Ok, so you know it’s over, but you haven’t told him yet. Do yourself a favor and get it over with. There’s no point playing ‘girlfriend’ if your heart is in the wrong place. So how do you break up nicely? Here goes…
Meet him
Don’t break the news to him over the phone. Not only it is rude but he’s always going to wonder about what went wrong. Give him a chance to hear it from you directly. Email and SMS is even worse. Invite him home or go for a walk together. Either way, sit him down and explain how you feel. Be honest!
Answer why?
Most men are intelligent. He will want some kind of an explanation. Don’t just say ‘It’s off’ and walk away. This was the guy you fell in love with once. So be kind to him and explain why things didn’t work out for you. You owe him some kind of explanation especially if you’ve been together for a while.
Blame yourself
It’s easier and kinder to blame yourself for the break. You could say ‘It’s me, I’m just not ready for somebody as nice as you’ or something to that effect. Don’t lay all the blame on him or you’ll soon be having a fight rather than a conversation.
Let him think
Once you’ve told him, don’t expect an answer immediately. If he’s in love with you this will probably be breaking his heart. So respect that and let him be. Don’t shower him with questions or a hundred ‘I’m so sorry’s’. He will need a few minutes to let it sink in. Give him that time to think about what’s happened.
Let him talk
He may want to explain things especially if he did something wrong. Hear him out but don’t have that ‘Oh, I wish I had known’ look on your face. If your mind is really made up then let him now this is the end of the road. Avoid getting trapped into the loop again. A firm yet gentle ‘no’ is the best for both of you.
Just friends?
That’s great if he wants it that way. But make sure you tell him how you want to keep the relationship. If a clean break is what you want, be clear that he understands that. If you want to go on as friends, but he doesn’t, then respect that and move on. Don’t sob uncontrollably on his shoulder as you’re the one breaking up with him! Remember?
Don’t hold on
Let him go. If he wants to leave, then let him. Don’t keep pulling him back into conversation. He probably just needs a good drink and some sleep!
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This is a very nice post and helpful to those who want to dump their bfs. =)
I am very much inlove wih him, he just left without any explaination a week he had said he loved me
nomcebozwane, do you thin he really loves you? He left for no reason at all.
Maybe he didnt want to hurt his feelings by telling her that he no longer loves her.
It’s so difficult for me to do dump my bf… I’ve been in “the loop” for over three times now.. its just feeling bad for him, not love… :/
i just dont know how to break up with my bf. its so hard but i dont want to hold him back any longer…
well idk wat 2 do with my bf…he weird so rather be alone then be with him…so i think i should dump him…lol
I would love to get rid of my pf. He thinks the world is against him, yet fails to see how priviledged his is. His constant rambling about how everyone else is wrong is sickening me. Even worse, I think I prefer his friend! I would never cross boundaries as such, but wish to leave the relationship in any event. I am moreso of a mother figure than a girlfriend. I am sick of giving motivational speeches whilst at work to him. I fear that if I leave him, he would stalk me. Help!
“bf” not “pf”.. lol
dude, my bf is such a spoild brat. His parents gives whateva he wants. he asked me out and a week later i go sick of him so i dumped him but i could see that he didnt care….but after a week later, he aksed me out again. it seemes he wants attention or popularity. nobosy likes him cause he is a rich brat that doesnt now how to be sociable.
i dont know what to do with him….well, my birthday is comin up in some few weeks so until he is rich i think i will use him for now…lol….i know that is evil but he is also using me. he wants attention. only becasue all of the guys thinks i am hot.
IM TIRED OF MY BF. HIS ATTITUDE IS OUT OF CONTROL. HE THINKS HE IS THE GREATEST BUT HE WILL BE CRAP WITHOUT ME. HE IS GOING TO BE A PATHETIC MESS WHEN I DUMP HIM
“Let him go. If he wants to leave, then let him. Don’t keep pulling him back into conversation. He probably just needs a good drink and some sleep!”
yeah right…
i hadnt seen my boyfriend for only 2 days but as soon as we met up again he wanted to go through my phone i ask why and he said cause he wants to no where i’ve been and who i’ve been with i normally dont care bout people looking at or through my phone but this time i said no cause i could feel there isnt enough trust in our relationship i told 3 days ago that i have never cheated on someone and im not going to start but he obviously didnt understand that i really think i should breaking up with him cause theres not enough trust in our relationship PLZ HELP!!!
i love a guy. but i have a bf. i already dumped him once. and it only lasted two days. now its been three days and i want to dump him because i love another guy. i should have said no. but it felt like i needed to have him, but now that i have him . i dont want him, i feel like shit. but he loves me and i can’t just turn him down again. he’ll feel like an idiot and ill brake his heart. :( i dont know what to do…
i started an affair with another guy.. his treat me so good..like no other guy before. i in love with him so deeply.. same to him. He know i married… but he insist to continue with this relationship. is been a month .. our love grow stronger each day..is seem the longer this relationship go..the harder for me to let him go. He always ask me to promise him never ask him to leave me..never.. he rather die if i leave him.. he love was too deep for me… i dunno if i could hold it anymore longer.. i felt the guilt in my heart..unfaithful …the man that i married to is just because we been together for 8 years…is long distance relationship.. lack of love and attention.. i felt so lonely.. and come this guy.. all he wan is me to be with him when he needed me the most.. a companion and closefriend.. a shoulder to lean on, a person to hug and care for. he so sweet and understanding. but he never be mine and i never be his… ONly God know wad our heart feel.. is a hard decision for me .. i been thinking on letting him go.. coz i know there wont be a happy ending for both of us..
I’m such a mess I like my bf, but his love is CHOKING ME TO DEAD. I hear a constant I LOVE YOU every 20 sec. I can’t say that same thing. I gave him all these promises that argh I wish I hadn’t. I dont know what to do. I’m in love with a another guy who is a lot more mature than my bf, and has got his shit together has a job and I like being around with. The bf is rather boring, and we not a challenge for me. the other guy makes me feel something I get sad when he leaves, I miss him all day. I just want to be with him forever. I just see the bf as a friend… not important.
HELP!!! THIS GUY ASKED ME OUT AND I WASNT THINKING I SAID YES AND HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT
Just go out and have fun! :)) Seriously!
That helped me so much im going to do it because i dont feel anything anymore and please right back thanks!!!! ♥