7 Types of Bad Friends and How to Dump Them ...

By Jennifer

7 Types of Bad Friends and How to Dump Them ...

You don’t have to be in junior high or high school to be burned, back-stabbed, or annoyed by a bad friend. It’s sad, but true — bad friends can drain your time, energy, and even your bank account. Who are these bad friends, and how do you spot them? Or, more importantly, how do you get rid of them? Here’s my list of the seven bad friends, and how to dump them…

1 The Frenemy

The Frenemy Photo Credit: k-ko

She acts like your friend, but is she really? When she pays you a compliment, there’s always a sting along with it, like “You look great, for someone your size” or “You’re the only one I know who could pull off those ugly shoes with that dress!” If your friend makes you feel bad most of the time, and you know she’s nearly as nice behind your back as she is to your face (which isn’t very nice to start with), then she is probably the dreaded back-stabbing, mean-spirited Frenemy. How do you get rid of her? Stop calling her. Stop taking her calls. Delete her from Facebook, and ignore her pointed questions about why she’s no longer invited to your parties or girls nights out. She already knows why.

2 The Mooch

The Mooch Photo Credit: aqui-ali

There are times when all of us are a little out of pocket, or when we forget our wallet or debit card. That’s when the good friend we’re out to lunch with, or are shopping with, will come to the rescue. Those of us who aren’t bad friends won’t take advantage, and will always pay back our debt as soon as possible, without having to be asked, and without excuses. If you have a friend that’s constantly asking for a small loan, conveniently forgets it’s her turn to buy the next round of drinks, or shows up to pot-luck parties without a dish to share, then she’s probably a Mooch. This bad friend can drain your pocketbook and your patience. The best way to handle a Mooch is to stop giving her cash, stop paying for her lunch, and stop inviting her to pot-lucks! If she still doesn’t take the hint, then you may have to cut her out of your life entirely.

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3 The Negative Nelly

The Negative Nelly Photo Credit: katelyn*

Do you have a friend that’s always complaining, always sick, always tired, always sad? Can she never see the positive in anything? When she calls, do you automatically send her to voicemail because you just don’t want to hear the negativity anymore? Chances are, this friend is a Negative Nelly, and who has room if their life for more negativity? You can be subtle, by combating her negativity with the silver lining, but if that doesn’t work, you may have to tell her to take her gloom and doom somewhere else.

4 The Drama Queen

The Drama Queen Photo Credit: Il malmostoso (...acid vampire)

Drama is great on TV and in the movies, but do you really need it in your everyday life? Is it really that dramatic? No, it’s not. But this friend is always playing up the drama, and must be the center of attention. She’s the only person you know who can make someone else’s funeral be about HER. Every story she tells is overly dramatic and she’s just so exhausting! This is the Drama Queen, and the best way to get her to stop is to stop paying attention. If she’s a good friend otherwise, this may be enough. If she just won’t take the hint, then you may have to stop listening altogether, but cutting her out.

5 The Perfectionist

The Perfectionist Photo Credit: Talia Sara

I sometimes fear that this bad friend might be ME. I have a hard time giving up control, and I strive for perfection. When I’m not able to be as perfect as I’d like, I’m inclined to throw a tantrum. I’m not spoiled, I’m something of a perfectionist, and I’m my own worst critic. If you have a friend like me, then I know we can be stubborn, and it’s hard to give us compliments. Be patient with us! If we’re harder on ourselves than anyone else, then keep us as friends. If we expect perfection from everyone around us, including you, then it may be time to let us go.

6 The Bad Influence

The Bad Influence Photo Credit: Feeling Croppy

She drinks too much, she smokes too much, she sleeps around, she skips school, she sneaks out, she lies or cheats or steals. These things themselves don’t make a bad friend, but if she tries to pressure you into doing the same, she might be a Bad Influence. If you find yourself caving in to join her wicked little schemes, then you may have to abandon her to her own devices. If she only gets you into minor, harmless trouble, then she might actually be fun!

7 The Thief

The Thief Photo Credit: Toni Blay

Those shoes look awfully familiar, and isn’t that the guy that your mutual friend Amy dumped two weeks ago? This bad friend is the Thief, and she wants whatever you, or her other friends, have. Whether it’s out of jealousy or spite, this friend can’t be happy unless she’s stolen a boyfriend, a nail polish, a haircut, or a handbag from someone she admires. Ditch her the same way you’d ditch the Frenemy — just cut her off and move on!

Hopefully, you don’t have any, or at least many, of these bad friends. Hopefully, you have dozens of good friends, like the Cheer Squad (always in your corner) and the Listener (always there for you). Which of these bad friends have you had? How have you dealt with them? Please let me know!

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Great post :) i think myself i would have in the past fit into the bad influence type. lucky i have grown out of that and i didnt really try and get others in trouble i just seemed to be always in it myself :P but one other type not up here that always tends to bug me is the overly mothering needy type...the ones that call 7 times a day and send you txts saying "i haven't seen you in ages" when its been 3 days..that over the top smothering type..i always tend to dump friends over that issue..which is sad but i have huge issues with the "smothering" type of women

I have a friend named Amanda. I really like her but she's emo. She talks about suicide and I talk about doing it too. But I know thats not me. I am acting different around her and I think shes getting to become a bad influence on me. Any suggestions how to tell her I don't wanna be her friend if I have to be that way?

I have a negative nelly type of friend, and she just wouldn't stop calling me. I've been sending her to voicemail for like a month and she still calls everyday, kinda creepy actually, and it makes me feel that I'm the bad friend. So I eventually picked up her call like yesterday, you know just wanna see if there's anything important she really wants to tell me. But like I thought, there's nothing important, and she just kept sighing and complaining how miserable her life is. Then I told her that I have a really important essay to write so I have to go. I hope she got the hint but she didn't, and again she called me 3 times today. I'm really bad at confronting people so I have no idea what to do. Wish I could just block her number.

97% of mine is a frenemy and a bad influence.T^T they always lead me to frustration or make my bad mood WORST. i have one who keeps telling me that ill never reach my dream she keeps telling me " so you wanna be a (my dream)? .... WELL NO,you cant even blah blah blah...." she mostly chokes me( there was this one time when i couldn't breath anymore.) or punch me painfully whenever i say she forgot something that i remembered or just say a small joke about her. and the other one who keeps telling me that shes WAY better than me , or say that i look stupid all the time and she ALWAYS change the subject whenever im pissed off by something....and its worst because she always changes the subject to talk about HER. ...i have friends who is really a bad influence. , they thought me how to swear ALOT,watch "skins" , even hate my parents alot and bully other people. :| ( i was the complete opposite before..) i CANT stop being with them because..............if i did , then i dont have anyone to talk to anymore ..well actually i did once .... i kept hanging out with a friend that i trust ... oh gosh..it became HORRIBLE , that frenemy of mine kept telling everyone that IM a " backstabber" .. there was this one time when i REALLY wanted to punch her in the face. ....WHEN THEY HAVE FREAKIN PROBLEMS IM ALWAYS WITH THEM , BUT WHEN IT COMES TO ME ..... oh god... T^T because of them i lost all of my confidence ......................i seriously wish i never met them >.< ... im really glad that i will be moving into a different country , id try to get my confidence back and get some good friends ...SORRY ABOUT THE LONG COMMENT. i just wanted to tell someone so my frustration would kinda leave me. ...oh and i really love this site .. it really helps me alot <3

What a great post!! thank you jenniferr!!! ...im definately getting rid of my frenemy tmrw!

Best book to know which friends to keep and which friends to dump - read "FRIENDS TO KEEP. FRIENDS TO DUMP" BY DR.PRASANNA MUDRA.



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