5 Ways to Find a Relationship with Your Future Mother-in-Law ...

Now that your engaged to the love of your life, how do you** **deal with his or her mother? From the moment you met her there was some tension in the air. She didn't like the way you dressed, she didn't like your hair, or she just didn't think you were good enough for her son or daughter. So how do you fix these issues before you settle in with your soon-to-be spouse? Not to worry here are 5 tips that may help you have a relationship with her before you call off the wedding.

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Don't Put Your Fiance in the Middle...

Don't Put Your Fiance in the Middle... Your fiance loves his mom and that love isn't going any where. If you want to marry him and have a** happy marriage**, don't put him in the middle of the battle you have with his mother. Or vice versa, men don't put her in the middle of the battle you have with her mother. It's between the two of you, not the three of you**.** Putting down their mother isn't going to make anyone happy. No one likes to hear that their mother is annoying or a control freak.** **Learn how to deal with the future mother-in-law without making your fiance upset. However, you can ask your fiance for advice because they know their mother better than you do. Your fiance wants you two to get along, so do your best to put on a happy face.

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Talk to Her...

Talk to Her... Invite her out to lunch or a girl's day out on the town shopping to have a nice day with just the two of you. Tell her that you love her son and that he means the world to you, complement her on raising such a wonderful person. Then clear the air with her, find out what the problem is. Maybe she is afraid of losing her son so reassure her that she is gaining a daughter. Does she have another daughter-in-law that doesn't like her or that she has problems with? Tell her that you want her in your life and that she will be included in many aspects of you and your fiance's life together. Finally ask her if she would like to help out with the wedding, sometimes mother-in-laws don't play a big part and this may make them feel left out so don't forget to include her on your special day and during the planning process. The same goes for men, take your future mother-in-law out to lunch and tell her that her little girl will be taken care of.

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Give Her Evidence...

Give Her Evidence... If you both are truly, madly in love with each other and make each other happy then show your mother-in-law the evidence. Take her out on a day trip where the three of you go some place you enjoy or better yet some place your fiance really enjoys. If she sees that you enjoy the hobbies their son or daughter enjoy then this gives her evidence that you will make them a happy person and will have a happy marriage. Whatever you do don't pretend to enjoy yourself because she will see right through you. If you don't like the outdoors then go to your fiance's favorite restaurant or see a broadway play if this is what you both enjoy doing together. At the end of the day she will truly see the love you share and will be thankful that her child has found such a wonderful person.

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It Takes Time...

It Takes Time... Forming a relationship and a bond with anyone takes time, your relationship with your future mother-in-law isn't going to happen over night. For some it may take a long time to eventually get her to open up, that doesn't mean that she doesn't like you or that you did something wrong. Keep trying but don't smother her.** One day out together isn't going to make you two best friends, she needs to see who you really are and get to know you. I was lucky enough that my future mother-in-law took to me right away and has continued to show love and kindness. **I could only hope that everyone has a mother-in-law that they can bond with. If anything try to show each other respect.

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After the Wedding...

After the Wedding... Celebrate the good times like holidays, birthdays, and Mother's Day with your new mother-in-law but also celebrate with her on any day. Call her** up, stop by her house and keep her in the loop. She is an important person to your spouse and now she is an important person in your life as well as you are an important person in her life. When the grandkids come let her know that she is a wonderful grandmother...this being that she acts **like a wonderful grandmother!

Hope for the best and try to keep a positive attitude towards her. If she nags you about your housecleaning or lack there of just keep smiling, you don't need to give her any excuses for being the busy mother or father, wife or husband, business woman or man that you are...not everyone can be perfect like her!

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lol I was just talking with a friend, and we decided 1st impressions count, so no 1. should be hide all tattoos until she likes you.

Hi Sara!! Thanks for checking out my Mother-in-law post that was inspired by your comment! I'm glad you enjoyed it. I hope you can find better common ground with your mother-in-law. It is surprising how any time alone can be had with a mother-in-law in the house...or any long term house guests for that matter! :)

It definitely improved my selective hearing sense...for sure. Thank you for stopping by my blog, and leaving such nice comments.

Wow they stayed for 24 years. I think you and your husband deserve an award for that! I bet you're a strong minded person because of it. Thanks for always sharing suburbangrandma! :)

You're a doll suburbangrandma! Bombchell I was actually just meeting my future mother-in-law for the first time when I had just gotten a tattoo and showed it to her and my future sister-in-laws! But in some cases I think that may be the truth! Def make a great 1st impression.

KAJ I def agree with you on your own mother part! Everyone has their differences. And sometimes its not as bad living with a mother or mother-in-law when you have kids and the kids get to be very close with her. But sometimes you need your space or you need some time alone with your spouse. And Im sure or hope that you were given some space and time alone with your spouse. There are extremes and there are nice times with the mother or mother-in-law. Like you said no one is perfect and every day can't be perfect. Thanks for the great comment and for sharing.

Thanks for checking out my post Kyle...glad you like the tips! :)

Hey Xannyyy, That's so great to hear that you get along with your Mother-in-law...it really helps with the relationship you have with your fiance/husband. I get along with my Future Mother-in-law as well. :) I hope this article helps your friends. Thanks for sending it to her and stopping by my other posts. Have a wonderful weekend!

You might think I am crazy, but my in-laws moved in with us during our second your of marriage, and stayed for 24 years, despite the fact the three of their daughters lived within 10 miles radius of our residence. It wasn't a piece of cake, but I survived,and my children had a wonderful experience growing up with grandparents. Would I allow this again???....most likely not...at least not in the same living quarters. Words of wisdom: "Don't do unto others what you don't want others to do unto you".

Diana, Very interesting post! Definitley needed for some woman. I totally have nothing to worry about this subject as I adore my Mother in law- and vice versa! :) Her children are 2 boys so I'm treated as her only daughter and I totally love her. I'm going to post this article to a friend which has alot of problems with her mom in law. Guess it could be some help. Having your mom in law against you will obviusly create problems with your man!

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