When I was a teenager, I had this stringent list of what my ideal man should be: handsome, well-off, caring, understanding, God-fearing, intelligent - " I could have gone on and on then about what qualities my partner should have. However, as I grew older, I realized that I could never really find a real person who met all these sterling qualities.
Building a my-ideal-man-list is much like this e-mail that I received which made me laugh out loud, it's entitled "My Ideal Man Checklist". At age 22, the checklist goes much like the list that I had above. Another revised list is made at ages 32, 42, 52, 62 and by the age of 72 there are only a couple of items on the list: that the man should be breathing and not miss the toilet. Well, here's the full version for you to enjoy: “My Ideal Man Checklist” What I Want in a Man, Original List (age 22):
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1. Handsome
2. Charming
3. Financially Successful
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He should be financially stable enough to support not only himself but also contribute meaningfully to our shared goals and adventures. It’s not about luxury or lavish lifestyles; rather, it’s about being responsible and secure in our financial foundation. Having a steady income, a budget, and savings for the future demonstrates reliability and maturity. Mutual respect for each other’s financial habits and open communication are key. We don’t need to be wealthy, but we should be smart and conscious about our expenditures. Ultimately, a financially responsible partner is a cornerstone for a steady and fulfilling life together.
4. A Caring Listener
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5. Witty
6. In Good Shape
7. Dresses with Style
8. Appreciates Finer Things
9. Full of Thoughtful Surprises
10. An Imaginative, Romantic Lover
What I Want in a Man, Revised List (age 32):
1. Nice Looking (prefer Hair on His Head)
2. Opens Car Doors, Holds Chairs
3. Has Enough Money for a Nice Dinner
4. Listens More than Talks
5. Laughs at My Jokes
6. Carries Bags of Groceries with Ease
7. Owns at Least One Tie
8. Appreciates a Good Home-cooked Meal
9. Remembers Birthdays and Anniversaries
10. Seeks Romance at Least Once a Week
What I Want in a Man, Revised List (age 42):
1. Not Too Ugly (bald Head OK)
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Sure, he may not have a lush mane, but there's something undeniably attractive about a man who owns his baldness with confidence. He carries himself with a certain je ne sais quoi that renders hair an afterthought. His scalp, a smooth canvas, highlights his features and adds a touch of daring to his overall look. In his embrace, you're reminded that true beauty is found in the strength of character and the way he makes you feel—not in the abundance of follicles on one's head.
2. Doesn’t Drive off until I’m in the Car
3. Works Steady - Splurges on Dinner out Occasionally
6. Is in Good Enough Shape to Rearrange the Furniture
7. Wears a Shirt That Covers His Stomach
8. Knows Not to Buy Champagne with Screw-top Lids
9. Remembers to Put the Toilet Seat down
10. Shaves Most Weekends
What I Want in a Man, Revised List (age 52):
1. Keeps Hair in Nose and Ears Trimmed
2. Doesn’t Belch or Scratch in Public
3. Doesn’t Borrow Money Too Often
4. Doesn’t Nod off to Sleep when I’m Venting
5. Doesn’t Re-tell the Same Joke Too Many Times
6. Is in Good Enough Shape to Get off Couch on Weekends
7. Usually Wears Matching Socks and Fresh Underwear
8. Appreciates a Good TV Dinner
9. Remembers My Name on Occasion
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One important quality that I look for in my ideal man is the ability to remember my name. This may seem like a small detail, but it speaks volumes about a person's level of interest and attentiveness. When a man remembers my name, it shows that he values our interactions and takes the time to make a personal connection. It also indicates that he is a good listener and pays attention to details. In addition, remembering my name can make me feel special and important, which is a crucial aspect of any healthy relationship. Overall, this simple action can make a big impact on how I perceive a potential partner.
10. Shaves Some Weekends
What I Want in a Man, Revised List (age 62):
1. Doesn’t Scare Small Children
2. Remembers Where Bathroom is
3. Doesn’t Require Much Money for Upkeep
4. Only Snores Lightly when Asleep
5. Remembers Why He’s Laughing
6. Is in Good Enough Shape to Stand up by Himself
7. Usually Wears Clothes
8. Likes Soft Foods
9. Remembers Where He Left His Teeth
10. Remembers That It’s the Weekend
What I Want in a Man, Revised List (age 72):
1. Breathing
2. Doesn’t Miss the Toilet!
As funny as the e-mail was, it is true" as you grow more mature, your original list of 'requirements' for an ideal man are revised. Now, all I am looking for in an ideal man is one who can be both a best friend and a partner in life, and someone who will love me as unconditionally as I love him. And what about you? What's your perfect guy checklist?
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farha
2011-07-21T13:11:17.000Z
my ideal man ; should be a responsible man that he love me and never never leave me.
mari
2011-07-27T15:02:04.000Z
me gusta la naturaleza soy romantica
monawarra
2011-04-05T13:30:48.000Z
interesting, but i still found a charming husband at my age 38 and he is 43
rebecca
2010-02-03T03:15:42.000Z
17. never had a checklist really, so i'm winging this one: 1. funny 2. laughs at my jokes 3. at least as smart as me 4. at least an inch or two taller 5. decent body 6. good listener 7. interesting to listen to
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