Is Your Friendship Worth Risking for Romantic Love?

Well, for over 2 years now I've been in love with my best friend. We talk for over 2 hours on the phone most EVERY day. We are seperated by time, distance and finances. We've never been in each other's presence (isn't this weird?) After a month or two, I began to love her romantically and I told her at 6 months. She cannot return the romantic feelings under the circ's. We are still best friends tho. Maybe whatcha say is right...maybe I do need to shut up about it. I am regularly, gently reminding her...prolly feels like nagging, huh? Maybe I'm just gonna have to bite the bullet with finances and she's gonna hve to bite it with her schedule and we're gonna have to meet and settle this thing once and for all. talking is a complete waste of time so are poems, gifts, flowers and the like. I'm beginning to feel like the proverbial nagging wife after reading what was said here,

I apologize - but this is gonna be a litte on the long side.... I have been in love with the same man for 14yrs, and I finally told him. He's been one of my best friends since I was 16. Through the years we have seen our ups and downs: been thorough boyfriends and girlfriends, his failed marriage, careers, family, heartbreak and disappointment. We've survived the good, the bad and the ugly. Even survived my leaving our home town after High School, returning years later. We've gone for months without talking, then picked up right where we left off as if no time had ever passed. We talk about everything and nothing, meet for coffee or drinks at least once a week, call to check in if we miss a week. He helps me with repairs around my house, and listens and offers advice with any issue, even when my hearts been broken....yet again. My family and friends are of the opinion that we belong together, and are not shy about sharing that view point. The other night, he came over for drinks. I ecpressed to him my feelings, concerns and desires. He reciprocated, admitting that he had had the same thoughts through the years. I'm the one he trusts above all others, the one who has never crossed him. He cares about me, and even through out the "L" word.... But, its never been the right time. He currently lives with a girlfriend he's not exactly sure of, (and hasn't been for some time. They've been together 2yrs, and I've never met her,) is in the middle of changes at work, and a family crisis. He's scared. Everything is changing around him, and he isn't someone who likes change. And there I was, his best friend asking him to change EVERYTHING. We agreed that our friendship means everything, and that we would remain friends regardless of what happens down the road. It's not a chance that we want to miss, but that its something that requires thought. The option is there, and it's now up to him to take it. I'm happy I made the choice to tell him instead of suffering in silence, and was pleasantly surprised by his response. But at the same time...it brakes my heart that the man I trust completely and care about unconditionally is still with someone else. Stuff never happens like in the movies, and this is such a movie moment... :( Good things come to those that wait...but I will not wait forever.

should i do the same thing like william did?

I wouldnt risk having a romantic relationship with a friend. I couldnt sacrifice a very good friendship.

Thanks heaps for your help Olga! It's just what i needed to hear. Such a therapeutic blog. We met up the other day. We were both so anxious, we could barely make eye contact. It was still fun and all that. There was pretty much zero flirting going on. We didn't talk about it at all, but i really wanna know what she's thinking about it. Oh well i feel queezy about it all. Still, i'm glad its out in the open and she knows clearly how i feel. Such an interesting time for me :)