When you’re in that initial honeymoon stage, it can be easy to think you should tell him everything in preparation for your perfect life together. But here are 11 things you should definitely keep to yourself!
1. That you dislike his mother …
Even if he is currently angry at his Mom, it’s never a good idea to get involved, as they will definitely make up. Comfort him, and listen to him, but keep your opinions to yourself. His Mom is important to him, so knowing you don’t like her could undermine your whole relationship.
2. Never tell him his friends made a pass at you …
He’ll have to confront them, or things will be awkward, and if the friend swears he didn’t it could cause even more problems. Politely decline and keep quiet, unless he becomes a repeat offender.
3. Been unfaithful in the past?
Keep it to yourself, or you’ll worry him. If he believes you’ve done it before, male friends and nights out will be even more risky, and he’ll automatically trust you less. Learn your lesson, and keep quiet.
4. Don’t tell him that your best friend is cheating …
He’ll start to presume that you discuss tactics, or that you’re cheating too. Act like infidelity is equal with murder, and you’ll cause a lot less suspicion.
5. Don’t criticise his body …
He might not look as young as he used too, but neither do you, and if he is still making an effort then you’re doing well.
6. Believe in him …
When everyone else is doubting him, you have to be the one person who actually believes that he will achieve his dreams, and outperform everybody else..
I’ve actually told my boyfriend most of the stuff mentioned here NOT to tell a significant other. We’re still going strong. I guess it all depends on the guy and the kind of relationship.
I’m with Meream here, not that I have told these things to my boyfriend but it depends a lot on the type of relationship you have. Hey- I’ve seen it all! I keep seeing people around me talk stuff to their partners that I would certainly not do but it works with them…
I think however that you should never tell him that you have a crush on someone else- I see it as kinda humilliating cause you’re telling him he’s not the only one in your mind…
Don`t tell that you love him!
What will that accomplish, Maria?
U R Sooo Rit3 abt all dis!!!!!!!!
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Kati, What kind of guys are you dating???? One things for sure, you did read my Ask DaVe question about how many partners. http://fupducktv.com/blog/?p=976
Kati, you are 100% correct….the golden rule is “What you don’t know, won’t hurt you”. We need to learn to live in the present, plan for the future, and definitely learn from the past. Why bring the past into the present and jeopardize the future? Oh yeh, the mother thing… is a golden rule as well, and I would add the whole side of the in-law family to it. It’s a package deal whether you like it or not. They can say anything they want about each other,and still hold on to the family bond, but the same words coming out of your mouth, will be held against you forever. Believe me, I have been there and done that!
dont tell a guy u love him until u been with him for atleast 6months tell him u really like him… da reason si bcoz guys love challenges and if u tell him u love him straight away u will seem like ur coming on to him too strong he will run da other way depanding on most guys. they all love a hard to get a thing whether its a thing or a girl. dont call him too often u will seem pocessive and desperate the more u show dat u r very busy da more he will come after u….
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I cannot agree with sxc here bcuz me & my man said to each other “I love you” right in the beginning of the relationship and it’s been two years now and we’re still strong and I’m still hard to get in some ways hehe :)
With these things, there never really is a general set of guidelines. What works for some might not work for others. The important thing is truly knowing your guy and making each other happy.
Nice article…pretty bold but…anyways, can I post this on our free dating sites blog?
Dear Nickola,
Yes, you surely can post it on your blog, as long as you provide the link to the source and give Kati the credit :)
Thanks for reading us!
ok so u guys r telling a guy never dumped any of u bcoz u wanted him so bad?
u were either being to pushy showering him with too much attention or he was just simply a jerk. all i was trying to say is dat men love a challenge wen u knows he doesnt have to make an effort to win ur heart he will get bored and will dump u eventually one day and find another girl for a change. easy come easy go!! isnt dat right?
I recommend another thing not to tell ur BF about..Don’t tell him if u have strong problems with ur family that makes him mad to them even after the things going better he keeps remember all the details, it makes a barrier between ur family & him as u don’t let him discover them by his own and just depend on the actions they do with u and the ideas u gave him about ur family so be sooo careful when u talk about ur family with ur guy.
When I was getting married, my male teacher advised me something. He said, “Rose don’t stop him from anything. Just make him show that you care, and he will care for you. Men are stubborn sometimes. but they will do what you want, only if you don’t get stubborn too. Love him and he will love you.” following this advice I am now the happiest wife ever. He loves me and takes care of me.
Love that Rose. Great advice.
I like what u said Rose, so wise
That is so true, believing in your man and supporting him at what he wants to do is the best way to make your relationship flourish.
Thank you Rose!
DO NOT TELL HIM THAT YOU DO NOT LIKE WHEN HE IS AROUND OTHER GIRLS OR HE WILL THINK HE IS IN CONTROL OF YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!
wat do u do wen a 4 yr realtionship keeps getting worse and worse? wen the guy ur wit disrespects u and wen u tell him its over he keeps calling u?