So it's been a couple of months since I wrote on here. Just thought i'd share a significant update... Since I let my friend know how I felt about her (and her rejecting me), i've played it completely cool and not given her any special attention. After months of ignoring her, last night we went out. She told me she loves me and she wants to spend the rest of her life with me! We kissed and left it at that. It's a great outcome, i'm not sure what to do next though. I'm not sure if I should keep the cool act going. We aren't best friends anymore, but we are starting to develop a totally new romantic friendship. I feel pretty good though :) Risking it was worth it.

Todd, I'm with Sheila. Gotta stop the nagging (?) bit and let her heart just decide on its own. And yes, do keep up posted. I'm sure she'll come around because I'm sure you're a great catch. :)

I am grateful that I found this site. I just want to share my story and the things that are bothering me right now. I have a friend who I have feelings for. I never had the guts to tell her that since she seemed not be interested in me and talked about other guys that he likes.Until one day we went out w/ some of our friends too and ended up in a friend's house.Since we got only one room and were 5, we have to share beds. We shared bed and ended up kissing each other and making love.I was so happy and thought we had a chance of continuing our relationship into a deeper one. But i was wrong. That next day I talked with her, she was cold. She told me that I should not expect things from her since she has nothing to more to offer than friendship.She even told me to forget everything that happened. I felt bad that I decided not to see and talk to her anymore.It's been a week now and she hasnt done anything to communicate w/ me either.What do you think happened?Is it just a one night stand?I will appreciate a response soon. thanks

Thanks, ladies and yeah...I'll letcha know. ...T

After being e-mail friends with a woman for a couple of years, I recently met her during a business trip. I was attracted immediately to her looks and to her brilliant mind. We are both writers. I am going through a divorce after a 15-year marriage. We met at a party and then spent a day together. The conversation was fantastic. I was more open with her than I am with most people. By the end of our time I wanted to share how I was feeling, but I feared she might misinterpret me. Was she just being kind to someone from out of town? I have been sad and lonely, and maybe this was too obvious? Since returning home I have written her a couple of times and phoned, and she does not respond. She is a very busy person. But I worry that I lost my one opportunity for this connection. It is frustrating to have this distance between us with the only contact by very occasional e-mail or looking at her on Facebook. I wonder what her touch feels like and despair that I will never know. Is it too impersonal - or too needy - to send her an e-mail saying what I have been thinking about? Is it normal to feel this lovelorn?

I apologize - but this is gonna be a litte on the long side.... I have been in love with the same man for 14yrs, and I finally told him. He's been one of my best friends since I was 16. Through the years we have seen our ups and downs: been thorough boyfriends and girlfriends, his failed marriage, careers, family, heartbreak and disappointment. We've survived the good, the bad and the ugly. Even survived my leaving our home town after High School, returning years later. We've gone for months without talking, then picked up right where we left off as if no time had ever passed. We talk about everything and nothing, meet for coffee or drinks at least once a week, call to check in if we miss a week. He helps me with repairs around my house, and listens and offers advice with any issue, even when my hearts been broken....yet again. My family and friends are of the opinion that we belong together, and are not shy about sharing that view point. The other night, he came over for drinks. I ecpressed to him my feelings, concerns and desires. He reciprocated, admitting that he had had the same thoughts through the years. I'm the one he trusts above all others, the one who has never crossed him. He cares about me, and even through out the "L" word.... But, its never been the right time. He currently lives with a girlfriend he's not exactly sure of, (and hasn't been for some time. They've been together 2yrs, and I've never met her,) is in the middle of changes at work, and a family crisis. He's scared. Everything is changing around him, and he isn't someone who likes change. And there I was, his best friend asking him to change EVERYTHING. We agreed that our friendship means everything, and that we would remain friends regardless of what happens down the road. It's not a chance that we want to miss, but that its something that requires thought. The option is there, and it's now up to him to take it. I'm happy I made the choice to tell him instead of suffering in silence, and was pleasantly surprised by his response. But at the same time...it brakes my heart that the man I trust completely and care about unconditionally is still with someone else. Stuff never happens like in the movies, and this is such a movie moment... :( Good things come to those that wait...but I will not wait forever.