The situation can go either way when you risk your friendship finding out that you are in love with him or with her: you can turn your friend into a lover and end up as a couple with a happy ending, or you can end up making things awkward for the both of you and ruin a perfectly good, platonic relationship.

So how will you know if your 'love' is worth risking your friendship? At the end of the day, it all depends on how strongly you feel for your friend. Use both your heart and your mind in making the decision. Can you bear the thought of losing a perfectly good friendship if you find out that your friend does not feel the same way? Once you blurt out your feelings, that will be the turning point of your relationship and your friendship - as it was before - can never be brought back. On the other hand, if your feelings are so strong that you just cannot bear the thought of your friend not knowing how you feel, then it is probably worth risking the friendship.

Whether your friend returns the romantic feelings that you have or not is a question which will be difficult to ask - but taking the risk of ruining your friendship is more acceptable than not letting your friend know how you feel. Who knows, if your friend secretly feels the same way about you, you just might be in for a happy ending.

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friends can come and go......but love stays forever.

Well, for over 2 years now I've been in love with my best friend. We talk for over 2 hours on the phone most EVERY day. We are seperated by time, distance and finances. We've never been in each other's presence (isn't this weird?) After a month or two, I began to love her romantically and I told her at 6 months. She cannot return the romantic feelings under the circ's. We are still best friends tho. Maybe whatcha say is right...maybe I do need to shut up about it. I am regularly, gently reminding her...prolly feels like nagging, huh? Maybe I'm just gonna have to bite the bullet with finances and she's gonna hve to bite it with her schedule and we're gonna have to meet and settle this thing once and for all. talking is a complete waste of time so are poems, gifts, flowers and the like. I'm beginning to feel like the proverbial nagging wife after reading what was said here,

Thanks heaps for your help Olga! It's just what i needed to hear. Such a therapeutic blog. We met up the other day. We were both so anxious, we could barely make eye contact. It was still fun and all that. There was pretty much zero flirting going on. We didn't talk about it at all, but i really wanna know what she's thinking about it. Oh well i feel queezy about it all. Still, i'm glad its out in the open and she knows clearly how i feel. Such an interesting time for me :)

A very tricky situation indeed. I tend to agree with telling the other person of your romantic feelings. But the relationship will never be the same, whichever way it goes. Perhaps being prepared with an "escape" line or two, a joke or something, just in case your feelings aren't reciprocated, might be handy.

I am grateful that I found this site. I just want to share my story and the things that are bothering me right now. I have a friend who I have feelings for. I never had the guts to tell her that since she seemed not be interested in me and talked about other guys that he likes.Until one day we went out w/ some of our friends too and ended up in a friend's house.Since we got only one room and were 5, we have to share beds. We shared bed and ended up kissing each other and making love.I was so happy and thought we had a chance of continuing our relationship into a deeper one. But i was wrong. That next day I talked with her, she was cold. She told me that I should not expect things from her since she has nothing to more to offer than friendship.She even told me to forget everything that happened. I felt bad that I decided not to see and talk to her anymore.It's been a week now and she hasnt done anything to communicate w/ me either.What do you think happened?Is it just a one night stand?I will appreciate a response soon. thanks

So it's been a couple of months since I wrote on here. Just thought i'd share a significant update... Since I let my friend know how I felt about her (and her rejecting me), i've played it completely cool and not given her any special attention. After months of ignoring her, last night we went out. She told me she loves me and she wants to spend the rest of her life with me! We kissed and left it at that. It's a great outcome, i'm not sure what to do next though. I'm not sure if I should keep the cool act going. We aren't best friends anymore, but we are starting to develop a totally new romantic friendship. I feel pretty good though :) Risking it was worth it.