thats cool so what the story for me then ? my wife does not cook or clean at all no laundry. she watch's baby and ll day picks up and drops off her daughter at school. she does nt make lunches for anyone, breakfast is cereal I work 5 days week at least. I do not have any free time to myself she refuses to leave the house without me she will not allow me to sleep more than 6 hours there is no need to wake me up I do all the grocery shopping and cleaning I work nights. am I wrong here to say I could do that job better ?

I guess I love my husband too much to be this vindictive. "My wife doesn't work." Isn't a malicious statement. If it bothered you so much maybe you should have talked to him about it. I'm a housewife, maybe my house is smaller than yours, but it's not a hard gig. "My wife doesn't work." Why so defensive about this? Be proud of your husband for making enough money to make it possible for you to be a housewife.

Of course you're working, you're raising a family. In that case, the stay-at-home spouse usually does work the same 8 - 10 hour day as the spouse who has a job outside the home. As long as you're both putting in roughly the same number of hours, it shouldn't be an issue. My wife works part time -- usually a day or two a week. What kills me is that she saves all the household chores for when I get home so we can do them together. "I'm not your maid" and "we should share equally in taking care of the home" are the comments with which I'm most familiar. Really? I work 50 hours a week, you work 10. What are you doing in those spare 40? "What would you do without me?" I ask. "Get a full time job to support myself" she says. Hmmmm... So you'd only work if you needed the money? And not because it represents a fair investment of effort in our future? "Well you make 10x the money I do! I doesn't make sense for me to work..." Does it occur to you that the reason I make more is that I've been working my ass off for 20 years? Apparently not. So if your work in the home doesn't amount to an equitable amount of time that your husband spends working outside the home -- quit complaining. I do love how you get angry about all the things you do for your husband (meals, laundry, etc.), but don't give him credit for working all day to pay for the food, clothes, home, etc.

My wife stays at home with our 2 toddlers 5 days a week while I work, and then she works on Saturdays while I stay at home with the kids. If any of you other men had to deal with just ONE DAY per week as a stay-at-home spouse/parent, you would understand what this article is about. Working outside the home is SIMPLE compared to what my wife does. She WORKS. Kudos to her....

If you don't have a paying job, you don't work. Vacuuming, laundry, making the bed, doing the dishes are chores, but they are not work. vacuming the entire house: 30 minutes. make a bed: 3 minutes. laundry: 15 minutes of hands on labor, 5 minutes to load washer, 5 minutes to move from washer to dryer, 5 minutes to unload dryer and put clothes away. dishes: 10 minutes, 5 minutes to load dishwasher, 5 minutes to unload. I can do the household chores in less than 2 hours a day, and yes I am a man who can sort his own laundry. If it were 200 years ago and you spent your time making clothes, building a fire in the oven to bake bread, grinding the wheat to make flour, churning the milk into butter after milking the cow, collecting the eggs from the laying hens, boiling a tub of water on an open fire to do laundry, going to the hand pump well and getting water, making chicken dinner involved plucking the feathers off the bird, getting reading lights meant making the candles, getting clean meant making the soap and getting to town required hitching up the horse; those would all be work. The effort it takes to run a household when your food is available at Safeway, your wardrobe is available at TJ Maxx and your transportation is made by Toyota is a joke. And yet in this supposedly modern world we keep an antiquated view on these traditional rolls for men and women. Men go to the field and plow or to the woods and cut the lumber and women keep the household together raising the children and making the meals. Lets admit that we consume our survival, we don't make it from raw materials. If you owned and fed the cow that produced the milk that fed your kids, made the broom that swept the floor so your kids had a clean floor, or crafted the blankets or shoes that kept your children warm please have my heartiest congratulations. However, you didn't do any of that. You bought the milk in the dairy department, you bought the vacuum cleaner at Sears and your designer bed linens were bought on credit with the Macys charge card. Your house has a thermostat so you don't have to get up 3 times a night to throw another log on the fire to stay warm. Your garden is watered on an automatic timer not from buckets drawn from the creek 400 yards away. Your hardest decision about sanitation is whether to get the hand soap with or without fragerance not how to keep your kids from dying from cholera, measles, mumps, rubella, scarlet fever or the infections from an accidental axe wound. About a hundred years ago in the US, women got the right to vote, it became legal for them to wear pants, to drive an automobile and attend the same educational institutions as men. This was about the same time that arduous labor to keep a household intact began declining. Also about the same time that the agricultural life of most people began transitioning into urban and industrial. So the role of "homemaker" as an idealized Donna Reed spinning through the ultra formica kitchen of the 1950's like a balerina keeping the house clean, the kids fed and ready with a pipe and slippers for dad after a long day of work was the pornography that you were sold. Porn is something that doesn't really exist the way its portrayed. The truth is since the home-maker doesnt actually make anything, the position should be called a home-consumer. Consumers need money and money doesn't magically arrive in the bank account every payday. So the man still goes out the door every morning, but instead of chopping firewood or plowing the field to keep the family warm and fed he goes to his job to earn the money to buy the heat from the gas company and the organic arugula from Whole Foods. Meanwhile its somehow perfectly acceptable for the woman to not be a part of that money producer equation since she is busy nesting and consuming, drawing money off the stack but not putting any back. Any woman who stays at home after her children reach school age is living some fantasy where they are denying the fact that they are consumers and are living off the charity of their husband's paycheck. Homemakers are delusional about the economic reality of how they live today, and the real word for home-maker shouldn't just be changed to home-consumer, the word should be "unemployed-and-not-looking". So all you homemakers out there, if you can't support yourselves to the standard you expect to live on when your husband comes home one day to find your vapid stories about what was on Oprah or how the line at the store was so tragically long or how the minivan is making a funny sound and they wake up that you are a consumer of both their time and money and your contributions to the family are not beneficial; you had better have a plan B. While you produce value to the family by educating children or managing household needs more than a maid service sure you can keep the title of homemaker, but lets not try to fool anyone into believing that its work. And the title homemaker doesn't come with tenure, unless you greet me at the door after my long day of work with a martini in a chilled glass and you are wearing nothing but the back aisle from Victoria's Secret. If you can live in your porn fantasy world then I should get to live in mine too.

Good for you!!! Taking care of the house and kids is the hardest work of all!!! Going to an office is much easier. Most people know that It is extremely hectic, vey emotional and stressful. Men think because you are at home so that makes it easier. No, sorry, much harder.

Just sick, just like home. Work 40 hours a week and come home to dirty house, grumpy wife, depressed wife. I come home and take care of the kids Maybe if you got off your ass and put your heart into something worthwhile you wouldn't be so fuckin depressed all the time. And no, I'm not passive aggressive, I do tell her these things in a nicew ay. It improves for about 4 days then goes back to normal. This woman can hardly to a load of laundry - she will tell me how difficult it is, but I can do the laundry no problem taking about 10 total minutes of time. 1-3 minutes to gather it up. 2 minutes to dump it in the wash. 1 minute to swap to dryer, 5 minutes to fold/hang. Big fucking whoop. Surfaces have not been dusted since I last dusted them. COme home to piles of laundry. Says she can't do it because of the kids. How come the kids want to help me fold/hang? Depression is very real folks. Don't let your stay at home wife fool herself. Cooking is probably the hardest part of her day. Eating icecream and lying to herself is the 2nd hardest.