19 Signs Your Crush Likes Someone else ...

Mainly, I base my blogs on girls and girl products. However, I understand that guys, just like girls, are always in need of advice, especially when it comes to the dating life. This blog is mainly aimed at teenagers, however, this will work for adults as well…

So, girls (and guys), why should you waste your time on someone when they like someone else? We know, you may think he is Prince Charming or The Most Beautiful Girl Ever and you two are meant to be together, but if your crush likes someone else, then you may want to think twice about what you are doing as you do not need to deal with heartache over someone that is “just not that into you.”

Oh, did you just say that you do not know if he or she likes someone else?

1 Look This Way...

Look This Way... When you are in school and you come across your crush walking in the hallway, what is he/she doing? Are they looking at another person past you? If he/she is looking at you, then this is a good sign. However, if they do not even notice you are in the world and is looking at someone else at that moment, then that is a bad sign.

2 Talk the Talk

Talk the Talk Does your crush ever stare at you as you are in class? If he/she does not talk to you when they sit next to you in class and they talk to the other guy/girl next to them, then this is also another sign that they are not into you like you are into them.

3 Paying Attention

Paying Attention Does your crush pay you any attention at all? When a crush does not pay attention to you, then this is definitely not a good sign. Especially if they are paying attention to someone else.

4 Talks about a Girlfriend

Talks about a Girlfriend Does the crush talk about their girlfriend or boyfriend a lot? This is also a sign that they like someone else.

5 Ignores You

Ignores You Does your crush know you like them, but still stays away from you with someone else? Again, this is no good.

6 Appearance

Appearance Is he or she starting to put a lot of time into their outer appearance, but you can tell that it is for someone else. (on this one, you can just tell).

7 Who They Hang out with...

Who They Hang out with... Do they hang out with the other person at all times of the day in school? This include class, lunch and before school.

8 Not a Family Member...

Not a Family Member... Have you seen your crush with someone else in public and you know for a fact that the “someone else” was not a family member?

9 Time to Move on

Time to Move on Have you asked your crush out, but they told you no? If so, then obviously, you should just move on and stop waiting around. If it happens in the future, then it happens.

10 Looking for Someone else

Looking for Someone else When you are in public hanging out with your crush, are they constantly looking behind their back as if they are looking for someone else other than you?

11 Avoiding You

Avoiding You Do they constantly avoid your calls, but does not avoid your friends calls?

12 Hiding a Secret

Hiding a Secret Does he/she sound like they are hiding a secret when you are spending time together? This will include stuttering a lot when they normally would not.

13 Feelings

Feelings Sometimes, you can just “feel” it when your crush likes someone else. Do you feel as if your crush likes someone? Well, you can pay attention to all of those signs above, but the one true way to really know if he/she likes someone else would simply be to ask them.

14 Just Friends…

Just Friends… Is your crush one of your good friends and has told people on many occasions that you’re, “Just Friends”? Chances are he is into someone else and doesn’t want to ruin the friendship you already have.

15 Like Family

Like Family Do you watch the ABC Family show, “Twisted”? Well Tyler recently asked Danny if he and Jo were an item, so Danny said they weren’t and that Jo was like a sister to him. Oh, what a blow to sweet Jo’s heart that was! Jo had a crush on Danny and really thought there could be something between them, but when she heard him say she was like a sister, she knew it was time to move on!

16 Asks You for Dating Advice

Asks You for Dating Advice This can either go two ways, he may ask you for dating advice because he likes someone else, or he likes you. If you’ve already seen some of these other signs that he likes another girl, then he is probably asking you about her. On the other hand, if you don’t see any of these signs, he may be asking you dating advice so he can get to know more about you!

17 He Suddenly Has New Interests…

He Suddenly Has New Interests… Didn’t he just say he hates country music and now he’s asking you to keep Luke Bryan on the radio? If your crush suddenly has new interests that he used to put down or never talked about before, signs are he likes someone else who enjoys these interests as well.

18 Texts or Talks on the Phone More

Texts or Talks on the Phone More Is his phone constantly buzzing from all of the text messages or phone calls he’s been receiving lately? If he isn’t usually the type to text or talk on the phone all day and is now, well you might want to look for a new crush!

19 He Gets Jealous

He Gets Jealous If your crush starts saying things like, “Why is she with him?” or “She can do so much better!”, it’s a sure sign that he is jealous and really likes this girl. That being said, if you still want to give it a try, give him some time to get over her before you let him know how you feel.

Alright, girls and guys, I just gave you nineteen signs to watch to know if your crush likes someone else. If you find that your crush does like some other person, then you should just move on.

However, if the two of you are dating, then you do need to make sure it is the fact that they like someone else and is not just something bothering them (not pertaining to you).

Also, when you hear rumors, you should know that school relationships are harsh as there are many that will try to break the two of you up. Do not go off of the deep end over those rumors until you have spoken to your crush about them (or in some cases, have let them get to know you better). It’s a tough world out there and you will go through some heartaches, so don’t let this get you down.

There will always be someone great out there waiting for you …

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kittykatbae21 gonna cry my boyfriend does some of these things
dydiann umm..i dont know if you are saying i am crazy because i have a crush almost in 5 year...oh my god..i just dont know why i have a feeling to he..but he never love at me at all...he also have a felling with my friend also in 5 years...oh,please tell me what i should do?
Shae There is this guy that i only see every other day in P.E and I thought he liked me. My friend who has classes with him almost every day tells me that he likes black girls. but my other friend in P.E tells me that she sees him glaring and staring at me. So one day he was standing with his friend at the doorway of the gym (he was in a diffrnet unit than my P.E class at the time) My friend was all like omg i think bae is looking at you. So i turned around and as soon as i turned all i saw was this guys red shirt. He ran away!. and the friend he was standing by was standing there with his arms folded he waved and walked away. So now its spring break and i found the guy i likes friend on FB and when i chatted with him he was like you like him and i was like yeah. so then when i told him about how his friend ran away he just told me that his friend was pretending that he wasnt afraid to talk to girls. So they girl he was looking at was not me. (How embarasing) But the guy i like is very shy and im just like ughhhh Should i give up or should i just keep chasing pavements... jk But seriously should i just move on or should i give it a shot and see if hes intrested in anyway..........
- dydiann @Shae Lion, what are you talking about? huh?
Shae i need some help!!!!
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Anonymousgirl12 I AM REALLY CONFUSED! So there's this guy I like and I'm pretty positive that he likes me back. We text 24/7, he calls me hot, pretty, nice, awesome etc..... We make eye contact a lot when we see eachother in town. But there's one thing.......he has a girlfriend. It might just be jealousy, but I don't think that they are very good couple (intimately). I really need help on this....its kind of eating me away inside...
no Hi, there's this guy who goes to my school who I'm family friends with but only met properly like, a week ago. He's a year older and I would really like to be more than friends but I see him with another girl quite a bit and his mum thought he might be seeing a new girl even though he recently came out of a serious relationship.. He seemed really interested when we chat and is always really smiley when I see him - do I bother or it is wishful thinking??
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riyal please help i dont know what to do
riyal hi there what if your like is dating with someone else but she continue contacting you like sweet message what is the reason?
Kelsey I can't get over my crush
Raziul no one can understand me
Esmiraldah halo,my problem is that i have just met this cute guy and i think he has a crush on me because of the following reactions: 1.He is always staring at me 2.When im talking to him he is always filled with joy 3.He is a little bit crazy when i am around him 4.He is always shaking when im talking to him So my question is does he really have a crush on me because i really like him a lot .
Bea Love is a complicated matter, it destroys you and at the same time makes you almighty...
MedeaYCirceVolcaloid I thought my crush liked another girl for a long time. Then we found out that he liked me. By then, I liked someone else. Talk about late.
MedeaYCirceVolcaloid I thought my crush liked another girl for a long time. Then we found out that he liked me. By then, I liked someone else. Talk about late.
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- crazy @nice girl24, u should meet him/her or u should 4get about hi/her...!!!!
Anonymous He knows I really like him but now I'm never going to see him again.. How do I get over him and move on??????? I think I love him..
Kristy So here's the solution to all your issues.. Men don't need attention actually they need the opposite.. Ignore them.. If u bump into them, sure be nice smile, do the small talk, mention something interesting, cool that ur up to.. But don't focus on them, focus on u.. It's all about you from now on.. Your cool, ur smart, ur interesting... Eventually the'll realize that or will be convinced, because your solo cool.. And if u really want to drive them crazy, appear to have a bf or be unavailable without actually confirming to anyone that this bf actually exists.. Act like u got a cute, funny, text while there watching you, kind of like ur love giddy about someone who's texting.. Trust me the'll pick up on it, especially if ur also showing signs that ur not interested.. Then after some time, show more interested in them... But not to much, the'll start wondering if ur single now.. Then go cold again with them.. I know it seems like a game but honestly, men like a challenge.. That's why they play sports.. It's a male thing.. Anyway, don't be mean eveeerr, or rude. Always nice, just not that interested here and there.. Confuse them but in a sweet friendly way.. Good luck!
- Anonymous @Kristy, that is actually some great advice thanks :)
Anonymous Why does no-one reply to this anymore :/
Anonymous How do I get over a guy that I'm so crazy in love with???
Laney We'll this doesn't make me feel depressed at all! 😄
karen hi.. this is my first time on this post so I don't know how to start but here goes. there are girl I really like at work but I know she got a boyfriend but she always looks at me when ever I walk past her department and when ever she walks past mine. I know she interested because when ever she looks at me she doesn't pay attention to anything else wat should I do. im not the type to break up a relationship but I really like her wat should I do?
- riyal @karen, same problem here like you but shes dating someone but i dont know why shes care about me
Anonymous Hi.. So I've posted on this before but I'll try to keep this one short and sweet.. So there's this guy who's a year above me that I'm crazyyy about and recently he found out from my friend- well it was sorta my idea.. But yeah so we've never been like mates or anything but now there's no chance of anything and we see each other everyday which makes it 10000x more awkward than it should be.. But anyway so there's this girl who I always see him just "talking" to which I know shouldn't bother me because he's not 'mine' or anything but it's just the fact that she's reallyyyy pretty and I know compared to her I don't stand a chance which makes my heart like shatter whenever I see them together.. And I'm starting to think that it was the biggest mistake of letting my friend tell him but it's too late now.. I just don't know how to deal with the fact that there could never be an "us" and as far as I'm concerned that whole "there's someone out there for everyone" thing is just a load of false hope for people like me.. But sometimes I just get like REALLY depressed about the whole thing and don't know what to do or how to cope.. Sorry that wasn't really short...
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Maddie Hi theres this guy at school that i like, hes in my classes and i started making eye contact which he returns and sometimes i talk to him during class but i think another girl likes him and shes in his friendship group so she hangs out with him sometimes. I know that he gets shy around girls that he likes and he has started being shy around me (he never was before) but i just have this feeling that he might like this other girl more than me and that because hes shy he'll get with her because its easier than trying to start talking to me properly since we dont hang out. What should i do?
Kim So the guy that I like, I work with. We use to flirt and give each other notes during work. Until he got his promotion at work. We planned on having fun outside of work and not tell anyone.. I went with it but he started acting like a Dick! He started to calm down and things were fine, and then I asked him to come over and he said yeah.. Later that night I got this txt saying we couldn't go on with what we were doing. He wont tell me why and he doesn't want to talk about it. What does that mean, and What should I do?????
Anonymous Hi I really need some advice. There's this guy who I've known for over 3 years now as we go to the same school. We're also in the same class. That started off okay when we first met and it all just seemed normal; two kids getting to know each other becoming friends. Well almost as soon as we first spoke I started to like him. A lot. Like more than I've ever liked a guy. And anyway those feeling just got stronger and three years later I'm absolutely crazy about him. We do talk quite a bit at school, and flirt I guess, but I've never been able to tell him how I feel. I mean I'm sure he just thinks of me as one of them girl-friends who you can flirt with and nothing more, but I have really deeply fallen for him and I'm scared. I spend most of the school day either staring at or daydreaming about him- even so that my grades are slipping. Sometimes he's caught me staring and that brief second where our eyes meet is always the highlight of my day, but I know that if he did know how I felt we could never be friends again, and I couldn't bare it if things became awkward between us. Even though things are already awkward for me. I try soo hard to talk to him whenever I can but he's always with his guy friends and usually there's a girl he's busy flirting with. I know the best thing to do would be to move on because he's just another "player" as some might call him. Don't get me wrong I've tried moving on; there's this guy in the year above who I kinda like (who is definitely a player but I still like, weird) and my friends are always telling me to move on because he's not worth it and doesn't care about my feelings- which I know is true but somehow, it's like I only like this 2nd guy when the first one isn't around, like in a comforting kinda way. But this guy means nothing in the way that the first guy does (the one in my class). I just don't know what to do because if he knew how I felt...I wouldn't be able to face him again and our friendship would be over. I've actually tried talking to him online before thinking it would give me courage but it doesn't.. And he usually gives really dull one word answers that make me feel unimportant. This always makes me angry and depressed at the same time that I just burst into tears. But like I've said, it's physically and mentally impossible for me to move. I'm lost. What should I do? Please help..
Vale My situation is kind of complicated... so I like my best friend's brother hahaha! They are twins but they are not similar at all!! Last year we didn't umm like talked that much. I didn't liked him last year, well the truth is that I didn'T even notice him and he didn't notice me soo whatever ha! I'm 13 and he is 13 too. This year he had a girlfriend, like two months ago and she really liked him, she literally loved him since last year. I don't really know why he liked her back... He talks to me a lot we are like best friends I can talk about anything to him and I know that I can trust him and he trusts me too so it's kinda fun. but I'm very confused because he started to flirt with me like a kind of playful teaseful flirty haha i dont know something like that! mHe tells to me that he loves me and that I'm his everything and things like that! EVERYONE is saying that we love each other... you know rumors. I do like him but it is kind of wierd because he is my best friend's brother! He always gets to close I mean when I am talking his face is literally in front of me! And when i get mad with him because of something stupid he tries to make me laugh, he is really nice to me! but the thing is that i dont know if he likes me. Everyone is asking me like Do you love him? and my friends have been asking him too! One day my friend asked him and she told me that he didn't say a word he just smiled, and then my friend asked him again like an hour later she said: Do you love her or not? and he said: I never said that I didn't! I heard him and I know he knows that I heard him! Then her ex girlfriend started to give me dirty looks! Now every time i am talking to him she is there watching us! A friend of his asked him about her like why is she making her dirty looks and he said because she is jelous and his friend asked him why and he said because i am always with her! and it is truee! everytime the bell rings he goes directly to my locker! He always ALWAYS teases me but in a flirty way! But the truth is that I am scared to fall in love and not being loved back! literalyy that is my biggest fear so pleasee help mee!
Dusty Dusty 3m ago Ok. I'm in need of advice. I met a guy online. We started off texting, one day he called me and we talked for 3 hours. From then, we talked a few times and texted. We met about a week ago and hit it off, but unfortunately we ended up having sex. While it was absolutely amazing for the both of us, he has been acting different since then. He had made comments like "what are you doing to me " and that he is "unable to be loved " and that he liked me but I do not deserve lies and he doesn't want to and will not hurt me. Well, he has barely texted me, we have not talked on the phone. He said he has been in his own little world and swears I did nothing to bother him. What are some opinions you guys may have? I like him, and we had wonderful conversations and to be honest, I have a pretty good judge of character and have never been wrong, and I do not see him as an awful person.
Rachel Hi, so heres the thing. I like this guy called David, to me hes my best friend if not more, but I can't tell if he feels the same way. Everyone says its soo obvious he likes you but im still not sure He hangs out with me for the last 20mins of lunch and we talk bout lots and he makes me feel good Im sorta friends with his sister and she says he always talks bout me at home He sometimes stares at me in class But hes the biggest flirt in my year, and I want to know if i have some chance with him Im 15 and hes 16. please help me
laravenclaw I must admit that I feel a little silly about commenting on one of these... But an impartial third party would definitely help. I am a high school/college student with a little bit of dating under my belt. I haven't dated in two years, though- my last relationship ended in an absolutely horrid manner and I have been reluctant to trust anybody since. He is a college freshman (a complete nerd, like me) with absolutely no dating under his belt. We met at work in September and I quickly developed feelings for him. This was a surprise for me. So, anyways... We started going to movies and stuff (in groups and alone), but I always initiated these outings. As he went to high school with my friend, I knew quite a bit of his background and assumed it was because he was shy with girls. So, last Friday night I revealed to him (using a flip book) that I "was wondering if he go on a date with me?") He smiled the entire time I presented the flip book, and said that he "would love to go on a date with me." He confirmed that it would be his first. (I FEEL LIKE I'M WRITING A BOOK FOR YOU GUYS- please be patient with me). So we arranged to go to Thor on Sunday at 7. We're both comic nuts. We talked in the parking lot for around 30 minutes after the movie and he asked if he could kiss me. And I, of course, said yes. So we kissed once. It was his first kiss. It was chaste. But super sweet. Afterwards, I texted him. I told him I had an amazing time and he said that there would be a second date. But when I texted him on Thursday, asking him if he would be able to do something over the weekend, he didn't even respond. I mean, I wouldn't have been angry had he said no. But it does bother me that he doesn't seem to deem me worthy of a response. And on Friday, at work, he treated me in the same way he always does (which isn't bad) but didn't even seem to acknowledge that I had sent the message or even that the date had even occurred. I really don't want to seem overly clingy.... But I have never put my heart out on the line like I did before... And to be honest, I kind of regret it because I now feel ridiculously vulnerable. I keep thinking it could be because of my body (I'm 5'6 and weigh 171 pounds, so I'm kind of fat) and he's ridiculously skinny (he's probably 5'10 and he once told me he weighs 170)... But anyways, we don't look that awkward together. I mean, I'm losing weight and since he's taller than me, I don't look like a giant next to him. I've rambled long enough. To the point- Has he already lost interest? Was he never interested? I know you haven't met him, but... I tried to be as thorough as possible. PS- please don't sugarcoat it. If the information that I have given indicates that he doesn't want me, then please tell me.
- Brenda @laravenclaw honestly, I think he really likes you but he's scared to trust someone in "that" way maybe.... He may be overwhelmed or even embarassed because he hasn't had as much experience as you. And about your weight don't worry about that. You aren't fat. I hope things get better for you but bottom line he probably just doesn't know how to act from there. Hope I helped:)!
Anonymous Hi, here's the thing. There's this guy who i've had a crazy crush on since i was in 7th grade and we sat together in class. Im in year 10 now and i still have strong feelings for him; im pretty sure i am in love with him. But i have a problem. Im one of those really shy girls who is too afraid to go after what she wants and expects everything to work out perfectly in the end.. Well i know that i have to be honest and tell him how i feel, but i cant do it. I try to convince myself that im strong enough to just blurt it out, but im really not. Now we are quite good friends sometimes, he flirts with me alot and we have a laugh but lots of guys flirt with girls, because thats just who they are. It doesnt mean they have feelings for the girl, does it? The guy im in love with is always joking around and trying to set me up with his mate, but he doesn't know that he's the one i want to be with. I do try to get close to him at school but he's always with his friends, so i never get to just be alone with him :( . Also i was just wondering, im 14 now and have never even had a boyfriend.. Does that mean im just not girlfriend material?
Tiarne Also he has never said he doesn't like me but never says he does either and once I told him to let me know if he had a problem with me or hates me and he has never said anything so is it possible he could like me, what's the deal with him???
Tiarne There's this guy who lives in my street and I've liked him for 2 years. I feel he likes me sometimes he shows the signs? the thing is we have never talked in person before as he hasn't given me the chance like i always see him and try to but we just talk on face book here and there. he is always hanging in the street with his mates and this girl a cousin of one of his mates. Anyway The other day I was listening to music with my Aunty in her car in the street and we were playing it loud next thing u know my crush and his mates as I looked in the mirror came out and were like dancing joking around to my music and they started to play soccer I saw in the mirror my crush kept trying to glance at me through the mirror here and there and was showing off like he kept trying to see if i was watching him, he even lifted up his shirt. then as we walked past them I said "hey guys"and most of them said hi my crush said hi but with his back turned he see ed nervous. But they were all loud and jokey until I walked past them they went silent. What could that mean??? Then a week later I sent him a msg and said would u like to hang out sometime I'd like to get to know you and he said what do u mean by hang?? why would he question like wouldn't he know what it means? or maybe he was wondering if he meant a date or just as friends so i said just to chill in the street sometime maybe see a movie but just as friends nothing more and he said "ok" that's all and i presumed that meant yes cuz times before that i asked him the same thing and he said no thanks so i thought that was progress. Then a week later I sent another msg saying r u still keen to go see this movie i mentioned to see and he said "no thnx I'm busy this weekend and i'm already seeing it with mates" I was so hurt cuz he said ok then made up he was busy when he wasn't like he lied And isn't the type to do that? Could it be possible he got cold feet? Maybe he is shy cuz he shows me signs he likes me then confuses me cuz he said that maybe he is afraid what his mates think cuz they r always wi him and so we have never got an opportunity to have alone time. Maybe his scared to get to know me cuz he has genuine feelings for me I don't know. Then one night on face book he did this like for a like thing and i liked it and he wrote something to everyone who liked it but not me. he said to other girls they were pretty and stuff but That girl who I was saying before up who hangs with them I mean he knew I existed long before she came into the picture and he wrote to her like they were first joking around on there and then he said "Your funny and nice and we always talk, you always hang with us and your pretty hot hahah" then put a smiley face smiley face. could this mean he likes her?? He doesn't know me well but he has the chance to and it seems like he does but is scared with me confident with her. Everyone tells me I'm pretty but he never says anything and that same night the girl's cousin his friend sent me a friend request on face book which was weird. When me and the guy i like talk on face book i always start the conversations but he always answers me but says either a one word answer or a few lines and never asks me questions back but answers mine. The other night I said how are you and it said he was typing for ages just to answer that but it was like he wanted to write alot but he ended up changing it to like two words. he always likes the photos of that girl and he never likes anything on face book of mine maybe he wants . When I happen to be around him sometimes with his mates he always acts shy like different but with other girls more confident and another thing I saw him and his mum the other day and his mum waved he saw me but did nothing and turned his back toward me but as I kept on walking I looked back and happened to have caught him look back at me after I went and like another time I waved to him and he just stared. Is it possible he has feelings for me but doesn't know it yet. Is he shy? Does he like that p Other girl and me? Should I just wait and see if he does anything cuz if I keep trying I don't want to seem full on. I'm so confused cause actually in the past he did try to get to know me and he seemed totally interested but then I told him I like him on a note and after that he went cold on me, ignoring and I said to forget about it and I did some pretty stupid things I said I was sorry but like maybe he feels awkward around me now and doesn't know how to approach me
Anonymous Hi i need some advice. Theres this guy who I've been so totally in love with for nearly three years. I know it seems like too long but he's just one of them guys where no matter what he does, you cant help loving him. The thing is, my best friend likes him too. And at first i didnt really mind because, well, i can understand why she would like him. But now its different. Like whenever me and my friend are walking to class, he often comes up and most of the time he talks to her and totally blanks me. Then other times its the other way around. Whenever i see him talking to my friend, i kinda start to feel upset. Jealous even. Does that make me a bad friend? I mean i was fine with it at first but then i fell more and more in love with him and now i sort of feel alone when i see him with other girls. Ive never been able to tell the guy or my best friend exactly how i feel because im kind of scared of what they might think.
- Anonymous @Deborah, thanks for the advice. Well, it turns out now my friend has moved on to liking some other guy. Cant say im not kinda relieved. And we are really good friends still, because even though we went after the same guy, we still like to have these girlie chats about the guys we both like, which is good. As for the guy im so in love with, he makes it soo hard for anyone to know who he likes because sometimes he flirts, and other times he doesnt. A few weeks ago, the two of us were asked to help out at school, which meant spending the whole day together, missing all lessons. And i wont bother denying it, it was magical. Unfortunetly, that was the only time we properly connected. My friend doesnt know exactly how i feel about him but she knows i really like him, and now she likes someone else. Anyway chances are he will never like me and i will never be able to pluck up the courage to express my feelings. I mean when i try to talk to him just as another friend, im not shy at all, but sometimes i have to avoid eye contact, because im afraid he'll see right through me..
parth12 Sometimes she notices me and gives good smile but some time she doesnt, bt ya whenever we talk she seems happy and eager to know about wat I am saying. I am really confused, please give me some advise.
- Heather Hi Parth! I think that you need to flirt with her a little bit and see what happens!
Anonymous Hi i am friends with my crush on facebook but he has hidden my posts i found out, is that a sign he doesnt like me but i mean we are still friends on there?
- Denise Hey there. I'm so sorry about that. Some people hide posts from FB friends who aren't close to them in real life.... So he might have done that because he just doesn't know you that well. But maybe that will change if you actually tried to talk to him.
Abby I really like this guy but he says he sorta likes his ex! I'be liked him for about a year and we used to sit next to eachother in a lecture but now we dont and think thats changed things! Hes different to other boys though cause he always notices when im upset but then he always notices his ex as well! Thing is im seriously ugly and his ex isnt beautiful but still prettier than me! I dont know what to do!
- Denise Hi Abby. If you think you need to spend more time with each other, then you should probably ask him to hang out. And please do not compare yourself to his ex. It seems like he cares about you regardless of how you look. Confidence, hun!
- Anonymous @Abby, Hi Abby, if this guy you like likes his ex it leaves you in a difficult situation but nothing you can't at least try to work out. If he notices you that is a great sign, he's acknowledging your feelings. Sounds like he is into both of you but unsure which one he likes more. Darling never call yourself ugly, we are all unique and beautiful in our own individual way don't ever change that. Tell yourself your beautiful and you will feel beautiful and that confidence will shine, smile and be positive, it works. Don't look at his ex as prettier then you she is just as equal as you are. What i would suggest to do is to talk to him, radiate your confidence. Tell him how you feel, say you like him but you understand if he doesn't feel the same it is best to know then keep wondering and as for his ex well if they are not together yet again he must be deciding you he really has strong feelings for, for them it didn't work out for a reason so get in first, tell him so he has more to consider. Good luck, i hope it goes well, let me know
anonymous Why is it so hard for a guy to tell you if he likes you, or let you down easy if not? Theres this guy ive been totally in love with since we met at the start of year 7. Im in year 9 now and i thought it would just be easier to tell him how i feel. Well it isnt... We're in the same class which means we pretty much see eachother everyday at school. He always sends me these mixed messages. One day he's really flirty, then the next its asif i dont exist... Ive tried to tell myself that im over him but i know im just lying to myself.. Even when he's mean to me i cant let the feelings disappear. Some people say that guys are mean to girls to hide the fact that they like them. But i dunno. This is so confusing and i just dont know how to feel anymore...
- Denise Hi there, hun. I know it's hard and quite scary, but maybe you should make the first move. Hopefully, you can clear things up once you talk with him.
- Anonymous No worries anytime, i just hope it all works out, but it is your best option to be straight with him. And if it doesn't work out the way you wanted to at least you know and you don't have to wait forever and you can move on only to meet the guy of your dreams who may still be out there. If you want you can let me know how it goes and if you need anymore advice i'll be glad to help. All the best
- anonymous Thanks for everything. Its gonna be really hard but i cant wait forever. What exactly have i got to lose? Whether it end well or not, i dont have many options other than just being straight with him. Ive waited too long already.. Thanks again for all the advice.
- Anonymous Hey again, that is fine, every individual is different if love hasn't made you confident and you know what you have to do and you don't want to express your feelings and you want to wait for him to that's fine, but don't wait forever. It is a great sign, him coming up to you, and flirting it means he is interested, even if he is joking he is making the effort to come up to you. He may be joking as he is covering the fact that he likes you but is shy, it could be a hint. If he is shy to express his feelings too then that's an issue and you will have to tell him. You being nervous is a sign you really like him an dit can't be controlled. "The biggest risk of all is taking no risk", it's fine if you want to wait for him but it is better if you take the risk to tell him and if say you did and he thought it was a joke be honest and say your serious, and if he could stop taking things as a joke. Now what you can do to encourage or tempt him to be honest about his feelings is to up the flirting and laughing is a great thing, show him you are there for him, say hi and stuff everytime you see him, be comfortable around him and be yourself. It may take a while but it isn't guranteed he will, so if it takes too long you will have to. But even just casually say to him one day in a nice way how do i know when you are serious about anything when you always joke?
- anonymous I know what i need to do, i know that it would make things a whole lot easier... Or worse... As far as i know, love hasnt made me confident. For example, today he came up to me and started talking and flirting, but just as a joke. Thats the thing stopping me, he takes everything as a joke. Hes not just a typical guy friend, hes special, but sometimes annoying, he wouldnt take me serious if i came forward. Anyway so he was talking and laughing, i was laughing at times, but it was more of a nervous laugh. Whenever im around him i get nervous and i cant help it. I really dont want to be the one to come forward because if i did id never to be able to make eye contact with him or any of his friends again. Id be far too embarrassed. Isnt there a way of tempting him to be honest? If i guys gets rejected by a girl its cute (not that id ever reject him), but if a girl gets rejected by a guy her life is practically over. How could i possibly encourage him to be honest or whatever without actually telling him???
- anonymous I appreciate all the great advice but ive still got alot of thinking to do. I mean, the only way i can actually express my feelings is through an anonymous website, so how can i go face to face with the guy im in love with and blurt everything out? I do really want to know how he feels but im a shy kinda girl. I often get really nervous around him and just make a complete fool of myself. For starters, my friend was honest with the guy she fancies and everyone kept making fun of her and now they barely speak because its now awkward.. I dont want that to happen to me but at the same time, i dont like keeping this secret. It drives me crazy especially because we are in the same class and see eachother everyday.. Maybe i should just not say anything and wait for the right guy to come along... This is by far the hardest situation ive ever been in...
- Anonymous Hey well first of all i advise you to ask yourself what's holding you back? Once you know that you can change it. Don't let fear hold you back or doubt. You are strong with limitless possibility. As for your friends politely tell them to not come when they see you talking to him, they should understand. It is great though that you two have chat's together, it's a really good sign. Tell him next time you're with him before his friends come and ruin the moment. He may need time to think about it, once you tell him you may have to give him some time, you may need to expect that. Imagining is the key, use this to have a plan of action to make it a reality and you can do it. It's normal to be terrified trust me, we all are when it comes to situations like this but wouldn't you feel better if you got it off your chest. Sweetie don't rate yourself, you are beautiful in your own way, there is no such thing as ugly. He should accept you for who you are. Those guys these days looking for girls like that are not the right ones, you know there are guys who are good and don't base their feelings on looks, this one may be that guy, but you won't know till you pluck the confidence and tell him, he should appreciate you having the confidence to tell him. Now that's special. Never hate yourself be positive and love yourself. You can never love someone else until you learn to love yourself. Yes there is a risk of being rejected but it is better to know so you don't just keep hoping and waiting, at least you will know how he feels and you can move on either with or without him. Believe. No your never too young to have a boyfriend i believe, and you know why you have never had a boyfriend because you are waiting for the right one, who you will be with forever. Don't rush things. Forget the other girls who have boyfriends most of the time it doesn't work out when it is rushed. It is completely ok to be emotional and cry don't bottle it up, this guy could be the one, even if he isn't don't give up or beat yourself up about it, the right one is out there somewhere and you will meet soon. He may be flirting with other girlbut that doesn't mean he doesn't love you, no way near, if he is still single then it's your chance to shine. You know what you have to accept that you are scared and that's alright, once you do that you will find it easier to tell him. All the best and if you need further advice don't hesitate to ask, i'm happy to help, love is tricky but it is worth it
- Anonymous Hey there Anon, i know any girl would love for a guy they like or love to tell how they feel straight up otherwise we tend to feel confused, do we wait, do something about it or not? The thing is guy's are very confusing and hard to read at times. But just remember it may not be so easy for them to express their feelings when they like a girl just like it would be hard for a girl to express her feelings to a guy. Keep in mind he may be shy, you know hes the one when u keep going back no matter how hard it is, if thats a few years ago you fell for him, clearly it seems you love him but you may not know it. You have the chance to tell him whenever you want, dont wait just go right out and say it, it is ok for you to tell him how u feel, be honest who knows he may feel the same but its worth knowing if u dont talk to him u will never know if ur meant to be, give it a go you'll be right. I know it's easier said then done but do it or you'll regret not doing so and wonder what if i was meant to be with him? Mixed messages well i'm not a stranger to that, from experience mixed messages is a clear sign they have feelings for you. Now if you are not over him don't tell yourself that you are when your not it does nothing beneficial, dont lie if u really like him you can't blame yourself or your heart for feeling the way it does, you have a choice to do something about it. Feelings are feelings they wont disappear if they are true. Guys are definitely mean to girls they like to hide the fact they like them why? don't know You can't control how u feel remember that so you dont need to know how you feel, listen to your heart sweetie, all the best let me know how it goes
Anonymous Hi the guy who i am in love with completely hurt my feelings just recenetly. He lives next door to me but anyway he was on my driveway hiding from his friends as they were playing a game and soon as he saw me coming in the care he quickly got up and went back to his house because like i think he felt bad for being on my driveway. Anyway but the bad thing was i waved to him from the car and he definately saw me even though i was in the backseat but as he saw me wave he kept looking but didn't wave back or even smile he just stared. How rude is that. Does it mean he doesnt like me or is he shy or is there another possible reason?
- Denise Maybe he wasn't sure how to react. I'm guessing that his non-reaction was unintentional. But really, I can't be sure why he acted that way.
- Anonymous So true thanks for that. I will keep that in mind
Cellist I've known my crush for 4 years. at first he knew i like him but he grew out of that feeling. and even though we oovoo a lot and smile at each other, and hang out when we can, he didn't know my age until when i talked to him last week. What should i do?
- Denise Hi Cellist. Is your age a problem for him? It also looks like you guys need to get to know each other more. I don't know what you talk about on ooVoo, but maybe you need to talk about more personal things.
Aubree' I likws this guy for some time now...but im not sure he likes me back so i asked him and he never really did answer the question...some of my friends say he does and some say he dosent I catch us flirting or him staring at me i think....and everytime we get in a fight we always figure a way to make up somehow. We text each other alot....but i still dont know if he likes me....help PLEASE
- Denise Hey Aubree. Maybe you can ask him out? And then maybe you can bring up the topic again. But it's up to you.
Jade Hey ummm a little confused as to if there is any meaning behind this at all but i am friends on facebook with the guy i like and i've noticed lately when i have changed my profile pic to one of me like hours later he changes his one to one of him then the next time i change it to say a group one of me and my friends and he then changes his to a group one and it has happened a couple times seems like he mimics me is that a good thing by the way dont know whether he likes me back
- Denise Hi Jade. Don't try to over-analyze the situation. It's possible that he just happened to change his picture when you changed yours. If you are good friends, then you could try joking about it with him.
Anonymous I like this guy. At the beginning of the year, I was pretty sure he liked me too (I didn't like him at that time), he was always staring at me and actually smiled at me (back then, he didn't smile all that much). Plus, I made him laugh (he basically never laughed then). But after awhile, when I got to know him more, I fell for him. But then he started giving mixed signals. One day we would flirt with each other and he would stare at me and smile when I caught him, the next he won't do anything. Now, I'm not so sure anymore. He talks to me more now, but its now more like a friend than anything else. Maybe it's cuz I've gotten closer to him, so that it doesn't feel like much when he smiles at me, but I feel like it's different from before. BTW, I'm in grade 7.
- Heather Hi Anon! I'd say that the guy that you like does like you but he's shy. He doesn't know how to act with you now that all of these feelings have developed. I'd take it one day at a time, keep up the flirting and get to know him. Who knows, you might have to make the first move, just know that.
Anonymous How can i tell by body actions and facial expressions if the guy im in love with feels the same, without asking him??
- Lyndsie Generally, if a boy likes you, he'll spend a lot of time looking at you, especially sneaking glances, and he may tease you as well. He might sit with his body facing toward you, even if you're across the room, and look away if he catches you looking at him.
Laura Hi i sent the guy i like a message on facebook and said why do you ignore me etc like i said it isn't just him his friends do too and mind you he knows i like him and he replies with: wait what happened?; at first with a sad face next to it and he sent it straight away like my message was long he coiuldnt have read it quick thats why he said what happened then he went back to read it, he next said: when did i ignore your family i always wave to you and your parents and i am sorry if i offendeed u i had no intention i apologize. See he was nice about it then he said finally ok i'm sorry then i sent somehting else and he never replied i hope i didn't make him feel bad. Do you think he secretly likes me what does all these words of his reply mean i'm confused. He does ignore me and then he doesnt recognise it maybe he gets shy when i'm around and he doesnt knwo he is doing it cuz he said it wasnt his intention, then why does he do it? Where do i go from here? should i wait to se if he respect me more and changes otherwise what, do you think he meant his words. I hope he likes me but i get a feeling
- Laura @Lyndsie Robinson, thnx heaps just quickly though like just after i sent this message like a day later i saw him and magically he listened he did wave and all his friends so he must have told them, then i saw him again that same day and he waved again but this time it was very sarcastic like he was overdoing it which then makes it confusing but at least he did it. Would you have an idea why he was sarcastic?
- Laura Hi yeh your right, that's so true, i wish it was easier but i guess that's life, guys can be so confusing but yep it is worth it in the long run :)
- Lyndsie Hi Laura! While your crush could just be shy and unsure about how to act around you, he might also just be a nice, normal boy who acts weird when he's around his friend. I think your best option is definitely to wait and see. If he changes his behavior, you'll have better idea about what he's thinking.
- Anonymous @Laura, Hi Laura! I was looking at some of the comments and yours stood out to me. Im in the same kinda situation and what ive realised is, guys have a way of making you feel that your doing something wrong, when really it could be the complete opposite. Guys are really bad at expressing their true feelings, so instead of saying the wrong thing, they say nothing. Dont take it personally, thats just how they are. I know what your going through, what you should do the next time you see your crush, go up to him, dont come on too strong or you might push him away. Just act how you would around any other friend. Let him see you for who you are and then, he'll know if he likes you or not. It could be a while, but thats what it takes, and in the end its worth it.
benjamae we have same situation the guy i like says hi to me 2times already i didnt snob him i just looked at him and on new years eve i caught him staring at me then i was bursting in happiness and when we passed each other he just looked down like nothing happen and he doesnt say hi to me anymore i wonder if he is discouraged of me because im chubby and i have a loud laugh and by the way i start diet because of him. what should i do?
- Lyndsie Hi Benjamae! First of all, if you're starting a diet, do it for you, not for anyone else! When you're confident in yourself, it shows! Besides, I bet he doesn't think you're chubby and that he loves your laugh. He might be shy himself, or he might just want to be friends. The best thing for you to do is be yourself and try talking to him more.
ciara I keep going back and forth in my love for this guy. i know he doesn't feel the same for me and never will but like one mintue i try to get over him and it doesn't work the next i keep doing things to be with him but it doesn't work either, but either way i still and always will love him, i need help please to somehow stop this and just move one way forward without him. I have him as a facebook friend should i delete him, i even asked my mom who doesn't really like him and she said how bout you think about so that was wierd i thought she would say yes. Because of my love for hi9m i've hurt everyone in my family, i've sacrificed so much and it has gone to waste, should i message him on facebook and tell him off because he is rude to me. No matter how much he hates me i can't get over him, the bad thing is he now has a girlfriend which is his bestfriend. This cannot happen
- rajesh @ciara, :) we are in the same stage but dealing with different demons.. take care
- Anonymous @ciara, I think it'll be quite hard to completely delete him from your life if your neighbours. But you do need to find a way to get over him. When i was trying to forget about a guy i "thought" i was in love with, instead of thinking about all the positives about him, try finding things that perhaps irritate you. Then you'll see exactly why your love changes. It sounds difficult, but it really isnt. For example, when you look at him, instead of thinking about how gorgeous he is, think about how rude he is to you. I know its hard getting over someone you love, but its possible. It'll take a while, but eventually you should be able to see him, and feel no special feelings. Sometimes, forgetting and moving on is the best thing in life.
- ciara @Lyndsie Robinson, Ok thnx that is really helpful advice but just one last thing just recently i catched him up around my house cuz he is my next door neighbour but it was weird like if he doesn't like me i don't get why he would be up there, then i think he saw me then he quicklly ran.
- Lyndsie Ciara, I'm so sorry you're going through such a painful situation. I really think you need to move on and do your best not to be around him. Trying to be around him is obviously damaging, and that might be why you can't get over him. This will take time and it will hurt, but you can do it. I wouldn't send him a Facebook message, because that just opens up another line of communication and it creates an opportunity for you to get hurt. I think it would be best if you just quietly but firmly removed him from your life. Delete him from your Facebook so you're not faced with his updates, stop seeking him out, and look for new activities, friends, and hobbies with which to distract yourself. You WILL move on, I promise.
tia Hi just wondering what it means when a guy ignores you after you tell him you like him. He has been ignoring me for 2 years, it's weird. Could it mean he actually feels the same way but doesn't want to show it. I know it is possible he doesn't like me but can it also mean he is shy or there is something else making him act like this? Cause he then sometimes but rarely just stares but most of the time ignores me. Should i do the opposite keep smiling waving at him etc. or should i do what he is doing and ignore him to. Sorry it's just i'm so confused. Before i told him i like him he did show interest in me though that why i find it is weird that he wouldn't say he felt the same. He said to me before he ignored me and after i told him how i feel i hope we can still be friends but we were not even friends in the first place. Then he ignores me after he says i hope we can still be friends. Is he sending mixed signals. When he is on his own though he stares and with his friends he like shows them he ignores me. I need serious help
- ciara @Denise Cristobal, ok thanx but would it work if at this point i tell him on facebook, i understand it is better in person but i have weighed up my options and now it seems on facebook willl work best, could it still be beneficial telling him on there?
- Denise Hey Tia. No one can really say what's going on in his mind. Have you ever tried approaching him first? Talking can really do wonders in situations like this.