To the person above me... I had a good friend that said he was homophobic also.. and alot of the same things you mentioned. I found out a few days later he was dating my best friend :/ It probably varies from person to person, but why don't you just ask him?

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Hi I'm really confused. I've been going out with my boyfriend for about a year now. His flatmate, who happens to be gay, said that my boyfriend is a lesbian in a man's body. At first, we both thought it was hilarious. Also, I only started dating when his flatmate made that comment. One year on, I noticed that he's like a woman. He is very needy in a way that he claims that I don't spend enough time with him, even though I spent most of my free time (at night) and day time with him, which is pretty much all the time. We were able to do this because we were in the same classes for all our papers. I'm also annoyed that I've lost some friends because he starts to sulks and start to say that I never spend time with him because I'm so busy. At the start of this year, since our majors differ this year, we don't see much of each other in our class. He has learnt to back off as I told him I needed space and if he can't give me that, then I'll have to break the relationship off. However, we've started talking about kids and I jokingly suggested that he could be a stay-at-home-dad (just to check if his response and because I may have a demanding career). He was very receptive to that idea and since then, I've noticed that his future plan has deviated to being a house husband and all he wants to do is spend time with me. This puts pressure on me to secure a job or we'll end up on the dole. But, all he wants is to spend time with me and makes me feel like I should be a lesbian, when I'm 99.9% sure I'm straight. Please please advice whether he's gay or straight. I know a few gay guys who are not concerned with fashion. He's also kissed a guy and thinks a few guys are hot.

hi. i really need your advice.. I have a boyfriend, who was a former flight attendant.. we met in school, everyone says he's gay/bisexual because of the way he acts and moves.he is not a regular "tough" guy, because he's feminine on some other ways, but not on the physical. i love him so much but i'm afraid that he might be really gay and i'm scared that we may end up together but what if he still see other guys? that would really break my heart. honestly i still don't know if he is bisexual/gay but when i see his pictures in face book all of his friends in the airline he used to work are all gay and women.. i even read an email from his former classmate back in college, asking him if he still remember him, the boy said they watched a movie and he even gave my boyfriend a chocolate cake.(i think that's not normal for a regular man) also, he is not aggressive, he don't kiss me at all, all or kisses are smack kisses.. sigh.(our relationship is only new though.. 5 months) on the other hand he is such a really nice guy,literally, he would help everyone and he is very friendly. when i'm with him i can feel he is not a guy but i'm still confuse because of his feminine side and the email i read and his friends.. i dont want to ask him because im afraid he might get offended. i really love him, what should i do? please help me. thank you!

Please don't judge me for my age. I just thought that feminine features link to feminine hormones. Do you think that's true?

heyy.. iv been in such a difficult situation and sort of the same as what some of the girls on here have also said.. i was with my boyfriend for just over 2 years, complicated at times and on and off, as we couldnt bare the fact for being seperated from each other.. but yeah about 7 months ago, he had told me he was gay… completely crushed me? but at the same time confused me a lot, as he did not show any sign of being gay at all. i cant help but still have feelings for him as he has been my first love and first of everything and he says same for me? thats why it had been so hard for him to just walk away ... anywhooz, .. as this was a surprise to a lot of the people he is close to, especially me, could this possibly be just a phase..? we have such strong feelings for each other, but can't seem to get this issue resolved..

So I'm a straight girl. I know this guy, he's so gorgeous (think of Lucas Grabeel non-HSM) bright bue eyes, blond hair. He prefers to dress nicely. He cares about his hair, showers, gels it up and stuff. We played baseball one day and he changed shoes to play. What do I do?

hi sheila, this is victoria.. i asked an advice from you few weeks ago. i've got a news, its confirmed, he is bisexual. i opened his facebook without him knowing it ofcourse, i saw several messages from gays from the past, he also had a relationship with a gay. i confronted him yesterday, he told me that it was already his past and that he loves me. i told him that i love him so much that i will accept it but i am afraid in the future. i am confuse, i love him soo much, but im scared he might be tempted again and still have an affair with gays. i saw one of those who left a message to him, one was already with a wife and another with a gf, though my bf's reply to them were just pure civil and without any flirt or whatsoever. still im so afraid, can you give some advice please. its possible he might get tempted even if he loves me right? what should i do?

i'm gay. but nothing in this list applies to me, i relate to nothing listed here. i don't do any of those things. whoever came up with this list obviously fell for the false "stereotype" of what it is to be gay. 3 thumbs down on that checklist. the questions are irrelevant.