Is Your Friendship Worth Risking for Romantic Love?

Is Your Friendship Worth Risking for Romantic Love?
By Mabelle • Aug 14, 2021 MD

The situation can go either way when you risk your friendship finding out that you are in love with him or with her: you can turn your friend into a lover and end up as a couple with a happy ending, or you can end up making things awkward for the both of you and ruin a perfectly good, platonic relationship.

So how will you know if your 'love' is worth risking your friendship? At the end of the day, it all depends on how strongly you feel for your friend. Use both your heart and your mind in making the decision. Can you bear the thought of losing a perfectly good friendship if you find out that your friend does not feel the same way? Once you blurt out your feelings, that will be the turning point of your relationship and your friendship - as it was before - can never be brought back. On the other hand, if your feelings are so strong that you just cannot bear the thought of your friend not knowing how you feel, then it is probably worth risking the friendship.

Whether your friend returns the romantic feelings that you have or not is a question which will be difficult to ask - but taking the risk of ruining your friendship is more acceptable than not letting your friend know how you feel. Who knows, if your friend secretly feels the same way about you, you just might be in for a happy ending.

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  • Sunny

    2010-05-30T02:14:49.000Z

    Thx Sheila. I'm happy to say that nothing has changed. After a few questionable days of silence we spoke and met for coffee: there was no awkwardness, no pauses, no scary silences. It was just as it has always been through the years. And our connection felt stronger then ever :) Regardless of what happens in the future, I know that he will always be by my side. I will say this, without risk - there is no possibility of gain. Sometimes you have to throw all the cards on the table and see what happens. If the friendship is strong enough, it can survive anything... Even if our romance never takes shape, at least I know I tried: I won't have to ever wonder "what if". The most important thing is that I know I'll always have my life long friend to share the winds, twists and turns of the future with :)
  • Paulene

    2010-12-09T19:47:29.000Z

    Okay first, im not american so i have this bad english. but i hope u understand what im saying. im timmy. im a bisexual. i will explain my problem as easy as i can. :] She love me. I love her. im doing anything and everything to make her happy. she says that, after she move on, on her past gf, ill be the only one who will love her. on that time i think and i feel that she love me and she love her gf too. so i continue to date her, and going out with her and her friends, time comes wr or me? accidentally start and solidified a friendship. like GROUP OF FRIENDS. me, her, friends. after almost a month of their break up, i ask her that whats next, i want to be official something like that. then she says that she scares to take the risk that bla bla bla bla and ruin our friendship. her close friends, my close friends. in the first place i'm doing all this because of her. she says that im special friend. up among of our other friends. i dont know what to do. should i move on? how? my friends, her friends. And wr at the same school. Until now im hoping that she will take this risk. :(
  • Jamie

    2009-07-30T15:37:20.000Z

    When im around her i cant help but smile, i look at her when she isnt looking and just think how beautiful she is and how all i want to do is tell her i love her. I cant take secretly loving her anymore, the constant dreams about being with her are drivin me crazy. I just dont know if i can risk losing her altogether, I would no longer have that occasional text that brings all the memories flooding back and makes that smile appear that no one else could. I would no longer have that hope that maybe someday I might have her again. I dont know what to do, im only happy when im around her - cant she tell? What if she says no? I dont want anyone else, to me she is my one, my only :-(.
  • Søren

    2010-04-01T22:24:40.000Z

    After being e-mail friends with a woman for a couple of years, I recently met her during a business trip. I was attracted immediately to her looks and to her brilliant mind. We are both writers. I am going through a divorce after a 15-year marriage. We met at a party and then spent a day together. The conversation was fantastic. I was more open with her than I am with most people. By the end of our time I wanted to share how I was feeling, but I feared she might misinterpret me. Was she just being kind to someone from out of town? I have been sad and lonely, and maybe this was too obvious? Since returning home I have written her a couple of times and phoned, and she does not respond. She is a very busy person. But I worry that I lost my one opportunity for this connection. It is frustrating to have this distance between us with the only contact by very occasional e-mail or looking at her on Facebook. I wonder what her touch feels like and despair that I will never know. Is it too impersonal - or too needy - to send her an e-mail saying what I have been thinking about? Is it normal to feel this lovelorn?
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