The situation can go either way when you risk your friendship finding out that you are in love with him or with her: you can turn your friend into a lover and end up as a couple with a happy ending, or you can end up making things awkward for the both of you and ruin a perfectly good, platonic relationship.

So how will you know if your 'love' is worth risking your friendship? At the end of the day, it all depends on how strongly you feel for your friend. Use both your heart and your mind in making the decision. Can you bear the thought of losing a perfectly good friendship if you find out that your friend does not feel the same way? Once you blurt out your feelings, that will be the turning point of your relationship and your friendship - as it was before - can never be brought back. On the other hand, if your feelings are so strong that you just cannot bear the thought of your friend not knowing how you feel, then it is probably worth risking the friendship.

Whether your friend returns the romantic feelings that you have or not is a question which will be difficult to ask - but taking the risk of ruining your friendship is more acceptable than not letting your friend know how you feel. Who knows, if your friend secretly feels the same way about you, you just might be in for a happy ending.

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Todd, I'm with Sheila. Gotta stop the nagging (?) bit and let her heart just decide on its own. And yes, do keep up posted. I'm sure she'll come around because I'm sure you're a great catch. :)

should i do the same thing like william did?

Thanks, ladies and yeah...I'll letcha know. ...T

friends can come and go......but love stays forever.

i believe that love has no boundations or limitations but friendship has some limitations , i hav a very good friend , i am a man aged 23, i hav been talking to her since one and a half months now , i hav already proposed to her twice , but she said that she does not want this relation now , she considers me a very good person and a very close friend , actually she had an affair 6 months back for bout 1 and a half yr. , now i hav given her time , i am quiet suppotive wid her , but i am desperate to hav a relation of love wid her , i am quiet serious , how uch time i shud give her to understand my feelings , she is saying that currently she has no feeling for me , for future she has no reply , wat shud i do ???

I just did this, today actually. I've tried for so long to convince myself that I should not be into her. But i'm absolutely head over heels for her. I was 100% sure that she was keen too (i'm sure i wasn't being diluted). So i sent a text message to my friend explaining my feelings. (Which was an amazing feeling to know that it was finally out in the open and i would be getting a resolution). I received a reply to the effect of "i love you lots but i don't want to ruin a friendship". It didn't turn out the way i'd wanted but we are still friends (i hope). At the moment I feel like i may have scared off the most precious friend. I think it can go two ways from here: - we will become increasing awkward and avoid each other. - or from voicing my feelings, i've cleared a burden between us and will go on to reach a new level of friendship. If things are cool this time next week then i'll be happy.

Well, for over 2 years now I've been in love with my best friend. We talk for over 2 hours on the phone most EVERY day. We are seperated by time, distance and finances. We've never been in each other's presence (isn't this weird?) After a month or two, I began to love her romantically and I told her at 6 months. She cannot return the romantic feelings under the circ's. We are still best friends tho. Maybe whatcha say is right...maybe I do need to shut up about it. I am regularly, gently reminding her...prolly feels like nagging, huh? Maybe I'm just gonna have to bite the bullet with finances and she's gonna hve to bite it with her schedule and we're gonna have to meet and settle this thing once and for all. talking is a complete waste of time so are poems, gifts, flowers and the like. I'm beginning to feel like the proverbial nagging wife after reading what was said here,