you right now, I was 18 when I had sex and my husband was 18. He was my first and I was his first. Today, we have been married for 7 years. Maybe you could save yourself for the right one,the one that's willing to commithis life to you. It makes things even more sacred and beautiful.

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2. Save Yourself from the Heartache

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I couldn’t imagine giving up my virginity to some guy only to find that I got dumped and was used. I can’t imagine the heartache or how my husband would feel knowing that I was not his first. I guess I just thought about the future and didn’t let my guard down. If you don’t care about heartache, then go for it, but I know it’ll get to you eventually.

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Having sex as a teen can have long lasting consequences, both emotionally and physically. Studies have shown that teens who engage in sexual activity are more likely to suffer from depression, anxiety, and other mental health issues. In addition, teens who have sex are at higher risk for sexually transmitted diseases, and may even become pregnant.

Moreover, teens who have sex can be faced with social stigma and a lack of support from family and friends. This can lead to feelings of shame and guilt, and can have a negative impact on self-esteem.

Also, teens who have sex are more likely to engage in other risky behaviors, such as drug and alcohol use. This can lead to further health risks and can have an adverse effect on academic performance.

In addition, teens who have sex may be more likely to engage in sexual activity without protection, such as not using condoms. This can lead to an increased risk of pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases.

Ultimately, it is important to remember that having sex as a teen can have serious consequences. Teens should think carefully about the risks involved before engaging in sexual activity. Taking the time to save yourself from the heartache can be an invaluable decision.

1. It’s Just Not Healthy

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Most of the time (I said MOST of the time), young people do not really know the individual they are having sex with. The only intimate thing about the relationship is the sex part of it. Did you meet his parents? What do they do in their spare time? What if they have a venereal disease or worse, AIDS or HIV. These relationships could cause many health ailments and infections.

Those are 7 reasons not to have sex during your teen years. I know, you probably hate me for saying all of that stuff, but I’m not trying to be a downer. I’m not religious and at the end of it all, it’s your own body. Talk back to me – I’m ready to hear it!

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I am sixteen and definitely waiting for marriage. Sex opens you up to major vulnerability. It increases your chances of catching many diseases. Also, I'm a Christian and I don't believe that it's right to have sex outside of marriage. I strongly believe that God created sex for one man and one woman to express their love in the unity of marriage. If you don't agree with me, thats okay. Just know that once I am married I will have never had a STD. I will not be able to compare my husband to past partners. No guy will have ever spread around what I did or how easy I am in high school. There will be no guilt for going too far. I can't suffer from the rejection that goes along with it. And most of all I won't have to hide any past embarrassments or shame from the man that I will marry one day. Staying pure isn't for the losers, it's for those who don't wish to torture themselves!

Really? From the christian point of view it is best to wait until marrige...ALSO from the christian point of view it is best to marry someone who is christian just like yourself...you dont want to be unequally yolked...premarital sex causes too many problems..im 14 and i have had to see enough girls go through our church pregnet and looking ashamed because they chose not to wait...one of my closest friends has had sex alot and people know about it and label her as a slut and wont even speak to her. Plus losing it as a teenager is so dumb because you cant be sure that the guy will keep his mouth closed and it may end up all over campus...its honestly a dumb idea because most of those guys are still really immature and dont actually love you or care..their looking for the easy piece...when you save yourself for your husband it makes the expierience better mostly because its not going to last five minutes like it will if you do it before then....just some food for thought...studies show that the people who have the best sex life are those who are married:)

I think reason # 5 is ridiculous and judgemental. You said that the reaction of the husband was natural, but in my eyes, it was anything but that. It reeked of paranoia, insecurity and the old archaic ideals about women remaining virgins until they're married off to their 'one true love'. The husband bases his distrust solely on the fact that she's had multiple sexual partners in the past. As long as she's been tested, and is STD free, I see no point in him being distrustful. He married her, he's supposed to be her husband, yet he's judging her for her past. Doesn't sound like a very loving husband to me.

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I completely disagree with everything in this post, respectfully of course. The modern, educated woman isn't pushed around or forced into having sex with any man. I'm very sorry to all of those girls who did not exercise their right to say no or were raped. Those types of actions are very wrong and hurtful. My point of view is simple, have sex IF you want it. Be safe, be rational. Women are naturally more controlled by their emotions than men and often times they make the mistake of thinking, "He slept with me, therefore he'll marry me..." What a load of garbage! How ridiculous is it to think that just because two people engage in an intimate act of pleasure doesn't mean that they have to be "soul mates". I am by no means a slut or easy but I acknowledge the pleasure and the passion by being sexually aware of myself. It is absolutely archaic to think that virginity = purity. In today's world "purity" is simply non-existent between media and entertainment. It doesn't exist. To have a boyfriend or husband that doesn't trust you because you weren't a virgin when you hooked up with him means THAT MAN has some confidence issues. He isn't confident of himself, it is no way shape or form healthy and as long as the wife isn't cheating there is no reason to worry. NONE. just because she explored her desires doesn't make her a whore. Plain and simple. Be safe. Be logical. Enjoy sex for what it is, a natural pleasure.

I agree with most parts of this post! Protect yourselves ladies. It only takes one time to contract horrible diseases out there - and i'm guessing it's an awful experience, knowing some diseases are incurable and you have to live on with then for the rest of your life. That would scar some people for life. I don't necessarily think you should avoid sex altogether but i genuinely think people should practise polyamory more often - you restrict yourself to one person free of sexually transmitted diseases/infections and that way you minimise the chances of contracting sexually transmitted diseases so you save yourself from a lot of harm. That is not to say that the risks of your partner passing something on to you are extinct - it is possible if he doesn't remain committed to you, and that is why you should be careful about who you let in. Your own safety should be your number 1 priority.