For me, friendship is a beautiful connection between two beings. And regardless of the similarities and differences, friendships flourish because of mutual respect and love between the two parties. With this, it goes without saying that the truest friendships are those that have nothing but positivity and growth to offer. But there are times when a friend of ours brings us nothing but sadness and negativity. This is one sign that you need to cut him/her out of your life. Aside from this, there are other signs that you have need to ditch your friend. Read on to learn about them.
1. He/she Can’t Be Happy for You
Real friends are happy for your accomplishments. They don’t feel envious or sad when you succeed in achieving your goals. If your friend has a negative attitude towards your success, then you should think about letting him/her go.
2. He/she is Fair-weathered
When your friend comes to you only during times of need or when you have something to offer, then you can consider him/her a fair-weathered friend. You should consider letting this person go. Real friends are there in the good times and bad times.
3. He/she is Needy and Possessive
Many people become friends out of the need for companionship. However, like in romantic relationships, neediness, insecurity, and possessiveness are not easy things to put up with. If your friend possesses these traits and they are putting a strain on your actions, then maybe you need say goodbye to him/her.
4. He/she Tries to Control You
We have freewill for a reason. We can make our own decisions and act as we deem fit. But there are people who enjoy telling you what to do and how to act. If you are friends with such an individual, then it’s time to reclaim your freedom. Exercise your free will and set him/her free.
5. He/she Thinks Poorly of You
Let’s admit it, there are some things that we can do better than our peers. It’s normal for people to feel superior to others once in a while. But if someone constantly shoves his/her superiority in your face, then that can get really annoying. Don’t put up with so-called friends who always patronize and look down on you.
6. He/she Pulls You down
I have nothing against supporting friends in their times of need. But there are some people who are so resistant to change that they don’t want others to improve. You need to let go of your friend who pulls you down into his/her pit of self-pity.
7. He/she is Mean to You and Your Other Friends
This should be a no-brainer. It’s a waste of time and energy to deal with individuals who are mean to you and the people in your life. They leave everyone feeling stressed and worked up. Don’t feel too bad when you put a stop to your friend’s mean streak.
8. He/she is a Parasite
A parasitic relationship is beneficial for the parasite but unfavorable for the host. If your friend always takes and never gives back, then he/she may be a parasite mooching off your resources. A relationship is a two-way street where both parties give and take. If you friend refuses to give something to your friendship, then you should let him/her go.
9. He/she Puts You in Danger
I have nothing against having fun and adventure with friends. But if they constantly do things despite the danger involved, then I wish to take no part in it. You should considering making the same decision if you have a friend who always leads you into dangerous predicaments.
10. He/she is Unreliable and Dishonest
Trustworthiness and reliability are two things that we should look for in our friends. We need to know that they will be there for us just as we are willing to be there for them. If your friend regularly exhibits signs of unreliability and dishonesty, then you should be honest with yourself. You need to let him/her go.
We sometimes miss these negative traits during the initial phase of the friendship. If your friend has one or more these traits, then it’s time to think twice. You should know when friendship is doing you more harm than good. Assert your right to be treated with respect and love. Now it’s your turn. What are other instances that will compel you to say goodbye to a friend?
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