So, what happens when you and your friend like the same guy? This can put a huge damper on a friendship if it isn't handled gently. There's no need to ruin a lifelong friendship over a guy, but it has happened in the past to many people. I've written down some tips for ways that might help remedy the “one guy, two friends” situation.
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1. Walk Away
This is probably the hardest way to handle the situation for some people. It just might be the only quick way to remedy it though. Being able to walk away from a weird love triangle might be the best for all those involved. It often takes a more mature person to walk away from a situation such as this. So be the bigger person and stop pursuing him. Is it really worth ruining your friendship over a guy who may or may not like you?
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Walking away signifies strength and self-respect. It may sting at the moment, but in the long run, preserving your friendship can be more valuable than any fleeting romantic interest. Remember, friendships often outlast romances, particularly those fraught with complications right from the start. Plus, distancing yourself from the drama will give you the clarity and peace of mind you need to find someone who is better suited for you—someone whose affection isn't shared with your friend. You'll thank yourself later for choosing the path of self-love and integrity.
It's always tricky when you and your friend have a crush on the same guy. The first thing to do is talk about it openly with your friend. It's important to understand each other's feelings and set some ground rules.
Honesty is the best policy, but be gentle. Explain your feelings and make sure to listen to hers as well. It's important to have this conversation face-to-face so you can understand each other's emotions better.
This situation can be really tough. If the guy likes you, be considerate of your friend's feelings. You should talk to her before making any moves and ensure she understands that you value your friendship above all.
This depends on how strong your feelings are and how important the friendship is to you. Sometimes it might be worth stepping back to preserve the friendship. Other times, it might be okay to pursue things, as long as you're both mature and respectful about it.
Communication is key. Keep talking about your feelings and make sure to spend time together doing things you both enjoy, without the guy being involved. This way, your friendship doesn't revolve around him and you stay connected on a personal level.
2. Be Open about It
Don't keep your feelings bottled up, even if your friend started liking him first. If you keep all those feelings inside, you'll start to resent your friend if she does in fact end up with him. Sit her down and just let her know that you've developed feelings for him!
It's always tricky when you and your friend have a crush on the same guy. The first thing to do is talk about it openly with your friend. It's important to understand each other's feelings and set some ground rules.
Honesty is the best policy, but be gentle. Explain your feelings and make sure to listen to hers as well. It's important to have this conversation face-to-face so you can understand each other's emotions better.
This situation can be really tough. If the guy likes you, be considerate of your friend's feelings. You should talk to her before making any moves and ensure she understands that you value your friendship above all.
This depends on how strong your feelings are and how important the friendship is to you. Sometimes it might be worth stepping back to preserve the friendship. Other times, it might be okay to pursue things, as long as you're both mature and respectful about it.
Communication is key. Keep talking about your feelings and make sure to spend time together doing things you both enjoy, without the guy being involved. This way, your friendship doesn't revolve around him and you stay connected on a personal level.
3. Watch How Your Friend Reacts
Muster up the guts and tell her. It can get pretty awkward if she finds out from someone else! When telling your friend that you like the same guy she does, be sure to watch her reaction, especially if you have a friend that won't tell you right away about how she really feels. Sometimes things have to sink in for a while before someone can talk about it. Keep an eye on her facial expressions as you are telling her. This should be a good indicator for telling if she's mad, sad, or indifferent.
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It's all about navigating the delicate balance of respect and honesty. If your friend seems upset, offer her space to process her feelings. Remember, her emotions are valid, and so are yours. Acknowledge the situation with empathy: Perhaps something like, "I understand this might be uncomfortable, and I'm here when you want to talk." It’s essential to maintain an open line of communication and reassure your friend that your relationship with her is your priority. Keep in mind, the guy isn't worth it if it means losing a cherished friendship.
It's always tricky when you and your friend have a crush on the same guy. The first thing to do is talk about it openly with your friend. It's important to understand each other's feelings and set some ground rules.
Honesty is the best policy, but be gentle. Explain your feelings and make sure to listen to hers as well. It's important to have this conversation face-to-face so you can understand each other's emotions better.
This situation can be really tough. If the guy likes you, be considerate of your friend's feelings. You should talk to her before making any moves and ensure she understands that you value your friendship above all.
This depends on how strong your feelings are and how important the friendship is to you. Sometimes it might be worth stepping back to preserve the friendship. Other times, it might be okay to pursue things, as long as you're both mature and respectful about it.
Communication is key. Keep talking about your feelings and make sure to spend time together doing things you both enjoy, without the guy being involved. This way, your friendship doesn't revolve around him and you stay connected on a personal level.
4. Look at His past Relationships
It's wise to look at all the relationships that this guy has had before you. If he jumps from girl to girl, then you might want to think again before trying to start a relationship with him. It might even be a good idea for you to warn your friend as well. You wouldn't want her to be hurt either. Take a look at what types of people his last girlfriends were as well. Is hefriends with his exes? This might tell you a bit more about him, who he's interested in, and the kind of boyfriend he'd make.
It's always tricky when you and your friend have a crush on the same guy. The first thing to do is talk about it openly with your friend. It's important to understand each other's feelings and set some ground rules.
Honesty is the best policy, but be gentle. Explain your feelings and make sure to listen to hers as well. It's important to have this conversation face-to-face so you can understand each other's emotions better.
This situation can be really tough. If the guy likes you, be considerate of your friend's feelings. You should talk to her before making any moves and ensure she understands that you value your friendship above all.
This depends on how strong your feelings are and how important the friendship is to you. Sometimes it might be worth stepping back to preserve the friendship. Other times, it might be okay to pursue things, as long as you're both mature and respectful about it.
Communication is key. Keep talking about your feelings and make sure to spend time together doing things you both enjoy, without the guy being involved. This way, your friendship doesn't revolve around him and you stay connected on a personal level.
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5. Make a List of Reasons Why You like Him
Write down why you like him and see if there are a lot of reasons. If there are any cons that come to mind, definitely write those down as well. If the pro list is only a word or two, then it might be a good idea to think about this situation a bit more. For your sake, I hope you've got "He has a crush on me" on the list.
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When two friends both develop a crush on the same guy, it can be a difficult situation to navigate. It can lead to feelings of jealousy, guilt, and even betrayal. It is important to remember that your friendship is more important than any potential romance, and that it is possible to get through this situation without damaging your relationship. Here are some tips to help you handle it:
Talk to each other openly and honestly. Make sure you both feel heard and respected.
Respect each other's feelings. Even if you don't agree with how your friend feels, it's important to be understanding and supportive.
Don't make assumptions about how the other person feels. Ask questions and listen to their answers.
Don't compete with each other for the guy's attention. This will only create tension and hurt your friendship.
Make a list of reasons why you like him. Consider both the pros and cons of the situation.
Consider the consequences of your actions. If you pursue a relationship with him, what will it mean for your friendship?
Talk about other guys you both find attractive. Remind each other that there are plenty of fish in the sea.
It's always tricky when you and your friend have a crush on the same guy. The first thing to do is talk about it openly with your friend. It's important to understand each other's feelings and set some ground rules.
Honesty is the best policy, but be gentle. Explain your feelings and make sure to listen to hers as well. It's important to have this conversation face-to-face so you can understand each other's emotions better.
This situation can be really tough. If the guy likes you, be considerate of your friend's feelings. You should talk to her before making any moves and ensure she understands that you value your friendship above all.
This depends on how strong your feelings are and how important the friendship is to you. Sometimes it might be worth stepping back to preserve the friendship. Other times, it might be okay to pursue things, as long as you're both mature and respectful about it.
Communication is key. Keep talking about your feelings and make sure to spend time together doing things you both enjoy, without the guy being involved. This way, your friendship doesn't revolve around him and you stay connected on a personal level.
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6. Determine Compatibility
Are you two even really compatible? If he loves sports and you can't stand them, this is one conflict. If he is an outdoors person and you would rather sit in a quiet library and read about visiting different places, this might be a problem. I know that the saying is that opposites attract, but when everything about you is a complete opposite, it might actually pose more hindrances. Being able to connect with someone over shared likes is how people usually grow closer. Is he more compatible with your friend?
It's always tricky when you and your friend have a crush on the same guy. The first thing to do is talk about it openly with your friend. It's important to understand each other's feelings and set some ground rules.
Honesty is the best policy, but be gentle. Explain your feelings and make sure to listen to hers as well. It's important to have this conversation face-to-face so you can understand each other's emotions better.
This situation can be really tough. If the guy likes you, be considerate of your friend's feelings. You should talk to her before making any moves and ensure she understands that you value your friendship above all.
This depends on how strong your feelings are and how important the friendship is to you. Sometimes it might be worth stepping back to preserve the friendship. Other times, it might be okay to pursue things, as long as you're both mature and respectful about it.
Communication is key. Keep talking about your feelings and make sure to spend time together doing things you both enjoy, without the guy being involved. This way, your friendship doesn't revolve around him and you stay connected on a personal level.
7. Know if You and This Guy Share the Same Goals
This sort of goes along with the compatibility tip, but focuses more on the future of the possible relationship. Find out what his plans for the future are. If your goal is to move somewhere warm and sunny but he can't deal with the sun, then whose dream will be crushed? Will either of you be able to give up what you want? I know future plans and commitment come up much later, but it can be something to think about when determining if you should go for this guy, let your friend have him, or just leave it all alone.
It's always tricky when you and your friend have a crush on the same guy. The first thing to do is talk about it openly with your friend. It's important to understand each other's feelings and set some ground rules.
Honesty is the best policy, but be gentle. Explain your feelings and make sure to listen to hers as well. It's important to have this conversation face-to-face so you can understand each other's emotions better.
This situation can be really tough. If the guy likes you, be considerate of your friend's feelings. You should talk to her before making any moves and ensure she understands that you value your friendship above all.
This depends on how strong your feelings are and how important the friendship is to you. Sometimes it might be worth stepping back to preserve the friendship. Other times, it might be okay to pursue things, as long as you're both mature and respectful about it.
Communication is key. Keep talking about your feelings and make sure to spend time together doing things you both enjoy, without the guy being involved. This way, your friendship doesn't revolve around him and you stay connected on a personal level.
8. Sisters before Misters
Remember that when you and your friend like the same guy, she will be there for you a lot longer than he possibly will. Guys will come and go over the years, but friends are usually in our lives forever. Who's been around longer? Who knows you better? Think about your friend first and the times you spent together...the late night movies on each others couches, the prank calls, and now how your possible relationship with this guy might affect her and everything you've had.
It's always tricky when you and your friend have a crush on the same guy. The first thing to do is talk about it openly with your friend. It's important to understand each other's feelings and set some ground rules.
Honesty is the best policy, but be gentle. Explain your feelings and make sure to listen to hers as well. It's important to have this conversation face-to-face so you can understand each other's emotions better.
This situation can be really tough. If the guy likes you, be considerate of your friend's feelings. You should talk to her before making any moves and ensure she understands that you value your friendship above all.
This depends on how strong your feelings are and how important the friendship is to you. Sometimes it might be worth stepping back to preserve the friendship. Other times, it might be okay to pursue things, as long as you're both mature and respectful about it.
Communication is key. Keep talking about your feelings and make sure to spend time together doing things you both enjoy, without the guy being involved. This way, your friendship doesn't revolve around him and you stay connected on a personal level.
9. Don't Let Jealousy Take over
Knowing how hard it is to deal with a jealous boyfriend/friend, would you want to put your friend and yourself through that? Jealousy can ruin friendships for no reason at all. There's no need for it. You just feel jealous because you can't control how she's feeling. Jealousy only makes people angry and this often causes things to be said that can never be taken back again. If you find that you have jealous feelings towards your friend, then you need to figure out why and how they can be remedied.
It's always tricky when you and your friend have a crush on the same guy. The first thing to do is talk about it openly with your friend. It's important to understand each other's feelings and set some ground rules.
Honesty is the best policy, but be gentle. Explain your feelings and make sure to listen to hers as well. It's important to have this conversation face-to-face so you can understand each other's emotions better.
This situation can be really tough. If the guy likes you, be considerate of your friend's feelings. You should talk to her before making any moves and ensure she understands that you value your friendship above all.
This depends on how strong your feelings are and how important the friendship is to you. Sometimes it might be worth stepping back to preserve the friendship. Other times, it might be okay to pursue things, as long as you're both mature and respectful about it.
Communication is key. Keep talking about your feelings and make sure to spend time together doing things you both enjoy, without the guy being involved. This way, your friendship doesn't revolve around him and you stay connected on a personal level.
10. Decide if It's Worth Losing a Friend
Is this guy really worth losing your friend over? If it comes down to you and your friend getting into a fight over this guy and it doesn't work out with you and him, what then? You have a hurt friend that has been with you a lot longer than this guy has, but you've lost her trust in your relationship. It is a hard thing to patch up.
It's always tricky when you and your friend have a crush on the same guy. The first thing to do is talk about it openly with your friend. It's important to understand each other's feelings and set some ground rules.
Honesty is the best policy, but be gentle. Explain your feelings and make sure to listen to hers as well. It's important to have this conversation face-to-face so you can understand each other's emotions better.
This situation can be really tough. If the guy likes you, be considerate of your friend's feelings. You should talk to her before making any moves and ensure she understands that you value your friendship above all.
This depends on how strong your feelings are and how important the friendship is to you. Sometimes it might be worth stepping back to preserve the friendship. Other times, it might be okay to pursue things, as long as you're both mature and respectful about it.
Communication is key. Keep talking about your feelings and make sure to spend time together doing things you both enjoy, without the guy being involved. This way, your friendship doesn't revolve around him and you stay connected on a personal level.
11. Figure out if It's Love or Lust
Lust is often what draws people to each other. They are physically attracted and think it is love, but usually not. Very rarely is there love at first sight. You have to get to know the person before you can decide if it's truly love or if it's just lust. When the romance fades, will you still want to hang out with him? Is it a completely physical attraction or are there other great qualities about him you like? These are a couple of questions you might want to ask yourself.
It's always tricky when you and your friend have a crush on the same guy. The first thing to do is talk about it openly with your friend. It's important to understand each other's feelings and set some ground rules.
Honesty is the best policy, but be gentle. Explain your feelings and make sure to listen to hers as well. It's important to have this conversation face-to-face so you can understand each other's emotions better.
This situation can be really tough. If the guy likes you, be considerate of your friend's feelings. You should talk to her before making any moves and ensure she understands that you value your friendship above all.
This depends on how strong your feelings are and how important the friendship is to you. Sometimes it might be worth stepping back to preserve the friendship. Other times, it might be okay to pursue things, as long as you're both mature and respectful about it.
Communication is key. Keep talking about your feelings and make sure to spend time together doing things you both enjoy, without the guy being involved. This way, your friendship doesn't revolve around him and you stay connected on a personal level.
12. Talk about It
Talking about how you and your friend like the same guy is a great way to figure out what to do about it. Two heads are better than one, right? If you both remain calm and talk about this situation in an adult manner, you should be able to come up with a way to go about handling this matter. Brainstorming some ideas on what can be done and writing them down might help as well.
It's always tricky when you and your friend have a crush on the same guy. The first thing to do is talk about it openly with your friend. It's important to understand each other's feelings and set some ground rules.
Honesty is the best policy, but be gentle. Explain your feelings and make sure to listen to hers as well. It's important to have this conversation face-to-face so you can understand each other's emotions better.
This situation can be really tough. If the guy likes you, be considerate of your friend's feelings. You should talk to her before making any moves and ensure she understands that you value your friendship above all.
This depends on how strong your feelings are and how important the friendship is to you. Sometimes it might be worth stepping back to preserve the friendship. Other times, it might be okay to pursue things, as long as you're both mature and respectful about it.
Communication is key. Keep talking about your feelings and make sure to spend time together doing things you both enjoy, without the guy being involved. This way, your friendship doesn't revolve around him and you stay connected on a personal level.
13. Don't Make This a Competition
This isn't about who's prettier, who's funnier, or who's more likable! You should know that the two of you are as fabulous as they come. Why stress yourself out about out-doing the other in hopes that the guy will be the one to make a decision? If it gets to that level, it's not good.
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This isn't about who's prettier, who's funnier, or who's more likable! You should know that the two of you are as fabulous as they come. Why stress yourself out about out-doing the other in hopes that the guy will be the one to make a decision? If it gets to that level, it's not good. Remember, your friendship is far more valuable than any potential relationship. It's essential to support each other and avoid turning this situation into a rivalry. After all, a true friend wouldn't want to see you hurt over something so trivial.
It's always tricky when you and your friend have a crush on the same guy. The first thing to do is talk about it openly with your friend. It's important to understand each other's feelings and set some ground rules.
Honesty is the best policy, but be gentle. Explain your feelings and make sure to listen to hers as well. It's important to have this conversation face-to-face so you can understand each other's emotions better.
This situation can be really tough. If the guy likes you, be considerate of your friend's feelings. You should talk to her before making any moves and ensure she understands that you value your friendship above all.
This depends on how strong your feelings are and how important the friendship is to you. Sometimes it might be worth stepping back to preserve the friendship. Other times, it might be okay to pursue things, as long as you're both mature and respectful about it.
Communication is key. Keep talking about your feelings and make sure to spend time together doing things you both enjoy, without the guy being involved. This way, your friendship doesn't revolve around him and you stay connected on a personal level.
14. Consider the Consequences
Let's see you DID end up with the guy - what does that mean for your friendship? Even if your friend swears it doesn't "bother" her, it probably really does. She wouldn't even feel comfortable being around the two of you!
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Before letting your emotions lead the way, think long and hard about the aftereffects. Entering into a relationship under these circumstances could send ripples through your entire social circle, not just between you and your friend. Tensions could rise, whispers could start, and before you know it, you've unintentionally created a drama that's more suited to a soap opera than real life. Remember, relationships might come and go, but the scars in friendships can linger far longer. Consider if he's truly worth the potential fallout.
It's always tricky when you and your friend have a crush on the same guy. The first thing to do is talk about it openly with your friend. It's important to understand each other's feelings and set some ground rules.
Honesty is the best policy, but be gentle. Explain your feelings and make sure to listen to hers as well. It's important to have this conversation face-to-face so you can understand each other's emotions better.
This situation can be really tough. If the guy likes you, be considerate of your friend's feelings. You should talk to her before making any moves and ensure she understands that you value your friendship above all.
This depends on how strong your feelings are and how important the friendship is to you. Sometimes it might be worth stepping back to preserve the friendship. Other times, it might be okay to pursue things, as long as you're both mature and respectful about it.
Communication is key. Keep talking about your feelings and make sure to spend time together doing things you both enjoy, without the guy being involved. This way, your friendship doesn't revolve around him and you stay connected on a personal level.
15. Both of You Back off
If you know for certain that you do NOT want to lose your friendship over this, why don't the two of you just let the guy go? No arguments, no choosing, no nothing. Make your friendship your number one priority and keep it intact. There are plenty of fish in the sea and you'll each find one that's suitable for you!
With all of these tips, surely you will be able to come up with some ideas about how to handle this situation of when you and your friend like the same guy. It can be a simple process or a long drawn out one. It's completely up to you. How would you handle this situation? What ideas can you add?
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Aimee: Hi! Some greats tips here, but I still need some advice! Here goes, my friend and I like the same guy, she liked him first, but she moved away for a year, and likes him again now, but she has never really flirted with him and the one time she asked him out, he said no. But now we both like him, I'm more outgoing and don't have a problem flirting with him and making moves, and he doesn't have a problem flirting with me back. I'm pretty sure he's more interested in me and I am glad because I do really like him, but at the same time I feel bad because she's already been rejected by him two years ago and she's awkward at the flirting thing, and she is a good friend of mine. She asks me for tips which I gladly give her, but I feel like I'm giving her pointers to chase the same guy I'm chasing! So, here's the question: Do I keep chasing the guy and let him decide, or what?! Thanks in advance!
Cassie: Well the walk away thing ya I dont know about that one i liked him 1st and wayy more than her and when i told him she likes him he seriously almost threw up!! She doesnt really act like my friend sometimes and well dumb question but ya
Anonymous: ok, so i like the same guy and my best friend and i decide to do a double date she told me she was going to invite someone else so i invited that guy. when he responded he said maybe. then he said that he is already going with someone and im like who? the he said your bff! i asked her and she said he asked her and she said yes. i feel really hurt. what should i do?
Jen: My best friend and I like the same person, but he likes me. My best friend and I always like the same person, but he always ends up liking me.I really like this guy and so does my friend.I did like him before she did. Now, I don't know what to do. My best friend told me whatever makes me happy makes her happy and that I should just date him, but I still don't know if i should because i feel bad. Should I date him anyways even if I reallyyy like him?
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