7 Reasons Not to Date Your Best Friend ...

7 Reasons Not to Date Your Best Friend ...
By Melanie • Aug 17, 2010

Personally, I have never dated my best friend. Unless you consider the fact that I think of my husband as not only my husband, but my best friend. However, I don’t think that counts. What I am talking about is when you take your best friend and make them into your boyfriend or girlfriend. While there are many pros to this, there are also some cons. Below, I am going to give you 7 reasons not to date your best friend …

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7. You Could Ruin What You Have

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You like the relationship you are already in, right? You enjoy having your best friend as your best friend, right? If you date your best friend, then you could end up losing your best friend altogether. Are you ready to ruin that relationship? Because best friends who date hardly ever go back to being best friends.

6. It Might Not Be Comfortable

You will feel almost as if you are dating your brother or sister. I know that if I were to date my best friend, I wouldn’t feel right. The best friend knows all your secrets, which could be good, but sometimes, it could be bad.

5. You Will Have to Find a New Best Friend

You Will Have to Find a New Best Friend Photo Credit: emily∞

I don’t know about you, but it’s hard to find best friends and when you date one, you’ll have to start all over again. I find it much easier to keep the best friend you have.

4. You Won’t Be Able to Tell Your Deep Secrets You Can Only Tell to Your Best Friend

Do you know all those secrets you had? The ones you could only tell your best friend? The ones you couldn’t tell your boyfriend or girlfriend. Well, now, you will not have a best friend to tell those secrets to, because you will be dating your best friend!

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3. You Won’t Be Able to Get Relationship Advice

You Won’t Be Able to Get Relationship Advice Photo Credit: Mary Hare

When you need relationship advice, don’t you go to your best friend for that? Now, you will no longer be able to get that advice when you feel your relationship is in trouble. I know, you could always go online and get advice, but there’s nothing like getting it from a best friend – someone who knows all about you.

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2. They Will Always Be There Anyways

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Who would you lose first – your partner or your best friend? I would say your partner. Best friends are there forever, unless you do something horrible. You will always have your best friend there, but the relationship with your partner could end.

1. They Will Know Everything about You – Even the Embarrassing Things

They Will Know Everything about You – Even the Embarrassing Things Photo Credit: fotrristi

Are you ready to date someone who knows everything about you? Even those embarrassing things? Even if they know you don’t know how to kiss? That you have a certain problem? Personally, this wouldn’t be a downfall for me, it’d be a relief knowing that the partner knows everything about you, but some girls don’t like this.

There you have 7 reasons not to date your best friend. If you want to date your best friend, then you should do so with caution. Think it through, first. So, have you ever dated your best friend?

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sheila, i know it's weird and the weirdest part was that we broke up when we stop being so best friend-ish... i guess we only worked if we were our best friends hahahaha

My feelings are so messed up right now. Me and my best friend have been best friends for so long now and we practically know each other and know what each other are thinking of. We talked about dating but because we don't want to loose the friendship we have we want to go slow, but there's always a risk and it has been bothering us for a long time now and we don't know what to do. We want a relationship but what we're scared of is WHAT IF's.

My boyfriend has BECOME my best friend, does that count? lol :)

If I only knew this a year back! I dated my best friend for 5 days.. It was so uncomfortable, and I have only spoken to him twice since the break up :(

cringe

Quite Frankly Sarah, I disagree

well, i've dated my best friend for 4 years and let me tell you it was one of the greatest relationships i've ever seen

Hey don't say that

Don't do it.  Even if it seems like the best thing that could possibly happen at the time... don't do it.  Because chances are you're the only one who feels that way if that's happening, or the other person does have feelings for you but not as much as you do for them.  I dated a close friend of mine for almost two weeks a few months ago (we had only known each other for around 10 months before that, so we weren't exactly best friends for years or anything, but we were still pretty close), and then he broke up with me because he "didn't want to ruin the friendship"...  I was heartbroken.  He knows that the breakup really hurt me, and I've been getting really mixed signals from him because of it (I don't think he knows how to deal with it).  He broke up with me two and a half months ago, and it's been a month and a half since we last spoke to each other...

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