The situation can go either way when you risk your friendship finding out that you are in love with him or with her: you can turn your friend into a lover and end up as a couple with a happy ending, or you can end up making things awkward for the both of you and ruin a perfectly good, platonic relationship.

So how will you know if your 'love' is worth risking your friendship? At the end of the day, it all depends on how strongly you feel for your friend. Use both your heart and your mind in making the decision. Can you bear the thought of losing a perfectly good friendship if you find out that your friend does not feel the same way? Once you blurt out your feelings, that will be the turning point of your relationship and your friendship - as it was before - can never be brought back. On the other hand, if your feelings are so strong that you just cannot bear the thought of your friend not knowing how you feel, then it is probably worth risking the friendship.

Whether your friend returns the romantic feelings that you have or not is a question which will be difficult to ask - but taking the risk of ruining your friendship is more acceptable than not letting your friend know how you feel. Who knows, if your friend secretly feels the same way about you, you just might be in for a happy ending.

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should i do the same thing like william did?

Thx Sheila. I'm happy to say that nothing has changed. After a few questionable days of silence we spoke and met for coffee: there was no awkwardness, no pauses, no scary silences. It was just as it has always been through the years. And our connection felt stronger then ever :) Regardless of what happens in the future, I know that he will always be by my side. I will say this, without risk - there is no possibility of gain. Sometimes you have to throw all the cards on the table and see what happens. If the friendship is strong enough, it can survive anything... Even if our romance never takes shape, at least I know I tried: I won't have to ever wonder "what if". The most important thing is that I know I'll always have my life long friend to share the winds, twists and turns of the future with :)

Okay first, im not american so i have this bad english. but i hope u understand what im saying. im timmy. im a bisexual. i will explain my problem as easy as i can. :] She love me. I love her. im doing anything and everything to make her happy. she says that, after she move on, on her past gf, ill be the only one who will love her. on that time i think and i feel that she love me and she love her gf too. so i continue to date her, and going out with her and her friends, time comes wr or me? accidentally start and solidified a friendship. like GROUP OF FRIENDS. me, her, friends. after almost a month of their break up, i ask her that whats next, i want to be official something like that. then she says that she scares to take the risk that bla bla bla bla and ruin our friendship. her close friends, my close friends. in the first place i'm doing all this because of her. she says that im special friend. up among of our other friends. i dont know what to do. should i move on? how? my friends, her friends. And wr at the same school. Until now im hoping that she will take this risk. :(

Thanks, ladies and yeah...I'll letcha know. ...T

ok so i like this guy and were BEST FRIENDS and ive been tellin him we need to talk and he he keeps askin bout wat and i said ill tell ya later (cause ppl were around) so he said mail me so i mailed him saying that all i wanted to tell him was that i really liked him and even tho i kno he likes some other gurl idc i just wanted him to kno that i liked him and that even tho one of us may feel different bout the other one nothin can beat our friendship did i do the right thing ? or make a big mistake ?!?

Thanks heaps for your help Olga! It's just what i needed to hear. Such a therapeutic blog. We met up the other day. We were both so anxious, we could barely make eye contact. It was still fun and all that. There was pretty much zero flirting going on. We didn't talk about it at all, but i really wanna know what she's thinking about it. Oh well i feel queezy about it all. Still, i'm glad its out in the open and she knows clearly how i feel. Such an interesting time for me :)