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10 Signs Your Best Friend is Turning into a Frenemy ...

By Jelena

You two used to be like sisters. She was the keeper of your dark little secrets, the shoulder you could cry on, your missing piece and your favorite shopping pal. But lately, things have changed and you just don’t know, is she a friend or an enemy? Here are 10 signs your bestie is becoming your frenemy...

Table of contents:

  1. she doesn’t look too happy when something good is happening to you
  2. your conversations turned into her monologues
  3. bitter-sweet comments
  4. slacking off on your birthday presents
  5. being extra nice to your boyfriend
  6. she suddenly likes your favorite colors, etc
  7. she takes credits for your ideas
  8. she enjoys “putting salt on your bleeding wounds”
  9. she is trying to make fun of you in front of other people
  10. doesn’t matter what it is, but her’s is always bigger

1 She Doesn’t Look Too Happy when Something Good is Happening to You

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That hot guy is totally into you, you finally got promoted or you have just passed an incredibly hard exam and you can't wait to share the great news with your best friend! Only, she doesn’t look or sound too happy about it… She mumbles something like “Mhm... Great… That’s nice…” and continues the usual chit-chat like nothing happened. Hello! What happened to “Wow! That’s great honey! I knew you can do it!” ?

2 Your Conversations Turned into Her Monologues

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It used to be so simple – if you have news, I’m the one that is listening, and if I have something to say, you, my dear BFF, are expected to listen. If your BFF’s definition of friendship is, “me and my faithful listener,” get her a new dictionary or, if that doesn’t help, get her a pocket mirror! That way she will always have somebody to talk to.

3 Bitter-sweet Comments

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Don’t fall for the “sweet talk” sisters! If she says, “I could never imagine myself wearing those shoes, but they look great on you,” she is not giving you a compliment!

4 Slacking off on Your Birthday Presents

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Your best friend knows what you like and dislike, she knows your style, your favorite colors, hobbies, books and poems you adore. So picking a birthday present for you would be a piece of cake even if she was strapped for cash because you don’t expect an expensive but a creative and personal gift. However, this year, you’ve got a hideous thing from a dollar store and you could just swear she picked that up on her way to your house…

5 Being Extra Nice to Your Boyfriend

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I’m really not a jealous person and I completely love the fact that all my girls treat my significant other like a part of our crew, but there is a certain line that is not supposed to be crossed! When she starts emphasizing how she absolutely looovees your boyfriend, how he’s so cool, how they share the same taste in music or how he’s the only decent guy you’ve had in years – it’s time to wake up and smell the onions!

6 She Suddenly Likes Your Favorite Colors, Etc

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Up until some time ago, she claimed she wouldn’t want to be caught dead wearing your favorite color but now she seems to be the biggest fan of it. When you say you are planning to buy certain shoes, she buys them the next day and pretends she never heard you say that. What's going on?

7 She Takes Credits for Your Ideas

You gave her a good advice because you love her and you want to see her happy and now, when things are exactly the way you predicted they would be, she says: “You see? I can’t believe how smart I am.” Now, I sincerely hope you don’t work in the same company because, if you do, she could be the one stealing your idea and getting your promotion.

8 She Enjoys “putting Salt on Your Bleeding Wounds”

If your best pal invites you to go shopping with her only when she knows you are completely broke, talks about how happy she is every time you have problems or comments how you put on some weight just when you’ve mentioned your diet is giving amazing results – RUN! Frenemy!

9 She is Trying to Make Fun of You in Front of Other People

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Making fun of others is just not cool, especially if that other person is your best friend! So don’t try to look past this thinking that she just has a bad sense of humor. Ok, maybe your friend really doesn’t know how to make a good joke but if she, for example, knows you are wearing pants today because you didn’t have time to wax your legs, she has no right to abuse that information! You see, in her eyes, you are the big tree that everybody admires and chopping you down means she will finally get all the light for herself.

10 Doesn’t Matter What It is, but Her’s is Always Bigger

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If you had a great time, she always had a better time than you so, you have to listen while she recounts every single unimportant detail of it. If you have a problem, she has three and they are, of course, much bigger than yours so “It’s easy for you to say…” She is being selfsh and may not be a friend at all!

Unbelievably, my “best” friend did all this and still had the nerve to get mad at me for not choosing her as my maid of honor! What about yours? Is she a friend or a foe? How do you know?

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