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as a guy I'm quite confused by this positive talk about shy guys. Why are we constantly being told how important confidence is for attracting women?

^^ thanks for the information i gonna try it to my crush.. . coz he is shy, im gonna get his attention seriously.. .! i will not give up.. ^^ .. . . i will write soon if what is the result.. ^^

I am one these shy guys you talk about. I am not a shy as I once was but the key for me anyway is I am shy at first because I like to feel someone out. See what is ok and how far I can go. It is important I feel comfortable before I let someone in. As mentioned trust is key.

Help!!!! This is a long story, but I really need some advice! About a month ago, I left my number with this guy who plays piano at a dueling piano bar. I have a friend who went to high school with him, but they weren't friends. She said he seems really nice, but was very shy and awkward, except for when he performed. I left my number, and then three days later he texted me. We talked for a while and I broke the ice by asking him what he felt when I left a note and my number for him. He took a long time to respond, but ultimately said he was really happy and thought I was the hottest girl in my group of friends. From there, we arranged to hangout that Friday. His band was playing at a mall, so he invited me to hang out with him after and watch the concert if I wanted to. I went, and we met up afterwards. He was very awkward at first, I almost considered just going home from the mall to go to bed, but my friend convinced me to stick it out. We drove separate cars from the mall to where the bar was, and met there. My friend came along too as support. He ended up being much better because he was in his element. We hit it off, and I ended up going home with him and we hooked up. From then on, we hung out 5 more times with in 8 days before I had to leave the city. We slept together twice more in those 5 times. We stayed in touch over the next week and a half, and then I made an effort to drive back and see him again. We had a great time too.... but here is the problem: He is moving in a week or so too, but farther away from where I am moving to. I feel like because we didn't talk about what we wanted out of this, it inevitably became pretty casual because we have assumed nothing can last because of the long distance. Yet, I feel myself really liking him, but finding it hard to read him at times. He is a pretty bad texter, but started to use a lot of smiley faces after we warmed up to each other. I'll ask him questions, but he is not good at keeping the conversation alive. When he does ask me a question, I am quite surprised! When we are together, he definitely shows signs that he likes me. It is always a little awkward, but in a good way. We warm up eventually, and we'll hold hands, kiss, etc. I've gone to work with him before, and I definitely catch him staring and then looking away when I stare back. He even showed a bit of jealousy that time towards the end of the night when he was at the bar drinking water, and I was sitting by myself at the table. Then this other guy started harmlessly talking to me. When I walked towards my guy at the bar because he sort of gestured me over, he made a comment: I see you're making new friends! I could tell he was jealous because immediately he grabbed my hand, even though we hadn't touched the whole night since we were warming back up to each other. Silence is comfortable for us, we watch TV together and eat. We do these girlfriend/boyfriend-ish things, but there is still this cloud looming! I wanted to talk to him about it the next day (yesterday) before I left again, but he overslept and then we didn't end up seeing each other because he had a busy day and I had to leave for a road trip. I did text him being like: so, I'm guessing you don't have time for a quick goodbye? And he said :( I'm sorry I don't think so... I let it go and texted him byee. Is it worth trying to talk to him about it? Or does he just want this to be casual because he is moving in a week? He is confident at weird times, but definitely comes from a place of having been very closed off/shy/and still a bit awkward. I feel so secure and warm inside when I am with him, but the shy side of me also feels I am the only one feeling this way. What should I do? I told him I was going to come back next weekend and see him play one last time at the bar and with his band. Just let it be a summer fling? I'm so torn because I can't tell what he is thinking :( Sorry this was so long. It has been quite a saga and crazy month for me. Shy guys are so tough!!!!

hey :) im in the process of getting to know this shy guy. im a junior and hes a senior. for a while ive had a crush on him, but i didnt feel it so strongly until i had a dream about him and i somehow going out, which was a couple months ago. me and him are (very-ish) shy people, but in some situations are very confident and relaxed. on valentines day, i confessed to him that i liked him, and he told me that he felt the same way, and that hed love to get to know me better and try something more if i was up to it, and of course i was! since then, we had midwinter break, and we texted when we could (hes really bad at texting, even more so with our complicated schedules, but a lot better at talking in person). he more recently started using little hearts here and there in his texts. towards the beginning of this week he texted me and he called me babe