You may have heard horror tales about meeting boyfriend’s parents for the 1st time, but pretend you didn’t (out of all my girlfriends just one of them had bad luck with her boyfriends’ folks, but those love birds still got engaged).
Anyway, I am sure you would still want his Mom and Dad go crazy about you. So, apart from an open mind and a positive outlook, here are a couple of other tips that you can use to make a great start with his family!
1. Wait
Don’t rush into meeting the family. Wait for the right time. Get to know your guy first. Once you’re sure that this relationship is ‘the one’ then mutually decide to meet the parents.
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2. Research
Learn up names of family members and try to get photographs so you can recognize them before you are introduced. You’ll be more at ease if you know who is going to be present. I had an embarrassing moment when in the middle of the dinner I forgot the name of the aunt who was too at the table… Thank God I didn’t have to address her. Her name is Anna, and although we broke up with that guy, I remember his Aunt’s name till this day.
3. Venue
The right location is important. One good choice would be something neutral, like a restaurant. Choose one that is semi-formal unless you’re a pro at figuring out the cutlery!
4. Punctuality
Don’t you want to make a good impression? Don’t be late as it’s disrespectful to make others wait for you. If you’re running late then call and apologies and mention what time you can be expected.
I believe in the saying that first impressions last. =)
I liked this article a whole lot.
I will be meeting my boyfriend’s parents soon and want to make the right impression. I know that I will be myself because parents can see right threw people and they will see my intension’s are good. Thank you for writing about this issue now I know that what I’m doing when I meet his parents is just going to be fine. Also this can apply to him meeting my parents which he will do sooner then me meeting his.
It’s really scary meeting your boyfriend’s parents for the first time. Just act normal and be yourself. Parents have a strong sense when it comes to this.
I ENJOYED THESE HELPFUL HINTS. I AM SO SCARED TO MEET MY BOYFRIEND’S FAMILY. I KEEP SEEING IT AS AN INTERVIEW SORT OF THING BUT THIS WILL SURELY HELP!
Yeah, this was pretty helpful to me, thanks!! :D
I’ve met my boyfriend’s mom a couple of times before and she’s really cool. I am yet to meet the rest of the family and it’s making me feel very squeamish about it. I hope it turns out well…..’cause my family approves of my boyfriend very much.
Wow. Well I’ve been nervous because I’m meeting his family tonight, but I think I’ll be ok after I read this. It kind of helped to reassured myself. Thank you :)
After reading this I’m starting to feel more and more confident about meeting my boyfriend’s family for thanksgiving, and I plan to help his mom out and show her that I can be a responsible woman, and worthy to be part of my boyfriend’s life and her’s.
Well I met my boyfriends parents 2 years ago! Til this day I still can’t talk to them. I am really shy and when I start talking to his mom I mess up what I said. I’m frustrated and I don’t know what to do.
Steph,
I met my boyfriend’s parents 2 years ago also. I’m not shy at all and I STILL have difficulty talking with them! It can be akward.
Just try to be “normal” and strictly yourself. Stick to a conversation in which you are comfortable. It’ll get easier, I promise.
I’m meeting my boyfriend’s family tonight and I am very nervous. I’ve known about this night for weeks and yet, still nervous. I just relax, take a couple of shots of Jack Daniels (Just kidding!) and be myself. Thank you for this article.
Dear Cassandra,
I know how nerve wrecking this experience can be and there isn’t much you can do about it. Except a couple of shots of Jack Daniels… (kidding!). Just think about the fact that his parents are too nervous about the meeting. They too are worried about making a good impression on the girl their son loves, so, you guys are in the same position :)
But despite all the nervousness, I hope your meeting went great!
I agree with you, First impression matters a lot. If he’s not accepted the first day..wooh
I am going to meet my boyfriend’s parents this Sat and after reading this I am actually feeling a lot more nervrous than before. My boyfriend and I have not been together very long and he said this is a very casual meeting. I have never met any of my ex’s parents, nor have I brought anyone home to meet mine. He had assured me this is nothing formal and now after reading this I am freaking out a little. Should I tell him no after I already agreed to the meeting?
Obviously I’m here because I’m meeting my boyfriend’s parents soon, but the thing is, im not nervous. I’m just a little worried about what to talk about. Also I kinda feel out of place and awkward when it’s just me and his family. :/
Dear Missy,
I know exactly how you feel… Don’t worry about the topics – they’ll be the ones entertaining you and coming up with questions, stories etc., I assure you :)
Although you might compliment them on their son ( what a gentlemen he is, how smart he is etc.), the house, the dinner…
It will be great, don’t worry, sweetie!
thank you. i am a college student from China.
i am writing a essay about how to leave a good impression on my BF’s parents.
thanks for your tips.
Dear Xianxian,
I am so happy these tips were helpful! Good luck with meeting your boyfriends parents, sweetie!
xoxo