Is Your Friendship Worth Risking for Romantic Love?

The situation can go either way when you risk your friendship finding out that you are in love with him or with her: you can turn your friend into a lover and end up as a couple with a happy ending, or you can end up making things awkward for the both of you and ruin a perfectly good, platonic relationship.

So how will you know if your 'love' is worth risking your friendship? At the end of the day, it all depends on how strongly you feel for your friend. Use both your heart and your mind in making the decision. Can you bear the thought of losing a perfectly good friendship if you find out that your friend does not feel the same way? Once you blurt out your feelings, that will be the turning point of your relationship and your friendship - as it was before - can never be brought back. On the other hand, if your feelings are so strong that you just cannot bear the thought of your friend not knowing how you feel, then it is probably worth risking the friendship.

Whether your friend returns the romantic feelings that you have or not is a question which will be difficult to ask - but taking the risk of ruining your friendship is more acceptable than not letting your friend know how you feel. Who knows, if your friend secretly feels the same way about you, you just might be in for a happy ending.

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Ok. I have a strange situation. I am in love with my best girl friend, but she is in love with my best bud, and he kind of likes her but not the way i do. I'm stuck. I mean i don't want to screw over my bust bud but I don't want to just hide my feelings forever. And i don't want to lose my best friend of like 9 years. I've tried and tried to not feel this way but it just doesn't work. She is the only person that i know that i cannot be sad/upset/down around. I just don't know what to do.

When im around her i cant help but smile, i look at her when she isnt looking and just think how beautiful she is and how all i want to do is tell her i love her. I cant take secretly loving her anymore, the constant dreams about being with her are drivin me crazy. I just dont know if i can risk losing her altogether, I would no longer have that occasional text that brings all the memories flooding back and makes that smile appear that no one else could. I would no longer have that hope that maybe someday I might have her again. I dont know what to do, im only happy when im around her - cant she tell? What if she says no? I dont want anyone else, to me she is my one, my only :-(.

Todd, I'm with Sheila. Gotta stop the nagging (?) bit and let her heart just decide on its own. And yes, do keep up posted. I'm sure she'll come around because I'm sure you're a great catch. :)

Well, for over 2 years now I've been in love with my best friend. We talk for over 2 hours on the phone most EVERY day. We are seperated by time, distance and finances. We've never been in each other's presence (isn't this weird?) After a month or two, I began to love her romantically and I told her at 6 months. She cannot return the romantic feelings under the circ's. We are still best friends tho. Maybe whatcha say is right...maybe I do need to shut up about it. I am regularly, gently reminding her...prolly feels like nagging, huh? Maybe I'm just gonna have to bite the bullet with finances and she's gonna hve to bite it with her schedule and we're gonna have to meet and settle this thing once and for all. talking is a complete waste of time so are poems, gifts, flowers and the like. I'm beginning to feel like the proverbial nagging wife after reading what was said here,

ok so i like this guy and were BEST FRIENDS and ive been tellin him we need to talk and he he keeps askin bout wat and i said ill tell ya later (cause ppl were around) so he said mail me so i mailed him saying that all i wanted to tell him was that i really liked him and even tho i kno he likes some other gurl idc i just wanted him to kno that i liked him and that even tho one of us may feel different bout the other one nothin can beat our friendship did i do the right thing ? or make a big mistake ?!?

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